Anyone got pregnant with no.1 very quickly bit struggling with no.2?

[tattyteddy]

Hello,

Was just wondering whether anybody has had a similar experience?

When trying for first child got pregnant the first month, however that ended in MC. Luckily I got pregnant again with DD after first month of trying again.

DD is now three, we would have started TTC sooner but I went back I Uni and I'm due to finish in November.

We have been trying for 5 months and no luck, worried that I've left it too late as I'm now 37.

Good luck portly penguin, I'm in the same boat....5th cycle for me too so let's hope we both get BFP's! Good luck all!

Good look to all in the 2ww. xx

Toast I know what you mean, POAS when negative does feel like throwing money down the loo. I'm really going to try and stop testing early and wait a good few days, after AF is due for testing. I need to reduce my POAS habit x

Good luck to all you ladies waiting, hoping for a rush of BFP's on this thread xx

Happy Birthday for Friday Metalhead

I went to the doctors yesterday & she's sending me for blood tests on Wednesday. She said we need to DTD more which isn't easy with my OH, but at least I'll know if anything medical is wrong. It's so frustrating as we both want another so much but I'm already worrying about getting him to DTD next week when I'm due to ovulate. Oh well we'll see what happens.

I know what you mean about implantation bleeding toastbuster when the spotting starts I always live in hope that it's implantation until AF comes in full force!

Hi was wondering if I can join, It took a year to conceive my DS so not exactly easy and i'm now on cycle 12 trying for no#2. I've been pretty good at staying positive until this weekend where I kinda lost it, the friend I have been turning to too whinge about all this TTC crap announced she is three months PG and it has floored me. I'm not even really sure why!!

Good luck to everyone waiting :)

Trying for DS wasn't too bad,
TTC no 2, left it a few years due to work / personal circumstances - we are now 18mths+ down the line and exploring fertility testing etc. I'm 35 & finding it hard.

Hello lovesmycake and wonkylegs, welcome to the thread.

I think it's hard when everyone around you seems to finding it easy getting pregnant again.

Bobsy, hopefully the blood tests will help put your mind at rest. x

hi all, can I join the thread please? 1 DS aged 3.9 who was conceived within 2 weeks of starting. TTC#2 since Jan, so on cycle 8 now. One suspected early MC in June (can't be sure) and currently in the 2ww...

feeling fairly philosophical about it at the mo but have definitely had my moments of feeling before now. Still feeling pretty sure it will all come right sooner or later ATM.

oh, and I'm 32 x

Totally know how you feel lovesmycakes same thing has happened to me several times & my colleague is pg with her second & it happened so easily.

I'm finding it hard too wonkylegs we've been trying for 19 months.

Thanks tattyteddy I hope so x

hello wonky, guiness and lovesmycake!

So, AF fully arrived now as expected. To be honest I feel a bit better now the hormones have settled a little, and the fact that I have a docs appointment helps, as I feel like I am doing something. (I know that those of you already down the road of seeking medical assistance know that these is no magic solution, but for now it makes me feel better). I expect to be told no ovulation / low progesterone, and then to take it from there.

Bobsy - there are threads around about people who insert sperm (yoghurt pots and synringes) for various reasons (lesbian couples working with a friend, people whose other halves for various reasons find it difficult to climax in the right place britishness gets the better of me - am blushing). Has that got any potential for you and DH, or not? I know it might go down like a lead balloon with some people I know, but thought I would mention it.

I think we have guinness, portly and newbie in the TWW - with apologies if I missed anyone - good luck!

Bake off is one tomorrow - that's always a nice distraction.

Hello guinnessgirl, welcome aboard x

Toast, I was thinking the same thing for Bobsy so I'm glad you've mentioned it.

I'm the same, although I've had by bloods back as normal the GP said they will refer me to the hospital for further checks. In the back of my head I think I may have scarring post EMCS last time? Or that I just got lucky with how quickly we got BFP with DD.

Just starting month 7 and on Day 8.

Good luck everyone, I'm hoping for lots of BFPs all over this thread .

toast and tatty thought the same myself even looked at kits on eBay but yes it went down like a lead balloon with OH! He just won't admit there's a problem, if I do get pg I'd be happy to never DTD again, it's not a great feeling for me & worse that we both wont another baby so much.

Sorry that AF arrived toast but glad you're feeling better, I always feel terrible when she arrives really angry & upset but that settles once the hormones have settled. Good luck at the doctors maybe it will just be something simple that can easily be sorted.

So - results back, progesterone normal. Good. Next step - scan. Doc clearly agrees with me that changes to my cycle suggest an actual problem and not just bad luck - possibly endometriosis or a cyst. Or something else.

I think others will understand that in the doctors I was basically begging to have the scan there and then. I feel like I can't afford to lose a week, too old! I blame the Daily Mail for this, not that I read it of course. looks a bit guilty

So once this AF is over, TTC treadmill again. I think I shall keep up my extra Bvits just in case, try to do more exercise and try acupuncture.

Glad to hear your progesterone is normal, hopefully you can get the scan sorted soon. xx

Hi everyone, I posted back on page 1 but have been off MN for a bit trying and failing to keep my mind off all things baby. My in-laws have just left after staying with us for a while, and as summer is coming to an end DH and I have no more excuses to not cut back on drinking and try to be as healthy as we can. I am hoping if I throw myself into it now, I will get a BFP before christmas, we have been trying for 16 cycles with nothing, and my cycles seem to be becoming more irregular. I am also going to start being a bit more pushy with getting appointments etc, I went to the Dr over 6 months ago, and so far have only had day21 tests done, which did suggest I am ovulating, and DHs SA has come back all normal. Does anyone else feel that the Dr doesn't really take them seriously because they already have a child? I know, and of course am so grateful that I do have DD, but to me, the fact that it is taking so long suggests there is an underlying issue? She was conceived in the second month of trying, and will be 3 in November. I am hoping to have an appointment in November to get the scans etc done, but I haven't had any dates come through yet, and it does seem from reading around MN that some people get through the procedures of blood tests and scans within a few months!
Anyway, sorry to waffle on, it's just nice, but also shit, to be able to join people in the same situation! Special wave to metal and loves we've been on a few threads together now! Bobsy I really feel for you with the dtd issue. I am sick of having forced sex too. I actually dread it, and it does play havoc on your relationship. I hope you manage to have a chat with DH, maybe feed him some wine first?!

Thanks for all the birthday wishes ladies, I had a lovely relaxing day on Friday and a nice meal out with lots of wine in the evening! So, here I am, 35 now and balancing precariously on the fertility cliff if you believe the newspapers...

Hi Gingerbread [waves], I'm sorry to see you're still here. Hadn't seen your name pop up anywhere for a while and thought maybe got your BFP and just quietly sloped off... I would definitely chase up appointments if you've been waiting for them for a while, the NHS is not exactly known for its smooth administration and referrals do get lost quite frequently I think.

Hello, I have been lurking for a while but the Duchess of Cambridge news has sent me into a spiral of depression (pathetic I know) and I would love to vent with others TTC#2.

DD arrived after a year of trying so not exactly quick but I was at least getting pregnant easily (then miscarrying). Got to the bottom of the problem, took heparin and that resulted in DD. Have been trying for DC2 for a year and nothing. Have got a borderline FSH (10.9) and low amh and been advised to get cracking with IVF.
I am panicking about the age gap.
My DH is also rubbish at DTD at the right times and just wants to see what happens, not actively try in fact he refuses to and we only have sex at the weekends or on holiday so the combination is not exactly winning!!!

Can I join you as well? The Duchess news combined with AF arriving means that I'm not exactly a happy bunny today.
I got pregnant with DS very easily, he is now 14 months old and we always wanted a small gap. Also, I'm 35, 36 in a month, so time not exactly on our side any more.
Stopped BFing in May, AF duly returned. Doing the usual ov monitoring and symptom spotting, but so far nothing . If nothing happens next month either, will go get checked out - I'm abroad, with a private doctor who is therefore happy to run as many tests as possible.

Oh dear I'm feeling old now I'm 38

Glad your progesterone is ok toast and hope you get your scan done soon.

Glad you had a good birthday MetalHead

Hi Gingerbread I think I've been quite lucky with my doctors they sent me for a scan earlier this year but I did go to because of bleeding between periods and mentioned that we'd been trying for a baby. I was quite surprised they got me in for a scan so quickly. Part of the reason I haven't got pregnant yet is probably due to not DTD enough! It is really hard when you have to do it! Last night we did even though I'd got a negative OPK but it felt better because there was less pressure & I think I'm in the high fertility window anyway so there is probably a chance I could get pregnant, but I am dreading when the OPK turns positive, its almost a relief when it is negative - daft I know as I obviously need it to be positive. TTC has caused so many problems in our relationship, and I think if it wasn't for us wanting a second baby OH would be happy not to DTD again, I think I would too if we do conceive again.

farfallarocks not pathetic at all, I know exactly how you feel, just driving from a lovely weekend away and that news came on the radio!

I worry about the age gap because DD is almost 4. It's awful when you can't get them to DTD when the time is right, the most often used excuse from my OH is 'I'm tired'!!

Just read the news about the royal baby on here and thought I would have a little moan, glad to see I'm in good company!! It's a horrible feeling to not just be happy for someone else's good news but following my rather spectacular meltdown last weekend I'm trying to be a bit more honest with myself about my feelings. So if you will allow me to become a little uncouth for a moment - sod them and their smug little 'baby news' and their small age gap it's not bloody fair.

Anyhoo back to reality toast glad to hear your initial tests were clear fingers crossed you get a scan really soon.

Helloo ginger and metal sorry to meet again this way, ginger I think you would be well within your rights to get on at the doctors for more tests its been a while since the 21 day ones.

I have bought the clearblue monitor, unfortunately like a doofus I have forgotten to get any of the sticks that go with it (we live overseas so I need to go on a mission to track some down) so I'm excited to give that a go and see if it makes a difference.

Hello farfallarocks and Hazel, welcome to the thread.

I hope everyone else is doing well. I felt exactly the same when I heard the news about Kate!

I've been struggling this months to DTD when required from just getting tired from every day life! I really hope we can celebrate some BFPs on this thread soon.

On a postive note I'm done with Uni on the 10th November, can't wait! xx

Marking my place. Back for a proper read in a bit!

Hi all, well BFN for me but period is now late, where is sodding AF??

Using the CB monitor and used their tests, last time I did a test was 3 days before AF due and it said negative. I don't have any more tests in the house so have ordered a FRER test which should come tomorrow but I'm sure I feel like AF will have arrived by then. I'm so confused by my body now I don't trust any symptoms but I definitely don't think I have any pregnancy ones!

So fed up going through this every single month and think IVF may now be a serious option if not an expensive one. Think we are going to give ourselves till November and if nothing has happened look at doing an IVF cycle, had better start saving!!

Good luck to everyone else on their 2ww xx

Period due sat 13/9. We will see but am not overly hopeful...These royals are obviously more fertile than me!!!

I was v tempted to test this morning but DH convinced me it was too early and i would just grump all day. He is prob right.

Good luck to all.

I also felt a pang of envy when hearing the royal baby news - though I'd never have wanted, or coped with, an age gap as small as theirs.

AF due on Sunday... we only DTD once around OV so not got my hopes up this time round. Having said that, though, we've booked a childfree weekend away at the end of next May, so sod's law says we'll get a BFP and have to cancel it as it'd then be a week after expected due date!