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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying to conceive ...........6

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bluestar · 08/04/2004 16:30

OK so I'm going to start this one off - this will be the luckiest and most reproductive thread ever

GOOD LUCK TO ALL THAT WRITE HERE**

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GillW · 30/04/2004 10:57

Aargh - looks like for once I'm going to get a sensible length cycle (OV about CD14, compared to usually about CD11 or 12 and last cycle on 19 days in all) - so dh falls asleep on the sofa and refuses to stir enough for any action two nights in a row.

futurity · 30/04/2004 12:04

Frustrating isn't it GillW...I normally leap on my DH whether he likes it or not!

I'm on CD 20 and OV on day 18 I think. Am using fertility friend to track my temps which I am finding useful and should tell me whether to rely on the info from the OPK or from my temp chart as to the day I OV. Obviously I am hoping it was day 18 as it could give me a record high of 10 day luteal phase this month. Don't know if it is high enough for preg to occur but it is a start. Fingers crossed!

Schmozer · 30/04/2004 15:29

I do sympathise, GillW. My DH has just rung to say he's having a nap this afternoon to make sure he has enough energy to BD again tonight! I think I'll OV today or tomorrow (judging from my CM - it's CD14 today) and we've done quite a lot of BDing this week already, started doing up the garden and had two sets of visitors to stay. Thankfully it's a three day weekend so I can catch up on some sleep on Monday!

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bluestar · 30/04/2004 18:24

Last post on here for a week, been manic packing & stuff today. Still got high temps and not early dip like usual, feel sick about the same time every day and am particularly moody! Hope to see some more positives on my return! Good luck all x

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gold123 · 30/04/2004 18:41

I have been a little moody today - but nothing unusual there I am quite often a moody old cow. I am now getting very bored of waiting, but going away tonight until Monday, so that should take my mind off it.

Have a nice holiday and good luck to you !

BeckiF · 30/04/2004 21:59

Well, I'm on day 201 of my cycle and feeling SOOOOOO depressed about it. Fed up peeing on sticks 'just in case' too. Was most, most ill this week, thought I'd got another bout of viral meningitis and am waiting for results back from the hospital to see if I have some nasty bug. What with the illness I've out a few pounds back on that I worked so hard to lose ... so all I want to shout is AR*E!!!

Quackers · 01/05/2004 21:22

Left msg for you BIGBIRD on your Jan thread - DELIGHTED FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kay1 · 02/05/2004 10:05

Hi all and welcome to all the newcomers

I've been temping and opk'ing over the last few days just to check what's going on - positive surge yesterday so lots and lots of bd'ing!!! Have decided to go for it all weekend so will cover all possible ov days - and the sun's shining and it's a bank hol weekend so am in very good mood at the moment

Kay1 · 02/05/2004 10:13

Beckie f - just realised that i missed your last post - and there's me being all jolly jolly! Hope you are feeling better today and you haven't got anything too awful. It must be so hard waiting for such a long time, so i think it's ok to shout and swear as much as you like!!

Do you have to wait for next cycle to start before going for IVF or can you start treatment anytime?

futurity · 02/05/2004 10:20

Kay1...the sun is shining?! Where are you? Horrible weather here!

Well I definetely ovulated on day 18..this temping is really useful..wish I had done it before. Now on day 22 so here's hoping that I can manage a 10 day luteal phase this month..still not enough to get pregnant I believe but at least a step in the right direction. Next month off to the doctors for tests. One good thing is that so far this month my PMS isn't as bad as last month which was awful..lots of aches and foul mood. The mood is going downhill today but I am coping better so maybe the vitamins I am taking have started to help. Have a good bank holiday everyone!

sarochka · 02/05/2004 11:47

Ok so this is it. I am on CD2 ( I think!!!) should I be doing temp at same time each day and in the morning from now on ?

ChaCha · 02/05/2004 14:04

Hello there everyone,
Am happy to say that I am back and on CD1
Follicle tracking & shot happen this cycle and hope that the usual let downs are shortly lived
BeckiF, i hope your feeling better today. When are your results due back? Let us know how you are.
Anyone CD1-3? Hey Big Bird, dont forget your old cycle buddy, blow some of that babydust my way!!

BeckiF · 02/05/2004 16:02

Hi all - have found that I feel great...unless I MOVE! Been feeling quite well but any moving around leaves me nauseated and exhausted. Blood test are back Tues/Weds I think. As for starting IVF, I'm waiting to lose some weight before I go for a treatment. When I go, they will give me a pg test to make sure, then medicate me to make me bleed, then start on the usual IVF route (whatever that may be!).

Can't help getting low, I feel stripped of that opportunity 12 times a year most others get, and I know in my case it's just not a matter of time. I'm 34 this June and feel that maybe I might end up childless .... a terrifying thought to say the least.

Moomin · 02/05/2004 20:06

Poor you BeckiF. You've really been through it haven't you. Try not to dwell on your last statement... easy for me to say with one dd but I strongly feel that if you want it that badly, it WILL happen; just maybe not the way you first thought. You sound like you and your dp have a lot of love to give and somehow, you will both get the chance to give it. Never say never and keep an open mind about being a parent.

Moomin · 02/05/2004 20:15

Me again. Didn't want to cut into my post to BeckiF with this one, which is on a different tack.

Have been ttc since Jan of last year now as most of you veterans will know. I've been seeing a reflexologist who has been giving me some very sound advice about stress-busting and ttc and also about my nutrition, etc. We also had a very long and quite deep conversation about life recently which has got me thinking and I've come to a decision about the immediate future. I won't clog up this thread with all the boring details ( although I may create a boring details thread of my own about it!) but I think maybe the ttc thing isn't right for me just now and I need to change my focus somewhat. I'm not going to use any contraception, but I'm also not going to monitor things any more for a while with my cycle.
I hope I'll see lots of you on the preg boards very soon and hopefully at some point in the future I'll join you. I'll defo keep popping into here to see how you're all getting on but I won't be so much a part of it myself.
In case you're wondering, I'm actually feeling very positive about the decisions I've come to so don't think I'm moping, cos I'm not! See you all very soon XXXXX

BigBird · 03/05/2004 09:22

Moomin - sounds like a good plan. It's good to get your head in the right place. As I mentioned before I had stopped temping and opking a few mths ago and it does lift a weight off. Good luck to you - I really mean it.
Take care.

Kay1 · 03/05/2004 10:01

Futurity - I'm on south coast - and after yesterday - blue skies, sun tan lotion, early supper in local pub garden etc etc, its all cloudy and overcast today! - no, have just spotted patch of blue out of window...........

moomin - i don't know all your (i'm sure they're not boring in the least) details, but i think it is so important to look at the stress factor in ttc and how the pressure of temping etc can affect life in the here and now. I have talked to nutritionist too, and a counsellor, and really looked at what this is doing to me and my relationship over last year (i've been ttc since last jan too) and did decide a few months ago to try and ease off a bit and enjoy life....so it makes loads of sense to me and can be a very positive decision to make within the constant limbo of ttc.

I am now in slightly different position, given my dh's wish to stop altogether, so i am having a last attempt to make it work and decided to temp/opk but know that this can increase stress levels and that in itself may limit chances !! If i had longer, i would definately follow your approach...........good luck with it all xxxxxx

smellymelly · 03/05/2004 10:26

I don't want to sound all sanctimonious, I find it difficult to post on this thread now because I don't want to rub it in peoples face IYKWIM.

But I would just like to say that relaxing is the best thing! I know of someone who tried for 11 years, had 2 ops and was finally told by a number of different consultants that she would never have children. So she finally gave up trying, and within a few months was pregnant with her 1st child. She had 3... and is now a grandmother.

Moomin · 03/05/2004 10:48

It's so much easier said than done, though, isn't it? If I hear from my MIL once more 'well perhaps you should try to relax and forget about it for a while' I won't be responsible for my actions!
I'm lucky in that I got to a point where I was literally driving myself and dh round the bend and I realised I had to get help to remove myself from the situation. The decision I've come to has only been possible because dh's job and my ability to earn as a supply teacher if the worst comes to the worst have allowed me a bit of flexibility. Not everyone has those choices just now and I soooo understand how your life literally revolve around ttc. It's like a hamster wheel and you don't know how crazy it is until you're able to get off it for a while. It also doesn't help if you feel time isn't on your side, as many of us on here feel.

BeckiF · 04/05/2004 09:50

Morning - just rung the doc for my blood test results and they tell me I have to go see the practise nurse about my results. Receptionist can't tell me why, so I wondered if anyone else has experience of this? Could it be something to do with diabetes/heart?? If it was anything untoward then I would need to see the doctor .... Mum said maybe I'm pregnant but I did a home test last week and it was negative .... I'm all stressed out now, so can any one help?

gold123 · 04/05/2004 10:01

I haven't a clue, but would imagine if it is anything serious, you would see the Doctor not the nurse. Can you see her today ? Good Luck - Oh and hello by the way, as we have never spoken before.

gothicmama · 04/05/2004 10:04

BeckeyIF it may just be standard practice as at our surgery they give results out over th e'phone.

Moomin it worked for me focusing on something else.

Smellymelly just give advice and do not mention anything else any help is good

BeckiF · 04/05/2004 10:05

We are going to ring at 11am to speak to her first, it's not fair! If there is nothing wrong why can't they just tell you?

BigBird · 04/05/2004 10:48

BeckiF - good luck - hope its nothing too bad.

Moomin agree totally. I posted a few times about this...I couldn't fully 'relax' as such. I mean even though I stopped temping I was still very aware of the dates, CM, ov pains etc. I think it's nigh on impossible to totally forget about it. BEst of luck.

MoseGirl · 04/05/2004 11:32

Hello. I'm now 3 DPO and tried the new approach this month which was to BD every other day after the LH surge on the OPK. It was difficult as DH is only home for 4 in every 8 days and we had to keep our hands off each other Friday night, but we did manage it

Its now the countdown and fingers & toes crossed!

Moomin, I totally agree with the 'If you relax it will happen' comment. If ONE more person says this to me......
(BTW those that say it fell PG within the first 3 months - SO HOW WOULD THEY KNOW?)
I'm sorry but if you want a baby bad enough you can't just forget it.

Good luck all fellow ttcr's. Keep the thread lucky Smellymelly and sprinkle some babydust around whilst I am away til next week.

XXX

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