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TTC for the first time - anyone else?

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innersanctum · 28/09/2014 17:15

Hi all. I'm a newbie to Mumsnet. TTC for the first time - it's all new!

DH and I have decided to 'take the plunge' and TTC#1. I'm 27 and DH is 31.

It's our first month of trying.

Anyone else just starting out? Would be great to hear from anyone in the same boat and share along the way.

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Blue500 · 29/09/2014 19:07

Batfish - 'crazed conception machine' I love it! Smile

Hi tessiegirl - a woman after my own heart. I'm also a planner for a living so I'm all about being organised and doing as much as I can to help the situation! Fx for you

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innersanctum · 29/09/2014 19:07

Hi tessiegirl!

I know what you mean - my husband admitted tonight that he's struggling to keep up with my new timetable!

We've just bought some Conceive Plus lube, too. It gets good reviews on Amazon. Anything that helps!

I'm so confused about ovulation. The two apps I'm using give completely different ov dates and fertility windows. So, I guess we're just dtd as much as possible to increase our chances. FX!

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janeh1984 · 29/09/2014 19:16

I'm with you all! Came off pill in August, waited to first period in September and I'm now on the first cycle. About to begin the dreaded two week wait! Feeling nervous and excited at the same time....

I wonder how many of us will get a BFP in two weeks? Good luck to everyone Smile xx

batfish · 29/09/2014 19:18

As much as it would be brilliant for things to happen quickly I am also wanting to try to keep it light hearted for the first couple of months so am trying to steer away from the temptation of ovulation sticks, temperatures etc...... Just going to try to have sex every 2-3 days (hubby can't wait as we are usually once a week ish and he would probably do it every day if I would) and see if anything happens - maybe after 3-4 months start trying to get a bit more technical! Kind of secretly wanting to do all of that straight away but don't want to take the fun out of it just yet, hope I don't regret it!

DogOnALeash · 29/09/2014 19:33

Ovia luckily is free or at least it was for me on iPhone...It takes a couple of months for it to start changing your dates around, mine was 2 months before it started to project different dates. This month they seemed to be pretty accurate, I ov'd on the dates specified but only time will tell if I get AF on 13th Oct or not lol!! So far it's got me at a 32 day cycle but my first off the pill was 34, I've always had a longer cycle so I feel this is pretty accurate.

My hubby would be so freaked out if I got fertility books and started temping, maybe if I do get anxious enough to do it I will just kept schtum and do it in private Confused

DogOnALeash · 29/09/2014 19:37

Oh, totally did not read that this had a second page to it already!!

Luckily we aren't too far apart ladies, we are all in the very early cycles so we are all in this together (not to quote High School Musical lol!) showing my age now

I want it to happen quickly as I am the most impatient person on the planet but DH wants it to take a least a couple of months where he gets to benefit from me actually wanting to DTD every other day haha

tessiegirl · 29/09/2014 20:32

Hi ladies!
We are all in the same boat! I love reading how everyone is getting on. I'm not really worrying too much what Ovia says at the moment until I have my first 'real' AF.

innersanctum - have you tried using opks to track?

Anyone tried checking their cervical position?!

Pixa · 30/09/2014 07:58

Batfish - we are the same. We said we would be light hearted for the first three months and then start the temping etc after that but I keep wanting to do it earlier. Really praying for a honeymoon baby although I know it isn't at all likely.

Tammisaurus · 30/09/2014 10:41

Hi Ladies,
I'm also new and TTC#1
Such exciting times huh!? I'm like clockwork since coming off BC 3 months ago, so roll on 11th Oct to see what happens this time! Fingers crossed.

Ps. I'm so glad to have joined this site and to have other people to talk to who are in the same situation as me etc.

Mumwannabe82 · 30/09/2014 12:37

Hi everyone, I came off the pill at the end of May and this month had a weird period, started early and a lot heavier so hoping that it's because I'm now ovulating ?? I have started using ovulating kits from boots and nothing yet bit feeling hopeful x glad I joined this sight so I don't feel like it's 'just me'!!
Good luck to everyone ??

fortywinx · 30/09/2014 13:23

Hi all, I'm currently at the end of my first cycle TTC#1, awaiting AF at the moment as she's due today or tomorrow. Got all the usual symptoms, so pretty sure she's on the way.
I'm 29 and my OH is also 29, at the moment I'm only following my cycles on an app on my phone, although I do have some OPKs to use next month (donated by a friend who bought them for herself but got preg after literally 1 try!). Trying not to be too intense with it all so OH doesn't get freaked out! XD
Good luck everyone!

batfish · 30/09/2014 17:53

Haha look at us all now trying to stay cool, give us a month and it will be a different story I'm sure! Really hoping post pill AF comes tomorrow as expected so that I can officially start my TTC cycle!

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innersanctum · 30/09/2014 17:59

Do you all think the ovulating kits are worth it?

I haven't tried using one yet. Just going on the Ovia app. If we don't get pregnant this month, I may have to invest.

Think I'm just about to enter my fertile window (according to Ovia). I thought I'd already ovulated!

I'm not doing any cervical position (mainly because I know mine is very far back and retroverted. Nurses have enough trouble locating it for smears let alone me trying to! lol)

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batfish · 30/09/2014 18:08

Part of me wants to use ovulation sticks just to make sure I do actually ovulate - seeing as I've only just discovered that having a period doesn't actually mean you've ovulated! I suppose it would be sensible to make sure ovulation is happening now rather than waiting 3-4 months and then finding out it isn't - but then I'll get obsessed immediately :-D

Pixa · 30/09/2014 18:53

I am refusing to check anything... The most I have done is buy a couple of books (What to expect before you're expecting and Pre-conception to post-natal fitness). If I do start checking anything, including ovulation, I think I would end up doing everything! Really hoping our honeymoon helped and we will get some good news soon.

batfish · 30/09/2014 18:59

Really hoping you get your honeymoon baby Pixa!

Mumwannabe82 · 30/09/2014 19:46

I think the ovulation kits are worth it because its a process of elimination if you're not getting your BFP. Everyone likes to deal with it differently though ??

Mumwannabe82 · 30/09/2014 19:48

Good luck getting your honeymoon baby Pixa xxx

Pixa · 01/10/2014 11:58

Thanks Ladies, I am really struggling today. A few days before my wedding my younger (irresponsible) sister announced she was expecting. She has her first scan today and is coming to my house for tea. I always thought I would be the first one to give our parents a grandchild, especially because I was the eldest grandchild. My sister is due to be evicted from her home next week because her and her partner are terrible with money. I am trying so hard to be supportive, but I am not sure I can sit and look at her scan pictures tonight.

How is everyone else doing today? If AF arrives on schedule next week, I am going to have the BIGGEST piece of cheesecake!

Mumwannabe82 · 01/10/2014 12:34

Aww Pixa that must be hard going, just don't forget that trying for a baby is just about you and your husband and no one else. I thought I would be the first one to have a baby because I always had the maternal instinct growing up but now my sister and brother have two kids each and I don't have one yet. Just to clarify, that wasn't because I have been trying for years, just wrong relationships but now I am in the right one and we both want a baby so feeling hopeful now xx

Pixa · 01/10/2014 12:38

Fingers crossed it happens soon for you Mumwannabe82 and batfish! I just have to remember it doesn't really matter who does it first as long as it is all okay! Smile

kezaroo · 01/10/2014 12:43

Still trying here too! It has now been 41 days since coming off pill.

Bloated, tired and hungry with no signs of af coming and my boobs look like l map with all the veins that have appeared!

Want to do a test but don't - if that makes sense. Don't think I could handle another bfn :(

Blue500 · 01/10/2014 14:11

Hi Pixa, I know the feeling. My SIL has a one yr old and she announced last week that she's 3mths pg again and it was a total accident. Plus I have a sneaky feeling that my best friend is going to announce she's also pg and she doesn't even want kids! My DH parents were so keen to be grandparents and they dote so much on my SIL and her daughter. I was hoping I would be the next one and then she goes and gets knocked up again! I really want to be pg right now rather then this waiting and seeing malarkey!! Just remember it will be you showing your own scan pics to your sister and parents soon x

batfish · 01/10/2014 16:57

Aww I feel for you Pixa and Blue500 - it must be awful if you feel like it's happening for everyone around you with no effort at all! But hopefully you'll both be sharing your own exciting news soon.

If I'm totally honest I'm not actually broody - and never really have been. I know that sounds weird when I'm excited about TTC but I have seen friends have children and all say it is so amazing - so even though I don't have that urge myself (I just think it looks like really hard work) I know that when it happens it will be awesome (despite the aforementioned really hard work). And I'm excited for me and the hubby to be thinking about a new chapter in our lives.

Hope you're OK too kezaroo - sorry to hear you're feeling a bit crappy :-(

Pixa · 01/10/2014 17:01

Wishing you all the luck kezaroo

Blue500 I am so sorry to hear that you know the feeling - it is so hard! My SIL (on husbands side of family) announced before her wedding, in 2012, that they would be TTC straight away, but we have had no baby news, and in a way I really want her to announce that they are expecting before we get there. I am not sure I can put someone through what we have been though. If that makes sense? I think the TWW is the worst time! Because it is just waiting, at least with AF and the Big O you can proactively move towards your goal.

Spreading lots of baby dust to you all!

I had a text from my mum today, my sister is only 5-6 weeks pg according to her scan today, which makes no sense. My sister claims to have had a BfP on 31st August, so something has to be wrong somewhere... She definitely had a BfP on the 8th September. To know that early is really making me think it was all planned, which is devastating especially because of how irresponsible they are...

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