TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Urgh, "the Duchess of Cambridge is pregnant with her second child". Breaking news on the BBC apparently.
Sod her.

Yeah, just had that come up on my phone. Rage.

I hate that I have become like that though - other women's pregnancies used to be great news, now my first thought is "Bitch!" and then "HA, but don't rejoice too soon, it could all go terribly wrong!" and finally "gosh, I am a monster", usually closely followed by tears...

I am on my second cup of parsley tea, not as awful as I thought. Let's see if my period comes soon...! (hope I wasn't unknowingly in some form of 2ww!)

Baby bombs from the royals now! I do like them but seriously, JTFO clogging up my Facebook feed!

Not caught up with you ladies in a while and away on the Isle of Wight til the weekend so sorry for this abrupt interjection without checking in properly first Hope everyone is doing ok and getting bonkylicious with dp/dh. Love to all xxx

Glad everyone else is as displeased by the royal news as I am. Ugh. I was going to be due in March :(

smallbear sorry to go on but I think this might be a period same as you, the MC was very on and off but this bit has started with very heavy bleeding and is consistent, plus starting to get lighter. (THANK GOD.)

Tentatively put this as a period into my app and now it's saying my cycle length is 101 days. ODFOD.

I find it infinitely more annoying when celebs of any sort announce their pregnancies than if it's a friend... [not helped by the fact it would have been my due date this week ]

4 weeks today since ERPC, where is AF WHERE???

mademoiselle I can totally relate to "b*tch...."don't get too excited might go wrong...ugh horrible i should be happy" cycle. It doesn't help when they do seem to be everywhere.

Every pregnant woman I see I want to run up and say "did you have miscarriages? so everything is working out now?"... I think I so badly need to hear stories of people who've gone on to have kids. It's really tough with MCs before a first, not knowing if you'll ever be able to have a child.

However, crazy chinese acupuncturist said I'm not looking as awful today as I have been over the past few weeks, maybe the herbs are working?! #winning

Dulcet - I am so sorry. What a bag of absolute wank! Thinking of you.

ignominious - Hopefully this is your period and you can start to get back to normal. I have a period tracker too and if what I thought was my period, was actually my period my next cycle was 30 days followed by 33 days (a clockwork 26 to 27 days before the MC). I did go back on the mini pill though so I guess that could have had an effect on my cycle along with the MC.

Tori - I hope you can get to the bottom of the problem and it turns out to be to do with feelings he's repressing about the miscarriage, rather than seriously not wanting children.

I'm glad you all have jealous feelings about pregnant women too. My friend gave birth just after I had my MC. I've been feeling that she's been a little crap re support after the MC and then when she got in touch yesterday I found her email to be preachy. I was so angry and in the heat of my tears, anger and upset I said things should have happened the other way around for us (only to my DP not her or anyone else). Not unsurprisingly DP went ape shit at me and said I couldn't wish that upon people. I didn't mean what I said, it was a vile nasty thing to say and I'm not normally like that at all. But I've always wanted kids and she just changed her mind at the last minute, got up duffed straight away and had everything go smoothly. It fucks me right off to be honest and I know it has no right too! I hate myself for it!

Urrgh ladies, joining you in the FFSing over royal baby. I don't know why it hurts so much, it just does. I hate that ms has turned me into this total bitch who begrudges other people a healthy pregancy.

One of the girls on holiday, who I had never met before, was four months pregnant with a perfect little bump. I know for a fact she got pregnant straight away, and evidently no complications. I could barely look her in the eye, I was so jealous.

My SIL has been pregnant three times (twice by accident - it seems she barely needs to look at my brother to be up duffed) and has three children to show for it.

It's not fair, none if it is. We've had shitty luck and are allowed to wallow, IMO.

smallbear men don't get it. When I kicked off about this pregnant lady coming on hols with us my dp's response was 'you can't ban people from getting pregnant'. Which is true, but not very helpful.

Hugs to everyone.

We are all the same, aren't we? I find it reassuring (if utterly annoying) that everyone's DHs seem to react the same way too. My DH just winces when I make the slightest negative or envious comment about a pregnant woman. His sister (so my SIL) is 2 weeks ahead of where I should be at and I have had to ask her to stop sending pictures of her bump/scan pics and constant updates on the family whatsapp thread as it was just incredibly upsetting. I've also removed anyone pregnant / with newborn / likely to get upduffed soon / just married / friends with just married / remotely likely to post a picture with a baby or a bump from my newsfeed on FB. I basically don't see anything from anyone anymore and then masochistically look them up every so often.

I am on my 3rd cup of the revolting parsley tea. Not working today and set myself the task of removing all maternity clothes from my wardrobe... The most annoying thing is that I still have almost a stone of baby weight (I had a termination at 15 weeks, it crept up very quickly!) to lose so I don't even really fit into my normal clothes either. SO I feel shit about not being pregnant AND my fat stomach is there to remind me of it every.single.second.

Mmh. That was proper self-indulgent.

Any good news out there?

Oh god, I've just read the actual news coverage and just realised she isn't 12 weeks yet. Feel bad now, hope it all goes well for her

Well I've been baby bombed as well by the Royals. And as my 12 week scan was due to be at 2.30 today - has sent me totally over the edge. Floods and floods of tears at my desk. I was doing so well on concentrating on other things. Then fb royal baby bomb.
FFS does the pain ever ever stop?

Mademoiselle I am fat as well now. Was super thin before this. DH made a joke about it which did not go down well.

Brummie can you take frequent 'toilet' breaks and go outside for some alone time?

Well it's a nice day in sunny Birmingham so outside time is quite nice. Problem is I sit right at end of office so a stealth visit to loo in tears quite difficult!
Oh and a "new baby girl" card has just landed on my desk.
Oh fuck off

brummie that sucks, hugs xx

I too am a little chubby. Weight has crept on since I got married early last year, which of course makes everyone ask me if I'm pregnant. I'm slightly into the "overweight" bmi category now, most on my tum. I normally respond with a cheery "nope, in fact I've just had a miscarriage!" which shuts them right up
I've become all paranoid about people asking me now. I went to a new pilates class at the weekend, in an attempt to do something about my weak core, and spent the whole morning fretting that the teacher would ask if I was pregnant. In the end he didn't. DH was like "well, you didn't need to worry then did you?" argh.

I'm a chubster too!! 11 stone and only 5 ft and it's all round my middle. Legs are ok but definitely got a tum and saddlebags...

Well I've gritted my teeth, had a cry. I'm actually really lucky - I have an ace team who have just let me get on with it or have to come to sit with me.
But going to NYC this Friday with DP and we will have an amazing time. And tonight I'm going to watch double corrie, and the new Dallas on Sky+. I will not watch the news or read the Daily Fail online