TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Hi ladies,
Sending you big hugs sunbathing I'm glad you feel a bit better now.

I'm getting a cold :(
However, I woke up today having lost 3 lb and with a flashing smiley :)
We dtd monday and yesterday and will now start everyday. Tiring. Luckily DH is up for it at the moment. Probably cause we've had a break.
Cd13. If I dont get pregnant this month I at least hope my luteal phase is longer.

I'm all about low GI at the moment-been reading about hormone production and how many of us have too much oestrogen, which can contribute to lower progestorone production. Chinese medicine agrees but refers to it as yang deficiency rather than low progesterone- so my dinner was chicken stuffed with eggy spinachy onion mix, wrapped in prosciutto, with roasted root veg. Bloody lovely, even DH enjoyed and he's been known to refuse veggies like a 3 year old!

Sounds good greysar :)

My thing is just eating more fruit and veg, to ensure I have enough vitamin b6 and vitamin c and balance my hormones. Doing a good job so far.

Well I'm reading this eating haribo having done no exercise this week as feel shit.

High protein/low GI is meant to be good for fertility but find it hard to get my head around what to eat. Everything I think of that is high protein I think 'oh, I can have that with potato/pasta'. That's not gonna work! Yours sounded great grey!

I don't really think about GI but personally I find eating low carb/high protein/highish fat the easiest way to lose weight. I totally cut out sugar inc honey/agave etc, and replace caby things with less carby options (e.g. I eat a lot of quinoa. Swap potato for sweet potato. You can also get those low carb noodles but I think they're kinda gross and I'd rather go without. I add fat to replace the carbs/sugar... so chuck in some avocado to a salad, a small amount of nuts/seeds etc. And eat quite a lot more meat than normal! I find that if I eat loads of protein I end up feeling much fuller. No added sugar peanut butter is my friend! I love cooking but mostly I'm lazy so I make sure I have loads of bags of frozen veggies in the freezer - I like frozen spinach and the bags of frozen mediterranean veggies from tesco. A pretty standard lunch for me is frozen med veggies heated up with some chickpeas or quinoa, avocado, and some kind of cheese like feta or mmm halloumi. When DH is cooking it's all about grilled meat & veg (he's so bloody healthy grr)

Evening ladies,

Is there space for newbie?

I mc'd at 5w3 over the August bank holiday. Phryn think I recognise you from the April bus possibly?

Now back TTC, having decided against waiting for AF first. Currently POS each morning with Sainsbury's own brand ovulation predictors. I know it's still probably a bit early to be hoping for a positive result but bloody hell the days seem to go on forever don't they?

DD aged 3 is keeping me sane and I have no clue how DP is putting up with me at the moment :(

Welcome stopeatingthatmud

I'm a bit of a newbie too and have found this board and the ladies on it hugely supportive.

Our stories are very similar! I have 3 year old twins. My mc was on the Sunday of BH weekend at 5 weeks 6 days. We are also still TTC now. I'm not really liking not knowing where I am!

Sending you virtual hugs and hoping you get that positive OPK soon.

Welcome stopeatingthatmud :)
Sorry you have to be here.

Well tried to dtd tonight and ended up arguing.
My vaginismus is really bad tonight so I couldnt do it. I got angry, DH got angry with me being angry so now we've argued.
Ugh :( pissed off with all this now.

Thanks, you all seem lovely :)

knittedmittens that's what's getting me at the moment. My cycle wasn't exactly regular, varying from 26-33 days so I have no clue as to where I am now. The lack of control is messing with my head a bit.

treacle I don't know much about vaginismus but it doesn't sound much fun :( does it get worse when you're stressed?

DP is still at work here, being home alone in the evening is my worst time and definitely no dtd without him being here!

Thanks ladies.

It's horrible isn't it Tori?

Stopeatingthatmud yeah it does get worse when I'm stressed.
DH and i have made peace now but still not dtd tonight. We dtd last night so even if I ovulated tomorrow we should be ok.

Thanks sunbathing, glad you and your DH have had a heart to heart :)

Welcome stop, sorry you need to join us but this is such a safe and supportive place.

Massive hugs to Dulcet, so sad to hear your news, just know we're thinking of you, and to treacle, Cat Boozle brummie and everyone feeling angry or upset or lonely or distant from DH/DP. Sorry I'm so hopeless at specific responses but I do read and think about you girls a lot.

Phryn well done on getting through the work week, and a big cheer to all of us battling with work when all we actually want to do is curl on up on the sofa with chocolate. Brave brave ladies. And stubborn

Very impressed with those of you actually trying to fight the chub. I thought about it yesterday then tonight had a chocolate bar next to me on the sofa as I worked. It's now much smaller. Oops.

The stats frankly fry my mind - the miscarriage association has a different set again. We're just waiting to see what the reason was (presuming tests can show that) before trying to do any maths. Just like several of you, I fell pg at the same time as 3 friends, so I literally was the one-in-four. Weird when it's so literal.

I did dream about DTD with DH last night, so maybe my body is giving me a hint it's ready...? Only just stopped bleeding though so I guess it's too soon??! I try not to scare him with too much pressure but it's SO HARD not to get cross when you know how limited the opportunity is each month. Particularly as he's usually nagging for it, then when I want to... not so keen. Gah! It took us about 5 months to conceive both times, which he doesn't think is long but the further I get past 35 the louder the clock seems to tick. Love the tips from counsellors, and of sexy undies and date nights. Might get a takeaway and bottle of wine (cheaper than babysitter) when we're ready to give it a go.

But - positives - we've all got this thread to vent the feelings that we can't in RL, and there are BFPs here already and still to come, and loads of you are going on holiday. Hurrah!

Night night all x

Sorry for woe is me/self pitying/self indulgence of this post....

Happy edd to me We didn't get to meet you, baby broody, but you're always in our hearts and will you'll always be the child I didn't get to meet. Sleep tight xxx

So sorry broody. Hope you have supportive people around you today.

Big hugs broody, look after yourself today x

So sorry broody, are you doing anything special today? Treat yourselves well today.

Welcome stop, hope you find support here.

Thank you mrs, the support here helps make up for what you can't really have in RL. I'm on leave today so going to try and relax.

Still bleeding though. 18 days now! I will be totally confused about cycles because of this, I think I actually miscarried on Sunday so maybe that is CD1?! Who knows!

Sounds like there is some well times shagging going on, hopefully some good news in a couple weeks.

Oh mrs, I find my dreams get sexier when I am around ovulation so maybe it's a good sign!

mrs confusion that's funny, I started dreaming about DTD with DH after my MC as well! It was about 2 weeks later so I definitely took it as meaning we should

broody I'm sorry, take it easy today xx

No need to apologise broody. I hope you get through today as well as you can. x

Hugs broody try and be kind to yourself today.

mrsconfusion I should be losing my last stone of chub, having put half back on since falling/mc but I haven't the will at the moment. I've taken myself off the booze as was making me downright miserable and paranoid and have started juicing & generally just trying to eat better. I've had a flick through the clean and lean pregnancy book and am following his suggestion on food to eat to boost fertility/reduce stress, so lots of Greek yogurt, berries, turkey, green veg etc. Hoping it will lead onto a slight weight loss eventually.

mrs I was the same as my bleeding tailed off. My sex drive was non existent previously, I'm like a teenager again at the moment! I think some of its a need for physical closeness rather than just must-get-pregnant dtd if that makes sense?