TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Oh Chasing. It's rubbish :( and so blooming unfair. Like you haven't been through enough already. Sending you hugs

newera, you could be right there with the molar pregnancy. One of my NCT friends had that. So sad :(

What's a molar pregnancy guys? X

chasing sending big hugs and positive thoughts.
cake I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you, will be thinking of you and your family on Monday

Oh chasing :( I am so sorry you're going through all this.
I am thinking of you x

chasing, it's where your body believes it is pregnant, womb swells so you may get a bump but actually it's a lump of cells that keep multiplying over and over rather than a baby. It's another one of those peculiar, random albeit horrid things that bodies do sometimes. I'm sure it's not much consolation if this is what's happening with you but my friend went on to have a gorgeous little boy and is due her little girl in January.

I'm supposed to decide tonight if I should have the injection or surgery.

What would you guys chose? Given that they don't know if the mass is an actual pregnancy?

I don't know enough about either unfortunately to guide you. The injection should dissolve any new pregnancy in your tube and prevent you needing surgery. I didn't know you had to wait 6 months though until you can try again. At my age that would be a very long time, if you are the right side of 35 then I guess 6 months is ok.

Is the keyhole surgery investigative only? Or are the doing surgery to potentially take the tube out? I think if they remove the tube you can't TTC for 3 months and your chance of falling pregnant again is very good.

Personally I would be trying to hang on to both tubes if I could. That would be my thinking.

My chance of falling pregnant is very good after surgery newera?

They will remove my tube if the mass is pregnancy. If not then it's been confirmed either way. Risks generally are higher for surgery obviously. Injection may not work. Also what If the mass isn't pregnancy. What will the injection do then? I just don't know what to do.

Chasing - so sorry you're having to go through this. I'm no expert, but from your description, it sounds to me as though you have a suspected ectopic.

I was in a slightly different position in that my tube had ruptured before I had my first scan, and although they struggled to locate a pregnancy on the scan, the lack of an obvious pregnancy in the uterus and blood in my abdomen (caused by the rupture) was enough for me to be admitted for emergency surgery. I ended up losing my right tube, although I'd pretty much been told in advance that as long as my other tube looked healthy, this is what would happen.

Your situation is different in that because your tube hasn't ruptured, treatment with chemo drugs is possible. What I can't do is to advise you whether to choose chemo drugs or surgery. That having been said, I found the ectopic pregnancy trust website to be really helpful, and this provides quite a comprehensive explanation of the different treatment options available, which you may find helpful.

In other news, I got baby bombed by my best friend over dinner this evening. I was semi-expecting it, but it was very difficult nonetheless, particularly as her due date is the day after the EDD for my ectopic.

DH and I are now the only couple in my close group of friends who aren't expecting or don't have children. I've already started to notice that we're frequently not invited to get-togethers involving my friends with children, and can only imagine that over time this will get worse. I can't help but feel like such a failure, and that this is somewhow all my fault.

Sorry for the me me me post. I shall be on better form in the morning, I promise.

Chasing - thinking of you. Did you manage to get answers to your questions from the hospital? Enormous hugs

Cake - I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through. I will be thinking of you on Monday.

Chasing I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time. I don't have any expertise to offer but I'm sending you a virtual hug.

Thanks for the kind words. I'm having a very low day today. I just cannot believe that on Monday we have to say goodbye to our beautiful boy. The physical longing I have for him is indescribable. I'm missing a part of myself. I should've been 30 weeks pregnant on Monday, not at his funeral.

I've had some vivid dreams about becoming pregnant again. I can't imagine if we will ever try again but also can't imagine saying this is it either. I know it's too early to decide but it feels so strange it's already in my head. As I've had an emcs I guess I'd be advised to wait a year anyway, but time is not on my side as I'll be 39 by then.

Sorry I'm just rambling. If only the sun would come out, that might at least help a little. X

Sorry you're having a bad day Cake. I know that there's nothing I can say to you that will ease the pain, but know that I'm thinking of you

Oh cake, I'm so so sorry to hear your very sad news. I remember you from before and you were so supportive and kind to me as i was going through that initial, raw, painful, frightening and overwhelming period after my mc. I am sending you all the biggest hugs and love I can possibly send xxx

Oh cake, the way you describe your longing for your sweet boy. I can only begin to imagine the gut wrenching heartache you are feeling. I wish I could wrap you up in my arms. An extended family member recently lost her boy at full term and the effects are devastating. I feel like a helpless bystander. I've been thinking of you lots. X

So I'm finally home from hospital. They had originally decided on the injection for me. By the time I got there i was in quite a state and they were worried I was actually poorly so they started prepping me for surgery (cue panic attacks from me, several painful stabs at a canula and general awfulness) anyway after a scan it was agreed the tummy pain was from the horrific jabbing from the sonographer yesterday (who had me crawling up the bed and eventually begging them to stop through sobs) and so more bloods were taken. My hcg has stayed the same and so after almost 9 hours of nil by mouth and waiting, they gave me methotrexate and I'm anticipating to feel poorly in a day or so ' s time. I'm still getting my head around everything but I can only hope it works.

Enormous hugs Chasing. I can't believe the hospital were so indecisive - you poor thing. Thinking of you

Big hugs chasing, i really feel for you x

Cake, im not good with words but sending hugs and support.

So that's me out of ttc for 3-6 months. Can I stay and cheer the rest of you on? X

Of course you can stay Chasing. Big hugs

Oh Chasing big hugs - I hope you aren't too poorly and are getting lots of support. Please do stay if only to chat and get support. Today is my 1dpo and I'm on the 2ww - even if I was lucky enough to get a BFP I'm big sure I'd feel comfortable enough to leave this thread, at least for a while thanks to past experience of it not lasting!

cake thinking of you tomorrow xxx

Do you ladies want to hear some possibly good news? Today (at 9dpo and three days before AF is due) I got a second line. Holy moly. I can't even say I'm you know what (even though I am, for today at least) or that I got a you know what (three initials). Eeek. Frickin brickin it.

broody ahhhhhhhhh! Obviously you'll test daily and post photos right?

Oh my Fucking God lol. You are you know what. That is absolutely frigging BRILLIANT. Over the moon for you broody xxx

Oh broody that's brilliant, a wee bit of loveliness to cheer up all up. Very happy for you