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TTC for the first time - anyone else?

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innersanctum · 28/09/2014 17:15

Hi all. I'm a newbie to Mumsnet. TTC for the first time - it's all new!

DH and I have decided to 'take the plunge' and TTC#1. I'm 27 and DH is 31.

It's our first month of trying.

Anyone else just starting out? Would be great to hear from anyone in the same boat and share along the way.

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Crystal049 · 01/10/2014 19:05

Hope you don't mind me joining in, I'm 32 married 2 years and having my last pill next week, so excited. Been taking pre conception vitamins, it will be my first so excited and nervous at the same time.

Babymamababy · 01/10/2014 19:24

Hi all. I am new to this page. Am also ttc ( and learning the lingo!) fingers crossed for everyone x

Pixa · 02/10/2014 07:30

Crystal I know what you mean about feeling excited and nervous at the same time. Best of luck to you! Smile

Babymamababy the lingo is a mind field in itself! I have been relaying it back to my husband who just keeps saying 'lets just do the sex' haha. Wishing you luck too. Smile

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innersanctum · 02/10/2014 21:39

Can totally relate batfish. I'm not really broody type, but I know I want children of my own with my husband, so excited about potentially starting a family.

Had to remind myself that TTC is a long process so trying to not be too hopeful it'll happen quickly.

Was talking to smug friends who got BFP after only two months!!

For all of us, I'm sure it'll happen when the time is right Smile

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batfish · 02/10/2014 23:20

innersanctum hopefully you are right that everything will happen when the time is right - I am a big believer in everything happens for a reason. Until things don't go my way haha. Just joking, I do like to believe that if something doesn't go to plan then it means I'm being redirected towards another plan. I sound like a total hippie which is really not the case!

Hi Crystal049 and Babymamababy :-)

Mumwannabe82 · 04/10/2014 08:10

Morning ladies, so little update on the ovulation tests. I got nothing to begin with then for a couple of days got a faint line (which still means negative supposedly) then in the last couple if days it got darker and darker so I'm really pleased that I'm ovulating yay If anyone decides to use them you need to be a little bit patient as your body takes a little time to tell you want you want to hear XXX oh and some women only get a faint line and have fallen pregnant so the hope is out there ladies xx wishing you all the luck in the world when TTC Grin

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innersanctum · 04/10/2014 15:24

Mumwannabe82 yay for oving!

I haven't tried ov tests yet, but definitely going to give them a try if a bfn this month.

When are you supposed to do the ov tests?

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DogOnALeash · 04/10/2014 15:25

Oh that's great Mumwannabe82 it's good to know that your body is working like you hope it should be Smile it took me about 3 cycles to get all the good signs of ovulating and my fertile window, I haven't done OPKs yet but I know that i will if things don't move along in a couple of months.

OK I'm in my 2WW and I am finding it soooooo hard not to POAS, according to my Ovia app there is still 7 days before I can even do an early test and man it is killing me to hold out, I know I'm not going to have fallen pg on first go but the whole process is still exciting!

Don't you just hate the smug friends that just 'happen' to become pregnant like it didn't even occur to them that it could be a struggle to some people.

Have any of you told people that you are TTC? MIL is staying with us atm and DH asked if we should tell her, I said not to as we would constantly be asked how things were going and I don't think I could take the questioning if it became a struggle...Confused

Mumwannabe82 · 04/10/2014 23:54

Thanks ladies, just got the dreaded two week wait now so I'm with you all the way dogonaleash XXX
You should generally ovulate 14 days before your next period regardless of how long your cycle is but everyone is different! The ovulation tests think I should have started using them on day 5 of my cycle so when I have literally come off AF but today I have had my strongest line and I'm on day 11 and only a faint line before that and nothing at all to begin with xx hope that helps inner sanctum xx

Pixa · 05/10/2014 09:02

I definitely think we will be trying ovulation tests if we have three cycles without a BfP. Promised DH that we would try for three months without charting, or using OPKs first.

batfish · 05/10/2014 09:22

Like Pixa we have decided not to test for ovulation just yet (even though I would like to put my mind at rest and know that I am actually ovulating) so that it doesn't feel like it is getting too serious too soon - so we are just going to see how it goes for the next 2-3 months and then think about ovulation sticks and temperature etc. Won't stop me looking for my own signs of ovulation though haha.

DogOnALeash we haven't really told anyone we are TTC - for exactly the reasons that you mentioned, we don't want people looking for signs of pregnancy or asking how it is going, especially if it takes a long time. I have spoken to a couple of close friends about it but that's it. It is hard though because we are at that age where it is on people's minds - I actually had a friend ask me yesterday whether we ever talk about when we will have kids and I said no we haven't really thought much about it and maybe in a year or so we would think about it!

pinkie1982 · 06/10/2014 10:20

First cycle, first proper AF due Thursday...we will see. Negative test this morning. Took 3 days early as OH is off working away until Friday. Was excised but trying not to get my hopes up too much for first cycle.
Now hoping it does arrive on time...
Better luck next month :/

batfish · 06/10/2014 16:03

Aww sorry to hear that pinkie1982 - must be a little disappointing even if you had been trying not to get your hopes up. Fingers crossed now that AF comes on time so you can start again soon!

Blimeygirl · 06/10/2014 19:43

Hi can I join in here as well?! Husband and I about to start ttc#1 I'm 24 and he's 31. Just trying to not turn into a crazy woman about it!

xxkasseyxx · 06/10/2014 19:54

Hi hope u don't mind if I join it's my second month trying my af is due any time only had my 1st period last month after comin off the pill so not 100% on when af is due but not had any signs to say it's on it's way hate waiting

Pixa · 06/10/2014 20:12

Ooh Blimeygirl we are about the same! I am 24, hubby is 33. Also TTC #1 and are just coming to the end of cycle 1. I feel completely crazy already!

Blimeygirl · 06/10/2014 20:49

Glad to be in the same camp as someone pixa! Well I am due to ovulate this week so plenty of dtd this week! But this is only attempt 1 so not expecting (but secretly hoping for!) miracles! Convincing husband that it might take a few months as he seems to think it will happen first time as he wants us to conceive in December as it fits better with his job!

Pixa · 06/10/2014 21:01

My husband seems to think it will happen straight away (I wish - only been planning it since forever!) so I had to explain that it could take months and months. I ovulated whilst on honeymoon about ten days ago, so now waiting for either AF or a BfP. I hate the TWW and it's only my first one. Hubby is being mega supportive though and has promised me cheesecake and a large glass of wine if AF shows. It's great to hear from someone in a similar boat! Will have my fingers crossed that you get a BfP soon! Grin

Blimeygirl · 06/10/2014 21:23

So are you newly married then pixa?! Fingers crossed for lots of BFPs for everyone! So excited now and just want that BFP! But for now will enjoy a glass of vino!

Alisvolatpropiis · 06/10/2014 22:11

I was naughty and did a test the day before AF was due. it was a BFN. AF has now not shown up, just to spite me. Will probably show up as soon as I put on a pair of white knickers though.

DH is being very cautious about the whole thing. I think when we do get a BFP there may be a careful managing of my expectations, he has been in relationships where (unplanned) pregnancies have ended in miscarriage.

He's never actively tried either so he is quietly excited too though.

Mumwannabe82 · 06/10/2014 22:12

Hi ladies, well as previously posted I ovulated at the weekend (well I think I did) but now getting a little bleed when I go to the toilet Hmm so bit worried now that the cruel witch has pitched up early, hope not!!!
Welcome xxkasseyxx and blimey girl, we're all here for you xxxx

Mumwannabe82 · 06/10/2014 22:13

I'm always naughty and test earlier than I should lol xxx

xxkasseyxx · 07/10/2014 07:34

I tested yest and got a bfn but still no sign of af my partner is always excited thinking it's gonna happen quickly cuz were young but I'm not convinced myt test again on fri if af is still not here I'm hoping I can wait again till then

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/10/2014 12:42

If I had a bfn the day before AF was due, is there any point in testing again now AF is late?

Blimeygirl · 07/10/2014 19:16

I would probably wait a couple more days to test again Alis if you can manage to wait! But what would I know I'm a complete novice!

Can I ask a daft question please (please don't take the mick!) so we are dtd this week as I am ovulating or about to (I think!) but we have a friend coming over this weekend who I haven't seen for ages. Given that we are sort of starting before we need/ want to conceive (husband wants to conceive December ish and assumes it will happen immediately!) can I risk a drink or a few? Or should I just do the very well behaved tww?!

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