TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Oh cake. I have no words. Hugs xxxxxxx

Cake im so sorry for your loss.

Oh Cake, words cannot describe how sad I feel for you both. Sending you all the hugs and love in the world. Even without TTC please join us on this board - you helped support me earlier on in the year and I'd like to do the same as I'm sure all the lovely ladies do.

Boozle' s got it. (Have always been rubbish with words)

Stay and let us help you. X

I can't begin to imagine what you are going through Cake but I am so so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.

So sorry cake, as boozle said. You're welcome here and I hope we can help in some way.
I can't begin to imagine what you've been through.

I'm just read the back end of the Positivity thread and I can't actually believe that someone can write that their baby passed away and a page later people are writing light hearted messages again. It so fucking disgusting and I've seen it happen time and time again on ante-natal threads.

Oh cake, I remember you well, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss! I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now, but I hope you and your DH will manage to get through this and eventually get your longed for baby. Sending you a big hug. x

Oh cake I'm so sorry for your loss. We've not "met" before as I only joined in thread in May - but I really do feel for you.

As everyone else said, please stay if you can, if only for a chat and support. We all know the feeling of stumbling around in the dark and the grief and despair you must be feeling.

Big hugs xxx

Cake I am so, so sorry to hear what has happened. We had our MMCs at similar times in March and I remember you falling preg again and feeling so happy for you. You were so lovely and supportive. I can't believe what you're going through now, it's so devastating.

I really hope you and your family can gain strength from each other at this impossible time.

Please talk to us here if it helps. If you can get through each day one at a time, the future will take care of itself. You have lots of support here.

Look after yourself xxx

So sorry to hear your story cake I think everyone has already said all the messages of support I can think of, and in a much better way than I could write! Thinking of you though and hoping you have lots of support and love surrounding you through this difficult time xxxx

Cake I'm so sorry for your loss, nothing in this world can make you feel better at this time except prayer for your son and we are all here for you. please take care of yourself and do let it out here as you know how supportive this thread is. we are keeping you in our prayers xxx

Cake am so sorry to read your story. Life is unbelievably cruel and hard sometimes.

If you can get through each day one at a time, the future will take care of itself - this is so true.

My thoughts are with you and your family

Oh Cake...I am so, so sorry that you find yourself here again. I don't like the fact you consider yourself an old timer on this thread - not a title anyone would ever want to acquire- and even less that you find yourself back here.
I used to believe in karma, lucky stars and all the rest - but I have now begun to realise that there truly is no rhyme or reason to any of this. It is so tragic that you have lost twins and then your little boy this year. How utterly heartbreaking and devastating. How awfully unfair. Please feel free to talk to us about him and share your memories of your precious little one.

The little we can all offer on here is 100% there and ready and waiting for you. I am sending very warm and soothing hugs to you and wish you a gentle evening. xxx

Thank you all so much for your kind words, this thread really is the best shit place to be. I so appreciate the support here through everything we have experienced and will be experiencing over the coming months. There isn't another thread out there that contains so much warmth, I feel like I know many of you well which is bizarre really but so comforting too. I will most definitely lurk and post when I can put the words together and I will be routing for you all in your bfp journeys.

It really is an incredible thread filled with lots of caring and supportive people :)
cake I hope you're finding a way of getting through each day at a time and know that you're always welcome here whatever the situations and the choices you and your OH make regarding TTC. Focus on yourselves for now and know were all always here for you.

chasing thinking of you too today and hope your blood results start going on the right direction for you, let us know xxx

Cake - I doubt there's very much I can say that doesn't echo the sentiments above. I am so so sorry for your loss, and as Daisy rightly said, we're always here for you.

Yes, let us know how you get on today chasing.

cake really hope you feel able to come back to this thread and just talk if you ever need to, not just about TTC-ing. We've all experienced loss and hopefully have some understanding of how you feel. What you said about lightening not striking twice really struck a chord with me. Sadly we know it does, sometimes. It's not the norm but sadly it does. There is no rhyme or reason to it. I feel like I've seen behind the magic curtain now, where bad things do happen, and it's terrifying. But you, and everyone on this thread is stronger even than you think is possible, and life will be good again.

Does anyone else feel like we need another round of introductions. Lots of new faces here, sadly I feel like an old timer now

Monten 37
TTC no 1
TFMR Jan '14 following Edwards Syndrome diagnosis
MMC June '14 8 weeks

Still waiting for another BFP - 2DPO!

Hi everyone,

Can I join? I had a MMC on Thursday, went for my dating scan and found my baby had stopped growing at 9+1. Devestated doesn't cut it and I took the tablets to induce miscarriage, which I did that evening. The bleeding has just started to slow down though still very sore. We already have a DS who is 13 months. I want to start TTC at the end of the week in hope of being one of the lucky ones who gets pregnant without having a period. A girl can hope :) I'm battling guilt of wanting to TTC straight away and feeling it in some way that makes my baby I lost less relevant. My heart hurts from the pain of losing them.

cake I've never 'met' you but my heart goes out to you and your family. Losing a child is truly the most awful thing anyone could experience, sending you love and support xx

Waves to purplegiraffe (I'm on the october13 FB with you xx)

Just read back and congratulations on a BFP purplegiraffe. Hope I'm joining you soon xx

cake I've been thinking of you all night.

haribo I am so, so sorry. Huge hugs. I also immediately felt like I was ready to try, and felt immense guilt over it. . However I did read a post by someone who had felt the same only for grief to hit in a huge wave, delayed and unexpected by some weeks. I cannot say for sure if this is what has happened to me. I suspect had I never had that scan showing my empty womb and all this stupid hcg stuff going on now, I may well have been able to remain emotionally in tact and move on, ready to ttc straight away as I had wanted. My current situation means that the whole mc is being dragged out and I am in limbo. I feel like I'm drowning in my own sadness.

All I mean is... give yourself the opportunity to feel whatever comes your way. And i so so hope you get another bfp soon. Much love x

Oh chasing what an incredibly difficult journey you've been on and how awful seeing an empty womb :(
Thanks for your lovely words and I hope this limbo doesn't continue too much longer. It's all so out of our control which makes it even more difficult to deal with. A big squeeze for you too x

Hello Haribo so sorry you find yourself here - but this really is a wonderful thread to be on. I agree, there are not many threads as warm and comforting as this one. I also felt the need to TTC straight after a loss. Because I felt I need to be doing something. Big hugs to you.

cake I completely agree about lightning striking twice. My first time I was SO naive and thought it happens to other people.

Got pregnant again on 2nd cycle and thought it's ok - it can't possibly happen again. Yes it can. I feel your agony and am thinking of you.

Agree with monten introductions are a good idea

Brummiegirl15, 38
TTC 1
mc in May 14 at 5 weeks
ERPC in August 14 at 9 weeks

Had 3 AF's since ERPC and am on cd 6 so cracked open the opk's and knocking back cough syrup and using preseed.

Hello everyone,

Brand new here and also new to doing something like this! Although spent the last few days lurking around so many sites and threads... You could say stalking!

Well before I tell my story I have had a quick skim through last couple pages and just want to say cakebaker35 my heart goes out to you. I can't even imagine what kind of hell you must be going through and nothing I can say could take any pain away although I wish it could :( just want you to know you are in my thoughts x

My story is that me and my partner found out we were having a baby in September, we hadn't been trying so a total suppose but a much wanted surprise when we knew! My body just felt different one day and I took a test to rule it out but then got a BFP! Anyway, that was at 3w, at 6w I had a little bleeding, early scan showed baby was fine and a healthy heartbeat. Relief.... So I thought until last Monday at 10w ... Another little bleed. Doctor felt my tummy and told me everything seemed fine and not to worry but there was a space for a scan that morning, so off I went. Still very strong pg symptoms so naive me didn't think much other than I was going to get to see my baby and I was super excited. They tried an outsidey scan only to be told she could see a sac but not a 10w baby. I didn't click what she was telling me so remained positive for the internal only to be told there was no heartbeat and baby must have died very shortly after my last scan at 6w. How cruel. Anyway had medical management on Thursday. Horrific. I feel like a mother with no baby to hold :(

Sorry for the essay! Basically I've came here because we are now so so so wanting a baby ( not to replace my angel one little bit ) the experience has shown us how much we want a baby and how totally ready we are. I'm almost finished bleeding (sorry if tmi!) and now I'm in limbo... The hospital didn't give me any info at all about when I could ttc but have picked up most things off threads.

Anyway, that's my story.

Hoping for other peoples experiences of ttc after mc ?

Sorry to just butt in as well!

And so sorry to have to meet you all under these circumstances xx

Hi Amy. I'm sorry for your loss my love. [Flowers] I still feel very much pregnant and so I understand the feeling of being a mummy with no baby. It's a very cruel feeling. Re: trying again. I understand they like you have at least one cycle so they can date a new pregnancy correctly. Some drs recommend 3 cycles but this doesn't seem to be for any medical reason, more for emotional time to heal. My old boss is a maternity Dr and showed me a study that is logged on the medical journal- Google will bring it up- which shows women who conceived in the first 3/6months following a mc had higher success than those after 6.

I'm just waiting for my blood test now. My emotions are running wild these past few days. What a mess.

I am unsure how I feel about trying again right now. I'm very young still, and I won't have the age gap I had intended on now anyways. If I were to fall preg imminently, it would coincide with my girl starting schoo (shes early summer born) and I don't really want that.
Also feel utterly terrified and just.. bruised ..from this whole thing.

Anyways this is me:
Chasingtherainbow, 23, TTC no2
Ttc 15 months, chemical pregnancy Oct 2012. MC October 2014.