TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

And a massive congrats Lurker awesome news!

Hope you are ok Tranquillity.

Thanks sunbathing, my temps have really been quite flat :(

Positivity, we will both ovulate! My temp will rise tomorrow!

Big congrats lurker, fantastic to have a bfp on here, gives us all such hope

brummie, I completely understand where you're coming from re fear over the actively planning thing. I've had the whole opks or not convo with dh today. I want to get pg but don't want to be obsessive and end up bitter and twisted every day I get a negative - which I know I'm capable of. I think going with the flow, dtd as and when we can these first two or three weeks will be best for me; planning, plotting, poas-ing, temping etc would send me over the edge. I know everyone is different and the opks worked when I conceived my dd but after the mc, somehow the stakes feel higher and I feel more pressured. I hate the fact mc has done this to us. "The gift that keeps on giving" as one of you ladies says...

Tori the latest info I found on the NHSssite pre mc was along the lines of you should exercise to a level where you can still maintain a conversation, so not flat out fully out of breath kind of thing.

And as sunbathing said taking it steady, sticking with exercise that you've done before.

Tori I was told that once I found myself pregnant not to do high intensity things I hadn't done before e.g. running etc. I think it's fine if you're already doing it - I reckon exercising has so many benefits don't stop until you get the BFP - your body will regulate your temp and it's only when the egg implants you need to watch your temp as up until then your body is regulating it. The only thing I'd keep an eye on are core exercises such as crunches, as soon as you get a BFP I was advised to stop core and resistance stuff (weights etc).

Hi guys.

Still lurking :). Still on page 27! Trying to catch up but no time!

Good news my end; got my app with the RMC ! It's next Thursday so came through really quick.

I've found the test results showing high nk cells and various chromosome issues that we had back in 2010 when we did ivf. (Have ds from that!) and my protocol showing the drugs that achieved that.

Hoping they can prescribe the same and we have a good result.

Does anyone have any tips on what happens at the apt and what to ask?

So pleased I got the apt; the fact that I reported my first mc when I had my second meant the doctor just said yes I've had three mc's - didn't matter that the first was unproven. (Ie no scans or hospital notes at the time).

So sad to hear the awful time some of you are going through; I so hope things start to improve; and a sad welcome to all the newbies :( hugs to all
Xx

That's fab Safra, mine's not until November! Fingers crossed they sort you out super quick and you'll be holding your bundle of fun super soon :)

Yay lurker congrats, sending good vibes for a strengthening line and that you can relax while in Oz.

I'm a grumpy, teary, sore-tummy and hormonal mess at the moment, making a mess of work to the point that I'm seriously considering looking for a new job (but am main mortgage payer so needs to be another senior one). Am hoping this means AF is on the way. Otherwise it just means that this mc has broken me, turned me into a horrid weak person who can't do her job and lets everyone down. Sorry ladies just not in a great place tonight. And no DH here to give me a hug. Bother. Need to give up and go to bed but I just can't get myself to go as I hate being left alone with my brain running round in circles on all the things I haven't done or have messed up. So I stay up and get more and more tired and less and less able to cope. What an idiot, hey.

And after that horrid me me me paragraph, let's focus on other people! tori I was told the same on exercising, don't take up something new but what you do already (in my case, cycling) was OK to carry on as long as I was comfortable. I did slow down though, just to be sure. treacle and Sun FX, sending lots of PMA and dancing in your direction (and treacle hope pain's better?).

Much respect for all the DTD-ing out there, good efforts ladies (and DHs!). Am still waiting for WTF cycle to end so have no idea when to start wondering whether accidental DTD hit the spot. I seem to remember some of you had 6 weeks post ERPC before AF arrived? Trying to manage my expectations... (will be 4 weeks on Sat).

Sleep well ladies, x

Sorry you are feeling so down MrsC, it does sound very much like AF is on it's way. Hopefully then you can get going properly. I am also in the wtf cycle, it only happened on Saturday. I am really hoping it doesn't take 6 weeks.

Sorry you're struggling mrs, i feel the same about work.
My vaginismus is much better. The burning is still here :(
We've dtd 5 days in a row now. So hope my temp goes up tomorrow.

Purple if it helps my wtf cycle was shorted than a normal cycle. Only 28 days including the miscarriage.

Oh mrs sorry you're having a crappy night. It's always when there's no one there with you isn't it? Too much thinking space I suppose.

Get yourself to bed lady. I'm terrible for procrastinating about going to bed for hours then wondering why I'm permanently tired.

It'll be 4 weeks Saturday for me too and I'm w bit of q teary grumpy mess the last couple of days. And today I just want ALL THE FOOD. Here's hoping either AF makes an appearance so we can get back to 'proper' cycles or fx maybe even a BFN soon :)

Evening ladies, af just arrived. So that is cd34. Burst into tears when I saw the blood. I just feel like I have no idea what is going on with my body anymore. It feels like the first time my body went back to normal quickly and this time it hasn't. And this means if has now officially taken me longer to get pregnant agin this time. I will wait to see how heavy it is - if it's light I am officially worried as have been cramping like crazy for a week.

Feeling very low and frightened it will never happen.

Sorry you are having a hard time at work mrs. I'm sure you're not letting anyone down however I know I certainly find it difficult to care anymore. I just don't care and pretending I do is exhausting. Can you take any holiday?

Sorry about the burning treacle but that sounds like excellent Dtd action!

Hugs for all of you - this is truly the hardest thing I have been through. But it helps to know I am not alone. X

Thank you ladies, will give self kick up the bum, and up the stairs... for you all.

stopeatingthatmud my date-twin - let's race to AF and get our lives and bodies back!!

Caught up now!!

Huge congrats Lurker such fantastic news, fx for you, love the positive news.

Brummie totally with you on that feeling. My next will be pregnancy 4 and if that hits in 2014 that will be 4 times preggers in a year. I can't not consciously ttc as 42 now, limited time! But to stay unobsessed we are trying to dtd every other day from a few days after end of AF cd 21/22. In wtf cycle currently - 4 weeks on Friday - and no sign of ovulation (normally ewcm my only sign around cd 14)

I can say that this time didn't hit me so hard as last time.... I think because we didn't really want to get excited before the 12 wk scan and mc was 11.2.
And now with the RMC apt coming up we are really hopeful for success next time.

monten that really is shit. If u can come up with an alternative to offer them that may help.... Is there another person that can cover her leave instead of you? Don't be too afraid to admit it will be difficult for you personally - unless you work for a bunch of a*holes surely they can see it from your side?

Sometimes I think we all need to show others the pain we are going through.... Some of the insensitive comments from people are only because we look ok? Of course some aren't........

Oh monten (((hugs))) being low and frightening is so horrid. Here's a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. See how AF develops and if you're worried, go to the doc - do you have a sympathetic GP?

None of us is alone thanks to this group, but that doesn't mean you can't feel lonely.

treacle you're amazing to be DTD through the pain.

Oops monten that should say frightened, not frightening! x

Sorry Monten my post crossed yours so was replying to work shite!!

So sorry it's all crap for you. Big hugs.

Bless you Monten it's massively shit. You deserve so much more. Stupid bloody work - I actually

Whoops, I pressed post when I dropped my phone! I actually came out with, and I quote, I don't give a flying fuck about the new curriculum. I will nod, I will smile, I will wave, I will do my job but I couldn't give a shit if I'm honest... Which is fine if it wasn't in a meeting with the SLT - luckily the head wasn't in today... Well they did ask me how I felt about it...
So you're definitely doing far better than me! Work just seems so irrelevant ATM - love the kids there but all the stuff around it, they can shove it...