TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

[m33r]

Hopefully we'll see more BFPs on this one!

Good luck m33r! Only other thing I can think of is pineapple core at 1-5 dpo is it? Will let you know if I think of anymore!

Sorry everyone has been feeling a bit down, I will join you all on that one. I had a lovely month off but it feels as though it's just made the crash back to reality even harder. All the thoughts I had put away for a month are all resurfacing now and it is getting me down. I'm convinced it just won't ever happen for us and am trying to get used to that idea.

I had a referral letter back from gynae and they say it's still another 6 months wait to get an app. The GP told me it was a 4-5 month wait 3 months ago! Do you think it's worth going back to the GP to push it along, or ringing the hospital?
DHs SA is in 3 weeks so maybe I will wait to see what the outcome of that is.

Blue fingers crossed you have started ov'ing again. Here's hoping this is your month.
vic it's so frustrating all these waiting lists isn't it. I really would try and push it if I were you though, knowing what you know it's bloody ridiculous that you still have to wait for further tests/app.

Hi to everyone else, hope we are all trying to carry on with our mindfulness! We really need some good news soon on here, have we really only had one BFP in two threads??!

Hi everyone, looks like we're all at similar stages but I am shocked how everyone's journey is varying so much depending on their GP or area they live!

I work in private healthcare (previously NHS) and my advice to you all with many years experience of dealing with the NHS is to constantly fight and stand up to everyone. Chase up results, push for tests that need doing and if you're not happy, make a complaint. Every GP practice has a patient support representative, contact them and make yourself heard. It's amazing how much things can change if they know there is a complaint going against them. Practices are monitored for how many complaints are made against them, and believe me, they don't want to deal with the paperwork. Get your local MP involved if necessary, NHS hates political intervention!
If you're not happy with your GP, it is your patient right to change GPs without being asked. Change GP practice if you need to. At the end of the day, you're not there to make friends, you are there to get the best healthcare for you and your partners which will enable you to hopefully get the baby we all so much deserve along this shitty ttc path. Who cares if you piss the receptionist off because you're ringing everyday to chase it up? I can assure you that they have a lot worse patients to deal with! Be strong ladies. (Right that's my Monday morning rant over, apologies to anyone I've offended!!!)

On a more positive note, I had some good news today. I had a lovely lady ring me up to book our first appointment at the fertility clinic. The next appt is 4th August so about 8 weeks time which is a lot earlier than I thought. I was expecting September/October time so really chuffed. I have to admit that we have been lucky with a great GP.

I agree that we need some more positive news, it's due to come our way on this thread surely?

Hear hear non well said!

I've phoned my GP's back to get a 2nd opinion re early referral. I've got a call back from the practice partner later on today! He's the doc that referred my new fb friend after her hubby got the same diagnosis we have and she said they only had one sa and had not even been ttc a year and a half when referred! Plus she was younger, I'm fretting about my old age lol!

Good job vic! Hopefully you'll have some good news later today!

Go me! Other doc agrees with me that we have grounds for early referral and said I'd obviously done my research! Said there was no point repeating the sa as things unlikely to improve and no point repeating my bloods as they plus the ultrasound show I ovulate. No point delaying as my 35th birthday approaches. Result! Feel more positive now. My new friend said they got appointment 4 months after referral and then was starting treatment 8 weeks after that!

Well done vicky its good to do your research im glad he agreed with you.

Hopefully it won't take to long!!

Feeling wiped today plus I keep getting dizzy so getting into bed at 8 good times.

Hope everyone is ok

vic that is great news! Well done for pushing! Keep us posted x

Vic what an amazing result! just goes to show non is right about standing up for yourself. make sure you chase them up again if you haven't heard in a couple of weeks to make sure they've actually sent the referral!!

Brilliant news vic! Hope that appointment comes soon.

Great news Vic! About time too!

M33R, wow sounds like you are really going for it and rightly so after your flush! How's the no alcohol and coffee going? I've cut out coffee for 2 wks now and not missing it much as I'm feeling better for it! I'm also on a very healthy eating plan lots of fresh fruit and veg, few carbs and only on the wkend. I haven't managed to cut out alcohol but I have cut down.

M33R sounds like you have everything covered! Go for it!!!! Hope it's your month!

As for me, I need a slap! Cd23 here, no usual pre af sore boobs and no pre af spotting so far. Af due Saturday and would usually have both of those things by now. Maybe the change in my diet is impacting those things......but I can't help but get my hopes up a little bit.....SLAP ME!!!!!!

fx its a good sign mam and not just the diet! but even if it is that's good news that its improving your cycle!

Thanks lil, from what I've read the no sore boobs could be the diet. But not sure about the spotting, won't hold my breath as no doubt the spotting will start later on or tomorrow! How you doing lil?

What are peoples general opinion on drinking or smoking around (we are both social smokers, none during the week but a few with drinks at weekend) ovulation days? do people obstain or cut down? we have heard such conflicting ideas, basically doctor told my OH last week it wount make a difference

Afternoon Ladies,

Blueeyes Ive cut down on everything im eating healthy, exercising and havent been drinking unless af is here and only 1 or 2 drinks. Trying for this long I dont want to risk anything.

Mama Fx its a god sign.

Ladies I have a new symptom pain....

Electrical like pains in the right side of my stomach and down towards my pelvis.

I vaguely remember poking pains in my foof during the night to.

Any ideas or am I just weird?

Thanks Blue, hope they are good signs for you! I am on crotch watch for the spotting....just know it will come so I need to stop being silly getting my hopes up!

Thanks Mama Im only 5 or 6 dpo is the symptoms I had at cd13 ish were ovulation but im trying not to get my hopes up.

Af due 21st and gynae at on 19th so not sure whether to try and test before or just wait and see.

Will they be able to tell if im pg when they do all the checks?

Hi ladies.

Will catch up with all later but really need to vent if you don't mind?

As previously mentioned dh has had a letter from gp telling him to make routine appointment for test result. Dh has insisted on getting 2nd sa done before he'll bother going for results as it won't change anything. Could in all take weeks!
Having had no contact from gp since my bloods I rang to check if results were in. They were but the receptionist was useless and read them out but clearly knew little...One was inconclusive the other satisfactory but she couldn't work out which was which and didn't know if I had to see the gp or not, or whether a re test is needed or not!!!
Useless but now even more worried by dh having to see doctor. Definitively suggests bad news if I could get 'inconclusive' results by phone.

How do I get dh to understand how important this is??? For my sanity even if it doesn't change anything? He really doesn't get how much it effects me. Sleeping even worse than normal and finding it impossible to concentrate at work.

Any advice gratefully received.

Maybug I would make the appointment for you both to attend GP and tell him that's what you have done because it is having such a negative effect on you emotionally and you feel you both need to speak with GP asap for your own sanity!! Poor you I hope you get an appointment soon as most times the not knowing is worse than the results.

Hi May maybe you just need to tell him the truth.

There could be a significant reason why the doctor has asked for the appointment before the second SA.

Theres no point in him putting it off, its better to find out sooner in case something needs to be done.

If it is nothing brilliant but just in case.

My dp would be the same May although I know he would be mega worried about it which is why he would put it off.

Blue I'm not sure how it works with the tests, but I'm sure you could poas on the morning of your appointment just to check. Hope it's good news for you!

Still on crotch watch....swore I wouldn't obsess but the lack of spotting/sore boobs is...lets say...making me wonder......

blueeyes I have long been an advocate of the carry on as normal but I am 20months so have stopped drinking alcohol and coffee and trying to up my and DH's veg/seed/calcium intake. I maintain however that I obvs need all the help I can get and that's why I'm doing it not because I think partaking whilst ttc will damage any baby.

Fwiw, I used to say to people imagine I had stopped drinking 20months ago - all that champagne; all the cocktails, all the celebrations - but now I think, maybe if I had stopped I'd be siting here with a 6month old.

In answer to your question mama it has been very easy and I wonder why I never did it before. I love the theatre and sense of occasion with drinking but have kept that up by drinking my soft drinks out of nice glasses and mixing them up - ginger beer; line and soda etc instead of just copious amounts of diet coke!

But again blueeyes it's a personal choice once made recently and I don't think you'd damage a potential baby!

mam where are you on cycle compared to usual with spotting etc Etc. Sorry lost track but want to focus on specifics when crossing everything for you (is that weird?!) x

Please call me Mama lol I so miss my mama31 name I wish I could get it back!!!

Anyway, M33R I usually spot 5-8 days before af. 5 would be most common. I am due af on sat and no sign of spotting as yet! also no sore boobs which would definately be here by now, but I'm putting that down to my diet as I have read the diet I'm on helps pre af sore boobs.

I know what you mean re the alcohol, sometimes I think I should cut it out completely...and others I think I want to live life while I'm waiting for my bfp. I am trying to be much healthier though and have cut out the coffee which is a big step for me....one step at a time eh?! lol

I know im stupidly getting my hopes up a little bit but I'm 90% certain my body is just playing cruel tricks again...I guess I'll know soon enough x

And no M33R that is not weird at all lovely xx

I'm OK thanks mama. hsg booked for 8.30 Thursday morning then this cycle we aren't allowed to ttc. haven't quite got my head around that bit yet. just hoping I have a nice short cycle this month so we can get back on it asap! I just want the hsg to be here now!

may I like the double appt idea. tell dh you want him to go for support then just be like "oh and we need to discuss dhs results"! or tell him to stop being a jerk. if the Dr wants to see him the 2nd sa may not be necessary. sorry to use Vic's dhs results as an example, but its better to get the answers and move forward, not wait another month and be lower down in the queue! and if the results are fine then great. or if there's something like a low count or motility issue you can take steps to improve it now.

blue I really hope it was ov for you and that these weird symptoms at least mean that if nothing more (although obvs hope it means more!)