TTC#1 For the 'younger' mummies to be.

[Tylastar]

Hello Ladies!

Thought I'd try and get some of the 20+ hopeful Mummies together.

My lovely DP and I don't want to let on that we're TTC so I'm lacking friends and a chit chat about all the downstairs what not. DP will die inside if he has to hear about cycles/ovulation or temperatures anymore!

Let's get some BFPs going!

[crazypuglady]

Ha ha ha, if he says no I am totally going with that. It will definitely work. He is just a man after all!

[roughtyping]

I was on the pill for 10 years, but my cycles were crap before I went on.

Don't stress too much about money. You find a way. I had DS when I was 17 (he's 10 now), and although I'm now fairly financially stable (although still building up savings) it hasn't always been this way. I've been a single parent, worked part time, worked full time, been on income support, did an undergrad, did a postgrad, worked 2 jobs while at uni... You find a way!!!

This may be incredibly dense but when do you count cycle days from??? Is it from the first day of your period?

[roughtyping]

And should point out - DS is lovely, a clever polite boy (mostly!) so none of this was in any way detrimental for him

[crazypuglady]

It probably did him a lot of good rough typing, seeing what the real world was like from the start. We will manage. And we have ace parents if we don't

[Kittycat1991]

I'm 23 and ttc#1 since December last year, and still no luck

[AnnaBegins]

Hi, can I join please? I'm 25 and DH is 28, ttc #1. Been "trying" since July but I only came off the pill in June and AF only just regular again so realistically couldn't have hoped much yet, doesn't stop me being disappointed though.

Add on the fact that we have busy lives and are out every week night helping with various activities or doing sports, and busy most weekends, and it really doesn't leave much time to DTD. You'd think it wouldn't be a hardship to DTD more often but I just feel like I'm nagging DH at the mo!

[roughtyping]

How are we all getting on? :)

On CD20, have been using OV sticks, all neg. so think it'll be another long cycle for me. Heyho. Trying to DTD ETO but it's difficult! Always so tired. At physio today, it was fine but lower back/pelvis been so sore.

[busywifey]

Hi everyone, not been in for a while as I was on such a downer from September's BFN. Well, since then I have been to docs for her to tell me not to worry, give it a couple of more months until you commit yourself to tests. Feeling more hopeful I tried the digital CBFM and started folic acid. I got 7 days of high fertility then finally my Peak arrived on the 8th test which was day 21 of my 31 day cycle! This now means I have 9dpo until AF which is not long enough to support a pregnancy for a BFP AKA a luteal phase defect. AF due on 29th and I have cramp today so 99% sure October is another disappointing month and I will be ringing my doc tomorrow to get an appointment to do something for lengthening my luteal phase. So shit and so sad.

[roughtyping]

Busywifey please don't be down. I've been feeling the same. Last month I was obsessive that I was definitely pregnant. This cycle has been a bit more chilled. 43 day cycles are very, very long though, which I've been finding tough. I don't know when I OV. Used OV sticks but didn't get a positive so I've been quite angry with my body. On 2WW but I am 100% sure I'm not pregnant. Have started getting aching boobs which I got at exactly the same time in last cycle. And my news feed continues to fill up with pregnancy announcements, newborns, cute babies... I have everyone from my son to my mum to my colleagues asking when I'll have a baby. Could scream!

[busywifey]

Hi rough, thank you for your kind words sorry to hear that you've been feeling like that, want to join my pity party have you tried the CBFM? Yes, there appears to be babies everywhere at the moment! As for people asking, it feels awful even my tough DH feels hurt when someone asks him since my last post AF has still not arrived though

[UpNorth74]

Hi all - very new here and totally baffled by all the abbreviations!

I'm 28, partner is 29, and after months of talking about starting a family we have decided to not exactly 'try', rather 'not prevent' ... And see what happens!

I'm a competitive runner and trying to find info on how much I have to ease off, if at all (at first) - most NHS advice says don't exercise ... Hmm, helpful.

Good luck ladies, hope to see lots of positive news on here soon!

[roughtyping]

Busy - I haven't used the Clear Blue one, just internet cheapies. Might get CB for next cycle.

Up north - I wouldn't have thought you'd have to stop exercising! That seems counter intuitive really.

[busywifey]

I would definitely recommend it. AF has arrived today, 6 days late.
Best of luck to you UpNorth, I would say continue with your usual routine for now.

[roughtyping]

AF here again boo. This is a long road eh.

[busywifey]

Ahh bugger it's longer than I ever imagined rough I am now in the 11th month of TTC and at 23 years old I never thought I would be having such a problem. Off to docs again on Friday to discuss LPD, sadly the lovely doctor I got last time no longer works at the practice. Are you trying any new methods this cycle or just plain old DTD?

[mrschatty]

Hello! Ttc#1 since Dec I'm 24 hubbie is 29 married last year. I think this month is another bfn though stamps feet

[busywifey]

Hi chatty, it's frustrating isn't it?! I never thought it would take this long!

[mrsdos]

Hi there, can I join too?
DH and I are both 25 and decided that now was a good a time as any to start TTC. Keeping it quiet though as SIL seemed to get PG as soon as she married BIL last summer. Have been taking Cerazette the last few years, three weeks off so far and no AF as yet, I have never wanted AF to appear so much!

[busywifey]

Anybody got any news? I had a 2nd doctor appointment to be told that he had never heard of LPD after begging for help doc said he would email gynae clinic to see if I was eligible for a referral, 2 weeks on and still no news However, I have been taking some vitamins that I researched myself and I have ovulated 5 days earlier than normal DH is away atm so not much chance to DTD but this is a huge breakthrough for us.

Welcome mrsdos, how's it going for you? We've not told anyone either. What is with these people that get pregnant right away?!?!?

[ElleyBear13]

hello can i join too? Im 24, ttc our 'first baby' (technically it'll be our second as we m/c in september.) Hubby is 25 we've been married just over a year.

Not to put a downer on the convo but is there any other young mums in the same boat as me?

Fell pregnant on our first try, but struggling to fall pregnant again. (currently three days late and bfns so frustrating!) Its hard atm as a lot of our friends are giving birth to their firsts/seconds or falling pregnant or announcing pregnancy, currently not going on facebook sick of the pregnancy/birth announcements or moans ( i think the moaning posts are the worst!)

Thinking of getting ovulation sticks for next month and maybe a thermometer any one got any tips on how to use them? xxx

[busywifey]

Hi Elley, sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I have not been in your position but I can highly recommend the Clearblue digital ovulation test kit.

[MitzeeeMoo]

Hayyy :)

i'm a newbie, 24 yo (fiance 23 yo) have a 6 year old daughter with 1st (previous) relationship & been with my fiance now for coming up to 2 years. Been TTC for 9 months now, came off the Microgynon pill in March, first AF in April.. no luck since :( periods are one minute a good 28-31 day cycle, then one month it just goes crazy.. last month it was a week early (if it even was AF), supposed to be due on yesterday, nothing since.. trying not to be too hopeful as AF decides to turn up un-announced & disappoint me every time :( fingers crossed for a lovely Christmas BFP!! x

[mrsdos]

Hello Everyone! We are still plodding along waiting for AF to arrive! Had lots of cramps which made me think she was looming but same for 2 weeks or so
Out of interest, has anyone else given up alcohol whilst ttc? If so, what sort of reasoning are you using if you havr not told others that you are ttc?

[wlrg14]

hello ladies!

thought i might come and ask some advice and hang out over here...
im 23 and dp 34 and were thinking about ttc, im currently in a 2ww after a little accident with a condom! think its most likely bfn this month but it has defo brought me round to the idea and got us thinking about when we would like to start ttc.
im in the middle of my last year of uni but were financially and emotionally pretty stable tbh, been together nearly 5 years

no one to talk to other than dp in rl and he is ready and waiting to ttc and has been wanting to for a while ... weirdly my biggest worry is about peoples reactions, mainly my families as we arent yet married, did any of you have any bad reactions from family? if so how did you deal with it?