TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I have about a 10 day LP treacle, have just had my first month on clomid to try and extend it. I haven't actually googled it much but I think a short LP can affect MC as the progesterone levels are low and less time for implantation.

Thank you mrs, am solving it with junk food at the mo.

Trying to avoid the google image search iglo, can't unsee that once it's done. Descriptions are bad enough. It's weird how grossly curious you can become about it all though!

Did you go to the doctors to get it Dulcet? Mine won't take me seriously so not sure what to do.

Yes treacle but was referred to a fertility clinic. It hasn't been quick. Had referral appointment with GP last Sept, first clinic appointment in Jan, follow up due in May but had BFP. Rescheduled follow up to June and got 3 mnths worth from there.

If you have been trying longer than a year they should refer you. GP shouldn't deny you that.

Hi ladies, am back from my holiday. Had a lovely time - kind of. You know when you're happy in your head but not all the way to your heart? It was kind of like that.

Have had a quick read of the thread, so sorry to hear people are having a hard time. dulcet am so sorry for what you are going through! how terrible for it to drag on so long and cause you so much additional worry as well as the emotional pain. for you. Junk food sounds a great idea, do you have a good film or box set you can get into? I got into The killing with the first and The Bridge with the second, nothing like a Scandi noir drama and no chance of a pregnancy or baby storyline!

boozle am so sorry to hear your news. You and brummiegirl got your bfps not long after I joined this thread, it's so heartbreaking to see you back here. Life is so cruel sometimes. I hope you're doing okay.

Hello to all the newbies that have joined since I've been gone. By way of introduction, my stats are:

monten
Ttc no 1 since May 2013.
Tfmr following Trisomy 18 diagnosis at 12 wks Jan 14
MMC at 8 wks June 14

I'm in my 2ww, don't know for sure I ovulated as I didn't monitor, although there seemed to be more going on this month so hope I did. DP and I managed to DtD nearly every day while away so I'm really hoping we have made a Sicilian baby . Not sure about cycle length so not going to test until next weekend.

Sorry dulcet there was not supposed to be an exclamation mark in that post x

Thanks Dulcet, it hasn't been a year. We were lucky the first time and it had only been 4 cycles (officially) so now im 5 more cycles down the line but did conceive so it's reset.

Hi monten! I know what you mean about feeling happy but not.

Fingers crossed for you x

Ahh just been to the loo and my pantyliner had quite a bit of pink on it and it was pink when I wiped. so I've gone to lie down in bed. Hope it's not the start of anything.

I'm so sorry dulcet, please be kind to yourself and we are all here to support you through this time. What a crap experience, I hope no one has to go through what we all have been through. Sending you hugs.

Welcome newbies, hope your stay here is very short.

Monten it's good to hear from you. I am hoping you get your bfp soon. Hope you enjoyed your time away.

To all teachers, how was your first week back? Can't believe weekend is over already! Ahhhhhhhhh ??

Lauren how many weeks are you? I had dark brown discharge and pink discharge between 5-7 weeks, pink discharge is quite common, as long as its not red. Rest and try not to stress much xx

Evening all - reading back through the thread as had a busy busy weekend! Welcome back Monten hope you are ok. Hugs to everyone else.

Lauren hoping the pink is nothing sinister.

Well tomorrow should've been 12 week scan day - 2.30pm - praying I won't get too upset.

Try not to panic lauren, good idea to lie down and see how things are in a bit.
dulcet junk food cures many ills, or at least drugs you enough to get through. We have a freezer full of hash browns and chips.

I fainted at work on Friday, came home early, DH got all worried so I called a nurse friend who said phone GP, who wanted to see me so had to dash down in evening once DH had got DD from nursery (was too dizzy to drive). Doc thinks I've got an infection (argh, so grim, I was so careful!) so now on antibiotics and iron tablets. Grrrrrrrrrr, so frustrated, feel like it's knocked me back so hard - I was focusing so hard on getting body sorted. TMI alert - I had virtually no bleeding for first week post-D&C, then had a big bleed after first day back at work, and another 3 days later. Just want to stop bleeding, get body back under control, stop feeling like an hormonal mess. It keeps changing, from nothing to brown to red to a weird pinky gloopy mixture - with no warning so I don't know when i need pads or liners or what - how long does it take to calm the hell down ladies?

Doc has given me a sick note for next week but I really can't be off work again, too much going on there and too much speculation among my staff (I lead team of 20). I think she gave it to me as I was a bit of a mess when I saw her, crying when couldn't do wee sample and when she did exam (internal, argh). I don't feel well, but don't feel really poorly either, just utterly confused about whether I'm poorly or not (how can I have an infection will no fever??).

Sorry it's another me me me mess of a post but I'm just confused. And DH is starting to get a bit frustrated and cross with me, he just wants me to bounce back (so do I) so I can't really talk to him so much right now.

Lots of luck to everyone at work next week, and big hugs to all of you struggling. It's a tough bit, but I'm sure we'll look back at some point and realise we survived it. and meanwhile (why isn't there an icon for chips?!)

dulcet I'm so sorry that you have gone through this again. I definitely saw something similar to what you described when I had my mc, it was after then that my cramps reduced and the bleeding slowed down. I'm so sorry, I hope you are ok although I know you're probably hurting so much.
I'm thinking of you, we all are.

Lauren look after yourself, if it gets any heavier then go to A&E. You need someone to listen to you. I hope you're ok, keep us updated, you're in my thoughts.

I'm still in the middle of AF, it's the first since my mc and it's so heavy. My AF got much heavier after DS, it got a little lighter eventually but still difficult to manage, but this weekend has been a whole new experience. It's getting better but I hope this isn't what AF is going to be like, my dr recommended going on the pill a few months ago when I said they were heavy. That's not an option right now! And I don't know what else might help :/.

Brummie do you have something nice you could do tomorrow to help you get through the day? Even if it's just something small, you need to look after yourself. I hope the day isn't too tough for you.

ToriB I'm also a loon after my mc. You're in good company here :). Welcome back monten fingers crossed for your BFP this month.

Hope everyone is doing ok :).

Hope I'm 6+5 I already had dark brown which stopped 11 days ago. So far nothing on my pantyliner but I have been lying down so hard to tell. I just never heard of spotting more than once before. I had some weird twangy twinges before but nothing since and my boobs are still unbelievably sore. Last time that was the first to disappear before the mc started. So I'm clinging to that as a good sign.

Oh confusion you sound like you need a break. An infection is possible without a fever but the sign of the infection is the bleeding - I had a pretty big infection after DS and I questioned for a few days whether I felt well or not. I really wasn't well at all, if the dr has given you a sick note then please use it. I know work seems like it can't be left but nothing is worth your health, especially when it comes to fertility. You need to rest, I hope you find that you can.

I'm sorry your DH sounds like he's struggling, it's not helpful to have that expectation of being fine placed upon you. He's probably very worried about you. You might find that the infection is making you feel more emotional, I hope you're feeling better soon.

Big hugs to you too, look after yourself x

Hello everyone waves

Popping over from the Recurrent MC board as I'm hoping my first post-MC AF will turn up soon. ERPC 4 weeks ago tomorrow, prior to that cycles of 28-31 days. Come on AF, get back here! Don't know if any of you ladies use a microscope but I've been ferning pretty much every day since I started tracking again 2 weeks ago. Temps all over the shop but I do get up diff times every morning so might be that. Never wanted the witch to appear so much in my life...

stats: Feb '14 MC@7w, Aug '14 MC@9w(ERPC). Awaiting AF. Counselling, acupuncture, icky Chinese herbs, fistsfull of folic, prenatal vits, fish oil, coQ10. So you know, the normal stuff...

Tomorrow will be a hard day brummie, just take it easy and don't place any expectations on yourself. Do whatever the hell you feel like doing.

mrsconfusion I had very similar to what you are experiencing, no real bleeding following Erpc and then a very heavy bleed and strong cramps one afternoon. I then had a fever that night. Fever went very quickly but I was paranoid so went to docs and she gave me antibiotics. Are you on metrodinizole? I felt terrible on it. I would second what blink says, if I was you I would take more time off. My infection set me right back mentally, and I'm sure it was because I just wasn't well. Work is great to take your mind off things but if you're going out of a sense of duty, don't. Nothing is more important than your health.

I'm sorry to hear that tori. Could he be frightened? It sounds like the sort of thing someone would say in the heat of an argument because actually they're quite frightened of what might happen next time and it must be so hard for them to see us go through it. DP and I fought terribly on holiday at times. we're all under enormous stress and ms is a very hard thing to go through as a couple.

Really hoping all is okay lauren.

Hi charlie x

Well that bit of pink turned watery brown. Can you spot brown more than once? I'm a bit unsure what to do it's not a lot no pain and what can they do anyway?

I think you could have spotting throughout really lauren, no set number of times. It can just happen. If you aren't in pain then that is positive but still see someone if you are worried.

Hi charlie, sounds like you are trying everything there. I am doing a few on that list but would be interested to hear about coQ10 - what is that?!

My lovely doctor just called with the good news that my levels are rising - 362.4 to 812 between Weds and Fri last week. She was so happy. Then I told her I was pretty sure I miscarried yesterday and felt really bad for making her feel bad. She called me because she thought it would make me happy - but instead I am left wondering why the levels were rising but I was still bleeding and miscarried? Stupid body!

Hi dulcet it's apparently been shown in mouse studies to improve egg quality. Not exactly foolproof but I don't believe there are any known side effects (unlike say randomly dosing yourself with aspirin). It's a tip from the recurrent MC board!

Oh Tori , I am so sorry about your fight with your husband. Have things improved a bit? It is so hard when they don't do what we expect them to do or react in a way we deem inappropriate - I totally understand why you would have been utterly cross with him. As Monten suggests though, he could indeed be frightened. Men hate the feeling that they cannot 'fix' things, don't they? He is probably feeling useless at making you better and one 'quick fix' is NOT to get you pregnant (in his mind anyway) as then, you wouldn't miscarry. Just a thought... Big hugs to you anyway, it's awful when you feel at your lowest and then you fight with the person you should be getting the most support and comfort from. It's such a lonely feeling. ((hugs))

Confusion you are such a brave lady. Have you gone to work today? If you have, could you go home early, perhaps before you need to get dd from nursery, so you can at least rest properly? I am so sorry that you are feeling so low and that you have an infection. One day at a time. You already made it this far. ((hugs)) to you too.

Dulcet so sorry that you are where you are. It is soo frustrating that everything takes time and that we can't have a little machine or touch screen into our bodies to tell us what the hell is going on and what stage we are at. How are you feeling now?

As for me...well, I still don't have a period. It has now been 8 weeks since my TFMR and I have had all the warning signs that my period is on the way - mainly grumpiness and lots of multicoloured spotting. I have had 2 different occurrences of positive opks, over 2 weeks apart, so I have just stopped trying to understand. I am definitely not pregnant though - I have dozens of ics and check everything every day! So I have now looked up how to kick start my period. Seems high doses of vitamin C and parsley tea or sage tea will help and I am ready to try anything! Is it normal that my period would take this long to come back? I bled for a good 10 days, on and off, and had positive pg tests until 2.5 weeks post surgery, but still, 8 weeks... [sigh]

Hope everyone is feeling relatively ok.