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TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting each other & Staying Positive :) This thread will be the BFP one!

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victoria401 · 07/09/2014 09:24

This is a thread for ladies who have been ttc longer than 10 months who have started the ball rolling with tests and treatments. We are all here to support each other though these darker days to the baby shaped light at the end of the tunnel!

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Metalhead · 14/12/2014 10:17

Hi ladies, just checking in, hope everyone's having a good weekend. Not much to report here, I'm in the 2ww and due AF on Christmas Day/Boxing Day Xmas Shock. Totally agree that 2014 can just jog on now, it's been a pretty crap year all round so 2015 can only be better!

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victoria401 · 14/12/2014 10:48

Morning metal :-)

This 2ww sucks as I'm ridiculously still hopeful the HSG will have solved all our problems. Cycle 2 post HSG. Dtd exactly right times to catch ov. Never felt so confident of dtd the right amount at the right times. heading for a fall 9dpo today....

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Metalhead · 14/12/2014 12:51

I'm the same vic, as the consultant said there was initially a delay of the dye going into my tubes I'm hoping that whatever was causing the holdup has been flushed out now. If we conceived this cycle it would be almost exactly a year to the day since I last conceived... not sure how I'd feel about that! But getting ahead of myself a bit there. Are you going to poas or just wait for AF?

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victoria401 · 14/12/2014 14:57

Wait for af. Absolutely no symptoms whatsoever of anything yet. Af due Friday.

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victoria401 · 16/12/2014 18:35

Started spotting yesterday 5 days before af due :-( why has this started happening again?! Got a stupid excited feeling at first, ooo 10dpo bleed it must be implantation! Then I remembered it happens a lot and got all sad again!

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izj123 · 16/12/2014 19:24

Oh no. Vic do you think its AF coming? Any way it could be late implantation bleeding? You may have O'd later than expected?

Ladyboluna · 16/12/2014 20:47

AF for me is due roughly on Saturday ladies so I guess I'll join those of you on the rest of the 2ww, not optimistic or anything now just kinda accepted it might not happen.

Vic that sounds horrible, people are so insensitive. I really feel like I'm also stuck in no mans land. I can't join in with the carefree ones who are going out drinking on a Saturday night and I don't want to spend my days off from work cooing over other people's babies either.

Anyone ever thought about stopping fertility treatment? I do sometimes. Still going through the blood test stage (just done 2nd lot) but I don't know whether I want to go through IVF, I don't think I could deal with going through all those medications and invasiveness and still have the possibility of disappointment. Lot of admiration for you ladies who still have the courage to go on.

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victoria401 · 16/12/2014 22:30

lady I don't know if I want to go through with fertility treatment!! I though by opting for this insemination option it would be less invasive. Then they throw in that you still have to inject shed loads of drugs anyway. I've already decided I'm not doing ivf. I think that would be too much for me. There will more of a disappointment with that, more expectation. With iui its just putting your dh's best sperm in at a perfectly timed moment. It takes the worry about having sex at the right time and whether you've ovd or not out of it. Plus both of us are sick of sex so it takes that out if it too. Sorry I'm rambling....

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lildottie · 17/12/2014 00:10

I'm the opposite lady I can't wait to start our ivf cycle. but then I feel very positive that its going to work for us and am setting myself up for disaster talking as if I'm definitely going to be pg next year!

Vic I had my needles demo today. was really good, they let us do it as many times as we needed to. dh was hilarious though! also picked up all my drugs and stuff. let me know if u want to ask any questions. I can pm you everything I was told if you like?

cooperG · 17/12/2014 06:32

Hi ladies. I'm in tww now as well, or at least I think so. My thermometer broke last week and I've become so meh about the whole thing I've not bothered getting a new one. :/ reckon af is due around Xmas day so that'll be just lovely

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victoria401 · 17/12/2014 06:47

Its great that you're being so positive lil! That's the attitude to have. I'm just a glass half full person and so is dh. At least you've been given proper needle training. Can't believe our nurse was that brisk and shite with us :-(

Morning cooper I hope if af does arrive on Xmas day its not too painful to spoil it. Fx x

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cooperG · 17/12/2014 08:20

Thanks vic, I'm not holding my breath! ??

lildottie · 17/12/2014 17:39

fx she stays away cooper

Vic your whole journey has been so shocking, karma must mean ur due a bfp first go! I think if I didn't have the positive outlook I couldn't carry on functioning do its a kind of coping mechanism. may as well leave the falling apart til there's a definite reason to dall apart iyswim cause that reason may never come!

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victoria401 · 17/12/2014 18:28

More spotting today, expecting full blown tomorrow or Fri. Got another work related Xmas do tomorrow night, didnt want to be feeling period-y and icky :-( shattered already. Just done a 10 hour day and I'm working Saturday this week :-(

Don't get me wrong, I'm a strong person, I've had to be! I'm much tougher than I used to be. Stuff went wrong 10years ago and I'd be at the bottom of a bottle! But I know I need to take care of myself, mind and body. That's why now I do yoga and mindfulness and reflexology :-)

lil if you've got any needle tips please feel free to message me! Ta luvvy

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lildottie · 17/12/2014 21:36

Vic I've pmd you

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victoria401 · 17/12/2014 22:52

Thanks hun, messaged you back x

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lildottie · 17/12/2014 23:57
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victoria401 · 19/12/2014 13:38

Well this thread is well and truely drying up now that half the members have their BFP!

I noticed you're on the ivf thread now lil. Hope you're getting plently of support on there. There doesn't seem to be many people doing iui. The iui thread appears to be a little dried up too.

Af is being a bugger again this month. I was expecting a visit today and she's still not here! Starting spotting at 10dpo but even that has gone away now. Last month she teased me like this too. No flow all of my "due" day and then it started at 4am that night/following day!! So I'm not getting my hopes up until tomorrow afternoon! What a tease!

Bloody shattered today, went to this Xmas do thingy last night. I sipped a single glass of wine all night and went to bed about 11.15pm but feel like I've had a massive session til the early hours! Could sleep on my keyboard right now! As I was ordering my glass of tap water at the bar last night one of my workmates said the not drinking thing "wasn't like me" and was it "because of a babba"? She even did the little bump hand movement thingy on herself. I just said it was because we had to work tomorrow (ie. today).

Hope you're all ok whoever's still out there Smile

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lildottie · 19/12/2014 13:46

yeah I'm way behind all the ivfers on there Vic so its been interesting to hear peoples experiences and see how many bfps occur. hopefully the iui threads are dried up because they all got bfps so u will too! or maybe AF will stay away and being tired today is s symptom. we can but hope eh! can't believe how blatant some people can be. why do ppl think its OK to ask a woman if she's pg!! idiots!

Metalhead · 19/12/2014 14:46

Hey vic, fx the tiredness and lack of AF is a good sign, but I can understand you not wanting to get your hopes up. When do you start your iui?

I'm pretty sure I'm out this month, was hoping the tube flushing might have helped but I'm 8dpo today and my chart looks exactly like every month before. Oh well, at least I'll be able to indulge over Christmas!

lil have there been many BFPs on the IVF thread? I've ruled it out for us as we'd have to pay ourselves, and I was shocked to discover that the success rate for my age at our local clinic is only something like 12-28%! I feel like that would be far too much of gamble, and if it doesn't happen naturally for us at least we've got DD. Got everything crossed that it works for you first time though!

lildottie · 19/12/2014 17:22

6 out of 9 have had bfps metal. we've been given 30%chance but I actually think we've got better odds than that. can you look at different clinics? hope it happens for you and you don't have to come to that road. I guess it would be different if you were ttc no 1 like you say. in some ways its hard to justify spending the money on low odds rather than dd.

Vic any sign of the witch yet?

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victoria401 · 19/12/2014 18:23

That is a poor success rate metal our clinic boasts up to 40 something % for the younger ladies!

We would start iui around Jan 17th, after this next Xmas period cycle. Providing dh's next sa says he's still suitable and if I'm not preg now!

No sign of af yet, not been to the loo for a few hours tho so I can't be sure nothings happening!

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Ladyboluna · 19/12/2014 19:15

Recently had some family round for a meal and because I'd got a party game I wanted as a present from OH, was really excited to play it. Family brought along new baby. Baby was absolutely fine sat nearby, playing with toys, but the game was literally abandoned halfway through (like, they left the room) because the baby did something cute and then everything was about the baby. If I said something then it would be awkward, so I had to just feel rubbish and smile and pretend not to be offended.

The idea of going round for Christmas... going to make me think about that stupid party game and how excited I was to play it and it's just sitting there.

pocopearl · 19/12/2014 19:35

Im still here with no bfp :(

lildottie · 19/12/2014 22:31

lady that's utterly shire and totally rude. I'd be livid without the ttc thrown into the mix. what game is it? can we play? Grin