TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Oh haribo xx Big hugs my love..

Results went up by 90
... I was warned they might peak. Can everyone just cross everything that it plummets for Saturday xx

Hi ladies, sorry not been able to check back properly but hope everyone is okay.

Big hugs haribo it's totally natural to feel so many mixed emotions. I think almost all of us felt the urge to try again immediately. It's something positive you can control, amidst all the pain. Fx for you.

I stopped using Facebook a few months ago and haven't regretted it for a second. As someone else said, your real friends will find a way to keep in touch with you. The rest is noise. I realised I almost always came off Facebook feeling worse about myself. I also have a huge moral issue with them as a business. They're pretty evil and it amazes me how freely people share so much deeply personal information to a profit making, shareholder owned organisation.

I'm 7-10 dpo. #symptomwatch. So far not much to report. Apart from today I have cramping in my pelvic area. Feels like a kind of pressure, but not that intense. Just kind of there. Hmmmm. I'm not holding out much hope but then I always say that and then am devastated when af arrives so I obviously secretly am.

to anyone feeling down.

Fx and Tx for you chasing x

Sorry, didn't read back before posting yesterday, but wanted to say congratulations to you Broody on your BFP - I so hope this one is sticky and healthy. Same to others with recent BFPs (sorry, on my phone so scrolling back is difficult).

Chasing it seems like you've been having a shocking time but I really hope things start improving so you can try to move beyond the whole ordeal.

Hugs to everyone else suffering baby bombs, insensitive comments and the rest of the never-ending TTC after MC misery and bollocks. It's so much harder than anyone can know if they haven't experienced it. Try to remember to go easy on yourselves

As for me, I'm currently 18 weeks and still pinch myself every day that it doesn't seem to have gone wrong yet whilst constantly thinking about new and terrifying ways it could all go tits up. The fear never seems to go away, but I have my anomaly scan soon, so if that goes ok, I might, MIGHT start to believe an actual baby could happen. At the moment I still don't in any way associate my expanding waistline with a baby. When people make comments about "when the baby is here" I sometimes wonder what they're talking about. Mental. Every day feels like a mini victory for now, as well as a test

Good luck to all xxx

Jetpack, I'm sure everything will go smoothly from now, I hope the scan brings you some comfort. It's lovely to hear that you are having a successful pregnancy.

It's sad that our experiences make it hard to relax or enjoy what should be a magical time. X

Cake you are always in my thoughts, hope some time out from everything helps.

Chasing I am keeping everything crossed for you that those levels come down.

Haribo please don't feel guilty about how you feel as it is so so natural. I have to admit I had similar feelings re Kate, I think it is because our first babies were so close in age to ours and then the second would have been the same. It doesn't mean we actually wish her ill, we just wish ours could have worked out too.

Haribo, I think it's also good for us to remind ourselves that things aren't always as they seem. She may have suffered a loss. I have been soo sad to have realised how many people around me have miscarried.. I never knew. Xx

So true Chasing! I have been shocked at how common it is.

Just realised I forgot to take my daughter to preschool yesterday. God I'm a mess

Chasing Thinking of you hunny, how are you feeling?

Haribo We must have MC'd same time and I'm feeling exactly the same. The longing for a baby hurts so bad but at the same time I don't want to feel like I'm replacing my poor baby we lost. I know that would never happen, would have been our first child together, but still... you know.. hormones still all over the place.

Jet A very late congratulations! Love hearing success stories! Hope everything goes perfect for you :)

Hope everyone else is doing as good as can be today. Just dropped in to let anyone due for POAS that first response in Boots are on BOGOF, so if you get the 2 pack you can get 4 tests for £10.50 (I think that's good?)

Good luck to anyone testing would love to hear of more BFPs :)

This is my first month using OPKs. I'd bought a pack of 50 cheapies off amazon and was starting to wonder if my stingy scottishness was coming back to bit me cause I wasn't seeing even a faint line.
Have been having military scheduled sex every other night since DP 8 but delighted to see a big strong line on the test last night showing that I'm about to ovulate. I think I felt relieved that after my MC in August at least I'm ovulating. I'd hoped to be pregnant again by now so was starting to worry that maybe my cycles were all messed up.

Rubbish timing though. I'd have to work from an other office yesterday which meant a 260 mile round trip, leaving home at 6 and not getting back till after 7. I was grumpy and shattered and DTD was the last thing on my mind. But we DTD - possible the least romantic and most functional ever. This TTCs really does kill all notions of romance.

Plan is to try for tonight and tomorrow too, then again on Sunday. But we're both exhausted and really struggling to work up the enthusiasm.

Any tips on how to make it not feel so clinical would be really really welcome

Well, about to ovulate and this cycle has been an unparalleled disaster. Hardly any sex and a raging cough and cold.

We were meant to DTD this morning, but as usual when we plan these morning tyrsts, it didn't happen. So now I'm thoroughly pissed off with DP.

What I wouldn't give for a horny, rampant bloke who just wanted to have sex at any opportunity. It gets so full trying to coerce sex out of someone (hence why this morning didn't happen as I couldn't be bothered to beg)

*dull

Do you guys ever feel like you get a bit... crafty? Like you know your partner well enough to know their sexual, tendancies and so scheme to ensure best ttc?

Like I know if we haven't dtd for 2 weeks (leading up to AF, during and a few days after) dh struggles the first few times. So I have to lay down ground work..else we miss it entirely. and then I'm resentful and don't want any sex at all

I think dh thinks I'm some kind of sex god. .and in my head I feel like actually, I'm just making sure you get the job done at the right time! Does this make any sense?

Definitely kills my romantic side

Chasing all I know is that I have much better sex when I don't give a shit if and when he orgasms. I have become a very unselfish lover and I'm not happy about it really as it has made him lazy.

I kind of feel like all I care about is him finishing recently. The thing is he is the least selfish lover. I wish I could fully enjoy it without thinking about his bloody swimmers

Oh ladies I hear you. All I think is about is him finishing the job and for some reason he is really struggling. Probably because he is very conscious that he has to and I feel terrible for him.

He couldn't finish this morning and I could tell it really bothered him. I admit because I am 5 days dpo and it doesn't bother me at the moment as it won't make a difference.

But I admit when it's the key time I get really stressed DTD in case he doesn't finish but I cannot let on otherwise game over.

So anyway symptom spotting. I was very crampy yesterday and I know that is a key thing plus very very tired but that's it.

I'm away for work next week so hopefully that should stop me agonising about testing!!!

With this pregnancy I cramped at 6dpo/7 dpo. Fingers crossed for you! !!

Just need to vent somewhere, I hope it's ok here...... Someone on the AN thread has just said she's fed up of being pg already. Six fucking weeks in. Like fucking seriously?!?!

I wasn't impressed either. She doesn't have a clue but don't think it will be the last comment like that.

chasing I've got everything possible crossed for you!

jet really glad to hear some good news and hope you're able to enjoy your pregnancy more once you've had your scan :)

broody it makes me so angry too!!! Unfortunately there are a lot of people out there who take everything for granted. Try to not look at those threads :( that's what I've learnt!

Everyone else... Totally understand the whole DTD to TTC and not because you particularly want to! Luckily my DH doesn't have too many problems there, I can get it fairly on demand but it does feel a bit wrong when you both are like right "let's get this over with I want to be asleep by 10 30" (and its 10 15!)

I went to work today and explained about my mc and so not wanting to do the evaluation and they were amazing about it and really supportive :) turns out my boss has been through a mc before so has said I dont need to worry about it at all and said I can take time off\time out if ever I need it :)

That's great daisy you must be so glad you told them.

Totally with you all on the dtd front, we joke about what a chore it is. I tell DH we have to do it and then make him persuade me to actually do it, poor bloke.

I'm so hearing everyone on the dtd stressing. It's so dispiriting and demoralising trying to fit it all in. And pretending you're gagging for it when you'd really rather just watch the telly. And trying to let on to dp that I'm stressing about whether he actually ejaculated enough. I remember once he said he had orgasmed but not quite'finished'. I nearly exploded with the effort of not flying off the handle and insisting we start again. It's exhausting.

So glad your work was supportive daisy. It's amazing how many people have been through it. Why do we not talk about it?

broody she sounds like a right twunt.

I've been cramping all day. Not cramping as such, just a constant pressure/pulling sensation in my uterus. In heart of hearts I think I know it's af arriving (would be 5 days early) but still part of me hoping its a bean settling in. Time will tell.

Hope you're getting on okay chasing

I have just had a huge heart to heart with DP which ended with me crying and him now thinking I am going to leave him.

Our libidos are so mismatched it really worries me long term. He has admitted that he would be happy DTD once a month, whereas I would like it at least twice a week. I have told him that unless he makes an effort with our sex life he runs the risk of us drifting apart in the future and me looking for comfort elsewhere.

I just can't imagine living like friends down the line and being happy about that.

Ah daisy, that must be such a relief to know your boss is so understanding now she knows the score. I'm really pleased for you

purple, yes I'm pretty sure it won't be the only comment that gets me but I shall try to remain calm. You've permission to fish slap me if I get het up again

jet, I'm really pleased to hear things with you are progressing well It's stories like yours that makes me want to try my best to be positive about this pregnancy and have conviction that everything will work out xx