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TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting each other & Staying Positive :) This thread will be the BFP one!

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victoria401 · 07/09/2014 09:24

This is a thread for ladies who have been ttc longer than 10 months who have started the ball rolling with tests and treatments. We are all here to support each other though these darker days to the baby shaped light at the end of the tunnel!

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victoria401 · 13/10/2014 15:34

mama iui is only tried first if the sperm quality is deemed good enough. If you're needing icsi then the sperm must be really bad and unable to fertilize the egg naturally. We can have iui because of the good motility and quantity, even though the morphology is still quite low. The nurse told us they like it around 10% and dh's was 2% and 5%! Dr said those levels were good enough. Whatever!

I'm still feeling down about my decision. But I did kinda want a few more months at it now my tubes are flushed. Things felt different this month, I had proper ewcm for 2 days and only a small burst of ov pain instead of 2-3 days! Maybe it did something?! Shame me and dh have been at each other's throats this month instead of at each other's nethers!

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lildottie · 13/10/2014 17:29

ginger can you find out if you can change to a different clinic? I was given choice of 3.

come on girlies we need some PMA. what happened to our mindfulness. we are all making progress however slow, and even when it doesn't feel like it we are still travelling along the journey.

cooperG · 13/10/2014 17:51

Wow non that's fantastic news! Fx you'll be the next Bfp, hopefully in time for Xmas! :)
Sorry everyone else seems to be having a rubbish time of it, and ginger, I second the idea of asking for an alternative, it seems very slow even by nhs standards :/
lil, what's PMA?

Nonconformist34 · 13/10/2014 18:37

Cooper PMA=Positive Mental Attitude (I think?)

Mama Our 1st fertility appt at hospital was the start of August. We're classed as unexplained as all bloods, SA, ultrasound and HSG came back fine. They told me today that DH sperm is of donor quality (he's still smiling) which makes me feel a bit shit because it's obviously a problem with me. I assume you've not been offered IUI is there are queries with the sperm?

Vic You've got to do what's right for you, not what other people think you should be doing. Trust your gut instinct, I know when I have I was right to do so.

Sorry a lot of you are feeling low about everythingl, I feel guilty for posting something positive for me but really want to give you all hope.

Lauraqc · 13/10/2014 21:48

Non this is a guilt-free zone! One thing I've learned on here is how incredibly supportive we are - and that means good AND bad! We're all behind you - we all know they're small victories and we celebrate them cos every one is progress.

I seriously need to find some mojo. Being at work helps - I've got quite a responsible job - and it helps to be in control for a while til I get home again. PMA. PMA.

lildottie · 14/10/2014 17:12

OK so now someone needs to shove some PMA my way. Af showed up a day early. Witch. Feel really fed up. Last cycle now before its out of our hands. I'm just counting down to 28/12 Sad

Lauraqc · 14/10/2014 17:42

Gah Lil that af's a bloody witch! Glass of wine and a bath? Or something else you shouldnt eat/drink? 28/12 will come round soon, and you'll have another shot in 5 days so rest up and conserve your sex energy!

cooperG · 15/10/2014 06:50

Aw sorry about af lil Thanks
I hope you had some wine and a sulk and are now back to being our happiest lovely lady :)

lildottie · 15/10/2014 08:54

thanks cooper yeah I'm over it. onwards and upwards Grin

Metalhead · 15/10/2014 09:18

AF on her way here too, regular as clockwork (my luteal phase is anyway). I'll join you in that wine lil...

DH is off to ask the GP for an SA later.

GingerbreadHead · 15/10/2014 13:13

AF got me too, she must be a witch, haunting us all like this in October. And she's 3 days early, giving me a crappy 10 day LP Angry
I'm just sick to the back teeth of all of this.
View sorry you're feeling low too, hope you have been feeling a bit more positive these last few days.
vic they reckon the possible glorious effects of HSG can take up to 3 months, so I think you made a good call to wait and see what happens. Don't beat yourself up about your decision, move on from it now but know that the options are in place if/when you hopefully don't need them.
lil I haven't been referred to a fertility clinic, just to see a gynae in the hospital, and apparently she is the specialist in the area so it wouldn't be worth trying to see another one. I am so confused by the whole set up to be honest. I am struggling to get a Drs appointment to chat to her, so I think I am just going to book in for a private gynae appt and hope it will be £180 well spent. At least I feel like I'm getting somewhere then.
non don't feel guilty, it is fantastic news for you so just you enjoy it!

Sparrowlegs248 · 15/10/2014 14:25

Afternoon, hope you ladies are all well. I need to read back. Have we had any good news lately?

I have had another thyroid level check - normal this time, saw GP this morning and he has made the referral for 'fertility treatment' eeeeek! What happens next? What is IUI?

I am clueless.....

lildottie · 15/10/2014 20:01

Wine Wine metal and ginger she's a hag.

notta iui is inter uterine insemination. they basically insert the best spunk as close to the egg as they can.

as for what happens next...a fair bit of waiting, but ultimately an ultra sound and hsg then the consultant will tell you what problems if any and recommended treatment. then more waiting then the fun starts. that's my experience so far anyway!

Vic you feeling any better hun?

Sparrowlegs248 · 15/10/2014 20:42

Thanks Lil I am generally quite a private person so not chatting to all and sundry about ttc. So I feel a bit in the dark. I have been very restless today and left work early. Not sure how I am going to manage the waiting about!

Sparrowlegs248 · 15/10/2014 20:45

Reading back a little.....sorry to those AF got witch I was really hoping for ones of those sod law things this time - get the wheels in motion for referral then what do you know but a bfn!! It wasn't to be but I was 2.5 days late. Just to add a bit of torture.

Sparrowlegs248 · 15/10/2014 20:56

Vic I just saw your post about cold feet. I must say I think i know a little of how you feel. I feel like if we got a bfn naturally then it was kind of meant to be, but the whole 'fertility treatment' process feels a bit also somehow. I don't mean any offence to anyone by that, Im just having some unexpected emotions. My best friend has twins through ivf and I couldn't be more happy for her. I guess i was just hoping for nature to takes its course. I feel real conflicting emotions today - total excitement at finally getting referred (and friend saying things will move quickly) to sadness at how deliberate it all is with ivf. I'm probably not making much sense.

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victoria401 · 15/10/2014 21:04

Well obviously you're making sense to me! I was having totally unexpected emotions after fighting so hard to get tests and the referral! Its bonkers! I just want to put my head in the sand and hope it all goes away!

Sorry to hear lots of victims of af :-(

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xBlueberry88x · 15/10/2014 21:09

Sorry havent been around much waiting for scan on Tuesday to see if clomid has working feeling so nervous!

Sorry AF is making her rounds you seem to have all synced up!

notta good to see your being referred get ready for lots of poking and prodding!

vicky you made the right decision for you...how are things with dh?

lildottie · 15/10/2014 21:31

Vic notta its OK to not be OK with it. we're all different. for example when we were give. dates I was excited, dh was upset! he feels terribly down that its come to this whilst I'm elated its finally going to happen. its OK not to be OK. you have to feel what you feel and go from there to do what is right for you and your partners. and whatever your feeling or whatever you decide we will all be here to listen and support you. hugs Thanks

lildottie · 15/10/2014 21:32

blue fx for Tuesday. keep us posted! have you had any side effects/symptoms from the clomid?

lucieloos · 16/10/2014 07:57

Hi there, can I join you please. This will be our 8th month of ttc. I am 35 and dh is 34. DH had has 2 semen analysis, the first one came back high count but fast progressive motility was 27% and they look for at least 32% and so he had a retest but that was much worse and the same motility was down to 8%. I am worried about that test though as dh produced the sample at home and it took the lab over an hour and half to analyse so we have booked one final one at the end of the month at a different clinic.

I have had an amh blood test which came back as 7.28 which means low reserve. I've also had a pelvic ultrasound which went quite well. She said my lining, ovaries etc all looked really healthy, no lumps or bumps and she counted about 12 antral follicles which she said might indicate my amh is a little better than the blood test has shown.

Anyway I think we are up against it with dh's swimmers but she advised us to keep trying until after christmas but then to consider ivf with icsi.

Will read back today to get to know everyone better Smile

xBlueberry88x · 16/10/2014 13:04

Lil Im drinking a lot more water not sure if thats caused by clomid.
Ive had a funny stomach on and off and most recently pokey pains in both sides of stomach so hopefully thats my ovaries waking up.

Hi Lucie Sorry your joining us!!

Lauraqc · 16/10/2014 14:35

Hi all,

blue hoping the best for you, and vic and notta totally know what u mean about unexpected reactions.

I've just booked in for my private appt it's the 21st Nov and £175. I'm hoping its money well spent. Frankly I feel better already to have regained an iota of control...

lucifermourning · 16/10/2014 15:32

Can I join in?

Trying to work out if it's too early to talk to the doctor. Been trying for just shy of 10 months), 31, partner 36. Bit overweight but no major health problems.

Started tracking cycles, intercourse, etc. in earnest about 4-5 months ago and now starting to get worried. But NHS advice is a year - is it okay to talk to the GP now, even if I don't have underlying health problems?

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victoria401 · 16/10/2014 17:26

Hi Lucie, hi Lucifer! Welcome to the group. Sorry to see more ladies with our troubles!

Lucie, I'm pushing 35 and waiting for my AMH results. Apparently the lab does them every other Monday so next Monday will be the day! No idea what is a good or bad figure tho. Waiting to see how much time I've got left! Need to call and make another appointment with the fertility clinic to start iui. Good luck for your oh's 3rd sa. Maybe the 2nd crap result was caused by the delay. I take it he doesnt want to produce a sample in one of the little rooms ;-)

Lucifer, I'd prob leave it until the 12 month mark if you're under 35 or you might be at risk of being turned away as I did after month 9! Have you done ov sticks or temping to see if you ovulate?

Good luck on Tuesday blue!

Things are now brilliant with dh now after airing all our bottled up crap. He's sweet funny and affectionate again. Long may it last!

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