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Halloween POAS - anyone fancy joining me?

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IBelieveInPink · 21/10/2014 15:36

Just started ttc again, trying for number 2. Dd is 11 months, and we had 2 mc while trying for her.

So, I was completely relaxed about the whole situation, was going to try for a couple of months of 'we'll see what happens'. Then DH asked me when I could POAS. So now it is set in my head that I am on a countdown, thought I may see if anyone fancies joining me for the wait?

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Katewright699 · 29/10/2014 16:54

Sorry to hear that tiggery Haloween Sad x

TiggeryBear · 29/10/2014 17:11

Is it bad that I feel somewhat relieved but tinged with a bit of disappointment? My OH has now decided that he's not ready & wants to wait a year?! So confused right now.

Katewright699 · 29/10/2014 17:19

No it's not bad at all .. Don't be too hard on yourself, each time ive fallen pregnant ive always had that... Omg am I doing the right thing moment,and although we are ttc at the moment part of me still worries about how I will cope and if I'm having a bad day with my ds's I feel like maybe it won't be a bad thing if I haven't conceived this month because these two are driving me nuts !!! I think it's only natural to always have an objective part of you in any life changing scenario xx

bluecoconut · 29/10/2014 17:32

No Tiggery. It is not bad to feel that way at all. I get how you feel. It is a massive thing having a baby.

In my case, we would really love to have another. I have a much older DD and the plan with DH was/is to have two DC's together. Sadly, DS has a severe disability and tbh I am frightened of it happening again. I think that is why I am a bit mixed feelings too.

Do you want to wait Tiggery? Why does OH want to wait? Have you got plenty of time on your side? Were you more relieved than disappointed?
You don't have to tell us, but maybe these are some of the questions you need to ask yourself. xx

bluecoconut · 29/10/2014 17:37

Ditto also what Kate said. It is normal to feel both. It is when you feel more one way than the other, that you need to ask yourself what you want. I think I took you saying you were confused, as meaning you were confused as to what you wanted.

Big wave to Kate!

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IBelieveInPink · 29/10/2014 18:08

Ah Tiggery that's a shame. I can't really add much to the really good advice above, but hope you are okay. Take your time whatever you decide, and you can always change your mind again. Maybe just have a month off to reassess, and keep reassessing each month until you both ready again?

I may have poas. It was negative.
there was not the teeniest hint of a line. Not at all. Definitely not Grin

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bluecoconut · 29/10/2014 18:33

May still be too early IBelieve.

Katewright699 · 29/10/2014 19:19

Big wave back and a cuddle an all blue Grin had a bit of a crap day today tbh .. I've had lots of cramping and felt pretty rubbish all day Sad .. I have fits and very very nearly had one earlier while alone with my ds's came over really hot,dizzy and clammy, thankfully I managed to overcome the feeling and have been ok since

Katewright699 · 29/10/2014 19:24

Yeah yeah yeah let's go with too early ibelieve at least you can still join in the POAS party on Friday...it's the coolest place to be lol Grin

TiggeryBear · 29/10/2014 20:04

I'm confused because I think I feel more relieved than disappointed which has actually surprised me. We're both 25 but he thinks he's too young, he says that there are things he wants us to do before we have a family. I don't know. I think some long chats are in order.
Thank you for all your support ladies. Good luck to all of you testing Friday :-) I hope you all get the results you want :-) fingers crossed. xxx

Katewright699 · 29/10/2014 20:11

Good luck to you too tiggery with whatever you and oh decide to do.. You've most certainly got time on your side,so no rush Wink have a good old fashioned heart to heart xx

Katewright699 · 30/10/2014 08:46

Morning ladies... I'm out AF got me this morning Haloween Sad... But on the bright side I now know I've got a nice long 14 day lp and that the ovia app was accurate to the millisecond lol,and I can hopefully narrow down my ov date so I won't waste so many sticks testing from cd6 Smile.... Good luck to anyone testing tommorow,looking forward to seeing some well earned bfp's on here soon.... Now who's going to start a POAS over the bonfire while the fireworks are going off thread for November Grin

bluecoconut · 30/10/2014 11:37

So congrats to Virtual, Loved and Linsayd.

Commiserations to Kate and Purple (enjoy the steak and wine) and Dorothy

Still waiting for confirmations from Ghost, IBelieve, Somewhere, angela, kellie and Ruby.

Tiggery it is fine not to be ready to have a baby yet. Take a break from it all and just enjoy the couple time with OH.

I hope I haven't missed anybody out. Apologies if I have.

bluecoconut · 30/10/2014 11:40

New Thread. Hope this works.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2222402-Lets-be-thankful-this-Thanksgiving-for-our-BFP

Kellie1991 · 30/10/2014 13:03

I thought I was out this month for sure but still no confirmation. I am now 3 days late for af and no pains atm or signs that it is coming... So it could be my cycle returning to normal or... What I'm crossing my fingers for is that positive ov test I did last weekend to be correct and I'm about 5 dpo and pregnant lol... I doubt it tho so i will probably be joining November thread as well :( congrats to all those who have got their bfp.. And baby dust to all those who are back trying for another month xxx

Katewright699 · 30/10/2014 13:24

Hi kellie :) are you overdue AF or 5dpo ... Excuse my dimness Blush

bluecoconut · 30/10/2014 13:34

Hi Kellie,

I would maybe test once a week until af or bfp comes. This tiime when I came off the pill it took a couple of months to settle into a 28 day cycle.

Kellie1991 · 30/10/2014 13:35

I'm. Not too sure tbh lol... Sorry I made it sound confusing lol..

My period was due on Tuesday and it hasn't turned up yet so I'm late for that Yeh..
But I did a random ovulation test on Saturday past because I hadn't had a positive this month and I got a positive so we bd Saturday and Monday

So it seems I have had a late ovulation which would make me 4-5dpo maybe less actually depending on what day I actually ovulated on

The period due date was just based on what my app is saying lol

Sorry I think I'm still confusing everyone lol x

bluecoconut · 30/10/2014 14:06

It is ok. I get what you are saying. I would test next weekend if you think you have ovulated late.

ruby242 · 30/10/2014 14:08

I'm still hanging out waiting to poas tomorrow morning! I'm the same this month Kellie with a late ovulation-its so confusing when cycles aren't the same each month!! If negative tomorrow im going to temp consistently through November to pinpoint things a bit more. I hope a month off might help you tiggery? And hopefully just too early to test for you Ibelieveinpink!

Kellie1991 · 30/10/2014 14:16

It's annoying... I've got a feeling it won't happen this month just a gut instinct so I'd rather my period would just arrive so I can get on ahead with next month! I used Internet opks this month so I've invested in some clearblue digital smileys for next month to confirm the lines on the Internet cheapies and I'm gonna try temping as well... Getting obsessed with it all already! I got caught first month with ds we weren't trying but since then I have been diagnosed with endometriosis so that is in the back of my head even tho I was displaying symptoms before I got pregnant with ds.... But I'm worried that 2 and a half years on from having him it might have started to impact my fertility and no matter how much I try to push it to the back of my mind it's always in my head!.... And again I've got a lot on this incoming month 2 weddings to attend and quite a few nights out planned so I'm wondering should I just forget about it this month and not prevent and see what happens lol (not that I would be able to do that anyways lol)

ruby242 · 30/10/2014 14:41

Yes I feel the same about wishing af would hurry up, I was feeling confident with possible symptoms earlier in the week but feel really unsure now and wonder if I ovulated later and possibly missed the opportunity! Its so easy to get obsessed with all this isn't it-hopefully just means when we do get our BFP we will enjoy it all the more after the wait :) Hopefully in between the weddings etc you'll still get a chance-this month was crazy so November I will really be able to get down to business I hope!

bluecoconut · 30/10/2014 14:49

I think I will try temping this month too Ruby. My cycles are quite erratic of late so I am wondering if I am perimenopausal. Be interesting to see if I am actually ovulating.

Tbh Kellie if you have a really busy month and it is not at the forefront of your mind, I reckon it is more likely to happen.

Kellie1991 · 30/10/2014 15:28

Fingers crossed for us all... I think it would be a good idea to do temperatures blue... Of course like the rest of you probably I've been reading hundreds of pages of stuff on ttc lol! And it seems that even a positive opk is not confirmation that you did actually ovulate u can still have a positive opk but not ovulate... Taking temperature seems to be the only way to Confirm you did actually ovulate... Only thing for me is that I don't wake at same time every morning which seems to be what you have to do lol... With a 2 yr old and a evening/night job. I just sleep until he wakes which can be anywhere from 6.30am - 10am lol

Is it just me as well or is everyone around u announcing pregnancies atm!? I know so many pregnant women and have heard so many announcements this month from people I know! It's like a baby boom round here that has skipped my house lol x

bluecoconut · 30/10/2014 16:28

errrrr no. I am pretty clueless Kellie. Kate has just been asking me about epo on the new thread. I have no freakin idea what she is talking about.

Maybe you could set the alarm and go back to sleep until DC wakes up.

It is ok for me as I don't have anybody in my circle who is pregnant. However, a good few years ago when I really, really (as in desperately) wanted a baby, everybody was getting pregnant.