Anyone got pregnant with no.1 very quickly bit struggling with no.2?

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Hello,

Was just wondering whether anybody has had a similar experience?

When trying for first child got pregnant the first month, however that ended in MC. Luckily I got pregnant again with DD after first month of trying again.

DD is now three, we would have started TTC sooner but I went back I Uni and I'm due to finish in November.

We have been trying for 5 months and no luck, worried that I've left it too late as I'm now 37.

Me neither lovesmycake although this time symptoms feel like AF cold feet in bed & feeling hot during the day.p

Sorry AF got you guinnessgirl but glad your cycles are back to being regular. Yes it's very emotional.

I feel like my body is messing me around HazleNutt & I think my fertility app thinks that too! It only decided today that I'd ovulated on Friday, I got my positive OPK on Wednesday. I think my temperatures have been a bit unusual. It sounds like there may be something wrong with your monitor if its coming up with error messages I've never actually used one though. I used the CB OPK with dual hormone indicator but I'd get days of flashing smiley faces telling me I'm fertile but I couldn't be fertile for that long. I just use the ordinary CB OPK now.

Bobsy, lovesmycake - I will join you in the infernal TWW. Bobsy I have high hopes for you this time round!!

Like you I want no symptoms at all. I have decided that implantation bleeding is a fairy story.

Sorry, also meant to say - metal - good luck with the scan, will be interested to know what you get told. And guiness - sorry that you have to ride the rollercoaster again. But regular cycles is something I guess!

Welcome to the 2ww toast and thanks, I really hope it's finally my month but all my symptoms point to AF not that I'm particularly symptom spotting these hard not to notice. Although I keep prodding my boobs grrrr!! Wish I'd stop doing that!

I'm with you on the imantafion bleeding think I imagined it with DD.

I'm now down for taking extra shifts to cover my colleague's mat leave next year, should be my shifts that need covering for mat leave. What makes it harder is she got pg with #2 first month of trying & her DC has only just turned 2, so finding it a bit difficult to take. It's hard not to be a teany bit jealous when it's so hard for you to get what you want & someone else gets it so easily!

Implantation bleeding is definitely crap I'm with you there!!

bobsy that sounds like a really crap situation having to cover her maternity leave - I think I would have lost it at work if someone told me that, bit too much of a reminder of something we don't have.

I'm still working up the courage to go and see my friend who announced her pregnancy, I managed to cover it when she told me and be happy in person but she was my person I talked to about all this, so she knows and for some reason that makes it worse I don't want her pity I guess.

Here's hoping toast and bobsy this will be our month and we don't have to deal with these situations any more?

Oh and my attempt at not sympton spotting is a joke, I fell asleep at 8:30 last night and this morning I'm thinking tiredness is a sign . I seriously need to get a grip.

Implantation bleeding!! Just realised how badly I spelt it not easy using my phone.

It's awful lovesmycakes I dread going in work & I'm dreading it even more when she starts showing. She knows my situation & doesn't talk about it & things have started to feel awkward but I can't help how I feel & I know it's not her fault.

That must be even harder for you, well hopefully it won't be long before you're telling her the same thing.

Thanks was really hoping it was my month but looks like I'm out already & just have to wait for AF!

You sound like me last month suddenly felt tired at 10am which is early for me & thought that was a symptom & this boob prodding is getting out of hand!

Oh bobsy i'm sorry you think it's over :( and honestly I think your situation is worse, if you can't even escape from it at work. I hate the awkwardness involved too because there doesn't seem a way to resolve it like you said it is just how you feel and that can't be helped.

Thanks lovesmycakes, I don't know how I'm going to get through the next 6 months. Find it hard taking DD to pre-school everyone has at least one sibling. Feel guilty that DD hasn't & she's 4 next week.

Oh well I'm sure I'll get through it somehow.

I'm only 5dpo but I'm getting AF symptoms apart from sore boobs but I'm not being fooled by that.

Thanks toast, will report back tomorrow!

Sorry your work is so rubbish bobsy. Makes me count my blessings as I can work from home so don't have to see any pregnant ladies on a daily basis! Totally know the feeling that everyone else has at least two though, this morning I took DD to school and she just went over to a random lady with a baby and asked if she could have a cuddle!

Don't give up hope yet for this cycle, 5dpo is still so early, anything could happen!

I'm on CD17 today and still no sign of ov. I'm really annoyed that this looks like it's going to be another long cycle. Just hope I manage to ov at all, otherwise god knows how long I'll have to wait to get my progesterone test done!

Hi all,

Know how you all feel, I'm onto cycle 6 now and waiting for my smiley face so I can annoy my DH again! Please please please let it be all of our lucky months and we get those longed for BFP's! Why are our bodies doing this to us?? I always assumed if I got pregnant easily first time, I would second time as well but clearly Mother Nature has other ideas although I know 6 months isn't that long, guess I'm very impatient and age is against me, clock is ticking as they say. Good luck all x

Yes that's the thing, I also expected to get pregnant immediately. But am 2 years older now as well, should not forget.

Hi all,sorry, disappeared again for a bit! I have been trying to get used to the idea that DD will be my only one, but as you all know thoughts and emotions are like being on a rollercoaster, I will be crying about it all again in no time!
Bobsy that just sounds unfairly cruel that you have to cover her shifts and will be reminded of it all the time at work I am ashamed to admit I have actually stopped talking to a lady at work as she is due her second any day now, her first is 6 months younger than DD and it was just so painful when I heard she was expecting again, and to watch her bump grow every time I see her, I couldn't be doing with all the baby and pregnancy talk, so I have been avoiding her for months, and she has now got the message. Does it make me a terrible person? guess I should have told her the truth, but I didn't want it all over work!
DD has just started playschool this week, I hope I don't have to face any pregnant mummies, but I would imagine most of the kids have siblings. Luckily DD hasn't directly asked for a sibling yet, but she does sometimes pretend to play with her 'sister'.
I am expecting AF any day now, have been able to put it to the back of my mind somewhat this month, but today I am back obsessing over it again and daydreaming what it would be like to get a BFP....don't hold out much hope, DTD wasn't very successful this month!
Well I finally got an appointment through, will be going for an ultrasound scan in a couple of weeks so hopefully will get a clearer picture then of anything that might be going on. When is your scan metal?
loves sorry about your friend too why does it seem so easy for others to have baby after baby?

Hello lovely ladies, can I join you for some virtual hand holding!

I have 3 amazing daughters (one is mine from a previous relationship and 2 are DPs from a previous relationship). We are currently trying for our first baby together! So technically I have one and this will be baby number 2 if it happens! DD1 wasn't planned and I was only 21, and both of DPs DDs came very quickly but we have had no luck so far and I came off the pill in Feb.

Feeling a bit all over the place at the moment as we psyched ourselves up ready to have another baby and then nothing happened! I know I am lucky to have 3 beautiful DDs but it feels like there is something missing and I think that having a baby together would complete our not so little family.

DDs are 7,6 and 3!

Also should add that if it does happen and its another girl DP may be moving into the shed as he says we need to even things out a little!

Well I've had a baby arrival announcement today! My cousin and his wife have just had their second, their first only just turned 2 last month. Obviously I knew baby's arrival was imminent but doesn't make it any easier.

I know I'm talking like AF has already arrived when I'm only 5dpo but I'm getting the symptoms unless they are normal symptoms after ov and before possible implantation whether or not you've conceived.

I wish I could escape from pregnant ladies and new babies Metalhead Aww bless her that is so cute but hard for you. My DD hasn't really bothered with babies too much but she has said she wants a brother and a sister, and has an imaginary sister.

It's awful Newbie6 I wonder why my body is doing this to me too.

When it was easy first time you don't expect it to take so long second time HazleNutt

Gingerbreadbaby I am exactly the same as you, I avoided a lady I know the other day at school because she was pushing a pram (she was still pregnant last time I saw her). It doesn't make you a terrible person at all, I completely understand how hard that must be for you. A few months ago I was out for a meal with friends and it was all baby talk because one of them is pregnant with second and when I got home I just cried and cried it was awful what made it worse was that AF was in full flow at the time!

I really feel like life is being so cruel to me at the moment.

I've been thinking about giving up and accepting DD is my only 1, I've told OH that I want to give it one last try but he won't agree, I'll probably change my mind I know it is such an emotional Rollercoaster. Next cycle is last chance to conceive so that baby is born before my next birthday.

Fx AF doesn't arrive and good luck with the scan.

Welcome Crazzybaby it's so hard when you are ready for another and it just doesn't happen.

Ah bobsy baby arrival announcements are so hard. Well done you if your managing to keep it all together I'm not sure I would be! Will you be going to visit? My bro had his second 3 weeks ago I shed a few tears before going but when I got there it was fine. I fell in love with the little dude and wasn't jealous at all. I have a theory that its the pregnancy I'm jealous of, when the baby arrives I realise I don't want their baby I want mine? I don't know if that makes any sense?

Metal that sounds so hard too makes me feel glad that DS is not bothered with babies.

ginger your not a terrible person otherwise I am too it's just self preservation. I have finally bit the bullet and got in contact with my friend but I really hope she will not mention it at all. When she told me she said 'she knew exactly how I felt because she felt like there was something missing from her family too' felt like saying it's not the same at all is it love because that feeling lasted all of 5 mins for you then you got what you wanted, imagine feeling like that for a year and you might have a clue !!!! See ginger I'm the terrible person because she is really lovely and was only trying to help :(

Hello crazzybaby

Well that's an epic post because I'm trying to distract myself from my own crazy right now - I have all the symptoms of AF but she's not here yet so I'm hoping and googling and wondering about testing grrrrrrr I can't stand the waiting right now, really can't stand it my mind is full of what if's and I know it's all going to come crashing down around me in the next few days. :(

Oh loves I hate it when that happens, symptom spotting is definitely the way to drive yourself mad but at the same time impossible not to! Are you going to poas soon? Fx this is your month.

I had my ultrasound this morning and it all looks normal. Also, my brother's girlfriend who's a gynaecologist said she's never seen a case of Ashermans, which is what I was worried about, and it's very unlikely I have it. So all good news I guess, only I'm still left wondering why I can't get pregnant... Oh, and of course my body has decided to mess around again this month and I'm still not having any signs of ov'ing any time soon, even though it's CD18 today. Grrr.

I'm only just managing to keep it together loves I feel someone out there really wants to punish me! No I'm not going to visit we're not particularly close and don't see each other regularly at all so will just send a card, and they probably won't expect a visit. Aww that's nice I'm glad it was okay for you, yeh I can understand what you mean.

The waiting is awful, I'm only on 6dpo but I'm already worrying about it, it's DD's birthday next week and AF is due just before one of her school friends is coming to her party and the mum is bringing their new born baby. Hopefully it won't be too bad because I don't know her very well, it seems harder when it's people you know getting pregnant/having second babies.

I have got a book about positive thinking to get pregnant and it's really good and makes a lot of sense but it's hard to get in that positive frame of mind as I'm scared of building my hopes up.

Glad your ultrasound was okay Metal I know what you mean I feel like my body has been messing me around, and I'm concerned about my short lutuel phase but think I'm going to make an appointment at the doctors to see what to do/check next.

Bobsy I agree with just about everything you say! Trying to stay positive, but also don't want to get my hopes up, I can't decide if it's easier to accept it will never happen and try to move on, or to keep hoping that one day it definitely will happen. I keep swinging between the two anyway so guess it doesn't matter what I decide!! Next cycle will also be my last chance to have one before my next birthday. Someone at work today started talking about someone they know who has just found out they are expecting twins, obviously don't know how long they have been trying, but I just left the room before I had to hear anymore! Seriously, this is turning us into crazy people!
Baby announcements are hard, but like you say loves maybe we should just think well I don't want that particular baby!! Haha, love what thoughts went through your head with your friend!! Do you think AF is late yet for you? Will you POAS? I might do it in the morning, just to stop all the maybes and hopefuls flying around my head, and also just for the hell of it, I'll be on cd27.
Welcome cazzy, how lovely having 3 DDs! But your poor DP! Hopefully it is just your body sorting itself out after coming off the pill in Feb, have you been using opks or anything to check if you are ovulating?
How is everyone else doing? Nearly the weekend.....

metal good news about your scan have they said what happens next? will they do more tests?

That balance of trying to stay positive and not get your hopes up is impossible, if any of you work out how to do it please let me know!

I'm not exactly late yet ginger my cycle is usually 26/27/28 my last two were 26 - well today is day 27 I got the test out the box this morning but couldn't quite do it I'm a big wuss and I'm 99% sure AF is coming today, thank god I have some work to do today to keep me busy :)

Hi girls, good luck to all those on the 2ww, surely we must have some BFPs due!!

We had our first IVF appointment and we were pleasantly surprised. Really feel like the pressure has lifted and we are doing something positive instead of trying in the dark. DH's swimmers are in very good shape, I am the issue! So hopefully we start cycling in November. Obviously hoping for a miracle before then!

Oh Gingerbread you sound exactly like me! I keep trying to accept I won't have another but I can't quite do it. OH and me have rows about it because he says 'you'll change your mind again tomorrow' and he's right! It's so hard isn't it. It is so hard hearing about pregnancies and people discussing them & I'd have walked off too, its about self preservation.

I know what you mean loves I wish I could find that balance, a lot of what she says in the book makes sense and there are some interesting case studies, but it's hard to feel positive without getting your hopes up.

I agree farfallarocks definitely due some BFP's on here!

That is brilliant news, the pressure lifting could definitely help. Good luck with the IVF but hopefully you will get your BFP before then.

We were there. Got pg as soon as we tried for DS1. DS2 took 12 months and a miscarriage. Now have been trying for 13 months for DC3. I've had some prelim blood tests and a pelvic ultrasound, and DH has had a sperm analysis, all came back normal. I've been referred to an (NHS!) fertility clinic to see if they can offer any further investigations. I've had 2 CSs, and am convinced that there is scarring or adhesions causing problems. My cycles are a little irregular, and I have a lot of pain in the run up to ovulation. My charts and bloods show that I am definitely ovulatiing, and I tend to do so about 13 days before my period arrives, which is normal. Very very frustrating. Obviously I am very happy to have 2 lovely healthy boys, and my age is not in my favour (37 on Sunday), there are lots of reasons for us not to have a third, but it's doable, and I'm not done.

at farfalla from a very old TTC thread.....

Hi bonzo I do indeed remember you, think we were on a couple together! We got there together last time so that is a good sign, no reason it should not happen again :)