TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting each other & Staying Positive :) This thread will be the BFP one!

[victoria401]

This is a thread for ladies who have been ttc longer than 10 months who have started the ball rolling with tests and treatments. We are all here to support each other though these darker days to the baby shaped light at the end of the tunnel!

Urgh look and feel like death this morning. Why did I do it?! Note to self "do not drown sorrows".

Sorry for being me me me last night, I know we are all in this shit together.

don't apologise Vic, we all have our down days. I'm dealing with it by trying to do everything I can to boost my egg quality and dhs sperm quality ready for our ivf cycle. not easy with Christmas in the middle.

landy mine is £40pw. I'm kinda the opposite. I want to put everything into this first go so I don't have any regrets if it doesn't work. then if it doesn't I will feel more that it is something medical that needs adjusting next time. but its going to work (PMA) and next time will be dc2! dh is more cautiously optimistic than me as he doesn't want to have further to fall if it doesn't work. I figure I'd fall anyway so what does it matter the height

Hiya, had a few shaky moments earlier in the day but felt better later on thanks Lil. DH has been lovely today and tidied the house whilst I went to visit my dad who's just gone permanently into a care home. If it doesn't rain it pours. Back to work tomo after a lovely week off and I'm fighting the urge to run screeching to a GP about being signed off with stress but I know being back at work will make me feel better.

Vic hope you're feeling better today and you didn't have the hangover to match that dodgy aged mulled wine!

I can't recommend getting signed off with stress. I was signed off once and lost my job because of it! lol. I think work will definitely be good for taking your mind off things. it will help you refocus so you can make a plan with a bit less emotion on board.

I did have the matching hangover and now I have a cold too, urgh :-(

Stay at work Laura! Being at home will make you think about it all the more! I definitely prefer being in work, tucked away and safe. Gives me a purpose :-) Hope you're feeling a bit better today too x sorry to hear about your dad too.

Hey ladies,

I lost you for a while but found you now :)

Laura So sorry about your news, I agree with lil looking for somewhere to do it sooner might be an answer or private.
I agree re work id get to bored and start thinking about everything

Metal I hope the nhs will help you out its not fair how they can pick and choose what to help people with fertility is such a big thing

Lil sorry your feeling down to I wish I could give you all a hug

Vicky lol cold mulled wine sounds icky hope the cold doesnt last long, drink lotsa orange juice!!

Landy Id be the opposite to id do everything I can the first try!

Not much happening here 7dpo today had loads on creamy cm internally since ovulation (ive never had this before), spots every where even on my chest grrr, watery cm in under where, felt nauseous for a week now and keep getting mega hungry but eating makes me feel icky

ooh positive signs blue! when are u due to test?

not till 30th/1st im not testing early this time it hurts to bad to see BFN!

Promising signs blue I'll be watching this space!

Not feeling too coldy today, headache and drippy nose. Really sore eyes like I've been crying tho. Have eczema on my eyelids and I've been putting cream on them prescribed to me last time I had it and its more out of date than the mulled wine :-( really must look after self!

Weird enough I had really dry skin on one hand this morning it was all peeling away...just looked and its gone weird lol

Hi girls, sorry everyone seems to be having a crappy time of it. Fingers crossed for you though blue

I'm on cd1 today, first cycle of clomid officially over and failed :/ plus read an article about ivf on the guardian this morning, with comments along the lines of "if you can't get pregnant naturally just take the hint and get over it", which resulted in me bursting into tears. Poor dh, I've had enough of me so can't imagine how he feels!

So yeah, feeling really rubbish and wallowing in self pity today. Hope everyone's ok, sorry for the me me me post x

Cooper I read that clomid is often cumulative so most ladies get bfps 2nd and 3rd go.
I didnt expect the first to work but it still hurt, im feeling more positive now though.
Please try not to let it get to you clomid works on so many ladies :)

Evening!

Back to my positive self today, thanks for getting me through ladies! Been to work and agree I feel loads better; helps that one of the managers has been thru exactly the same so had a chat with her today and getting better...only down side is the massively upset tum today from the metformin...on the plus side i've lost 1 3/4 lbs hahaha!

Landy we haven't really canvassed fully whether we'll need IVF until DH has his 2nd test - I'm hoping it was a blip and it'll be a bit better. Naivety or ignorance I'd rather wait it out a bit longer & hope for a miracle! I suspect that we'll move mountains to get private help though before NHS kicks in. My Dr suggested a holiday in Alicante and some treatment at £4k whilst we're there...!!

Vic get yourself looked after! Get your eczema cream and an early night with a hot water bottle - hope you feel better.

Blue watching excitedly...!

Cooper everything crossed - I've heard all good things about Clomid really hoping it works for you!

Hope everyone else is good tonight!

Just been for my smear. Told the nurse we were ttc and that was reason I've come so early in cycle to miss ovulation. Also mentioned amount of time and appointments at local clinic. Do you know what advice she had for me? "try to relax!" Argh! Ffs! Although she did wish me luck with treatment and that local clinic was renowned for success rates so that's a plus. But flipping relax?! Apparently she tried for ages with her first and got preg when they'd stopped trying. Well bully for her!

Morning ladies, I hope everyone's well this morning.

laura that's really awful that you've got to wait so long. Fx for your miracle!

Sorry your first Clomid cycle didn't work cooper, but don't give up hope and ignore those vile comments! They're probably from people who have no idea what it's like to be in this situation.

Any more positive signs today blue?

I had my NHS appointment yesterday, which went as expected really, it looks like I could get the adhesions removed on the NHS but it would entail a very long wait. I told the doctor about the diagnosis from the private consultant and that he wants to do a hysteroscopy, but she said they need to do a Hycosy first, then if they find anything on there they'll do a hysteroscopy. They've given me an appointment for 5 February for the Hycosy, then I'd have to be referred to another consultant who would do the op, which would be at least another 6 week wait...

Also she basically admitted that whoever booked me in for the erpc in February should have warned me about the risk of Asherman's, which they didn't, so my confidence in the doctors at this hospital is somewhat limited. I've discussed it with DH, and we've agreed that we will go with the private consultant, even if it means paying ourselves. I just want to be sure that I'm seeing someone who knows what they're doing this time! I'm hoping to back from Bupa today, if not I will chase them up.

Hope Bupa bring you some good news metal! I generally have a lot of reservations about medical staff, at the end of the day we are just another person to them.

Blue - good luck! How many months do you take it for?

Thanks for the "pep" talks everyone. I'm going to really go for this, with this first cycle. I've booked my acupuncture for starting next week and started my food diary to try and up the carb intake. I even bought a nice new notebook to write it all down in. My sister was getting me advice from a friend who had 5 rounds of Ivf and now has twins.

Vic - these relax people really annoy me. That's what the GP said to me when I first went to see her. Do they not realise that by saying relax just makes you annoyed and less relaxed! Argh!

landy no - less carbs more protein, and switch to wholegrain carbs so brown rice and pasta. I've found a study that says 25% protein is the aim. I use myfitnesspal app as that gives you a pie chart of %s daily and/or weekly. good luck with the acupuncture. I've got my next one tomorrow.

Lil - just realised I wrote more carbs! I wish I could eat more carbs! I've actually been trying to eat more protein. That's interesting re the app, I shall have a look at that one. Enjoy your acupuncture!

Metal Not to much going on got cramps today and bad stomach and mega hungry but thats it.
It never ceases to amaze me how crap doctors are they should have warned you....are you going to go private?

Landy I have 6 months worth but I have an appointment in Feb to see how im doing

Vicky Just relaxing would be lovely but if it was that easy we would all do it grrr people are annoying

Ladies is it bad that I cant bring myself to say congrats to my cousin who is pregnant with her second kid without a dad...I just dont know what to say.

Appointment day has arrived, its tomorrow, Eeeeeek! I can't think of what I need to ask! Dh being no help either, he's just in a stressy about getting there on time and finding a parking space! And its ok for me coz I'm already there.

Symptoms sound good blue. How many more days to wait?

Hello ladies, can I rejoin? It's been 16 months now.

There's a new baby in OH's side of the family and everything is about the baby all of the time. There's always new pictures which you have to say "aww" too.

2 of my friends are currently pregnant (after not trying for as long as me). They have been ok about it, but I think I was the last person to find out about the most recent pregnancy.

Feel like I'm in a cage, watching people shouting outside about how wonderful life is. Trapped because I can't say anything - if I don't then I'm suffering in silence and if I do then I get treated like a leper. I never wanted to be that person, but now it feels like I need to run for the hills and live as a hermit because it's relentless. Since TTC, there have been 4 total births and currently 2 pregnancies and that's just close family and friends.

Hi Lady. This whole thing sucks doesn't it. I hate having to deal with pregnant people, more them than babies actually! Are you going through tests etc?

Lil - huge thanks for recommending that app. I love it! It's makes it so much easier to pay attention. 3 days in and I'm doing pretty well, I'm not putting all fruit and veg in because I don't know how much anything weighs! I also love that it has stuff from itsu and Pret already loaded in there. Lunch was one of my stresses not knowing what to eat but that has gone now.

Victoria - I hope the appointment gives you what you decide you want. I think practical things are the type of things guys stress over. My DH made us leave really early for our appointment next week and then wouldn't even let me go to the toilet elsewhere in the hospital even tho we were going to be 20 mins early! Let us know how it goes.

landy I weigh everything! some items you can scan through the list and find "medium apple" if you search generically and not for the shop/brand. I can tell you a medium peeled banana is about 100g

Vic good luck tomorrow. you were going to ask about iui with the morphology issues and chances of success compared to if you went straight to ivf. can't think of any others, but you'll be fine. I think you just need to try and stay calm and focused and make sure they tell you as much as you feel you need to know (I'm a tell me everything upfront girl). can't wait to hear how it goes. and remember you don't need to like her (I think you said she was a cow before) you just need her to impregnate you!

Hi landy, I had day 21 bloods done last week just waiting to book an appointment with the same gp again to have them looked at and then have a referral. Hopefully I'll get to see my gp again before Christmas...

Yes lil she is a cow! No idea how or why she went into reproductive medicine! No sympathy or positivity, just how crap the odds were but we could try it if we liked! But yes, we don't need to like her. I can't believe I have to wait until 16.45 for the appointment! I hope she's not even grumpier with us being the last appointment of the day! Dh has made me more worried about him turning up in a foul mood after driving in rush hour and trying to park than the actual appointment now, thanks dh, love you...

Good luck with the bloods lady. Have you had any previous bloods or you dp had any tests?