Anyone got pregnant with no.1 very quickly bit struggling with no.2?

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Hello,

Was just wondering whether anybody has had a similar experience?

When trying for first child got pregnant the first month, however that ended in MC. Luckily I got pregnant again with DD after first month of trying again.

DD is now three, we would have started TTC sooner but I went back I Uni and I'm due to finish in November.

We have been trying for 5 months and no luck, worried that I've left it too late as I'm now 37.

Trees, it's not over til AF arrives!

I'm in the middle of 2ww (I swear, those 2 weeks have at least 300 days) and symptom spotting. Can't spot any though.

Oh don't - we have this guy at work who wears shorts all year round with socks and sandals. Why?! It doesn't even look good in the middle of summer - why do it all year round?

I'm ok. Still waiting for AF proper - should start tomorrow. Yesterday was miserable, but I'm over it now and ready for the next go. Onwards and upwards! Just been pumpkin carving with DS and dressed him up in a homemade wizard outfit so making the most of our day off.

Will be keeping everything crossed for you trees. x

We have been invited to a Halloween party too, but DS has a fever, so will have to see. Possibly just teething, as he doesn't seem to have any other complaints.

The most interesting outfit I saw was at the gym. A somewhat voluptuous lady had decided to dress in a unitard. A beige one - like one of those Spanx full body sucky-inny suits. Except that hers was not smoothing, but the opposite, clinging and emphasising every lump and bump. From distance, she looked like a big, naked caterpillar.

Trees, snap. I tested this morning and no luck, will see if AF arrives tomorrow. A bit worried last month may have been a chemical pregnancy (lots of symptoms around implantation time) so this month's timing may have been off anyway.

Bobsy, that's shit. It feels like half my office are pregnant or expectant dads at the moment, and a very dear friend who's been struggling for a while is finally pregnant. I'm absolutely thrilled for her but I couldnt help wishing our mat leaves had lined up, and now they won't.

Oh no, sorry Little that's rubbish It is so frustrating how much is down to pure chance, you'd think if the sperm and egg are both in the right place at the right time that should be enough. I hope you could put your feet up with some nice last night.
Sorry about the BFN too trees, it is still early days, what kind of tests are you using? Either way no spotting yet is a good sign.
Hi Jassy, totally understand feeling like life is on hold. I now look back and feel a bit silly for delaying planning holidays for the summer just gone over a year ago thinking I'd probably have a baby by now!
Bobsy sorry your situation is so tough, it sounds like it's causing some long term resentment too (understandably). Is there anyone else you could get to talk some sense in to DH? Someone he listens to? Even I feel like shaking him from across the mumsnet barrier! I really think there is still every chance it will happen for you though, it happens so often that people try for ages and suddenly, for no apparent reason, it just works. It is difficult in your case though because the process is causing you so much stress. I hope the soy makes a difference for you, otherwise maybe you should take a break from actively trying for a month or two while you go and see your GP for further advice?
Fingers crossed for you Ginger, invoking sods law definitely worth a shot!

Ahaha at big naked caterpillar Hazle

Bobsy I'm very fragile about anyone whose pregnant at the moment. I can't help but feel resentful (obs I try and hide it). I'm meant to be seeing a friend next week who has a DS born 2 weeks after mine. She's due in Feb with #2 and both were conceived first try.

Jassy - boo!! Any symptoms? Any symptoms I did have seemed to have vanished (except weeing myself uncontrollably at aerobics this morning...damn pelvic floor). Don't feel like AF is coming either. Been using FRER so that's why I'm not hopeful!

Little sorry you were down yest. I always feel like that first couple of days of AF. Red wine is my respite!

So it's quite warm here is the West Country today and I saw someone wearing flip flops and hot pants earlier !

Anyone had any side effects from the soy? I really worried about the headaches as I'm already a migraine sufferer and it doesn't take much for them to get triggered!

Oooh I hadn't thought about the headaches Trees I too am a migraine sufferer though mine are mostly hormonal so hopefully not much chance of triggering them with soy?

I got annoyed at a Pioneer Woman on TV the other day cos she had 9 children (On a photograph from the 1800's) Talk about irrational jealousy of pregnant women!!

I know how you feel Trees - I was thinking about meeting up with our antenatal class, but one of the women is almost due with DC2, and she wasn't even trying, it was an accident!

Oh, and no, had no side effects from soy whatsoever. Even though they did say to be careful if you have thyroid disease, and I have Graves disease (well, had, I guess, as had my thyroid removed).

Hi can I join please. :)
I am 32 ttc. No.2 had mirena coil removed 14th July 2014. For DD it took 6 months from my mirena removal. I'm a bit worried as I had a low AMH level @28 yrs old and would guess it's gone down again ( im a sahm so can't afford a new test) also I had the mirena put in after having dd 5 months pf repeated trips to the doc with pains etc and being told it was in my head. I moved to a new area still with the pains so went to docs and was sent for scan which showed the mirena wasn't in the right position. Cue the most intense pain ever when doc pulled it out. I'm now worried that there is damage to my parts needed to carry a baby. Would it be paranoid of me to make an appt with my doc for a chat about it? As I really don't know what exactly happened with it as I hardly slept for the first year of my dd life!
I also had an operation to remove scar tissue after having her. Google is telling me it's hard to conceive a 2nd. Everyone around me is pregnant and it's really starting to affect me.
Sorry for long first post. I will catch up when dd is in bed this evening x

Hi all, sorry to write a selfish post but just got back from my Drs appointment and am after a bit of random advice!
So basically, as usually happens after visiting my GP I am no further along or any the wiser about what the problem is
I have decided to go ahead and book the private appt to see a gynae as I am sick of waiting for my NHS one. Not sure what more they can do really, but I want to hear a second opinion! Anyway, my decision is, which Dr shall I see,I have two options; one that is very nice and friendly, my DSis has seen him in the past (not for fertility issues) and likes him, or one that is described by my GP as very thorough and is renowned in the area for subfertility? My GP didn't recommend one over the other, but if I'm spending almost £200 I want to pick the right one!

Ginger She knows how long I've been trying but in complete fairness to her she doesn't really mention her pregnancy unless there is a reason and I don't think she would have mentioned the scan if I hadn't said something that lead her to tell me. I feel quite bad because I never ask how's she's doing but I can't bring myself to have that conversation with her, I think she does understand though. I personally would say the doc that is renowned in the area of subfertility, I wanted to see a certain doctor that is really nice and felt comfortable talking to her, she was very understanding but wouldn't give me any more help - slightly different circumstance, I guess I'm just saying the nice doc doesn't necessarily give the best help, however that is only my experience.

Jassy That's rubbish for you too, I was hoping I wouldn't be so far behind my work pal and a mutual friend of ours that is pregnant but their due Feb and March next year.

Mister I've often thought that myself if there was someone who could talk to him but there's no one, I've not even told that many people and I don't think he has told anyone. It's so frustrating and emotionally draining. Haha thanks. I just feel that I've been trying so long that it won't happen especially at my age but hopefully the Soy will work.

Trees It's so hard not to be resentful of others especially when it has happened so quickly for them. I've had no side effects from the Soy, taken before bed but no head ache so far and I've been taking since Tuesday.

Welcome Alien I've never had a coil but I would book an appointment if you are worried, hopefully there won't be any damage.

Well off to two Halloween parties tonight. Hope all you lovely ladies have a great Halloween with your little ones whatever you may be doing and hopefully we will all have our second little one's by next Halloween

Ginger, you need a specialist. A friend of mine is going to a nice doc - but he just keeps sending her for more blood tests, does the same scans and tells her it's all fine and just keep trying. Useless, that's what I say.

We were supposed to go to a halloween party, I was panning to dress up as Poison Ivy - but DS fever got worse, up to 39.3, so cancelled at the last minute. Well, we have another one on sunday.

No parties for me tonight either Just sat at home nursing a G&T whilst DH is at work and DD is asleep. Do you mean the lego character or the weed Hazle Hope your little DS is feeling ok?
Hmm that does sound annoying for your friend. They are both fertility specialists who specialise in subfertility, so hopefully they will know what they are on about! I'm hoping they consider it as being a hormonal issue and put me on some kind of drug. One of them is a medical acupuncture specialist too so I have decided to go with him ( the friendly one!) If I'm not happy with his opinion I can always swap to the other one. I'm starting to come to the conclusion that this is going to be a case of unexplained infertility and it's just going to be a very long waiting game. Sigh.

Thanks for your advice bobsy I wish I'd never been given the bloody decision! I am hopeless at making decisions. Will just play it by ear anyway and see what he thinks....
I'm also terrible for avoiding conversations with pg women, or just avoiding them! I think I've mentioned before but I actually had to stop talking to a lady at work as I couldn't face the constant reminders with her growing belly and my flat one. Her DC is younger than my DD too. She's probably had her second one by now actually. A lady that works in Aldi has just started showing too and I try to avoid her when I go in for my shopping! Feel like a crazy woman!! It's just horrid when for the first time in a while you are thinking about something totally non ttc related, then BAM you walk right into a pregnant lady.

Hazle at the lady in the gym! Why would you do that to yourself!! Best/worst dressing I saw today was a teenage girl with jeggings so tight there was nothing left to the imagination, and a young asian lad wearing a girls backpack on his front

Jassy sorry for bfn for you, get stuck into some wine while you still can!

Hi alien also never had the coil, but I would definately recommend going to see your Dr about any concerns you do have, and outline the situation, maybe they will send you for a scan just to check everything is ok.

I did get some pretty terrible soy headaches, they wore off around lunchtime though. I've never suffered with migraines, but a lady on the soy thread did possibly get a migraine off hers. Bizarrely when you research a link between SIs and migraines, there is research to suggest that taking SI can reduce the occurrence of migraines!?

ginger I meant Poison Ivy from Batman. Dh and Ds were both supposed to be Batman..or is that Batmen then?

That sounds like a good call Ginger, could be useful to have an acupuncture specialist too. Was it your NHS GP who was advising you on private specialists?

I got my fertility appointment in the post today, not sure what to do. Do you all think it would be reasonable to wait a couple of weeks before cancelling in case things don't work out? I don't want to clog up the system for others who are waiting but the appointment is not until end January.

Hope everyone is enjoying hallowe'en! It's the first year we have lived here and we were totally unprepared for the number of trick or treaters, were completely cleaned out by 6.30! Lesson learnt for next year.

Ginger I'm terrible at making decisions and always chop and change my mind. The medical acupuncturist sounds like a good call. How soon will you get an appointment? Hopefully you won't need it if the Soy does the trick. I can't really avoid my work colleague but I do avoid looking at her too much so I can't see her bump. I'm so glad to talk to people who have the same feelings as me about this. A girl I used to work with who was on my FB was pregnant with #3 (she'll have had it by now) her first is a couple of months younger than my DD. How funny there is a pregnant lady working in my Aldi too, difficult too avoid as I shop at night and there's usually only one till on and its normally her. There was a heavily pregnant lady in Asda today, can't escape them!

Mister That's a difficult one, don't want to be negative and say you should hang on but I can understand what you mean.

I still haven't plucked up the courage to make an appointment at the docs, I can't even talk to OH, I'm nervous about bringing it up in case he has a go, I've not mentioned it since we had that row last week. It'll soon be time to test for ov, just ordered a pack of 50 ov tests from Amazon. I will however make sure I mention it when I'm in my fertile window.

Loads of trick or treaters tonight most of the sweets had gone by the time we left for the Halloween party. Halloween party was ok but DD just wouldn't join in with any of the games and clung to OH, then she got whingy so we left early. She's fine at pre-school, loves it and made a lot of friends but when it comes to parties she doesn't want to join in.

The worst I've seen recently is girls wearing leggings that you can see straight through to their knickers! Do they not look in the mirror. If I'd have go in to town today (like I was going to do) I'm sure I could have reported back on some terrible fashion sights! I have to say at the Halloween party there were some great Halloween outfits, people had made a really good effort.

Bobsy your Dh is being massively unreasonable, as you already know. Either he wants another DC or not, and if he does, you need to do something about it. It's like claiming you are looking for a new job, but sitting on your arse and refusing to even send your CV anywhere.

mister, I also don't want to be negative, but the appointment is only in January, so no harm in waiting a couple of weeks. I have an appointment in January as well - if I'm not pregnant by then, it's quite likely we need some help.

Yes we saw some great costumes last night, though zombie school kid was by far the most popular! DS was loving it but then a boy with a really scary mask came to the door (made me jump!) and after that he hid behind me every time the doorbell rang
Could you just book the appointment and tell DH the doctor suggested he come too as it concerns both of you? Then you can just be matter of fact and tell him the date without inviting a discussion / argument.
I got my CBD confirmation this morning, says 2-3 weeks when I was only expecting 1-2 (14 dpo today) so I feel reassured although still no symptoms. So I will stop posting now but will continue to lurk and keep my fingers crossed for all of you! Thanks for keeping me company the last few months.

I saw lovely ones at nursery but DH inexplicably loathes Halloween so we didn't put the jack o lantern in the window, and I spent the evening in a grump with him. Next year it will be my turn!

The train station was all blokes in great costumes and women in 'sexy' ones - depressing!

Mister, I'd keep the appointment for now - in this game as many options as possible are good! And if you cancel at relatively short notice, someone else will get a nice surprise when they get an appointment quickly.

Mister that's good news on the cbdigi! I always found that reassuring with DS when it went up to the next bracket! Id also hang on to the appointment a bit longer too.

I tested this morning again and BFN again (11 dpo). Odd twinge and creamy cm otherwise nothing. I should get AF today so not officially late although this is the first time I haven't spotted before AF due day! Jassy - did you test again?

Bobsy Id definitely book an appointment and tell DH that the GP wants him there too.

We had a very low key Halloween. No parties or trick or treaters! Red wine and pizza instead !

Oh yes, I was obsessively peeing for a couple of weeks after I got the BFP with DS - I had a chemical just before that, and the Cb digital never went past 1-2 weeks that time.

Really pleased mister-great news. I also think you should keep the appointment until nearer the date. Best not to tempt fate. Don't feel you have to disappear -it's nice to have a success story! Was it you who said you used preseed? Where did you get it? And what's it like to use? x

Didn't test again as AF made it irrelevant! Right on time - bloody hell, if this bit works like clockwork why can't the rest!

Feeling a bit better though now firmly into our self-imposed hiatus which I've just realised is 3 months off rather than 2 (avoiding August baby, which I'm now wavering on, plus enabling landmark holiday from a near relative that I know she's massiveky excited about, and 2 months off for that reason isn't the end of the world).

Anyway, I've gone out and bought some new shoes to cheer myself up. Last month was a new tailored suit. This is getting expensive....

With DS I think I went through about £30 in tests as I kept checking!