TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I've just been scanned- still nothing. Bloods have gone 220> (48hrs) 266> (72hrs)> 460

Even if it were a new pregnancy somehow- the hcg levels aren't rising positively so that pregnancy would be going to shit too.

They will take bloods and scan me again Friday, then they'll either give me an injection .. or keyhole surgery.

chasing I'm so sorry love. Words can't express xxx

chasing have they ruled out ectopic?

They checked but only via scan and both times they seemed to have trouble seeing. because I'm so fat probably

So it doesn't seem that it is eptopic?

So they're not using the dildo cam? Why not? I don't remember if you're London based, but maybe see if you can get a private appt at the fertility clinic in harley street (forgotten the name but can google it) so you're not being screwed around?

this one www.fetalmedicine.com/

My 2 scans have been internal

I'm not in London but thank you x

Oh chasing this must be torture. Hope you're getting plenty of hugs and hand holding

I'm beginning to feel a bit numb. Like I don't have any emotion but sadness and worry anymore. Is this normal

chasing i'm so sorry your having to go through all this on top of the heartbreak of having an mc. I imagine it's your body going into survival mode as to why you just feel numb, unfortunately it will probably hit you when this is all over. I really hope its resolved soon so you can get some peace. Massive hugs from me.

purplegiraffe i totally understand wanting to keep the news to yourself for a bit so your secret is safe with me :) if/when we get a bfp we'll be keeping it to ourselves in RL, our parents were so upset by the mc we don't think we could deal with their worry on top of our own.

I thought i'd stopped bleeding after a dry night/morning but this afternoon it started again, all be it light so hoping it's stopping. I want to start DTD this weekend in the hope my body ovulates the following week. I realize this isn't likely but we'll keep trying until i get a period or a bfp.

Oh Chasing hope you're ok hun how awful :( wish I could give you a big hug! I won't even attempt to guess what's going on but you're in my thoughts so let us know how you get on if you feel up to it x

Thanks for the support ladies. I don't want to become obsessive but I would sooo love to have a BFP by Christmas or I know I will be a moody bitchy grinch throughout the 'festive season' although I know I am so totally pushing it and my luck is definitely not likely to help me out with that!! So any tips on TTC would be great! Lol. I've already started taking conception multi vits, cutting out all alcohol and finally sticking completely to a gluten free diet (I'm coeliac but was too greedy before to give up pizza and biccies!)

I imagine I'm not the only one but it's so weird that this time 2/3 months ago I never dreamt I would feel 'maternal' ... Now my body is aching for a baby of my own to hold :(

Fingers crossed it stops soon Haribo, sounds positive if it is slowing down. Don't forget to make sure you have that bfn before you start dtd again. When you do get bfp hope you can tell enough people in rl that you get the support you need.

Thinking of you Chasing, hope you also have support.

Sorry to find you hear Haribo and Amyy. Enormous hugs

Sorry you're still in limbo Chasing - sounds hideous.

My story:
32, ttc #1 since May 2014
CP, June 2014
Ruptured Ectopic (right tube removed) at 5+3 weeks, September 2014

Brummie - I know what you mean about being in the midst of a baby boom in real life. All my close friends (bar one who is also actively ttc) have fallen pregnant and had babies in the past year. When we embarked on our ttc journey, I naively assumed we'd all be on maternity leave together. Alas, it wasn't to be.

chasing, I'm so sorry you're having such a rough ride. I really hope you find out some answers and start the physical recovery soon. Until then, we are here for you xxx

Thank you Cariad,

Sorry to find you here too and hope you are ok. Big hugs x

Can anyone advise me, it will be 4 weeks this Friday since I had "the op" after miscarriage - I was just wondering if anyone knew how long us normal before I get my next period?

Chasing I've only just read back and it looks like you're having a horrendous time of it - I'm thinking of you lots and fingers crossed they'll get to the bottom of it really soon. Are they keeping you in?

Bella, the cycle following MC is officially known as the WTF cycle because no one has a clue what's going on. It could be any length of time for AF to turn up which is about as much use to you as a chocolate teapot. After one of my ERPC's it took about two months and after the most recent it was bang on 28 days. Fingers crossed it will be soon for you though xx

Thanks Boozle - for once it am desperate for Auntie Flo to come!

I'm just getting fed up and if I have to wait 2 months I'll be unbearable - my poor dp
X

I feel your pain Bella. Hope AF turns up ASAP for you x

Hi charlieis30, just sent you a private message as we are in a very very similar situation.

Chasing I hope they've given you some more clarity... Huge hugs

Girls I'm new on here. 33 years old, hubby 36. TTC #1 and having a very rough time.

In May this year had the worst news at the 20 week scan - trisomy 18 which is fatal. They were shocked I hadn't MCed as that's usually what happens with 80% of such cases. Worst time of my life as we had to safely end the pregnancy.

Barely had worked up the courage to try again in august when I got pregnant again but then had a very early MC - chemical pregnancy.

I'm utterly depressed and feel so sorrowful and angry. Why is motherhood proving to be so elusive for us? How will I ever find the strength to try again? I'm absolutely petrified. So so terrified.

This is emotionally brutal and I feel so alone.

Also, is anyone on here from surrey? We just moved to Esher from Wimbledon and am struggling to settle in as it's a pretty quiet neighbourhood and EVERYONE has kids! Would be amazing to find some local ladies who are going through a similar journey.

Moonlight, so sorry it sounds like you have had an awful time, I can't imagine getting that far only to get such horrible news. This group is such a lovely supportive group, you have come to the right place. Hope you get your sticky bean very soon.
I live in Walton (also moved from Wimbledon funnily enough) but we are in different situations in that I have been trying for no2. I also have a very tentative bfp though I am far from convinced it will stick. I remember when we first moved here we still pretty much lived our life in London but maybe Surbiton might have a bit more life?