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TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

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Treaclepie19 · 23/07/2014 07:45

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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Hope26 · 25/07/2014 19:31

Hello ladies managed to catch up slightly, this thread moves so fast.

a friend of mine has been struggling to conceive and I really feel for her. Her DH has a low sperm count and she has been recommended for IVF. I can't imagine how she must be feeling so ladies in all this mc and grief, at least we know we can get pregnant. There are always upsides to things in life. I really hope she is pregnant as she hasn't had her AF and she's three days late. I hope she doesn't need IVF treatment.

Broody I'm okay, just don't feel pregnant. I dunno what it is but I have no sore boobs, slight cramps here and there, no sickness and I do feel a little tired but not shattered. Maybe it's early stages that's why.. But I just don't feel pregnant. Weird but I hope it's all in my head.

I hope you all get BFPs soon. I want to see some good news on this thread!!

theonewiththenoisychild · 25/07/2014 19:31

thanks broody her hcg was 2 and they did a scan to check and scan was clear so they have discharged her. im sure if she got a bfp it cant be retained product. i dont like that word either seems callous calling it that but this is how it was put to her by the hospital Sad and not sure what else to say. i was just wondering if no af for such a long time is likely to mean she i pregnant or if its to be expected as i know her body has been through a lot not to mention the stress levels Sad

theonewiththenoisychild · 25/07/2014 19:31

thanks broody her hcg was 2 and they did a scan to check and scan was clear so they have discharged her. im sure if she got a bfp it cant be retained product. i dont like that word either seems callous calling it that but this is how it was put to her by the hospital Sad and not sure what else to say. i was just wondering if no af for such a long time is likely to mean she i pregnant or if its to be expected as i know her body has been through a lot not to mention the stress levels Sad

theonewiththenoisychild · 25/07/2014 19:31

thanks broody her hcg was 2 and they did a scan to check and scan was clear so they have discharged her. im sure if she got a bfp it cant be retained product. i dont like that word either seems callous calling it that but this is how it was put to her by the hospital Sad and not sure what else to say. i was just wondering if no af for such a long time is likely to mean she i pregnant or if its to be expected as i know her body has been through a lot not to mention the stress levels Sad

theonewiththenoisychild · 25/07/2014 19:32

sorry for duplicate posts phone had a wobble

broodylicious · 25/07/2014 21:16

jetpack, hello! Nice to see you back. Sorry to hear about your internal demons but hope you're working through them as well as you can be. I can understand your point re needing offline space.

hope, I wouldn't worry about how you're feeling or not - every pregnancy is different and every woman feels different when she's pregnant. Even one woman can have very different pregnancies each time! It's natural to worry though and, my goodness, I worried an awful lot throughout my pregnancy with my dd! Won't be long til that 12 week scan, then 20 weeks, then oh wow, baby Hope will be here SmileSmileSmile

broodylicious · 25/07/2014 21:20

noisy, it's my understanding that mc does weird shit to your body and so it's not crazy to think your friend's body is still recovering from it all. Emotional stress definitely plays a part too. I'd say maybe to go to see a GP again for blood tests if still no AF soon, just to check all is ok and she can at least put her mind at rest x

Hope26 · 25/07/2014 22:18

Thanks broody, that really does help calm me down. baby hope I like the sound of that!! ??

Hope26 · 25/07/2014 22:45

A women got killed in Gaza and she was pregnant. They did a cesarean and the baby girl is premature and has 50/50 survival chance. She is beautiful. I just want to take her home :(

Hope26 · 26/07/2014 01:49

A friend just had a baby in feb and she is pregnant again due around the same time as me!! Hehe that's amazing news and i know most likely something will go wrong with mine so I have told anyone yet! Not keeping my hopes high.

Metalhead · 26/07/2014 07:38

Welcome back jettpack! Sorry to hear you've been having a hard time, but glad that you're feeling a bit less stressed now.

I've been having AF cramps since last night, even though she's not due until Wednesday. Also had some side boob pain last night, though that seems to have disappeared again this morning. Dare I hope that the cramping is a good sign...? Probably just my body being extra shit again.
I poas this morning and it was BFN, but 10dpo is still early for me and the wee was quite weak as I'd been up lots during the night. Oh well, here's hoping that a weekend visiting relatives will distract me!

Any news your end sebs?

Hope everyone has a nice weekend!

sebsmummy1 · 26/07/2014 08:50

Hey Metal, everything crossed that you are too early. Well 13 dpo here, no sign of AF yet but this cycle really was a weird one so I'm putting no stock in that. If I actually ovulated on my normal day of cd 13 instead of cd 11, she could be three days away still.

It does seem as though I have lengthened my luteul phase from 12 days to 14 somehow. Only problem with that is I'm not convinced the first part of my cycle is now particularly strong (no EWCM this cycle, just watery).

I decided to pee on one of my clearblue monitor sticks and it was a big big fat negative, so I'm 99% sure I'm not pregnant unfortunately. If any hpts appear through my letterbox this morning I will do one just to put a full stop behind this cycle. Felt pretty down this morning but all I can do is keep going.

HopefulMum111 · 26/07/2014 11:22

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sebsmummy1 · 26/07/2014 12:09

Bfn for me sadly. Totally expected but still a kick in the teeth.

Jetpackplease · 26/07/2014 12:53

Sorry for the BFN Sebs. It doesn't matter how much you expect it, it's still horrible to have that tiny bit of hope dashed Thanks Be kind to yourself and try to muster some CUTO.

Metalhead · 26/07/2014 13:49

Ah sorry sebs! Agree with jet, even if you expect it it still sucks. I don't know what to think, boobs aren't overly sore today but still feeling crampy and my back aches. I'll be right royally pissed off if AF shows up next week! Trying not to drink too much coffee and wine at family gathering today just in case...

LittleMissSnowShine · 26/07/2014 14:06

Hi everyone - hope u are having a good Saturday, tho sorry to hear about bfnsebs Sad

I caved and poas last night and also bfn. I'm on CD37 post-mc and while long cycles are not unusual for me cos of my stupid pcos and I have had a bfn there is still a small part of me that thinks the v light spotting I have had over last 3/4 days could be implantation bleeding and maybe it's too early for bfp. Also feeling absolutely exhausted which having been pg 5 times now, I am pretty familiar within early pg.

Buttttt spotting and tiredness could also just be AF witch on her way. Grr. Either way, I'm away for a snooze while DS2 naps and DS1 is away to the shops with my mum. I don't think I've taken a nap since ds2 was just a couple of weeks old so....still keeping fx!!

Boozle80 · 26/07/2014 14:30

Oh rubbish sticks Seb - I thought it was going to be a BFP for you too :(. Drink lots of lovely cold wine in the sunshine and have some time for you

BitchPeas · 26/07/2014 17:25

Sorry about the BFN sebs it sucks! Wine for you.

I think I ovulate today so have been DTD with gusto....roll in 2ww! It's my first ever one, am I going to go crazy with impatience? Grin

sebsmummy1 · 26/07/2014 18:16

My cervix is now moving down so the tests are right. Also means the opks were right too as I think I will get AF on Monday with 14 day LP. Just in time for the heaviest day of flow to be on the celebratory Spa day, marvellous. You really couldn't make it up.

ToriB34 · 26/07/2014 18:58

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LittleMissSnowShine · 26/07/2014 19:37

Sorry Tori - bracelet is a lovely idea. I mc this time 2 years ago and would have been due Feb 2013 and I thought of our little lost one a lot when I saw the snowdrops coming thru in feb this year. Hang in there x

linadee26 · 26/07/2014 20:02

Hi ladies, can I join please?

28, TTC#2 after MMC in June. Still no AF but have decided not to wait.

I know I'm probably setting myself up for a fall in a way but hoping it happens fast. The urge and need to be pregnant again is so strong for me :(

HopefulMum111 · 26/07/2014 21:09

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Tranquilitybaby · 27/07/2014 04:18

Hello jumping on the TTC wagon again. Shit scared after my ectopic in April but ready to try again. Good luck everyone.

sebs waves hello! Sorry to hear it was bfn x