TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting each other & Staying Positive :) This thread will be the BFP one!

[victoria401]

This is a thread for ladies who have been ttc longer than 10 months who have started the ball rolling with tests and treatments. We are all here to support each other though these darker days to the baby shaped light at the end of the tunnel!

Massive congratulations on your BFP onelife, I hope you have an uneventful pregnancy!

Sorry AF got you vic, and that your LP has gone all funny since the HSG, how strange.

Lindsay sorry your appointment was so rubbish, sometimes the NHS can be really shit when it's not a matter of life or death.

I've got my appointment next Monday and I'm pretty sure they won't be able to offer me anything apart from maybe an HSG as we already have a child. But this might all be academic by then anyway as I'm going to see the Asherman's specialist in London on Thursday; I'm dreading having my fears confirmed and looking forward to getting a diagnosis in equal measures .

Afternoon

Cooper its so weird how different areas vary with what they offer so much. From what I gathered it was very important I had a scan to make sure my ovaries didnt over stimulate I was so worried. FX you ovulated and all is well!

Lil thanks for the luck

Vicky Its not always active but he knows that I dont want to miss my chances with clomid, we only have 6 months to try and doc wants to see us in Feb to see how were doing. I pretty much tell him at the start of the cycle which week is important and which days we definately will be dtd which seems to be working at the mo.

baby how annoying fx this is the month!

Metal fx for your appointment

Thanks all I'll keep checking in and wishing you loads of luck!

So far just had the one smear of blood on Sunday. So not classing that as cd1, still waiting for that! This wierd thing has happened at least 4 times thus year giving me false hope that its implantation. Learnt from the 1st time that its not though. Can't even call it spotting because I class that as the icky brown stuff. This is always full on red, a single regular tampon worth, or even half a tampon. Then nothing for 2 days. Zero zilch. Af was due tomorrow so we'll see.

How did the appointment go baby? Hope you can get a treatment done soon.

Still no proper af.... Early days yet tho, plenty of Wednesday left! Leaving me getting my hopes up that Sunday was implant bleeding! Yeah right! Thanks mother nature!

Because of that I'm imagining other symptoms like right now I have nausea and tiredness post lunch. My sandwich filler, normally my fave, tastes funny this week, prob a dodgy batch. I also have awful constipation (tmi!).

Maybe I should buy a test? That's sure to bring af on!

I would definitely buy a test vic! Even if it comes to nothing this time you'll still be able to use it eventually (positive thinking!).

I'm finding it really hard to concentrate on work today, all I can think about is my appointment tomorrow. Which is not good as I'm really busy this week! Might have to have some wine tonight to help me sleep.

Ooh vic go buy a test! How many dpo are you now?

metal I think medicinal wine is an excellent idea. What time is your appt tomorrow?

I barely slept last night, was worrying about what to tell my DM and DSis, they still think I went to the private appt yesterday with the fertility gynae, and will be expecting an update, I don't know whether to tell them that I cancelled at the last minute, or make up something about how the appt went...I feel awful lying to them, but don't feel ready just yet to tell them I am pg, don't want them to get their hopes up and encourage me to get all excited too, just in case. What do you think I should do?!

ginger my appt is at 11.45.

As for telling people, I would look at it this way: if (heaven forbid!) something went wrong, would you want/need the support of your DM and Dsis? If the answer to that is yes then I would just tell them. When I had my mmc I was briefly considering not even telling my parents about it and lying about why I had to go to hospital, but then I just thought why am I doing this? It's not like I've done anything wrong!

Of course everybody's different, but I found it so hard pretending that nothing had happened afterwards that eventually I just started telling more and more people. Yes, it would have been hard having to "disappoint" everyone too, but having been through a mc I think the whole secrecy and taboo around it is not helping anyone.

metal you are so right. I would absolutely tell them if it did all go wrong, and I would definately need their support too. It's just that I was hoping to tell them our news in person with DH, but he is working all today, and for the next 3 days actually so the timing just doesn't work. Sorry, it's a silly problem really, and I'm not sure why I'm getting myself so worked up over it!!
I will be thinking of you tomorrow metal have they said how long the appointment is likely to last and what it will cover?

Hi ginger I see metals point of view about telling them. I'm not sure what to suggest. I guess it depends on the relationship you have with them. Luckily my mum doesn't pry too much! Not told her we have the appointment next week. I just told her I'd tell her if I got preg from treatment. No idea how many weeks I'd wait either! She did tell me she wanted to know before 12 weeks!

As for me I'm 14dpo. Af could still hit any time. Maybe even tomorrow? I have tomorrow off work coz I have a tradesman coming. I could nip to boots if nothing. Need to pop out get dh's Xmas pressie too :-D

Fully prepared for af to arrive later tho :-( I'm even moving around slower as if I could prevent it, like a complete wierdo....

Good luck with appoint tomoz metal

oh Vic wouldn't it be nice to be the hat trick bfp. I understand you not wanting to get your hopes up though, we've all been there. fwiw if it was me I'd probably hold out until Saturday before I tested. fx for you x

Thanks ginger and vic, the appt should last between 30-50 minutes and will include a 3d ultrasound. Just hope he can get a clear picture, apparently it's best done mid-cycle, but that would mean another 2 weeks to wait so I'll risk it.

Hi guys, back from my holiday.

Vic - you defo should test!

Gingerbread - if it was me I would tell them for the same reasons that have been mentioned.

Metal - hope tomorrow goes well.

Got my appointment with the FC tomorrow. Soooo nervous about getting my amh results. Not that I actually know what is good and bad!

Ah bless your mum vic! My family know pretty much everything that we have been going through, but for some reason I feel like I want to hold back on our news just for now.

I think 14dpo would show a result either way by now but can completely understand why you wouldn't want to test.
Ooh what are you buying DH for xmas??
I know just what you mean about trying to prevent AF arriving, I tried to hold off going to the loo for as long as possible!

metal have you written down some questions you want to ask him and a list of topics you would like to discuss?

Hi Landy did you have a nice holiday?

Good luck for tomorrow too, hope you get some positive news!

Good luck tomorrow landy and I hope you had a nice holiday and didn't think about ttc once!

Got some brown sludge now so I'm guessing it will be game over before the night is out. Could do with some wine but don't have any :-(

Sorry to barge in on your thread ladies, just wanted to say congrats to onelife! Such great news from one old timer to another . Good luck to the rest of you too x

Hi all, hope you don't mind me popping in to say Massive Congratulations to Onelife, absolutely thrilled for you, wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy

Really cross with my body for teasing me :-( sipping neat rum whilst watching great continental rail journeys. They are "doing" Poland. Reminds me of lovely hol with dh last Oct before all the tests and crap begun.

Af cruelly started at 4am with very bad pains. Disrupted my sleep and now I feel crap. Disrupted dh's sleep to as I was up flushing loos and taking pain killers! Glad I'm off work today.

sorry Vic. was feeling hopeful for u after all the bfps lately. at least the appt isn't too far away now. be kind to urself today

Ah vic sorry the witch arrived. At bloody 4am as well, how cruel of her. Glad you are off work today and can look after yourself, neat rum sounds like an excellent idea, maybe a little cat nap too today

metal wishing you lots of luck this morning, will be thinking of you x

landy also lots of luck to you too for your appt, let us know how you get on.

lil hope you are doing ok. How are you feeling?

blue how are you doing?

baby did you make it to the Drs to have a chat?

Hope you ladies don't mind me sticking around, I want to keep following your journeys and be there when you all get your well deserved bfps! I promise I won't talk anymore about my trivial dilemnas as to when to announce to family ....I had a total emotional meltdown last night with DH so must have been having a bad day yesterday....

Don't be daft ginger please hang around! Did you decide what to say to your family in the end?

Week today next clinic appointment! Come on time, go faster! Seems like its been much longer than 6 weeks have gone past since we made the appointment!

Sorry AF got you Vic!
Lil - how is the drug taking going? Are you taking the pill first?
Had my appointment. I've got low amh - 5.4. Knew it was coming so don't feel too down heartened. I was rather shocked by the doctor just saying right ok IVF then and you can start when your next period begins! We ended up saying we didn't want to start pre Christmas as we will be away visiting family for 10 days. Will start it in my January period. We only get 1 nhs round so this is it. The nhs place does do private paying also. All seems unreal at the moment.

Sorry about AF vic, what a bitch! At least it's no too long until your appointment, though I know how long a week can feel.

Sorry about your results landy but good news on the IVF! Something to look forward to in the new year .

I had my appointment this morning with the consultant and it looks like I was right, he thinks I've got some adhesions at the bottom of my womb which basically obstruct the blood flowing out and sperm going in. He wants to do a hysteroscopy to divide the adhesions and thinks I should be able to conceive again after. The only trouble is, unless I can get Bupa to pay for it (which I'm working on at the moment but basically is a right pain in the backside), it will cost me £5k to get it done privately! Might be time to raid the savings account...