TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

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Hopefully we'll see more BFPs on this one!

Have you seen that youtube video of people drunk down a high street (security cam footage) with David Attenborough narration on top? "The male exhibits his mating dance" while a drunk man falls over, that kinda stuff.

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Evening ladies, hope everyone's well? I'm going slightly insane right now, I'm 15dpo, at least 2 days late (never gone past 13dpo while ttc) and not a sign of af in sight, not a single spot! (I normally spot a day or two before af) BUT bfn Monday and this morning! :/ and my temps are still high! Arrghhhh!!

How bizzare cooper fingers crossed for you though!

Still waiting for referral letter. Was promised early this week and now its mid. I wouldn't have been so worried as I know how crap nhs post is, but we got a letter yesterday saying my telephone appointment was cancelled as I was 'being referred back to the care of my GP'.

Not read back on the last page, too tired and words are blurring into one. Hope everyone's ok and I'll catch up later x

Temp still up this morning but started spotting this afternoon, no idea what's going on

Hmmmm interesting..... I don't know a lot about temping but it drops if af due and stays up for pregnant yeah? Sounds promising tho!

I'm sad and defeated today :-( still no referral for the clinic as promised last week so I decide to phone them this afternoon. No letter has been sent out. Our notes were triaged on July 29th, that was the last entry. Gone past angry, just depressed. Someone from the referrals team is meant to be calling me back tomorrow. Update you tomorrow. Another week lost.

Please please put in complaints at the surgery and hospital Victoria. The incompetence is breathtaking, and each week is a week lost. It may make you feel better to get it all onto one whopping badass letter and make them buck up their ideas. We're all with you xx

I second that, you should definitely complain, I've had some shocking treatment at the gynae unit at my local hospital and if anything else goes wrong I'll definitely be making a formal complaint.

If they get enough complaints they might at lease look at their procedures

Woohoo! Result! Called up clinic again this morning and have an appointment! September 2nd! Going to collect the paperwork myself from the clinic this afternoon instead of waiting for them to lose it in the post!

Any more symptoms cooper, blueberry?

Afternoon ladies,

Firstly Vicky thank god for that!! not long to wait now!!!

Cooper any news??

Af is due Tuesday and ive had so many symptoms but everytime I think this im let down.

Ive been nauseous for about a week now, one episode of actually being sick and many of trying to be, last couple of days ive had cramps (alot like AF) so im hoping she doesnt turn up early. My boobs still hurt so bad but I had it last month to.

Please slap me for thinking to much into it all!!!

Evening ladies, victoria that's fab news! :D

And fingers crossed blue

As for me, turned into full blown af last night. Not happy! :/

Sorry about af cooper, it sounded promising :-(

Good luck blueberry! I'm not going to scorn you for symptom spotting. When are you due af or bfp?

We've got to fill out shed loads of forms before this appointment, like half a rainforest! The only question I'm worried about is frequency of sex per month! Seriously going to have to lie! No idea what to say! How many should I say without it looking like too much or too little!

Vicky Id average it out and around eod.

AF is due Tuesday, trying to decide whether to test tomorrow and possibly ruin my day or make it the best day ever or wait until AF is actually due.

Cooper sorry Af turned up how dare she.

Im so mega tired today all my joints hurt and my eyes are fuzzy but im stuck at work till 1 boooo

cooper Sorry she got you.

blue fx for the elusive bfp for you. Sucks you were in work on a saturday! Hopefully home chillaxin' now though.

vic forms? you really are getting the worst of everything with this referral lark. We were asked by consultant about frequencey of dtd, i just said eod but more around ov. the eod was a slight exaggeration but he was happy with that answer. I think they just want to make sure you are doing it enough/at the right time. I think i'd be vague. Like, i didn't mention we basically don't dtd between ov and af! I let "eod" cover that!

Hi lil you had no forms at all? We have a medical history form and child welfare form each, a consent for various types of research, a personal identification form where we have to attach a photo! There are all sorts of questions about my cycle and if I get spots and do I get mucus mid-cycle!

Nope, no forms. They've mentioned the child welfare form, but from what I've seen online its only a couple of pages...are you a peado etc type stuff! They just asked questions and jotted down in my notes when we were there. We had to complete one to confirm eligibility for funding but that was just age, height, weight, whether we smoke, and confirming we don't have any kids. Maybe i'll end up with more forms when we go in to be told more about the icsi...if they ever send the frigging appointment!

Hi All.
Hope everyone's had a good week.

Cooper - sorry af got you. :-(

Blue - fx

Victoria - you must have worst nhs ever! But yes just day every other day and if you want to make it a more comfortable lie my friends consultant was happy with eod between days 10 and 20 and a bit less the test of the month.

Lil - Hope the appointment is quick and you can then get this show on the road!

We had a lovely week camping in exmoor although it was ruined a little by us having to drive all the way back home for a night so dh could attend an interview (which he's still not heard back from so probably not good news) and our telephone appt with gp. He is finally putting the referral in after my 3rd day 21 was still not good and dh 2nd sa was even worse. Instead of a count of only 1 million like last time there weren't even enough to count this time!

At least now we know why 2.5 years later we are still childless!

He's put the referral into urology as sa is so bad with a note about working with gynae because of my results. I just assumed there would be a fertility team that did both!

So now even though we know we will not conceive naturally I still can't get out of the habit of trying. I will ov Tuesday not that that helps at all.

will definitely be chasing the appointment.... the witch has arrived. onto cycle 19 then

Hmmm I don't think I've ovulated this month.... Cd17 today and no sign of ewcm or my 3 day ov pains! Not that it matters as wouldnt have got fertilized anyway!

Hope youve all had a nice weekend x

Evening all, been trying to avoid thinking about ttc this weekend, had a few drinks with dh last night and think I succeeded in forgetting!
Af tailing off now so onto the next cycle (fingers crossed!)

Sorry not caught up with you all but hope you've all had lovely weekends :)

Oh and vic - I ov on day 20/21 most months!

Think I have ov pains tonight, dh won't have sex though, and wouldn't yesterday. Said there was no point. I said you never know there might be a rogue good one in there doubt it though as they never get renewed! I hate the lazy f%@#! sometimes I really do. Why is it always the woman doing everything possible when the man just doesn't care?! Its him that needs to wank or dtd frequently to improve his swimmers but he hates sex. Great, picked a good one didn't I?! FFS!

Just wish we could have a child so we need never think about sex ever again if that makes him happier! What the F is wrong with me?! Am I too hideous to shag?!

Sorry rant over. I'm off to cry into my pillow!

Oh vic. Going through this makes everything feel wrong but your dh loves you and is unfortunately just displaying how low he feels in all the wrong ways. Hate him tonight for being a tw*t but try and talk to him tomorrow about it.

Selfishness is the hardest thing to bear from the other halves isn't it? I want to wallow on self pity but have spent all week since hearing the 0 swimmers result making sure dh knows I still want him. However I'm not even sure he cares about the results. .. He's not mentioned them once!

oh girls. men are such odd creatures. I think I would have preferred it to have been me with issues rather than dh. at least then I could have felt more able to do something rather than being a nag. Vic you are not hideous. you need to talk to him calmly in a day or two and explain how this makes you feel. does ge drink a lit of caffiene? since dh cut down on it his druve has improved. i secretly switched his coffee to decaff! he now knows and has cut ut cimoketeky where possible. tell him you know there is probably"no point" but that it helps you to feel you are doing everything you can. I found explaining that helped get my dh back on board. I also try and reiterate regularly that "we" are infertile, not him. I don't want him to take on the blame, even though there are times I feel like its completely unfair that I'm going through this when there's nothing wrong with me. just remember, and perhaps remind him, for better for worse, in sickness and in health. you are a team, and the easiest way through this shit is by leaning on each other, not shutting each other out.