TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Blink glad to hear you're feeling more positive (enjoy the feeling tonight and don't worry about tomorrow), and interesting that it's perhaps linked to seeing your friend. I've not even told my pg friends yet, but maybe I will this week - your story is giving me courage, thank you. x

Hi purple sorry for your loss. You may need to be referred to EPU but they will check that there's been a complete MC - important to make sure you don't have any infection. It will take time to heal both emotionally & physically, even in an early MC - for me after MC1 I wanted to get preg immediately, but after first AF I was like "no I can't be preg in 2 weeks" to DH so we held off for an extra month. This time around (MC2) I'm just desperate to be preg again. stopeating I think there's defintely something to be said for the idea that you want to gain some control back. For me this time, that's meant knocking back the vitamins like Boots is running out of stock, plus acupuncture and healthy living generally. Or trying!

mrsconfusion I'm terrible at reading signs. I think my cm changes around the time of ov but that's the only thing I know to look out for and I only noticed that on cycle 2 of trying for number 2 when I fell pregnant before this mc so still not entirely sure.

Treated myself to some lovely Lush face bits today in an effort to sort out my hormonal spot ridden skin without resorting to the prescription strength nasties I have in my cupboard. Just treated myself to a bath, face mask and ed sheeran spotify shuffle after a glass of wine. I will find little things to be positive about :)

Blink it's so good to read such positive thoughts! Don't assume you'll feel bad again tomorrow; grief isn't linear. It sure feels good when the fog lifts and I hope it stats at bay for you for a while

StopEating : that sounds heavenly! I know what I'm doing tomorrow evening...!

charlie I'm exactly the same! Apart from a slip up yesterday (which needed finishing tonight!) I've sworn off the booze. I've started juicing, my diet during the week at least is better than ever and I've thrown myself back into exercise as it's the best stress relief I know.

If nothing else this weekend off the wagon has made me realise how much better all the above is making me feel and has strengthened my resolve to stick to it better going forward.

stopeating I'm taking an antibiotic for my crazypants skin... hormonal acne and possible perioral dermatitis everywhere. The med is a preg-safe one just in case (although I'll stop in the 2nd half of the month. My GP also ok'd a low-strength (2.5%) benzoyl perozide cream. She said as it's topical it should be fine. I'll probably skip it in the 2ww though TBH. I'm moisturizing with a lovely oil - Radiance from Balance Me. It's not better, but defo improving.

And I'm not sure Ed Sheeran is going to help you here...perhaps some beyonce power ballads?

Evening all So sorry to see more newbies but welcome to the group no one wants to join, I hope you find comfort and kindness here xx

monten oooh, I'm with ya! I was expecting AF to arrive yesterday or today (going on 28 day cycles that I've had the last two months) but still no sign. I feel tired, crampy, almost like trapped wind, sore boobs.... But a boots hpt last night gave a bfn so I'm guessing I'm just enjoying a longer cycle this time around. It's so confusing all This mc aftermath isn't it?!?! Are you going to test again soon? Xx

I have some 5% BP in the cupboard charlie but it absolutely ruins my skin, not to mention my towels and bedding! I wonder if 2.5% may be worth a try though.

I've not tried Lush products before, on first impressions I like them so far but whether they have any effect we shall see.

Ha Ed Sheeran could be classed as a dubious choice, yes! I just absolutely love his latest song and was hoping it would pop up. No such luck yet but Spotify has been kind in its choices this far and no unnecessary mopey-ness yet! Hey, I never made any claims on my good musical taste

Hey All, can I just add I know why I don't drink - my hangover is still evident at half past eleven the following night... This is definitely not cool and is going to result on me jumping back on that wagon immediately! It was a fun night though!

Another one already thinking of due dates here, although not so specifically. For September it's June isn't it? Just worrying about having a summer born child (chance would be a fine thing!) and how they'd go to school so early and I would miss a whole year who them compared to one born in September. Can't believe I'm worried about losing a child to school when they're not even conceived yet.

Hi ladies, I'll read back when home from work.
Temp hasn't risen today so must be ovulating tomorrow or Tuesday.

ignominious I already checked my DD for this month's AF

Morning ladies, happy Monday. Gah......!

Hope thank you so much for that, I was thinking of you this weekend and hoping my story will end like yours did! I really think AF may be on her way but trying to stay positive. Anyway - more importantly - how are you?! How many weeks are you now? Is everything going well?

Ignomious - I do much much worse. I estimate due dates and then think about whether that would be a nice time to be on mat leave, i.e. how many summer months I will get being off work! Sod the child

broody I feel your pain. I'm really trying to stay hopeful but I think heart of hearts knows its negative. And if that is the case then just want af to show her face so I can get on with it. I cant deal with cycles screwing up to. I'm going to wait a week and test again this weekend with a frer if still nothing. What about you?

So glad you are feeling better blink. Sometimes we worry about things unconsciously, so even if you weren't fully aware of how you were feeling, you can feel relieved now its over. I find the imagining of something is almost always far worse than the reality.

sunbathing hugs for you - we have all been there x

mrsconfusion I dont really get ov signs either. I think my CM changes but not much. Its frustrating. If i'm not up the duff this cycle I may try OPKs again - have only used them once and they picked up nothing. It caused me a lot of panic and has left a niggling doubt in my mind that maybe I'm not ovulating post mc, which I wish was not there. So I am wary.

Welcome purple so sorry you are here. We can all understand completely the desire for the bleeding to stop so you can get on it again straight away. FX your stay here is short and productive

My DD for MC2 was March, DH kept saying "how lovely, you'll have that April/May/June time to go for walks in the park with the baby!

Due date for MC1 is coming up in 2 weeks. I'm really sad, I'd been really looking forward to it all esp as the inlaws are coming to spend Christmas with us this year so it would have been nice to have the baby there.

It's one of the hard things about MC - the plans lost... or if we're being PMA then plans "postponed"!

I have this thing where I'm really wishing I'll get pregnant again straight away so 12w would be around Christmas... having never got that far I'd definitely feel like I was at least through the first set of woods! It would be the best Christmas present. Trying not to get hopes up though.

monten hugs - it's not over till the fat lady sings! I've never shown a positive before AF was due, so don't give up home until she arrives. Totally understand wanting either to be preg or for AF just to show up - then you feel like you can start again. Re the OPKs - were you testing twice a day? I bought the cheapies off Amazon and tested twice a day and sometimes I'd only get one +ve reading the whole time. Worth trying maybe?

Hugs charlie I know what you mean. I am desperate to have reached 12 weeks by Christmas. Last year I was pregnant at Christmas and 12w scan was in early January, which is when it all went wrong, baby was diagnosed with Edwards Syndrome. I desperately do not want to be in that hopeful but anxious position again.

I only tested once a day - it was clearblue digital ov sticks which say once a day is fine. But I have heard many people say that sometimes LH surges can be very short. I may try the internet OPKs - don't you have to hold your wee and not drink though? I have a child's bladder so this is difficult for me!

p.s I cannot settle down to work since I came back from hols. Has anyone else's productivity plummeted since MC? I swear I probably only work the equivalent of a three day week at the moment. Must pull my finger out.

I work from home so I barely work at all. Today - send a couple of emails and make a call to a colleague to look busy. Go to acupuncture. Go for lunch with a friend. Go to chiropractor. Send a couple more emails. Job done.

Sounds a bit like my job Charlie! But yes, I also spend far too much time googling various ttc and mc-related things instead of working...

Fx monten and broody that AF stays away and you'll get a late BFP!

And I wouldn't worry about summer born children ignominious, my DD was born in June and has just started school, she's loving it! I think I was more apprehensive about it than her tbh.

metal I meant to say, fx your scan goes well today. How exciting if they see an egg ready to pop! Do you mind me asking what the scan is for?

Sounds a bit like me charlie! No one actually knows what exactly I get up to day to day which is great but sadly it appears I need someone breathing down my neck to get anything done. Since the MC its got far worse. I bet all the teachers are going to hate us! Nowhere to hide in front of a class of kids I imagine!

Thanks monten, it's actually not until Thursday (which is good as I don't think my eggs are quite ready yet! ). It's a pelvic scan because I'm worried that I've developed Asherman's after my erpc, as my periods are lighter than they've ever been. I'm not sure if they'll be able to see scarring on a normal ultrasound, but hopefully they'll at least be able to tell me if my lining looks thick enough. Unfortunately it's at the same place my mmc was detected last time... so not exactly looking forward to revisiting the place, but it is the cheapest one around by a long shot.

Hi ladies, I got back from my holiday last night. Tried to read through the posts but there are a lot of them so sorry if I missed anything.

Booked today off work & DP has booked the day off too to spend time with me Opened a brand new box of Clear Blue fertility tests this morning and it looks like we have a duff box! Tried inserting two sticks into it and nothing has appeared on the screen So annoyed as they are bloody expensive! We will DTD today anyway just incase.

What are the best cheapie opks to buy? Might have to do that while I wait for Clear Blue to answer my complaint. Wanted to do Clear Blue as in April we only DTD on high days (not peak) and I still got preggers so reckon it's worth knowing when the high days are! Do the cheapies only show you your peak days?

Aaah yes metal I think we have had this discussion before. I’m terrified about asherman’s, having had two procedures in six months. Since the last one my periods have gone super light too. And this cycle I am getting cramping but no period yet. From what I gather the main symptoms are heavy cramping but very light or absent periods. It’s a horrible horrible thing to contemplate. Did you go private? FX for you.

I have a new symptom ladies – for the last few days it feels like a little gremlin is pinching the front wall of my uterus. Not cramping, pinching really is best way to describe it. Ring any bells for anyone?