TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Woohoo hope! Congrats!

Stop eating I would have said something but she was just leaving as she asked. Argh. Apparently it's because I look tired, not because I look fat. (I do look fat but she didn't mention it)

Thank you ladies, you are all in my prayers xxx

People are so insensitive sometimes :(
Hugs all round.

How are you sunbathing, my cycle twin?

That's amazing news Hope, I've been thinking if you lots and lots. I'm sending you massive positive vibes :)

Hope thank you so much for coming in and updating us. it is lovely to hear some positive news from this thread.

monten I'm sorry lovely, that is utterly shit you have to do that presentation

That's such amazing news hope. It really does give us all hope to hear good news xxx

Oh monten, yes I do remember that vile night when the baby bomb was dropped by your client at a night out How crap you have to do that presentation! Talk about a kick in the teeth. And balls. And everywhere else. Especially as you'll have to add all the PR razzmatazz to it too. Grrrr. Plenty of sympathies from me xxx

hope, I was just thinking of you the other day! I am so pleased to hear things are going well for you and bean Pls keep on popping in. And praying for us. Mine do not seem to be working right now although my sister is, at last, happier and lord knows I've been praying for that for a while!

Lovely to hear your news Hope, so kind of you to update us and give us all hope (hope by name, hope by nature!).

Monten that's really horrid, we'll all be sending super-strong vibes to you that day. God it's cruel.

Ignominious and stop, that's really hard. Big breaths, big hug.

I've been trying hard to focus at work but it's tough, my mind keeps drifting back to the mc. Still waiting for results from hospital so maybe after that my head will switch back on a bit more...? Luckily I'm not too closely scutinised from above, and boss knows about MC so hopefully might cut me some slack, but the To Do lists are growing. We've got so much on, and so many projects, that I can't risk getting further behind (and therefore more stressed). Not that this is actually making me work effectively. (for instance I should have done some work tonight but am on MN instead!)

Tomorrow my team is moving to a new room in our building, from being split across two rooms into one space - so all 20 of my staff will all be together in an open plan office - definitely no privacy once that is done! I'm predicting tantrums.

I'm another that has found work difficult since the mc. I run my own pr and marketing consultancy so I don't have anyone watching my productivity per se, although obvs my clients ultimately call the shots. I've lost my biggest client this month and the insecure worrier in me wonders if I've really tried my hardest for him/if my mc has impacted how well or not I've worked since March. Too late to worry of course, so it's on with the new client search... Which I actually quite enjoy!

In bed now. Still no sign of AF. This is so annoying. I stupidly thought that having had clockwork 28 day cycles the last two months meant I've snapped back into my normality. Who was I kidding?? Bloody body of mine clearly has other ideas. CD30 and counting...

That's great sunbathing :)
Fingers crossed you do ovulate soon.
I'm still waiting for mine :p hope its not another annovulatory cycle.
Obviously it won't be because we are all going to get pregnant this month! :)

I missed your post earlier treacle - thank you for that, gives me hope! It's a very distinctive pinching feeling altho seem to recall I have had it before. Fx for you and sunbathing

I'm with you broody. Still no af. Really strong cramping last night again but still nothing. Is that normal for you? Previously I used to only have cramping the morning my period arrived (it was ALWAYS morning) for a couple of hours and that was it. I've now been cramping on and off for a week. So not only am I not up the duff, I have another new thing to worry about .

When are you testing again? I'm trying to hold off to weekend.

tori I'm dreading going into work today as I feel quite emtional this morning and feel like I could cry at any moment but at least I work in an office you are a strong lady working in neonatal!!

It's awful monton about your presentation, I got told yesterday I'm working in a project with my pregnant colleague which should run till she goes on mat leave. Just managed to hold in the tears!

Congratulations hope and you do give us hope x

Fantastic news hope. Thanks for popping back in and for your prayers for us all! Will be thinking of you and praying for a happy and healthy pregnancy that ends in a baby safely delivered.

I'm another one whose productivity has nose dived a bit. I work three days for the NHS, and in the other two days am setting up my own business with a friend and do some marking for a uni. I'm starting to pick up a bit more in terms of productivity but it's hard - especially on an non NHS day. Sometimes I do something I used to do back when I was studying which is to set an alarm on my phone for 50-60 mins. For that time I have to concentrate and do whatever job is at hand. When the alarm goes off I can have a quick wander to make a cup of tea and then faff for 5-10mins or so on Facebook/mumsnet but then I have to reset the alarm and repeat the process. Sometimes it works quite well and can make long days or long periods where I have to manage my own time feel more managable without diving down the rabbit hole of fertility googling.

Thinking of you Tori on the neonatal unit. You are amazing - I find it hard that I have to walk through the AN or ultrasound receptions on my way to some of the clinic rooms I use!

Welcome newbies - sorry you're hear and I hope your stay isn't long.

Ps sorry for not remembering new people's names. brain like a seive at the moment :s

Anyone else use a ferning microscope? Just finished AF (arrived on time 30 days after ERPC). CD7 and I'm showing full ferning? WTF? Maybe just need to accept my hormones are still going nutty and I'm unlikely to have a normal ov.

Morning all. Although I am starting to recover physically which is a great thing I am feeling a bit down about things this morning. I pretty much knew that it was a mc but it was still a kick in the teeth to have it confirmed. It isn't helped by the fact that we had had a tight window to get pregnant as my job is at risk and I might lose it in the next few months. We have decided to go for it anyway now though, if I am out of work we will just have to cope.

Hi ladies, I'm new here. So many ladies here with stories similar to mine. I'm 33. Moved in with my boyfriend in February 14 of this year. The last day of my first period was February 24. I miscarried at about 5-6 weeks. Even thought we never planned a pregnancy coz I never thought I'd get pregnant that fast.

I had been to a fortune teller last November who told me I had problems with my reproductive system. I actually got upset at the reading and he started back tracking saying 'oh I see two children in two years' when I asked him do I need to see my GP.

I've always had regular periods. So in the back of mind I didn't think I'd get pg so fast. Now its approx 6 months down the line and I haven't conceived again. We haven't been actively trying. If and when it happens we'll be delighted but I'm starting to wonder why I haven't fallen pregnant again ????

Morning everyone,

I'm trying to catch up with all the posts that I've missed these past few days and I have to apologise for being so rubbish at replying to sweet and encouraging posts from some of you. Thank you, they really are appreciated.

Sorry to hear that some are having rubbish times in work and hope that things improve. There are constant reminders of our MCs everywhere aren't there?

Sunbathing and Treacle - I really hope this is the month for you. I've noticed people writing 'Fx'. I'm guessing that is fingers crossed? Well mine are definitely crossed for you

Thepurplegiraffe - Am sorry that you're feeling down today but glad you're feeling better. Here's a hug for you.

Kitty - I'm very sorry for your loss in February. You'll find a lot of support and understanding here from ladies who have been through exactly what you have. There are lots of different things you can try including tracking your cycle. I've got a couple of iPhone apps which I use to input my periods and they then predict when you're likely to be ovulating so that you can time DTD for the right days. Fertility Friend is a good place to start. It's nice to have some idea of what's going on with your body....unlike me at the moment!!

I'm now on CD49 and no AF! I've been doing the cheapy Amazon pregnancy sticks every morning but negative so far so perhaps still too early, or that's what I'm constantly telling myself!! I've been having symptoms for 7 days now and I also feel as though I'm getting a bit of a cold. Could that be a pg symptom too? I honestly feel as though I could be pg but that BFN every morning is soooo disappointing. I know i should wait a week but I can't help trying with the cheap sticks. Argh! Going on holiday on Fri so will have to take the tests with me if no AF by then.

xxx

Hello,

Sorry I have been absent but we had a break from ttc for July and August.
Decided we would try this month with the clear blue opks ( loved stocking up in England!) Been feeling sick all week and having really strange vivid dreams so I took a test today and it's a BFP. I am totally freaking out, I know I must call my specialist and start blood tests and early scans but I am terrified :-(
So miracles can happen :-)
Trying to stay positive that it is not cancer again and it might actually be a baby!

Sorry to hear you're feeling low purple - the emotional side if it really is very hard. There's never a right time to conceive I am realising and you're right, you will cope if you have to.

charlie I have never tried the saliva thing but I have heard about it. Ferning sounds very exciting! I loved science at school, might have to get involved.

Welcome kitty sorry to hear about your mc, it's an awful thing to go through. Six months really isn't that long to have been trying so try not to worry. Although we all know full well the fear that comes with ttc again post miscarriage. Generally the doctors won't start investigations until you have been trying for a year (six months of over 35) so I would suggest just to keep trying. Although if you have any specific health concerns then of course do visit your GP. Best of luck

Crossed posts.

Hi sarahlou it's bloody frustrating isn't it?!

50degrees that's amazing news!!! Massive congrats to you xxx

Monten - Yes, it really is. What day of your cycle are you on at the mo? I think you're in a similar situation to me aren't you.

50degress - Congratulations from me too. Lovely news!! xx