The Berries: The one where The Berries cease to exist after a spate of waxy knicks and a'hem seepage (thread 20)

[funkymonk]

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 12+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooooh aren’t we strict!

I am finding it simply impossible to keep up!

Bushy / RP as others have said, please head over to the chopper thread as soon as you feel ready. I suspect you will have a whole host of questions and new concerns that people in the chopper will be able to help with. Think somebody asked about early scans... I had one at 6w5d and saw a heartbeat (but was measuring 5 w 6d). PM me if you have any specific questions

RP i am so proud of the first basting BFP for the berries...think you need a trophy

Barking I saw your comment about the early pimping. I still think it's the best plan... I always believe the anticipation of primping was worse and I preferred to get it out of the way and get the bfn and move on until the next day when i could pimp again
Always told myself that no matter when or how many times I pimped it wouldn't change the end outcome. Anyway for those waiting to pimp, my lips are sealed and i wont encourage you but secretly think you should get it over and done with If i were you Barking I would def be primping every day now you know the trigger shot out... I can even dig out the stats on % of people who get a bfp at 9dpo who go on to get a bfp at 14dpo if you like

Arr barking bless your dh. Why is it so difficult!! Crossing everything for you. Sounds v sensible to test on Sunday. Still waiting for phone call from clinic. I actually don't know where this 6 weeks 1 day business this Friday has come from, what with the Ivf I don't know when they're dating things from, if it was from my breakthrough bleed after sniffing then that would be way longer than 6 weeks and if it's since et then that's only 4 weeks so totally confused.

Thanks merkin will come on over and ask.

Where for art thou rp baster queen?

Well I'm still in bed wearing down the battery life on my I pad. But longer then I need to get sorted for my day!

RP I'm beyond excited for you!!

I can't remember if I congratulated Winoh and Bushy - am away at the mo and finding it hard to keep up - but in case not, congratulations, ladies. Really so pleased for you all and hope that it signals a mass exodus into the chopper

Just been to my Pilates class for the first time in aaages and found out the instructor is 26 weeks pg. She is one of the only people in RL that knows I'm TTC. She told me back last year that she'd been TTC over 2 years - I'm so thrilled for her that I almost starting blubbing during the class! I really wanted to ask if it was au naturel or if she'd had help but I didn't like to in front of everyone. Feeling quite positive now that it can still happen after all this time!!

Hey Sid. How's things with you?

Bushy I had a scan a 5 weeks. I thought I was 6 weeks though and the scan showed just a sac. I panicked and was left in limbo for another 6 days while waiting for another scan. The next scan the baby had grown as it should have in a week. Even though I thought I was by then 7 weeks I was measuring 6 weeks 1 day. There was a heartbeat. If you have a scan Friday and it's too soon they'll prob make you wait another week for another one, whereas waiting a few days more for the initial one might make all the difference
Did you say you still had bleeding/ spotting?

RP!!! Congratulations!! Sorry to come late to the party but I have been limiting mumsnet and dr google time so I missed it!

Bushy, I have an early scan booked for next wed. I'll be 6w2d. I'd decided originally to wait till 8 weeks. But I'm away for a couple of weeks with work and would just rather know before I go.

I'm still struggling with anxiety. Why is this so difficult??!! Already been to the gp twice and the walk in centre. One day at a time...

Just dropping in to say I'm so happy for RP. Well done girly!

Right feel more sorted now. Spoke to nurse at clinic, who said I'll be 6 weeks 6 days on day of scan so optimal time. I asked how it is calculated and they count from egg collection and add on 2 weeks. Just phoned dh and he said there's nothing at all optimal about it that's just when they could squeeze it in. He said he's got a lot on at work and it's an awkward time of day to get out so isn't going to come. Also he thinks it's going to be a bit inconclusive so may be a bit of a waste of time. He did ask did he need to be there, I suppose he doesn't really but just might need a hand to hold dependant on news. He did say of course he's interested in the result.

Sending out lots of Berry power vibes, lots of understandable anxiety going on for our diffed and soon to be diffed ladies.

Bushy it sounds like they've reached 6w1d by tacking the 'average' 14 day follicular phase length on to the time since et (based on the average 28 day cycle). That would make sense.

I have the worst lurgee known to mankind at the moment - sod the weird spot (which has actually now gone, woohoo!), if anything's going to derail shag week it's my hacking cough and snotty nose - sexy!!!

As I'm working at home today I called our GP yesterday to ask if I could pop in today to collect my Day 21 bloods. Duly walked over during lunch to find they're closed for 'staff training' between 1pm - 2pm. Pub lunch more like!! Why didn't the stupid receptionist mention that when i called yesterday? So annoying!

sorry, meant ec not et bushy

eep, X post! Glad you got your answer!

Win I'm afraid the worrying doesn't get easier. The chopper thread is your friend as you will find reassurance that people know how you feel

bushy I'm not going to say what I think about your dh but I will say this - do not go to the scan on your own.
Doesn't matter if it's good or bad news, it's emotional and you should have a hand to hold. My mate gave me that advice having been to one without her husband.

merk I read your post before I saw who posted it and knew it was you!! I'll be 10dpo tomorrow.... DH has just told me he might be away this weekend, which means he won't be around for pimping results on Sunday. I've got loads of cheapies just sitting there, soooo tempted. Like you said, it doesn't change the end result, and even if I had a chemical I'd rather know that it had fertilised.

Nice to hear from you win, good luck for the scan, keep us updated!

Bushy i'm with Barking - you need your DH with you at the scan and quite frankly (in the nicest possible way) he is a knob for not even contemplating being there. Get him told

Barking I am lurking and praying for you. I will hunt down the gods of fertility and poke their eyes out with a spoon if this doesn't work for you this time

Nolly can you add people who kiss noisily and slurp-ily on the train or near me should be given the death penalty to your manifesto please?!

Hmm, know what you mean ladies. I think he will probably change his mind by Monday, I just need to let him realise this in his own time. He's not a knob really, it's just I think this ttc/ Ivf lark has made him a little cynical.

Ha ha love the idea of merkin poking out the eyes of the fertility gods, make sure it's a blunt one merkin!!

Poor fertility gods, with Merk on their trail!

Bushy that sounds like a more reassuring situation and I think your DH will come around he better

Barking you are so good if you wait till Sunday! Will be secretly hoping you crack and pimp early though. I am a total hypocrite in this respect!

Thanks Pip and Win. I went to Morrisons today and bought a Clearblue Digi, and then had a heartstopping 90 seconds as I waited for the hourglass symbol to stop flashing. It said I am 2-3 weeks pg, which the dr will interpret at 4-5 weeks. Weird!

I am still on constant knockerwatch and might not move over to the chopper till about 6 weeks.

Ffs. Knickerwatch. I am looking at my own gusset, not other women's tits.

at knockerwatch RP!!

And there was me assuming your knockers were your convincing pg symptom!

Knockerwatch and knickerwatch are both perfectly plausible ttc activities!! The clusterdiff is very much underway, hopefully a few more to join very soon. Has anyone cracked and poas?!

Glad that you've got the scan booked in bushy!and I'm sure your dh will come with you in the end.

Sorry to hear you've got the lurgi rain, get better soon! Nothing like a cold to make you feel super sexy eh!?

Afm, temps suggest I've still not ovulated and I'm CD 15 now...And thats with two acu sessions meant to bring on a strong ovulation. No ewcm either and I'm wondering if my general malaise is screwing with my body!

Found work very depressing today - I need out! In the mean time I'm focusing on trying to be positive and happy. Anyone read the Mind-body fertility connection? There is a chapter called "the imperfect world of the perfectionist". It rang very true for me!

beaky I agree! How are you? Feeling any more cheerful?

funky yes very tempted by a more demanding and sociable job. Would stay in the Midlands but spend more time in London and other areas. I lived there for 8 years and am from a town just outside London so all friends and family are in the area! Thing is, my current role is perfect for having a baby....argh decisions! It's never easy is it?! How long before your DH heads to NZ?

feather I do think about moving back but not sure I could readjust to the housing market - I'm probably priced out of anywhere I'd like to live! My friends with kids approaching school age are starting to leave too now. Are you looking forward to your hen?

tiger when will you hear back from the interview? Keeping all available fingers (that aren't holding tissues for the tap that has replaced my nose) crossed that you get through to the next stage! I haven't read that book(?) - who's it by/where's it from? I could do with some positive thinking material too at the moment. I think the fact my EDD is now only a week away is weighing heavily on me, and I'm no closer to getting re-diffed or knowing why it's not happening. [pathetic glum face]

rosie and beaky how are you both doing today?

Lovely but absent boodle, lady and otters I hope you're all well. We miss you!

bushy I can sort of see why your DH has shied away from the scan, I bet he's a bit scared/worried himself but I do hope he realises he needs to go with you of his own accord before Monday.

Finally got my day 21 results back, totally normal (as expected) - 41umol (or whatever the unit is). One test to tick off at least before FC appt in July. Just MrP's spaff test to go.