Anyone got pregnant with no.1 very quickly bit struggling with no.2?

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Hello,

Was just wondering whether anybody has had a similar experience?

When trying for first child got pregnant the first month, however that ended in MC. Luckily I got pregnant again with DD after first month of trying again.

DD is now three, we would have started TTC sooner but I went back I Uni and I'm due to finish in November.

We have been trying for 5 months and no luck, worried that I've left it too late as I'm now 37.

Oh boo Jassy! You're right...why does that bit have to work right and not the rest?! Love the shoe idea...I might do the same when AF gets here! She's toying with me at the moment!! If it helps at all I have an August baby and if anything he's been more 'advanced' than all my NCT friends baby's who are 4-6 weeks older. I personally think it's down to their personality and encouraging them. Might be a different scenario at school but I wouldn't change it! I also had lots of summer time on mat leave !

Trees, that's encouraging! DS is September and I've got a couple of NCT friends with August babies and I guess it's brought home to me how little they can be when they start school! I didn't grow up in Britain so already feel like kids start skyping here. Am going to have a Long Think.

I know you're all right, I'm just finding it tough still don't feel I can broach the subject with OH, but I need to shut up & get on with or do something about it!

There's a large part of me that thinks I should just give up, I wouldn't even need to bother saying anything to OH because he wouldn't say anything about trying. But there is another part of me that can't quite let go.

Mister Great stuff about the CBD, I'm sure the nausea and tiredness will kick in soon.

Jassy Sorry about AF, I know what you mean if that can work like clock work why can't getting pregnant. My DD is a September baby & at the time I was hoping she'd come early in August as I was very big & also didn't want her to miss the school year. I'm glad now that she is September but with a second baby I think it would be different as they would have an older sibling to look up to. I'd rather have baby in August now because at least there would be 4 school years between them & wouldn't have to wait as long for free nursery place. Also I'd prefer not to have both my children's birthdays in same month, but I'm not in a position to be fussy now because it'll be 2 years in Jan since we started TTC. I don't even know if I could have an August baby now anyway.

Trees that's good to know about your DC and I think you're right it's down to their personality. My DD has always been quite advanced, sat up early, walked early, has great language & speech and that has nothing to do with school.

Bobsy I don't think you need to shut up about it, talk about it as much as you like on here, that's what we're here for! Do you not think that if you gave up now you might be left with long term resentment towards your OH?
Little yes I used preseed, I got it from Amazon. It is kind of strange to use and very unromantic (there's a tube applicator thingy which is pretty much guaranteed to get you out of the mood!) so best to put it in in advance. I have used it both times I have conceived, but could be total coincidence!
Well this baby is due about 3 days after DS's birthday probably would have been my last choice for dc2's birth day but now I couldn't care less! It seems my body only makes babies in October!

Oh and Bobsy someone has just joined the July AN thread with a bfp after 22 months of trying so it is absolutely still possible.

Hi ladies, I'm back from our holiday in Germany and trying to get used to having to do all the household chores again after not lifting a finger all week. Already done the food shop, unpacked, put two lots of washing on and cooked lunch, but still got to iron all of DD's school uniform for tomorrow.

Sorry to all those who got AF (I can't remember who it was exactly, will have to read back a bit later.). I should ov today, which at CD17 would be the earliest I've ever recorded, which could be either down to the acupuncture or the soy (or both!). Either way I'm pleased I won't have another epic cycle, though I'm not expecting any positive results this month, feeling quite disillusioned at the moment. I'm just counting down the days now until my gynae appointment and hope they will do and hsg to check once and for all whether I'm right about having Ashermans.

Sounds like you had a lovely time Metal! Would you recommend acupuncture then? I've been having reflexology every month but wondered if acupuncture was worth a go.

So...still no AF or spotting not zero of symptoms and tonnes of BFNs. Can you guys help me rationalise this? I'm going crazy with it! So...started using maca this month and the cb digi ovulation sticks. Got my first solid smiley cd14 which is early for me. I normally have lots of cm but there wasn't any at that time which I though was odd. Cue 7dpo and lots of cramps and lots of cm. I thought woo hoo implantation but now I'm 12 DPO and nothing. I normally have a LP of 9/10 days so this is odd. Do you think I had delayed ovulation instead of implantation? That's never happened to me but wondering if maca wasn't such a good idea now?!

Hmm, that's odd trees. It could well be that you didn't ov when you got your positive but did a week later when you had the cm. It could be down to the maca or just stress, I think it happens quite a lot. I guess you can only wait and see, but if you've been getting BFNs so far delayed ov seems the most likely scenario to me.

As for acupuncture, I wouldn't go so far as to recommend it just yet as I've only had two sessions, so am more inclined to think it was the soy that gave me an early ov. And acupuncture is quite expensive, my sessions are £45 a pop!

Glad you had a lovely holiday metal, hope you feel refreshed and relaxed after a break away! Excellent news on the early ov too! Maybe it was the soy? You have been doing acupuncture for a few months now haven't you?
Trees that is a bit odd. I agree with metal though, it could well be late ovulation. Maybe test again in another week if AF still hasn't arrived? Easier said than done I know! Unfortunately every once in a while a random delayed AF/weird cycle does seem to happen just to really confuse us! I can't see it being the maca, so don't give up on it just yet, and try and think it is a positive that your LP is longer!?
Mister how strange! Hopefully baby no.2 will be very late/early and avoid being too close to DS!
Jessy sorry AF arrived, definately agree with the monthly treats! Mine seem to have over spilled into all month long
Mister don't feel you have to leave us! We could do with some positive pregnancy vibes on here!! Agree with the others too, I would keep your app and hopefully you won't need it and will be able to make someone elses day!

3dpo here and I am still getting ewcm, so wondering if I have also got my ov times mixed up, I got a positive on cd14, but only on the one day when I normally get them two days running. My boobs are sore though as per usual post ov so maybe it's down to the soy or something else?
DDs birthday is on saturday and I'm expecting it to be very bittersweet I will be 9dpo by then so wondering whether to POAS or not!

Morning, Sorry about AF Jassy :-( I also like the idea of a treat when AF turns up I'm trying to do lots of positive thinking at the moment and generally get myself in a better frame of mind as I think stress probably played a part in my wonky cycle, could that be part of your problem trees and believe me I know how unhelpful that statement is. Stress in this situation is a given and there is pretty much nothing we can do about it!!

Don't feel you have to go mister Glad you had a relaxing holiday metal. ginger If it was me I think I would POAS the day after your DD's birthday a kind of mental let's put it out of my mind for today and just concentrate on DD like a mental break? but if you would just spend the day thinking about it then get it out of the way in the morning. What do you have planned for her birthday?

I'm on day 3 of soy feeling good no side effects couple more pg announcements but I'm practicing some positivity about it which is helping. Also I made peace with my very close friend who I mentioned a while ago is pg. I apologised for being a shitty friend (didn't ask about scans couldn't bring myself to talk about her pg at all) and she was very understanding about it so that felt good.

Morning all! We had a bit of challenging weekend, as DS had a high fever - no other symptoms and generally happy, so GP said not to worry. Of course I worried. The fever is gone now, but last night his nose got blocked and he woke up at 4AM. Brought him to our bed, which usually helps, but he decided it was morning and started chasing the cat. Got him back to sleep at 5. Having trouble keeping my eyes open here - funny how I managed perfectly fine when he was little and at some point, waking every 45 minutes. Am used to full nights now.

In other news, I think AF is about to arrive, slight cramping. Tested, of course, and could almost see a line on the cheapo - you know the kind that you only see, if you hold the stick at a certain angle, so is most likely imaginary. CB digital said not pregnant though.

Went to a Halloween party on Sunday where, as always, was a mum with a child younger than mine, and pregnant again. Sigh.

OMG OMG OMG. The soy actually works! I was sitting here, thinking that I'm feeling like I have a hangover, surely that can't be only because I was awake last night? So went, got a CB Digital and it says Pregnant, 1-2 weeks. I can't believe it!

Congrats Hazle! That is amazing news, how brilliant!

well, will have to see if it's a sticky one, I had a chemical before DS and the are so very common. But at least I know the system is still working.

It's awful, isn't it? Every hurdle you get over, there are still so many to get over. But the 'it can happen' one is so huge.

Yay, that's amazing news hazle, so happy for you! Fx for a sticky bean!

Congrats hazel

Yay hazle such amazing news :)

Yey Hazle congratulations! What a lovely rainy monday morning for you! Hope it is a sticky one. Don't disappear on us!!
Well I am feeling like a bag of crap. Just burst into tears over my lunch giving poor DD a shock. Went to some baby/toddler groups this morning that we haven't been to for a while, DD had an absolute ball but there were ladies there with their second baby that I was going to groups with when they were there with their first. One lady has two DC already and is now expecting twins any day. That hit me really hard. I am still sat here with just the one. It just doesn't get any easier and I am setting myself up for AF arriving again. I am so thankful I have you ladies to turn to.
I think I will avoid POASing on Sat, I will just be feeling miserable if it's -ve, which it surely will be at 9dpo.
Glad you're not having any side effects from the soyloves, any tips for positive thinking?!

haha no tips really just whenever I get that negative feeling I say to myself 'I will have my baby, I just have to be patient' it's working for now and stopping me from dwelling on things though it has made me realise just how much I think about it!!

Sorry your feeling down ginger but now this thread is a lucky thread maybe we will be next to get caught up in the rush of BFP's

I'm sorry you're feeling so down today ginger, we all get days like that. I hope you manage to cheer yourself up again soon by whatever means necessary!

So DH tried to get the results of his SA today, and apparently the clinic sent them in the post to the GP last Wed but GP hasn't got them yet and the clinic can't give the results to DH!?! Aaargh, the bureaucracy in the NHS just drives me mad!

So I've decided to bite the bullet and have booked an appointment with the Ashermans specialist in London. It's the week before my NHS fertility appt but because I've had a normal-length cycle this month there is no way I would get any further NHS investigations done this year, the timings just wouldn't work, and I simply cannot live with this hanging over me for much longer. This way, if I need private treatment I might be able to get it done before the end of the year and have a fresh start in 2015!

Congratulations Hazle that is excellent news

Ginger Sorry you're feeling so down, I know how hard it is seeing others with their second babies when they had their first same time or later than you. A couple of months ago I took DD to my friends sons birthday party and met the same mums from the previous year and 2 of them had new born babies their first DC's younger than my DD, that was hard for me. To be honest I am more down than up at the moment so know exactly how you feel, I've even been on the Infertility threads. I have a book called 'Trying to get pregnant (and succeeding)' It is all about positive thinking methods to get pregnant, a lot of what is in there does make sense and there are some great true stories in there. I do agree with positive thinking but I find it so hard to feel positive sometimes, I just thought the book was worth a mention though.

Metal How silly they can't give DH is SA results! Good for you on booking the appointment with the Ashermans specialist, I bet you feel a bit of a relief to have the appointment and hopefully things can move very quickly for you now.

Hazel - yeeeesss!! Fab news!

I'm with Ginger on crappy day. Had Dr's apt for my blood results. Turns out my progesterone is rock bottom and I'm not ovulating . But of a shock and then had to go to work and pretend like nothing was wrong (on top of that my boss is pregnant with her third). Dr is sending me for an ultrasound of my ovaries to check them for cysts etc then review. Not sure how long that will take...sigh. And to top it off no AF still so obviously having a mammoth cycle.
Sorry to moan...just crap news.

sorry trees, but at least they know why you're not getting knocked up. Maybe a dose of Clomid is all you need.

Woohoo Hazle! Congratulations! That soy works fast How many dpo are you? Was it just the soy that was different this month? Hope to see you on the July AN thread soon.

Trees sorry to hear that. Did you have the blood test this cycle? If this cycle is unusually long then it's quite possible that you haven't ov'd yet this time but do normally iyswim, lots of people have anovulatory cycles from time to time or just very late ovulation. For example if I had been tested on day 21 they would have thought I don't ovulate because my cycle is very long and irregular, I had to have mine on day 28.

Metal how annoying about DH's results!

Ginger and Bobsy [hugs] for you both and good luck with the positive thinking. Maybe plan in some lovely holidays, days out, Christmas outings etc to have things to look forward to that are not ttc dependent? It is really hard to force positivity though and feeling down is totally understandable in the circumstances but I have everything crossed for you both (and everyone else!) that it will be your turn very soon.