TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting each other & Staying Positive :) This thread will be the BFP one!

[victoria401]

This is a thread for ladies who have been ttc longer than 10 months who have started the ball rolling with tests and treatments. We are all here to support each other though these darker days to the baby shaped light at the end of the tunnel!

Thanks lil I took it to mean I ov'd anyway, and have been DTD accordingly! Aiming to do SMEP this month, never managed it before, so if we can just dtd one last time on Sunday then we will have done it!
Hope your ov has behaved itself this month!
Landy put Dr google away! I'm afraid I can't help much with what your results should look like. Do try and not mull over it too much, and know that you will be able to talk it over with your fertility Dr in a few weeks, and it may not be as bad as it seems now. There is lots of things they/you can do too to improve egg quality. And remember, it only takes one egg supposedly!
I could also do with some advice ladies, went back to my --useless- GP today, who was as usual very nice but not very helpful. Went to discuss my ultrasound scan results with her and she agreed with what the technician had said, that it was all clear and normal. She then said there were 3 small cysts on my lefthand side, which probably would have turned into follicles, and 3 follicles/cysts on my right hand side, and I spotted the figures 17-21mm on there too. I know I should have asked for a print out, or more details, but do these results sound ok to those of you in the know? The scan was done on cd10.

Ginger I would say that's really good folly (follicle) size in the approach to ovulation on cd10. They like minimum of 17mm for IUI before the trigger shot so sounds promising for you!

I'm 11dpiui, started with light cramps yesterday and today. Trying to distract myself as much as possible.

Thanks non good to hear it from you ladies, I trust you more than my GP I think!
Good idea to try and keep distracted, must be so hard to keep your mind off of it, try and do a really complicated crossword puzzle!! Got everything crossed for you.

BFN for me

Oh no, that's rubbish blue, I'm sorry. How many dpo are you?

Hope everyone else is having a good weekend. We came back from our week in Germany yesterday so have lots of chores to do today. The soy seems to have worked in giving me my earliest +opk ever and I think I should ov today. Still don't expect to be pregnant though, I'm just waiting for my appointment now and hope they will do a HSG so I can get confirmation once and for all whether I've got adhesions or my tubes are blocked.

Any news from you non?

Hope you had a nice trip metal :-)

I worked yesterday so had a one day weekend, boo. Went out for carvery today tho and fireworks display tonight so made most of it.

My ovaries have been messing with me the last few days. Faint opks 10+11, nothing on 12+13 and now a nearly pos on cd14! Dtd 7+12 and warned dh that tonight's the night! But seriously its like dragging a dog for a walk in the rain when it doesn't want to go.....

ah Vic I know that feeling all too well!

welcome home metal. the worst thing about holidays is definitely all the washing when you get back! I've finished mine today but now have to iron it all

Metal BFN for me today too 12dpiui. Will be testing the next two mornings too. Have convinced myself AF will arrive soon to protect myself from the disappointment.

DH seems more emotional which is not helped by the fact that I'm away from home looking after my Mum post major surgery who has no idea about our fertility issues! What was quite funny is that I've been given her injections into her tummy which are a similar set up to the gonal-f injections and she said 'It's like you've done it before!'

Sorry for the self indulgent post :(

its not over yet non. but I totally understand not wanting to get your hopes up. fx though

Hi ladies

Quick update of my situation at the moment.
Went to first fertility investigation appointment He go a history from us a swab and I blood test I'm disappointed he didn't do an internal scan he said he is doing that next time 12 weeks away :(. I have to get my 21 day bloods done again on Tuesday because my last one a few months ago resulted in no sign of ovulation. My own GP told me that the last test was satisfactory which was balls although I know myself that the results showed no ovulation. DH sperm is getting tested on Friday at the Hospital and not at the GP's thank goodness. I hope that my lack of ovulation is the only problem we have I know that I have only ovulated twice from I stated TTC but both times we were Doing the baby dance at the right time :(. Well at least I'm now getting appointment even if they are 3 months apart ever time.

Urgh 12 weeks, nightmare. They don't like to rush these things do they?! Best of luck with dh's Sa!

Finally proper ov pain today and dtd last night! Don't want to push my luck and ask for more tonight. I told him Tuesday but will that be too late for this egg? Feels strange all this planning and symptom spotting again after so long not and thinking we are infertile. Think it will be worse after the 2ww to be bfn again. Must stop getting hopes up!

can't hurt Vic ov pain comes at different times for different people. before,during and after ovulation. fx

Hi ladies, it's been very quiet on here the last few days, hope everyone is doing ok? Has AF made an appearance yet non?

The NHS works so slowly, doesn't it tutsy?

DH got his SA results today, and everything is normal, which means the problems is most likely with me as expected. I'm now 100% convinced that I've got Ashermans syndrome from my erpc, and have booked to see the private specialist in London. I've got an appointment with him on the 20th, though that might have to be postponed as I'll be on CD4 and it might not be possible to do an ultrasound. I've also got my appointment with the NHS fertility clinic on the 24th, but even if they agree to do an HSG I very much doubt I'll be able to get it done this year. By going private I was hoping to get a diagnosis and possibly treatment before the end of the year to have a fresh start in 2015, but even that might not be possible now... all told I'm feeling really low at the moment .

Hi Metal Sorry your feeling down its really not easy is it. My gynae did my ultrasound on cd1 and it wasnt very clear but he could see some. Probably best to have it after AF though. My HSG appointment came through really quick I had to call them on cd 1 and they booked in before ovulation.

Non any news yet?

AF came for me so the clomid didnt work 1st month had a cry and picked myself back up desparate to get a bfp before xmas!

Hope every one is doing ok.

aw metal lovely. it stinks all the unknown. but you are moving forward and you will get there. ficus on one thing at a time, like sorting out when private appt needs to be. the ficus on counting down to each appt. its I'd be a month sooner up the chain if I hadn't gone on holiday in may delaying hsg. it does move at a fairly steady pace once you get going.

blue there's always month 2.

Don't know what's happening with me! Various types of side pains on the left since cd12 and today is cd17 and I was in agony! Could barely straighten up, had to cave in and take paracetamol! No idea which day was actual ov day and no pos opk either, but then I've never had one on ic's only Tescos own.

Sorry you're feeling down metal. Chin up, at least you have appointments booked, that's all progress.

Next appoint for us is Nov 27th. At least we are in the same month as it now! Still keep getting episodes of fear and moral issues though.... Sigh

Vic I've had that a couple of times. could barely move. stopped once I ovulated. fx you get a bfp before the appt so the dilemmas can stop!

Well AF arrived yesterday :( We're both gutted so have decided to have a few months off and start next two rounds of IUI in the new year. I felt low yesterday but have picked myself up and am stronger today.

Good luck to you all, I'll be popping in now and again to see how you all get on but for now, will have a break from everything ttc related.

oh non be good to yourself. we'll be here when you're ready to go again. who knows maybe you can be one of those couples who get pg when they take a break

Hi Girls

Its sad seeing all the disappointments everyone is going through life is just so unfair sometimes :(. I'm considering taking a break from TTC its not doing any good for my mental health. It's so hard to do, trying to ignore my cycle is nearly imposable for me because iv been keeping track of it for so long now I'm a human calendar FFS. I cant stop myself from focusing on the most likely days for ovulation for. "not that I actually ovulate". I'm driving myself crazy and need a break but how can I stop my mind from focusing on my cycles? All hints and types welcome. xx

Big hugs non sorry it didn't work this time. Be good to yourself x

I know what you mean about not being able to take a break tutsy. Especially when you get huge painful ov! We took an involuntary break after our wrong diagnosis earlier in the year. Didn't stop me being sad every time I ovd. Another egg wasted.

So sorry the treatments didn't work for you both blue and non, but hopefully you'll have better luck next time. I hope you can recharge your batteries a bit during your ttc break non, this whole businesses really takes it toll doesn't it.

Totally agree with you tutsy, I don't think I could stop ttc even if I wanted to as I just know my body inside out. I'd have to actively avoid dtd around ov time or go back to using condoms, and I can't bring myself to do that.

Thanks for all the supportive comments, I know I should be glad that at least things are moving forward, but it seems the closer I get to a diagnosis the more scared I get! It's really hard to find any reliable info on Ashermans, but what I've read seems pretty bleak. Anyway, hopefully I'll have some answers at least by the end of the year.

metal step away from google. unless you are a Dr yourself you cannot diagnose yourself. they do all that training for a reason!

Thanks little, but I have spoken to my SIL who's a gynaecologist and she's agreed that my symptoms could be Ashermans. (I was worried I was just being paranoid!) Of course that's not the same as a proper diagnosis, but I just can't shake that feeling that something's wrong...

ah metal thats utterly crap. at least you can argue away dr google! I still stand by focusing on one thing at a time and going from there. and enjoy christmas! Theres not much more you can do than that until the clinic move things forward.