TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Enormous hugs Blue. Good luck with the wedding planning and I really hope your journey to a BFP commencing next June is a smooth one, and that you have a healthy, sticky bean inside you in time for your wedding.

Daisy - I'm not sure how many DPO I am but I'm CD34. My cycles are a little messed up after the MC I've always been quite irregular too so I'm not sure what's going on in there. Aiming to test on Mon morning I think. Fingers crossed for you on Sunday xx

Bluefreckles - So sorry AF got you! Hugs xx

Oh blue I'm sorry. I hope you have the most wonderful wedding day honey. A honeymoon baby for you perhaps x

(What's a WTF cycle? )

Whoop whoop smallbear brilliant news!
The WTF Cycle is quite literally the what the fuck cycle where anything goes - it's the time following the MC waiting for your first AF where your body is so all over the place there is absolutely no point trying to read anything about it. The cycle could be be weeks or sometimes months and it makes you want to swear alot...

Massive hugs to you blue :( it will happen and as others have said hopefully you'll have a lovely honeymoon baby! The time will go quickly with all the wedding planning and you'll be back ttc again before you know it (and getting a BFP!) sending wedding dust to you and a bit of baby dust following it closely behind :)

Chasing - WTF cycle is a 'what the f*ck' cycle... When you literally have no idea what the hell your cycles/body is doing (took me a while to figure that one out too!)

Mrsconfusion and Sarahlou good luck when you do test :) would be awesome if we could get 3 BFPs on the thread!

I think every cycle feels like a WTF cycle for me lol!

BFN for me an 9 and 10 dpo. I am sad but I'm getting used to it now. As the time goes on it does get easier. Roll on cycle 19.

hugs newera, BFN is still early at 10dpo though, you're not out till AF arrives though! With my last BFP it took until 12dpo to get a BFP so dot lose hope yet! x

happy to see that some of you ladies are having lovely news. It helps give me a wee bit of hope

I got baby bombed on Monday and spend a good proportion of the afternoon hiding in the loos at work having a good old sob.

I'm having one of those weeks when it's all just bit too hard. I've got that low back ache which for me is a sign that AF is imminent, I'd hoped we'd be lucky this month. My first 2 pregnancies (DD whos almost 2 and MC in Aug at 11 weeks) I fell pregnant the first month of trying. This will be 3 months since MC so I cant help but wonder is there's something long. Or is it cause I'm getting too old - almost 40.

Then to top it all off I broke a tooth this morning. The dentist can fit me in on Wednesday but I've just realised that I'll need to tell them that I'm no longer pregnant.

I'm so obsessed that I struggle to think of anything else. Got invited away for a weekend in Feb and was checking my diary to make sure it wont be at a time when I might be ovulating, then got really upset at the thought that I still might not be pregnant by then

I'm outside a friend's house and need to go in soon. I'm visiting as she's just had her second baby - we started ttc at the same time. I'm lingering. I'm feeling a bit teary.

Deep breathes ..deep breathes. One day soon, people will be visiting me and my baby. One day soon. One day soon....

Oh chasing I'm sending you lots of hugs.
You can do this and you will get your baby xxx

Oh guys, really sorry to see so many of you are having even more sh1t thrown at you. It's so hard to stay positive after everything you've been through and with life going on around us as though nothing has changed. Time is a great healer, tis true, but that doesn't help with these emotional scars we have. Hugs to one and all xxx

So I've just got off the phone to my nurse and got my blood results. The results are really good! Progesterone 54, LH normal, FSH normal I was convinced I am broken but I'm not!!!! So next step is getting DPs sperm tested.

I'm pretty convinced he is the problem as he has MS and has to take a fairly heavyweight medication every Saturday to control it. I did get pregnant with DS with no effort whatsoever so assumed his sperm count was great. I guess now we've been trying for so long without much success we could have actually just been extremely lucky.

Not sure what happens if we find out he is infertile. I really want another child and am going to struggle I think if we find out its the end of the road.

chasing hope it wasn't too bad once you finally made it inside. I was in a similar situation a few weeks ago, putting off visiting. But once I was there it was all ok and actually all I felt was happy for them.
Home afterwards with a large glass of wine afterwards was a different matter.....

Ok, i know I've said it before but I am so worried about Xmas.

I love Xmas and had all these ideas about how great it would be to have our baby born at xmas. How am I going to cope? I'm crying watching people enjoying Xmas with their baby on TV! :/

treacle I know exactly how you feel.
We made all our Christmas plans based on the fact I'd be 7mths pregnant by the festive season. We'd turned down invites and decided not to travel to see my family in Scotland.

Wen I'm able to be rational I can remind myself that it's just 1 day out of the rest of our lives BUT most of the time I'm either crying or huffing like a petulant toddler.

Glad it's not just me north.
I was due Xmas eve so we were happy not to have to decide where to go or what to do and excited that I'd be waiting for labour.

I'm fed up of having these days though.
I tried to get counselling too and I can't get an appointment til at least December.
Feel like ive got no control over anything.

chasing Hope things went okay once you got into your friends house, i've found with real friends its usually comforting to see them even with their babies but I know how rubbish it feels all the same :( hugs to you

north You're not out till AF actually gets you, you never know what could be a symptom! Sorry you're feeling rubbish though, does sound like a crappy week. Having to tell the dentist - I had the same issue and it mega sucks :( big hugs to you!

newera Yay to your blood results!! :)

treacle and north I would've been around 20 weeks at christmas so was imagining it would be the first time all my family would actually see me and I was so excited that i'd have a bump :( Can't imagine how it must feel to have changed plans due to a christmas delivery and now its all change :( I wish i had a big vat of baby dust and could give a huge load to each and every one of you and make sure that you all had BFP's with sticky sticky beans by christmas! (and maybe save a little bit for me too:))

treacle have you ever had coucilling? I've been considering it but just don't know if it would help as i'm not a great talker in RL and also figured the wait would be long and hoped I wouldn't need it by the time I could get it anyway!

Oh treacle and north. You poor things. We'd planned Xmas here on account of how poorly I get in the first tri/early 2nd tri, now there's no morning sickness or excited plan making and we've got everyone coming here when really, I want a quiet one now. I'm really sorry guys. Xxxx

I went in eventually and it was absoloutly fine. I felt a bit sad, but baby is so happy and placid and I got loads of cuddles. Baby fell asleep in my arms as my LO snuggled up to my side and for a moment it caught my breathe, it was like what I'd lost finally hit me for a second . . But I shook it off and we all had a lovely afternoon together.

Please let it be soon for all of us ?

Hi Sarahlou and Daisy - not sure what day I am dpo as didn't test this month but I'm CD 24 which I know sounds very early but my cycles range from 23 - 26 days so having done 2 tests now both being bfn, I'm not pregnant. Grrr

Bought some more opk's today so back in the saddle when AF turns up

newera hugs it sounds like you're having a hard time. I can't imagine how difficult it mist feel to suddenly doubt yourself and DP. Unlikely it's the end of the road if you have a DC, surely?

treacle if you're in London or close try City Pregnancy? I got in for counselling very quickly and it's been doing me a world of good

Xmas is sh*t. I said to DH today, 2 more cycles until Xmas! Have had to really psych myself up that I will not be in safe zone by xmas even if I am preg by then. It's tough.

chasing you msg was lovely. We will all get there. Hugs to all xxx

brummie I've never tested +ve before AF due don't lose hope xx

Same here Brummie, I also have short cycles and have never tested positive until several days after af was due.

Having said that I will be testing on Friday which is early, just asking to be disappointed

Charlie and Purple why do we put ourselves through it??!!!!

I'm just hoping paying £27 (27 quid!!!!! On my 3rd box I might flipping add) on cb opk's will be short sighted and I will be magically pg and have wasted my money

That's money you won't mind wasting Brummie! Goes off to order more opks...

On a completely different note - something to distract me from why aren't I pregnant again yet.. Am watching that People Like Us on BBC3. Christ on a bike. A nice positive view of Birmingham from the media I'm glad to see!

Wanted to scream at the woman (actually more like girl) who said "I don't give my baby chocolate every day" dear god

Not all of Birmingham is like this I hasten to add.

Back to wondering why I can't get upduffed