TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

They scanned at the start of bleed, saw little bean. But was measuring bigger than 3-4 wks I thought I was. I spent the majority of that day and that all sobbing and struggling to keep my panic attacks under control. There was talk of being anything up to 8 wks due to my cycles being irregular but all that was said was that I'd likely mc fully in the next 24/48 hrs. It was all such a blur I just came home and waited it out. . . I saw a gp a week later but we just talked. She booked my bloods for next week. But that's all.

Well then my darling, you could still have a viable pregnancy in there!!

Newera. .. I just don't think that's true

Congratulations English! That's lovely news. Take good care of yourself and I hope all goes well with this pregnancy

Umm, I have a bit of my own news today too. I got my BFP this morning! [shocked] I had a good sleep after my night shift and woke up desperate for the loo at about midday (sorry TMI I know). Decided to zoom downstairs to get a cup just to do a cheeky IC test. Thought it was another negative and then left it. Came back to it after 10 minutes and I thought my eyes were playing tricks on me because there appeared to be a tiny bit of a second line. I was there shining my iPhone torch on it, turning it and tilting it to see from different angles. In the end I thought I was just seeing what I want to see so decided to dunk a Clearblue Digital test in the cup. 5 minutes later - 'Pregnant 1-2 weeks!!' Was obviously thrilled but also shaking like a leaf and a bit teary. Hugely emotional moment even though I've been thinking that I must be pregnant for over a week now as my nipples are like bullets!!

I really shouldn't have done it this morning as I promised to wait until Monday so that I could test when OH is around but I just couldn't help it. Do you think he'll understand?? I almost texted him a pic of the test but then thought that I'd wait until he gets home and surprise him so I can see his face.

Oh i do hope this one sticks around. I'm going to be a little scared every time I go to the loo now for the next few weeks....

Chasing - I'm so sorry you're having such a traumatic time. I'm not sure what to advise other than to go to your EPU asap tomorrow morning to get a scan. It may be that you still have a viable pregnancy as NewEra said.
Have you had any bleeding in the last few days? Sorry if you've already said xx

Chasing do you have another scan booked? Maybe little bean is still there?

Congratulations sarahlou!! How exciting :) I'm sure your OH won't be cross :) H and H 9 months to you :)

No.. no bleeding. Bled heavy for 4/5 days then nothing. Thought it was all over.

Scan sometime between 9-11 tomorrow morning. Feel utterly sick

Chasing - I'm surprised that your GP didn't send you for a scan when you saw her last week. Did she tell you to keep waiting to see what happens too?
Either way, you'll know tomorrow. Have you got someone going along with you?

I hope you're getting lots of support. We're all here for you too. xx

As far as I was aware the mc was finished when I saw her tbf. . Though I'd asked for bloods because I was keen to know it was over so I could ttc again..hence the frer this morning. I wanted to see it neg.. questions all this nonsense. My mind is going crazy

I think it's ridiculous they didn't either scan to check the mc was over or at least do a blood test or something. My only concern re. viable pregnancy is that your digi is still saying 1-2 weeks. When I had my non-viable chemical my tests stayed faint throughout but my numbers went up to about 200 before I bled again, for two weeks, and then I must have finally expelled the tissue. Your hcg must be pretty low to still be showing 1-2 so I suppose the most likely explanation is retained tissue . That doesn't necessarily mean you need a surgical procedure though! If they can do quantitive hcg tests and your numbers are going down instead of up then your body will most probably dispel the remaining tissue like it did with me.

Oh Chasing I really do hope you are ok and it's just your hcg levels falling. Big hugs

Sarahlou that's fantastic!!!! Great news . Loving the BFP news this afternoon. Gives us all hope x

Great news SarahLou! Your story exactly mimics mine - barely visible line on an ic but something that caught my eye - then 1-2 weeks on a digi!

Hope you get some answers soon Chasing, sounds like you're going through it at the moment.

How lovely to come on here and see another bfp today!! Congratulations sarah!!!

chasing, I'm so sorry to hear of your dilemma It took me four weeks to get a bfn (I was 12 weeks along) and then found out after another 12 weeks, I still had retained products (hate that term). I hope the scan tomorrow gives you answers but either side of that appointment, pls know we are all here for you x

Congrats sarahlou and english. Great news! I am cautiously adding myself to your news as I think I am BFP too. Same as you two, saw something on the IC on Monday, testing since and getting darker so it's defo there. FR confirmed but no digi yet. Was only due today though so keeping relaxed about it. 3rd time lucky maybe?!

Oh chasing, I am so sorry you are in limbo a bit but hope the scan clears up any confusion tomorrow. We will help you through either way!

Just clicked on the pregnancy thread and I'm so jealous of everyone talking about being pregnant

I'm frustrated that I havent got a BFP and so unbelievably sad that I'm not pregnant still / anymore ??

Oh brummie, no good can come from going in there. Keep away!

Congratulations Sarah

Congratulations English, Sarah and Dulcet, what a fantastic day for bfps.

So sorry you are in that horrible state of not knowing what is going on Chasing, it is bad enough without that.

Sorry you are feeling down Brummie, when I first mc I continued to read the an thread for a while until I realised that it was doing me absolutely no good. I deleted it from my view and having touched one since. Hope you are ok.

Ah bless you ladies. Just had floods of tears with DP. Also not helping that I'm due to go to a lunch on Sunday where a good friend, we believe is due to announce she's pregnant (after IVF as she is single) and I've just realised, I can't put myself through it. She will understandably be thrilled and very excited and planning. I cannot sit through that chatter and excited planning. I'm thrilled for her, but I cannot do it to myself.

So I've just texted her asking her outright if she's going to be announcing it on Sunday. I apologised if I was stealing her thunder but if she wouldn't mind telling me. Hope she doesn't mind me asking...

But if she is, I'm going to decline. The only person that will suffer if I go on Sunday is me. Fuck that. Excuse my language.

Am I right to do this? To ask and then decline?

Brummie is she a good friend who knows your history? If so then she will surely understand. She obviously knows how difficult this whole thing can be.

Dulcet! Congratulations too!! 3rd time lucky for me too! Something must be lucky about 3's any way!! Happy and healthy 9 months all round!

Congratulations Dulcet! So much good news on here :)

Brummie I feel the same :(
I don't think you're being unreasonable.

Yes she did know my history. She's replied and said yes she's 14 weeks and going to announce at the lunch.

I've told her I'm thrilled for her and she will excitedly planning, as she should be, but I can't sit through those conversations.

Too many times I've done things because I don't want to let people down or feel I should. Actually I'm my priority and I've said no.

I will be thankful for it on Sunday I'm sure. Thanks for the kind words all, this thread is wonderful xx

I think you've absolutely doe the right thing.
It just tears you apart sitting and listening to all that.
Glad you know and have it sorted.