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TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting each other & Staying Positive :) This thread will be the BFP one!

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victoria401 · 07/09/2014 09:24

This is a thread for ladies who have been ttc longer than 10 months who have started the ball rolling with tests and treatments. We are all here to support each other though these darker days to the baby shaped light at the end of the tunnel!

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cooperG · 10/10/2014 07:56

Thanks laura and lil, I know I should stop it because it's not doing me any favours, i suppose it's the only thing I feel like I have control over now Blush

Yeah lil, I had them done a few months ago and both levels were at 6 and she said she was happy with that, I just can't switch my brain off!

How's everyone doing anyway? It's Friday! Smile

Metalhead · 10/10/2014 08:11

I really don't get this 'just have sex and stop worrying about anything else' stance. We used to dtd maybe once a week if that before ttc, so to have to do it 2-3 times every week would create just as much stress for me as temping and using opks! Not everyone is at it like rabbits all the time... And surely doctors especially should know that no matter how much sex you have outside your fertile window, it's not going to get you pregnant!!

blue I don't really know enough about clomid to give any advice, did you ask the consultant about what the risks are and how likely it is that anything bad could happen on the dose you're on? I'm guessing they wouldn't advise you to go ahead if they thought it might be dangerous, but I can imagine it must be worrying.

Happy Friday everyone!

Lauraqc · 10/10/2014 08:40

Neither do I Metal I just think for me doing all the opk actually does stress me out more! It's always those people who say 'oh we stopped trying and oops it happened' so reckon there must be something in it! We were the same - dtd that much now is time consuming & stressful!

Happy Friday everyone!

Metalhead · 10/10/2014 09:14

I think people who say they "just relaxed" and then boom were just lucky! And you probably don't hear from all the others who did the same and nothing happened... I think you just have to do whatever is right for you! I've not come across any sound scientific evidence yet that stress affects fertility, it just seems to be one of those things that's bandied about a lot, but maybe I'm wrong.

Momunnymoproblems · 10/10/2014 10:14

lildottie no, I don't have day 21 test booked but I'll be cd19 on the day of my Amh test so I'll ask them about that.

cooper I hate people telling me to relax, we were relaxed for the first 9 months of ttc so surely I should have bfp months ago if that was the answer?!

lildottie · 10/10/2014 11:00

mo "day 21" is to test progesterone levels to confirm ovulation. it actually has to be done 7days before AF, hence the "s. that is probably more important than amh which measures ovarian reserve.

as for the " just relax" idiots I hate them. I've basically given up on ttc for the last 8months and still nothing. how much more relaxed can you be about not having a baby when you want a baby. plus I think they are liars!

I find opks take stress away for me. I'd be more stressed not knowing if I'd ov'd and when AF was due. but I understand how it can be stressful.

as for stress and fertility, stress can delay ovulation and affect sperm quality but if sperm meets egg there is no evidence stress has any impact. although I once heard stressed women are more likely to have boys as nature thinks they need the help of a male if they are overworking! total bs if you ask me though!

cooper I think amh 6 is low but I'm no expert, but I still think don't let it worry you. hopefully the clomid will work first time :)

Metalhead · 10/10/2014 17:25

So I got my progesterone result today and the level was 77! Which I guess is good news as it proves I'm ovulating, but now I'm back to square wondering why it's not happening and worrying that it is down to the surgery I had in February...

My GP has still referred me but said a gynae is unlikely to offer any help, I guess because clomid would be pointless and IVF isn't covered for people who already have a child. Nothing to be done but keep on shagging I suppose!

Nonconformist34 · 10/10/2014 17:29

Evening everyone! Hi to all the newbies, the ladies on here are a wealth of information, advice and support which I'm sure you'll all use.

AF arrived today (bang on time) but cheering me up is my appointment with fertility consultant on Monday to discuss treatment so will keep you all posted. We only managed to dtd once last cycle on HSG day 13 (I ovulate day 14/15) so really hope next cycle we can have a good go with newly flushed tubes before any treatment.

Good luck for all of everyone's referrals, tests and appointments coming up!

Lauraqc · 10/10/2014 17:45

Glad to hear your results are good Metal and sorry to hear af arrived Non...

cooperG · 10/10/2014 18:18

Actually, I got that wrong, it was the lh/fsh I had done and they were both 6, as they're supposed to be similar levels to each other I suppose that's some good. If I've had my amh tested I haven't been told or given the results.

metal and mo, I agree, we were relaxed for a long time before I started doc appointments and so on, didn't make it happen! :/ good news about your prog levels though metal :)

I think I'm somewhere between lil and laura, I found opks stressful but I feel the need to temp, I'd hate to not know when to expect af :/

Sorry af got you non, but good luck for Monday :)

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victoria401 · 12/10/2014 19:11

Good luck tomorrow non

Sorry your Dr was a bit of a dragon cooper, sounds a bit like our Dr was last week :-( makes you wonder why they went into infertility if they don't seem to care that much and make out that its not really important.

Hi everyone else!

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Lauraqc · 12/10/2014 20:09

Evening all, hope you've all had good weekends. Well I collected my blood results finally yesterday and I need help to decipher please...!!

Day 3: FSH 6.0, LH 18.9, Oestradiol 220, Testosterone 1.2
Day 21: Progesterone 1
Day 25: Progesterone

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victoria401 · 12/10/2014 20:33

Hi Laura

I'm a bit concerned about your LH and FSH ratio. Its meant to be 1:1. I think 9ish is the normal upper range for both so 18 is quite high. It could be suggestive of PCOS. Was that suggested? I guess they will send you for an ultrasound to confirm? It def looks like you didn't ov with those progesterone levels. I can't remember if GP has spoken to u about the results, my memory is awful. Were these taken this cycle? What CD are you on now if no af?

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Lauraqc · 12/10/2014 20:48

Thanks for getting back to me Vic have been sitting here gawping at the web trying to make sense of it all! My GP said she thought PCOS back in March but have had ultrasound and all ok...doubt I'll go back to see the GP now as I'll just go for my fertility consult instead armed with these results. Yep they were taken this cycle, I'd had 2 x 3wk cycles in July and Aug and now I am CD45 with no af in sight. Gagh.

Metalhead · 13/10/2014 08:57

Hi laura, I agree that your LH looks very high and that it should be closer to your FSH. From what I've been told PCOS is not always clear cut, so your ovaries might not look polycystic but still behave that way, and those levels would suggest that (but I'm no expert). Also agree that progesterone of 1 definitely indicates no ov, which would tie in with no AF. At least you've got an appointment with the consultant coming up, and I'm sure he will be able to explain things properly and hopefully get you on a course of treatment soon.

Good luck for your appointment non, let us know how you get on.

I poas this morning, don't know why really and of course it was BFN. I could kid myself and think it was still too early at 11dpo but realistically, why should this cycle be any different to the rest...

Nonconformist34 · 13/10/2014 12:08

Apologies for the selfish post but I am in a state of shock. Can't quite believe it but I've just come back from my fertility appointment and they started IUI treatment TODAY!!!!!!!

I'm on cd4 so they suggested I had another internal ultrasound to see if my womb lining was at the correct measurement, which it was. They showed me how to inject with gonal (FSH) which I did and have to do until Friday, scan booked for this Friday and Monday to check follicle growth with the view to inseminate in 2 weeks. Had a blood test to check for HIV ,Hepatitis etc. Was in and out within an hour and a half!!! We have been instructed to dtd Thursday night just incase an egg is released, so no pressure for DH.

Feels very surreal, DH is a work where I can't speak to him so had to tell somebody!!!

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victoria401 · 13/10/2014 12:11

OMG non! How exciting! Argh!

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xBlueberry88x · 13/10/2014 12:26

wooohoo Non very exciting hopefully it works out :)

Nonconformist34 · 13/10/2014 13:01

Thanks vic and blue, I do feel a bit AAAAARRRGGGHHH but starting to sink in now that it's all happening.

I have to say the fertility nurses have been amazing, the sister seems to deal with it all very professionally and efficiently ( I have only every seen the consultant on first appointment).

I really hope you are all dealt with in the same way x

lildottie · 13/10/2014 13:02

wow non that's fantastic! fx for our next bfp on this thread soon then!

metal Laura chin up girls. Thanks

GingerbreadHead · 13/10/2014 13:13

non that's amazing! So pleased for you that things are moving along quickly now. Fingers crossed for you!
Laura sorry your results are looking a bit crap, but hopefully this will be your explanation as to why it isn't happening for you and you can move on with treatment from here.
cooper sorry you are having Dr issues, seems to be a bit of a theme with us all with useless Drs.
I am feeling frustrated and sad today. POAS this morning, which I know is pointless at 9dpo, but I prefer to just know that AF is on her way rather than hoping right up until D-Day. It was, of course, BFN. I'm just so fed up of all of this. I then rang up about my gynae app to be told the waiting list just keeps getting longer, I have now been waiting 24 weeks, but the list is getting as long as 38. The lady I spoke to was very lovely and totally understanding, but she said unfortunately there is just nothing she can do, the gynae Dr only works 2 days a week at my local hospital, and has had lots of time off over summer. I might make a private app, but I was hoping to at least get the HSC done on the NHS before then. I feel like I'm hitting a brick wall trying to make any progress, and I don't seem to be able to get pregnant on my own, even with a concoction of potions to 'help'. Sorry for the misery post, must be rainy monday morning blues.
Hope everyone had nice weekends!

Metalhead · 13/10/2014 13:14

Wow, that's fantastic news non! I can imagine it must be a bit of a shock that's it's all happening so fast now, but hopefully this means you'll get your BFP very soon.

Lauraqc · 13/10/2014 13:46

Amazingly exciting news Non so pleased for you! You could be preggo very very soon!!! Argghhhhhh!

Ginger sorry to hear you're hitting a brick wall, I definitely sympathise...feeling like such a failure this week and not sure how to pull myself back to my usually sunny disposition :(

Viewofhedges · 13/10/2014 14:04

Hello all, I took a week off looking at MN when AF arrived again and I felt too low to even look at this. Since then I have had 3 job rejections, so struggling with that as well. Redundancy and TTC do not mix well, as it feels like that's yet another thing I'm just rubbish at. I've the option of going to see a friend this week but she has 3 kids under 4...! DH's SA is not due til late November, not sure what else we can be doing to help ourselves, but waiting. And then there is the spectre of another birthday. I'll be 38. Sorry, this is a bit of a glum post. Hope everyone else is having a more positive start to the week.

Mam31 · 13/10/2014 15:02

Hi ladies. Sorry some of you are feeling low, it's such a difficult journey, I'm just learning to take each day at a time at the moment and filling my time with positive things. It is helping but still hard.

Non wow! That's fab you have started IUI. Can you remind me what your situation is? I'm waiting on an appointment before Christmas but we have been advised we will likely need ivf with icsi. I'm just wondering why IUI wouldn't be tried first.