TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

it is highly unlikely it could be anything sinister, but I really think it needs ruling out (sorry I can't seem to communicate well atm!)

And that shouldn't have been bold! WTF? (I'm off to read MN instructions)

Eggs the doctors are working on the assumption that chasing has an ectopic pregnancy. They are following standard procedure but unfortunately the injection hasn't given them the results they were hoping for so chasing has to decide whether to try a further injection or opt for a surgical procedure.

I think I too would want another scan chasing to check the mass is still there.

Thanks newera (hope that's clearer eggs)

Yes I'll ask to be re scanned tomorrow. I feel like I've made peace with surgery even though I feel sick at the thought. Resigned to it is probably better word.

I am so worried about work though. I just can't take time off. I don't know what to do.

I hope I see the sane consultant from last week. She was really nice.

chasing so sorry to hear you still don't have some certainty. Will be beeping fingers crossed for your scan today. Surely you can get a sick note, physically it's been tough enough but you need to consider your mental wellbeing too. A bit of time off now to reflect and process could avoid a crash at some point in the future.

Well I'm now 3d post ovulation. With scheduled and horribly unromantic sex I recon we managed 3d before and the day after.
This was my first month using OPK and it seem I ovulate DP 17 which is a bit later than I'd thought which could account for lack of success these past 3 months. (At least that's what I'm hoping)
Now starting the 2ww, DH is delighted to be getting some rest.

Thanks cariad I appreciate it. I just feel numb and a bit detached and want to get the scans and bloods out of the way now. Good luck to you for the future.

chasing thinking of you. I think surgery is the best way to go now. You can't go on in limbo like this xx

Thinking of you today Chasing - am so sorry it hasn't worked.

Northdown I'm in middle of 2ww after using opk's. Only had a couple of symptoms - bit of cramping last week, very vivid dreams and tingly nipples on Friday night. So much so I had to put my hands over them to try and stop it, but that's it!

Treacle just read back, you know I had a scan where the dates were "off" and like you I felt it convenient to believe that when actually deep down a little voice was saying to me "hang on that's not right" so I know how you feel.

eggs welcome and so sorry you find yourself here - this thread is wonderfully supportive.

Tranquility and other BFP'ers - hang in there. The fear must be crippling. I'm terrified of getting pregnant again but hang in there!!!

Morning ladies, whispers very very faint BFP on an amazon cheapie test this morning (CD27). Oh golly gosh. Fingers, toes, everything crossed. Have done three all with faint line, will be hightailing it to boots for an frer as soon as they open!

charlie a whispered congrats! :) let us know the frer result, I think amyyy said they're BOGOF in boots! :)

chasing I really really hope you get answers soon. I would definitely ask to see your consultant (and if they say no the have a bit of a tantrum and you'll get to see them - just don't take no for an answer!)

I'm currently CD 15 lots of EWCM but no positive OPK yet.

chasing I hope today goes as well as it can.

tranquility I don't think you will ever relax in pregnancy after suffering losses, but I hope you can start to enjoy it a bit more after some reassurance.

charlie whispered congrats!

Brummie - symptoms are sounding promising (if my previous BFP symptoms are anything to go by). Keeping everything crossed for you.

Charlies - Whispering congratulations. Keep us posted as to the results of the FRER.

Chasing - Thinking of you today. If you do have surgery, I definitely think you should take time off work, because even if you're not in a lot of pain after the surgery (I wasn't, but I know everyone's different), the anaesthetic is likely to leave you exhausted.

Ooh Charlie defo get yourself down to Boots sharpish!!! Whispered congrats. Keep us posted!

Daisy lots of EWCM sounds positive! Fingers crossed for a positive OPK. I'm only 7 days dpo and luckily I'm overseas for work this week so unless there is a Boots in my hotel which i very much doubt it I will be able to avoid the agony of wanting to test!!

Am not going to test until next Saturday morning as I always get upset at a bfn so would rather be at home

P.s. Tranquility thanks for your message. 11DPO at this end and I don't have any positive BFP symptoms, so I'm almost certain I'm out this month.

We've decided not to try next cycle (as I'd be 5 weeks over Christmas if I got a BFP and as I'm down to my last fallopian tube, I'm just too scared of it all going wrong again and having inferior medical care because every hospital is operating a skeleton staff over the festive season).

A new year BFP would be fab though. Particularly keen to squeeze one in before my first EDD of 6 March.

Cariad I'm 7 days dpo - I've had a couple of symptoms but I've been caught out before as can't help feeling it makes fuck all apart from getting your hopes up!

But I'm with you on the not trying next cycle. We move house on 6th December and I don't want the stress and pressure of trying, I'd rather enjoy my new house and Christmas with DP and chill out for a few weeks then start again. Only thing is my last due dates were 27th Jan and 25th March so if I've not caught now I'm going to struggle for jan I think

Just home now, I go back at 2.30.

My Dr and husband feels I should take one last injection. He says it's a 5% chance of it not working this time. Really rare for it to fail second time apparently. I had geared myself up for surgery and feel I should still do it tbh.. H says it's obviously entirely my choice but thinks I should give it everything before essentially sacrificing my tube. Dr also said because the hcg is low they can't be really sure it's a pregnancy so I could have surgery and they won't find anything (as in. . The mass isn't a pregnancy after all) and still need another injection as the only way to try to kill the hcg off.

I don't know if what I've written makes sense. I'm so tired.

My gut instinct is that you should have a second injection. I agree that if the doctor goes in and sacrifices a tube for what turns out to be no reason you will be devastated.

Your HCG is going down which is a good thing. If it was going up I think there would be more panic as if it is ectopic, your risk of rupture would be more acute.

Huge hugs xxxx

It could be alot worse. My hcg could be so much higher for a start. I'm not really sick and the hcg isn't increasing loads.

I will take the 2nd injection. Just terrified of future pregnancy tbh. What if it makes me mc again in 4 months time. What if I just keep miscarrying :(

Have you researched the injection and future pregnancies chasing? I know absolutely nothing about it bar a waiting period. If they knew that taking that injection would impact later pregnancies they wouldn't give it, they wouldn't be allowed! Or they would be informing you of all the risks that are attached.

I wonder if it might be worth starting a thread in the main board asking for peoples experiences. I know there are members on here who have had molar pregnancies and had to take the injection, as there have been some that were on this thread then moved on.

Sorry to have been silent for a while - I've been reading and thinking of you all lots. Huge hugs to cake and chasing and everyone having rough times. chasing such difficult decisions when your body isn't following the script. You're so brave, try to call on as much support as you can in RL. FX next injection works and you get to stay away from hospital for a long while!

Congrats to all the new BFPs, be brave and be strong, sending lots of sticky vibes. Lovely to read happy news.

I actually had BFP on 30th Oct, was too nervous to post, then started spotting 6th Nov at same time as catching horrid virus, and after early inconclusive scan and bloods last week, miscarried on Friday at 7 weeks. Bit broken here in all honesty. Need to find my courage again.

Oh confusion :-( you poor thing. I'm sorry for your loss x

chasing thinking of you hun an fx the injection works this time! X

charlie quiet congrats! Eek! The tests are on bogof at boots. Fx and keep us posted!!

confusion thinking of you at this sad time. Sending hugs x

Took another frer test today which showed a very very faint line I actually had to get my OH to look at it in the outside light to double check, so hopefully that means we are super close to a BFN so we can start trying again. I think I ov'd on Wednesday though so if I have a typical cycle I should be expecting a BFP on Xmas Eve, but not getting my hopes up! (Although how lovely would that be!)

Got my bogof tests from boots but only needed the one... BFP! Lighter than the control but definitely there. I've now taken one FRER and 4(!) amazon cheapies, all with lines. I think I can consider it a positive. [hmmm]
I'm going to try to proceed with this pregnancy as though it will be totally fine - lots of positive attitude. BUT off to the docs as soon as possible this week to get it on my file so if it goes wrong I can get the recurrent thing moving asap.

Eeek congrats charlie! Wishing you a boring and uneventful 9 months :)

chasing its 100% your choice, whichever you chose I really hope it brings closure for you and you can start moving on xxx

mrsconfusion I'm so sorry to hear your news, sending you big hugs

I still haven't had a positive OPK but still lots of EWCM so DTD but I'm worried about using up all DH's best swimmers and not ovulating for another week... Oh well, can only do our best! :)

charlie many congrats!! Hope everything goes A OK. Positive thoughts and hugs to you x

Congratulations Charlie :) i wish you a stress free lovely 8 months.

I'm so sorry Mrs C, how horrible :( i totally understand needing to find your confidence and trying again.

Daisy are you on your WTF cycle too? I'm having similar worries. I only stopped bleeding last Sunday, if i'd have been on a normal cycle i'd have ovulated Friday. The OPKs are getting lighter (i'm assuming from the last pregnancy) but i'm worried i missed ovulation. Although that would have meant ovulation within 7 - 10 days after MC. It feels so stressful and impossible. Then again, i might not have ovulated and it might be next week. We're DTD every other day but i'd like to know how long for!

Chasing big big hugs. What an awfully stressful time. I know it's easier said than done but try and just think one day at a time. You will get pregnant again, you have a beautiful DD already and it'l happen again. This is just a really really shitty bump in the road. I hope you get the next injection asap and a 95% success rate seems like a good statstic to me. Thinking of you xx