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TTC for the first time - anyone else?

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innersanctum · 28/09/2014 17:15

Hi all. I'm a newbie to Mumsnet. TTC for the first time - it's all new!

DH and I have decided to 'take the plunge' and TTC#1. I'm 27 and DH is 31.

It's our first month of trying.

Anyone else just starting out? Would be great to hear from anyone in the same boat and share along the way.

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batfish · 07/10/2014 19:23

Well given that loads of people drink plenty before they even realise they are pregnant I am sure it will be fine - and if you don't drink during the 2ww and it takes a while to get pregnant (although I really hope it doesn't for you) then it will kind of take over your life. Obviously the health advice says to avoid alcohol if you are TTC but I doubt there are many people who do completely - or at least not until they've been TTC for a while and putting a but more effort in.

So personally I would say have a few drinks with your friend and don't worry about it. But obviously it is your body and only you know how you would feel if you were to be pregnant and then be worrying that you had been shitfaced in the early stages :-D I am no expert at all but I would say don't worry about it.

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/10/2014 19:27

I'm going to hold out until Saturday. I don't think I'm pregnant but would love to know where AF is!

I'd go for the drinks Blimey, don't let it take over everything.

My DH and I are talking about it very little really, I suppose one month in it is very much a "we'll see" kind of thing.

Blimeygirl · 07/10/2014 19:36

Thanks girlies! Thought I might be blasted for that question! No I will make sure I limit the intake but will enjoy that drink on Friday then! As I said earlier I am trying to not let it take over my life but easier said than done when it has been a long time in the pipeline! (Husband and I have been together since I was 16 and always wanted a big family!)

batfish · 08/10/2014 04:35

Well last night I had my first unprotected sex ever - I've always been ridiculously careful! So even though there is no chance of pregnancy from it (only CD7 and my first cycle off the pill so who knows when ovulation will happen) it still felt very reckless haha!

Ahh Blimeygirl me and the hubby have been together since I was 16 too! We are now 33. Which means that I think we still think of ourselves of kids so we are finding all of these TTC conversations very funny and a bit embarrassing! I need to grow up :-)

Pixa · 08/10/2014 07:43

Batfish I remember thinking how reckless I felt on our wedding night! First ever unprotected sex; it felt extremely reckless! Really odd.

Blimeygirl · 08/10/2014 08:17

Ha I'm glad it's not just me that felt very reckless and wanted to tell someone immediately the first time we had unprotected sex! But sadly dh still feels that it's a bit reckless before next month ( he's very stubborn/ careful) so after a discussion last night we have to wait another month till being completely reckless Hmm

Pixa · 08/10/2014 08:23

Husband threatened to by condoms last night as a joke when we were looking at pregnancy tests. I came close to throttling him. (Jokingly obviously).

wanttobeamummyin2015 · 08/10/2014 09:22

batfish I know what you mean! Takes a while to change perception, it felt so naughty to begin with!

Blimeygirl · 08/10/2014 18:41

Well my broodiness has a bit of a break for now as our bitch just had four puppies so we get to experience sleepless nights again! All good practise! Been an eventful day!

Pixa · 08/10/2014 21:17

Blimey what an eventful day! So exciting. Maybe DH and I need to get a dog...

My broodiness never seems to waiver. I think DH is broody now, I have seem him checking out prams when people walk by... Confused

Blimeygirl · 08/10/2014 21:31

Puppies certainly help especially when it's a home birth! Love them so much and gives us an insight into what we can do! First time my husband has delivered pups too so gave him a scare/ excitement! Who couldn't love them?! These are the times I see my husband's best broody side!

TTC for the first time - anyone else?
TTC for the first time - anyone else?
Alisvolatpropiis · 08/10/2014 22:58

Still no AF. Am now 4 days late.

But I feel disinclined to test again after that bfn the day before AF was due.

Mumwannabe82 · 09/10/2014 12:43

Hi Alisvolatepropiis, Are you normally regular? If you are then I would still do another one because lots of women don't get a positive until after their AF is due, it sometimes just takes a little time for the right hormones to kick in!! good luck and sprinkling lots of baby dust!!

Alisvolatpropiis · 09/10/2014 18:12

Usually like clockwork, though I only know that because of the trusty tracker app I've had for years!

I think I'm going to wait until next week to test again, just in case AF has had a funny moment and turns up late.

I suppose if I am pregnant, I won't be any less if I wait a bit longer!

Mumwannabe82 · 09/10/2014 18:38

Wine while we wait ladies Smile

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innersanctum · 09/10/2014 19:33

fc for you alisvolapropiis !

Hi ladies. I'm going mad trying to symptom-spot in 2ww. Any slight tummy twinge, any slight soreness in my boobs, any slight nausea (oh no, that's probably just wolfing down a dairy milk in about two mins flat).

Got 8 days til AF due. Wondering how long I can last before I cave and do a pg test.

On that note, anyone tried ordering a load of cheapie pg tests off amazon? Wondering whether to cough up for the clearblue ones or go for cheapie ones. It could start adding up!

batfish we felt totally reckless when we first dtd unprotected. After 10 years together, it felt like the first time all over again!

Really enjpying hearing from you all. It's so liberating being able to chat here when I can't talk to anyone else about it - we're keeping it a secret that we're trying. Don't want extra pressure!

blimeygirl LOVE the puppy pics.

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batfish · 09/10/2014 19:57

We've just had a slight change of plan - I realised that if by some miracle I were to get pregnant first try then I would be due around the time I will have been in my job for a year. And if I am there for less than a year then I won't be entitled to maternity pay. So I think this month we are just going to take it easy and then properly go for it next month because then timing will def be good! I know it is extremely unlikely it would happen first time but sod's law says it will if we don't really want it to! Kind if disappointed to be delaying the full on TTC by a month but seems a shame to risk missing out on the dosh for the sake of a couple of weeks!

Blimeygirl your pups are sooooo cute!!

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innersanctum · 09/10/2014 21:16

batfish we timed TTC for the exact same reasons. We had to wait until I knew the earliest date I would qualify for additional mat pay by being at work for a year (or something like a year's worth of employment at a certain week before a due date) if I conceived straight away. Definitely worth it!

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Pixa · 09/10/2014 23:24

We have been completely reckless with our timing... I am on a fixed term contract which is due to end in March - although there has been discussion of an extension. However, we have savings and are in a good position mostly. Hubby is 33; we don't want to lose time now. He doesn't want anymore newborns after 40. Plus, there is never a right time to have children, just some times are better than others. Understand your reasoning though, especially if it is only a few weeks. Smile

batfish · 10/10/2014 06:41

It would be fine if I didn't get maternity pay, we have savings too and my husband earns well - but just seems a shame to miss out on it. If it meant having to wait longer than a month I don't think we would but when it is so close we may as well. We're still not going to be using protection, just not DTD as often as we would be if we were really trying! So that way - if it happened anyway then it was meant to be but we're not going to make a massive effort. Just want the next month to go very quickly!! And you guys will all be experts by then and can tell me what to do :-)

Alisvolatpropiis · 12/10/2014 14:01

Tested again yesterday and got BFP x2. Totally didn't expect it.

Just have my fingers crossed all goes well now.

Best of luck to everyone!

batfish · 12/10/2014 16:52

Oh wow Alisvolatpropiis that's amazing - congratulations on your multiple BFPs!!! How exciting! Any words of wisdom for us other beginners?

So exciting for you, here's hoping you have a fab pregnancy!

Alisvolatpropiis · 12/10/2014 17:11

Erm...carry on as normal? And it will probably happen when you think it won't.

I was drunk on Wednesday this week Blush

Wish you all the best of luck and a prompt BFP!

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innersanctum · 12/10/2014 17:43

Alis Woo wooopppp!!! Amazing news!!! Really happy for you, and hoping you can share some of your luck with all of us!!

How far along does that make you?

Did you get any early symptoms? (Apart from AF not turning up, obvs).

Sending you lots of love for the next chapter Smile! xxxx

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Kirstywa1 · 12/10/2014 18:03

Hi ladies, would it be ok to join this thread? DH and I are TTC #1 I came off the pill in August and had my first real AF last month - I am using Ovia app - and used OV test strip when app said I should have been oving but didn't get a positive reading - I seem to be oving now lol - it's all such a mine field - I thought I knew how to make babies but seems far more complicated Confused

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