TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Bitchpeas I will pray that you conceive quickly. I think prayer is very powerful and I will definitely make a special prayer for you. I know it must be so hard and you're feeling as if something is not right with your body, if you still feel scared, please go visit your gp and have it checked out for your sanity. I'm sorry you had such an awful time after tfmr. That was the last thing you needed.

I hope it all works out for you x

Just marking my place!

My stats are TTC #4 (1st for DH) since Nov 2012, MMC in June 2014 (passed naturally)

Waiting for AF after MMC. Goodness knows when she'll arrive, I have PCOS and my cycle is all over the shop.

Ok ladies Ive managed to freak myself out so need a slap for googling but then can I have some reassurance please.

I have a pain in my left side, ive managed to convince myself its ectopic and am terrified

it started yesterday evening and is still there this morning; its like a dull ache rather than a sharp pain and theres no bleeding.

I cant go to the dr today as im working and its the holidays so have the kids home.

Im trying to persuade myself that its just trapped wind as I cant stop burping but im worried.

Smiling. Its wind. You'd know if itcwas ectopic, you would be in agony and unable to type. Enjoy your day and relax. X :)

Big hugs smiling, I'm the worst for go ogling. DH has banned me haha.

If it was ectopic you would know (so ive been told) because it would be very sharp pain and bleeding. How far gone are you now?
Go to the doctor when you get chance just for some reassurance.

Big hugs smiling, I'm the worst for go ogling. DH has banned me haha.

If it was ectopic you would know (so ive been told) because it would be very sharp pain and bleeding. How far gone are you now?
Go to the doctor when you get chance just for some reassurance.

Thank you, its ridiculous I wouldnt have thought anything of it last time but every little thing is stressing me out this time!

Its uncomfortable but not agonizing, its a dull ache that twinges quite sharply sometimes and is only on the left, which is what worried me

im 5.4 weeks treacle

It is probably everything settling in and stretching :)
I know it's hard not to worry. I'd be exactly the same!

Hi all
Just popping round the door.
Nothing new here, if AF doesn't come in 3 weeks I'm having tests and progesterone to kick start a bleed. Well hopefully make me bleed!
That's it really.
Still teary and sad. Pretty certain I'm not pregnant and had drinks out last night. Not even that many (how evil are hangovers?)

Take care all. I might come back and start posting soon but right now it hurts too much.

Smiling I had the same issue. I had sharp pains that come and go and had an early reassurance scan and it isn't ectopic. If the pain gets worse and there is discharge go to a&e and the gp will book you in for an early scan. Relax I'm sure it's nothing and we are extra paranoid over any little symptom. Google is not your friend but even I go google crazy when anything different happens to my body.

Marm, take it easy and take as much time as you want, you will be okay in the end x

Sorry, realised I never introduced myself. 36 (almost 37 – am I the oldest now? ) TTC #1 12ish months, TFMR Jan ‘14, MMC June ‘14. Cycle 1 again.

Bitchpeas I’m sorry you’ve had such a horrid time. I know what you mean, I have managed to convince myself I have scarring and Ashermans syndrome. I read something that said it was more common than people thought, not rare like they say just rarely diagnosed . If you had lots of ultrasound scans to check up though I am sure everything is fine. Ashermans is characterised by absent or very very light periods but lots of period pain at the time AF is due. There is an ashermans website which I found quite helpful but it did make me mildly hysterical. I am trying not to think about it for now. If you are really worried I would go and see you doctor, it cannot hurt.

This morning saw not one but two threads, something along the lines of ‘January EDDs, leaving first trimester and bumps starting to show’ and ‘July 2014 – the final stretch and the one where we all graduate to antenatal!!’. What a kicker. Happy for them obviously but why cant it be me?! Like you say English I just want my baby.

Hi all. My stats are 33, ttc #3 (although will be ohs first) MC last march and been ttc ever since with no luck.

I will catch up on everything soon and fingers crossed we all get our bfp soon!

I am sure I can remember pulling and stretching feelings in early pregnancy. It felt worrying but it was normal. If there was bleeding I could understand a panic, but I think twinges on their own are ok.

If you go to the doctor he would probably press on the area and see if it's tender to rule out ectopic. Could you do that yourself to put your mind at ease?

Why do I torture myself? Just been reading the December antenatal thread. Why???

Sending hugs marmalade xxx

Bitchpeas I think everyone here understands where you are coming from on some level.

Lots of fingers crossed for a BFP this month.

And hello Seaside Dolly. Sorry you're here, and wishing you a short stay, but the lovely ladies here will give you lots of support.

Treacle, I sometimes see the September mums thread in Active and it's pretty difficult. Think it days 'final stretch' or something on it now.

Truth is I'm actually quite glad I'm not about to give birth as I'm in a really good place at the moment and I don't think my son would have particularly enjoyed a sibling at such a young age. What I'm finding excruciatingly difficult is the thought that I will never give him a sibling, it's this that's killing me.

*says

The December bus are all excite to be sorting out their maternity. I was so looking forward to finishing in November.

Sorry Sebs, i can't remember what difficulties you've had. You've had two mc haven't you? Has your gp given any support?

Treacle it's just age unfortunately. GP won't help me unless I pay for fertility treatment privately, then they will do testing. Otherwise they won't, asked twice and no.

I have two MCs on record now, although one wouldn't be classed as 'clinical' so I'm not sure if they will argue if I have another one as to whether they will refer me or not.

I know I don't want IVF or IUI so I'm not sure what to do really bar what I'm doing!! Seems like everyone is seeing some expert but I'm not sure what the experts are doing exactly.

Oh sebs, that must be difficult :(
I know what you mean, the less tests and investigations the better.
I have my fingers crossed for you.

Thanks darling. I would happily have tests but I'm just not convinced they would help. I get positive opks every month and regular periods. I don't have a luteul phase defect, am ridiculously healthy, OH has knocked me up twice this year do I assume he is not firing blanks. I can only assume my eggs are elderly but IVF would likely use donor eggs and I don't think it would be fair to have one child that's genetically mine and one child that isn't, it would be too weird for me.

I can understand that.
It doesn't seem like there would be any reason for miscarrying.

Hopefully you will be lucky next time.
It's all so shit isn't it.

I hate how jealous I am. It seems like everyone is pregnant or due any minute. People keep saying "you're only young", which is true... but they don't realise that it took 4 months to get pregnant then 2 months before miscarrying. It's been 2 months since then so with the same cycle the years would just fly by.
I do have a short luteal phase though, the doctor isn't concerned though.

Ach, I just can't bear to look at the old antenatal threads. Always moaning about something related to being pg and it just comes across as ungrateful and ignorant - even though they're probably not, they're just naive to the heartache others have/are suffering.

We were ttc for eight months before I fell pg with dd and that seemed like forever, so I completely understand your frustration and concerns about time treacle. I've absolutely every faith you will get your baby before long hun, just hang in there. Maybe this next cycle is gonna be your turn!

Would you believe I have a birthday spa evening booked with OH and I am going to be on my period, potentially the heaviest day. Absolutely fucking typical.