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The Berries: The one where The Berries cease to exist after a spate of waxy knicks and a'hem seepage (thread 20)

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funkymonk · 05/05/2014 21:56

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 12+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooooh aren’t we strict!

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HampshireBlues · 22/05/2014 19:33

Chloe hope your scan went ok.

Barking you're right about having the internet to support & find out information. I have afew RL friends who I am quite honest with about the whole mess of TTC. However, you can't be as honest and the empathy is lovely but they don't really get it.

Haven't pimped at all but I never was one for opening presents before Christmas day / my birthday as always disappointed.

Bushy hope you're doing ok, sending you lots of virtual hugs.

Loving the predictive text for pessary, perhaps that should go in the next thread title! Reminds me though when I bought my last car I could choose the number plate. One of the options was PE55ARY....oddly didn't choose that one!

greatbigbushybeard · 22/05/2014 20:24

Lol hb!!

I certainly love the internet for you ladies but I don't know , maybe ttc pre internet might have been simpler and less worrying because sometimes when you google you come across stuff that really shits you up. I'm sure doctors wouldn't mind going back to pre internet days, certainly for their patients, as you goggle gas and stomach aches and then go tell your doctor you have giardiasis... My dh actually did this in RL, the doctor was like you haven't been to any tropical places to get exotic got rut, you just have gut rot!!

lumen yes she hasn't been very helpful but my usual nurse, who is very helpful and precise, is on leave.

Today's lunchtime conversation was a corker, all pg talk centred round pg college. All, I'm being much more relaxed with my 2nd, having 3 cups of tea a day... Does your dh want a boy... Are you having any wine... Doctors say it's better to be relaxed and have wine then stressed and not... Loads of women get drunk and not know they're pg... Everyone chipping in with what they did that was so unsuitable when they were pg.... Agghhhhh!!! Just sat there very quietly.... Later on when talking about staff deployment we had oh well so and so will be going off and having a baby soon... Grrrrr.

Oh yes, on top of this v draining week and exhausting term, we also had external observations. This was only for 20 mins by an inspector. The head gave me fb and gave me a good, i normally get outstanding. He did explain why, said some of the children were restless and fussy, I seemed tense, group that was working outside for beg part of lesson then came in and were a bit slow to settle so I said quickly come & sit down quickly as I had so much to cram in to show the high levels of participation and wanted to show then starting their tasks. They weren't sat in normal places as I wanted some ch that struggle to sit with adults, they were then a bit noisy and my 2 observers were sat in the middle of this. I'd normally have them further back but as I was doing a split starter that table was being used.... I was a little disappointed as know I'm normally counted on to be outstanding. However inspector looked at my books and said she could tell I was normally excellent as work was excellent quality, also head told her I 'm normally better. It does seem a bit bloody nit picky and do you know what, I could have sat there and given this whole nightmare week as an excuse but you know what I still got a good even with all this shit going on. Does this observation bollocks sound familiar to you teacher berries?

Ooh, test day for both of us hb sending you lots of luck. I need to go and buy some tests but almost thinking there's not much point. I will test but I'd be v surprised.

HampshireBlues · 22/05/2014 20:51

Bushy I have no idea about teaching assessments but that seems a little hard ass! Doesn't your head know what's going in; couldn't they have diverted them?

As for the pg discussions, I really admire you; it must have been difficult. I am pretty lucky in that I share an office with 2 older ladies and can hide away from the outer world so can avoid those conversations.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow too.

RevoltingPeasant · 22/05/2014 21:04

I share an office with a childless 59yo man who I'm fairly sure would make a swift exit if I said anything about ttc, mucus, embryos or anything else related Grin

FeatherFeather11 · 22/05/2014 21:32

Will be thinking of you tomorrow bushy. The pregnant colleague scenario is all too familiar. Currently doing a collection for a gift for the colleague who is due the same week I would have been.

Everything crossed for you hb! Very best of luck and Berrie power to you both.

Teaching assessments sound rank bushy! I'd buckle if I had people watching me do my job. I've said it before, but my hat's off to all the teacher berries - don't know how you all do it and stay sane.

barking agree re pre-internet days being tougher. I guess people who were in our position were just at the mercy of doctors. Glad we live in a world where we can all communicate with people going through a similar thing. Our mates have been amazing, but you can only go on at them to a point before it can be a bit much for people.

nolly know what you mean about some months being zen-like while others are much tougher. I'm now 6-7dpo and symptom spotting like a loon - it's my hen next weekend (a week before the wedding, not so clever in hindsight), but I want to know that I can drink and eat cheese!

Have a great hen happy!

How's everyone else? Sorry if I've missed loads of you. Just on my way home from work and I can only scroll back so far. I wish mumsnet was a little sleeker in that respect!

tigerdog · 22/05/2014 21:39

bushy that all sounds exhausting and hard work. Think you are doing great in the circumstances. Pregnancy conversations sound annoying.

beaky did you have an appointment today? I too am losing track of everyone!

hb wishing you lots of luck for tomorrow.

lol rp although to be honest, before the whole ttc debacle, mucus was not something I ever cared to discuss and had certainly had not given much thought to!

So tired my brain isn't functioning. Trying to finish a presentation on finances for a session I'm delivering at the university tomorrow. I'm boring myself, so it doesn't bode well!

hope everyone else is ok!

beakybeak · 22/05/2014 21:41

HB and Bushy the very best of luck to you both for tomorrow morning, I am literally crossing everything for both of you. Bushy what a shitty time you are having. One day this will all be a distant memory.

Barking you are totally right about ttc pre internet! It must have been so frustrating and lonely. How are you feeling in your 2ww?

Chloe how did your scan go?

Funky there's a thread over on infertility about taking aspirin during your cycle - thought I'd mention it in case you haven't seen it!

Feather that's one long working day. Rubbish!

My iui appointment went well, the IVF unit is lovely and seems really new although all along the corridor there are tons and tons of baby pictures and a few of twinnies! It's a bit disconcerting but reassuring! The nurse was lovely, I will start gonal-f stabbing at 50 whatever's, then they will scan me after 5 days cause I ovulate quite early in my cycle and take it from there. More than 3 follies and the cycle is abandoned. Also they don't go ahead if there are any cysts which I was a bit concerned about as I had one on my last dildocam very late in my cycle. I nearly said dildocam to the nurse too. Blush anyway I can fit a cycle in before we go on hols at the end of June but would be in 2ww while away, or wait til the next one in early July. Not too sure what to do...

How's everyone else today?

greatbigbushybeard · 22/05/2014 21:47

rp lol at the swift exit of your male colleague at mucus!!

Oh feather that must be tough x x have a great time on your hen! his exciting all these berry weddings! Also love the idea of berry power.

Omg, how flipping hard can it be trying to but a pg test. Wanted a first response as that was what we tested on before. I am in tesco and spot parents I want to avoid, didn't want anyone seeing me in the pg aisle! I then manage to hide until they're gone, then there's no for tests left. Before this on my way out to get tests my go neighbour with a very noticeable pg bump gets out of her car ( I have avoided her since I found out) and like a masochist I sit in my car watching her get out as I hadn't seen the bump yet.. It's big. I then drive past and bless her she gives me a really big smile. I got to the end of our road and burst into tears. So I'm looking a bit tears and on way out of failed tesco og test mission I then bump into a colleague who wanted to know all about our observations as she wasn't in that day. I then think right I'll try sainsburys, again see people I know and they only gave clear blue so bought one of those. On way gave irrationally decided I really wanted a fr test and went all the way to another supermarket where they had it but god to queue up and wait for them to get the darn security box off, what a palaver. There's no subtlety and trying to serve yourself with these is there!! Feel v sad tonight.

lumen · 22/05/2014 22:09

That sounds awful bushy. Take yourself off to bed and snuggle up with your dh in a nice duvet.

nolly3 · 22/05/2014 22:18

Gawd bushy what a day from hell. You poor thing. It's a shitty time..just keep offloading onto here and know that there are berries all over the world sending you love

FeatherFeather11 · 22/05/2014 22:31

Ah, bushy, that's so shit. A shower, some chocolate and a mammoth cup of [tea] in bed? sending you all the luck I got in the world for tomorrow. xx

funkymonk · 22/05/2014 22:42

Sorry Bushy. You've had a shit week so far, topped off be a horrible day today. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

You too HB. (Really think you should have picked the PE55ARY number plate by the way!)

I would get going asap with your iui Beaky! Might be a little holiday treat for you when you get to poas, as of course the first cycle will go perfectly and get you diffed!

PP Barking when is your otd?

Lumen and Chloe great that you 2 can share your ivf journey together!

Tiger good luck with your presentation tomorrow.

Happy have a fabulous hen weekend.

Today is cycle day 1 Sad. Had to sit outside patients house for a few minutes while I held the tears back and composed myself. Cycle 20 here we come!

I was thinking it might be a good idea to have the grads at the bottom of our list of who's who to spur us on. Cycle they got diffed and whether it was natural, clomid, ivf/iui...

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beakybeak · 22/05/2014 22:45

Oh Bushy as if it's not a shit enough week for you. That sounds awful. I echo the others - big cup of tea and snuggle in bed. Hugs to you and lots of positive vibes for the mornjng.

beakybeak · 22/05/2014 22:54

Funky I think that's a great idea. We surely need an up to date list anyway! So sorry it wasn't your month though. With our FC, you have to go in for a pg test 16 days after the procedure so id only be in week 1 of 2ww on hols and I would worry that if I had a scenario like Barking did and kept having to go back in for more scans and have the procedure delayed, I would have to cancel our hol or something. Also I think I'm scared. Ha.

greatbigbushybeard · 22/05/2014 23:05

Cheers guys, you are very lovely ladies. Thanks I've kinda kept it hidden from dh tonight, don't really want to drag him down. He did ask me if I was ok earlier, I just said ok. He so wants to fix things but I just need to vent and feel it. Maybe my little outburst earlier shows I need to just have a massive sob about it but I often find myself exhausted and blotchy after a massive cry and that feeling carries over to the next day. Like a big sadness hangover!

Arr sorry funky, it's totally shit isn't it.
Like the idea of a Grads list to inspire us.

Ha ha just listening to question time on radio and Kirsty Allsop is going on about the housing crisis and just commented about people buying houses much later because of settling down so much later then they try to have kids but their fertility 'drops off a cliff after 35'.. Thanks for that.

Just looked at the first response tests I've bought which say works in one minute- woo! Ones hubba bought were 3 mins. I also have clearblue ones not digital. For you pimp-ers out there which tests do you like? It's all new to me.

barkingtreefrog · 22/05/2014 23:05

Bushy I totally sympathise with the lesson obs. I had one not that long after I returned post mc. I have a particularly difficult child in my class (pda/autism) and the head and deputy were both observing the lesson. She chose to kick off with all the extra attention. I had to try and carry on teaching while someone called for the TA to help restrain her and three adults were running round the classroom and trying to coax this child out from under a desk. We've got an external 'focus review' after half term. If there is anyone new in the classroom this child assumes they are there to watch her and see how I deal with her, so she always acts up. That should be a fun one.
Your pg test mission sounded like a nightmare as a former pimping addict I have a massive stash in the cupboard all bought online so that would never happen to me

nolly and feather I'll join you with the too early symptom spotting. Someone at work asked me why I was so chipper today, and I immediately thought oh no, I should be tired, I can't be pg. I find myself constantly with my hand on my belly, as if rubbing it will make an embryo and settle it in nicely. I'm only 3 days into the 2ww......

beaky I'd start asap if it was me, but then I'm impatient. I stopped drinking altogether when I knew the iui was coming up so from a drinking on holiday point of view it wouldn't have made a difference if I'd waited. Depends what kind of holiday you're going on!

funky sorry the bitch got you. My otd is a week on Monday, 2nd June. The day I go on a residential trip with my class....

barkingtreefrog · 22/05/2014 23:08

X post with lots....

beaky what cycle day will you be going on holiday?

barkingtreefrog · 22/05/2014 23:13

Sorry for the multiple posting....
bushy I have loads of internet cheapies, the pimping kind. Early on, before I started temping and charting, I used to think I was 'late' every time my cycle was longer, rather than knowing when ov was and being able to predict it starting 7/8 days later. . It cost me a fortune in clear blue digis. Now I just use the cheap ones, and I used a cb digi after my bfp on a cheapie just to confirm it with a different test. I'll be pimping with the cheapies by next weekend I reckon....

beakybeak · 22/05/2014 23:29

Hols would be on cd15 Barking but ff has this cycle estimated at 26 days, they are usually between 21-25 days max and think my random late AF in April gas skewed things.

Bushy I use superdrug early response ones, they are 10miu so very sensitive and cheap!

barkingtreefrog · 23/05/2014 06:48

beaky is it a holiday you are flying to? Sounds like you should be fine, and a holiday straight afterwards to relax and take it easy would be good. However if you're flying you've got that slight risk in the back of your mind that things could be delayed, and you don't want to be stressing about it. If this cycle doesn't work which obviously it will so it won't be a problem I'm going to be stuck with waiting until September for the next as I don't think I'll be able to persuade dh not to go on holiday so we can fit another round in.

barkingtreefrog · 23/05/2014 06:49

sticking around now to wait for hb

tigerdog · 23/05/2014 06:53

bushy Kirsty Allsop can eff off! Not all of us can be posh Tories with inherited wealth to buy a mansion. Grrrrr. Hope you're doing ok today.

funky sorry af got you and hope you're feeling better. I've lost count of my cycles but wouldn't be surprised if I was up to 20 too or thereabouts. Boo.

beaky starting after hols (when you're all relaxed) sounds sensible to me. Would be a shame not to be able to enjoy your holiday - it depends how much you think you could relax during the 2ww on hols - might prove a good distraction.

hb fingers crossed for you today.

Happy Friday everyone!

greatbigbushybeard · 23/05/2014 07:07

Right I've done my test, it's still saying bfp.. I don't know what to think. It's def a line, perhaps not as strong as first one but it's not what I'd call faint either. I'll post a pic of it- the one done on white surface is today's, the one on dark surface is last Thursday's. I really wasn't expecting it but what with all the bleeding and the UFO not sure I can believe it. No wine for me yet, I'll test again Sunday. Maybe for this brief period I will stay away from unhappy thoughts and be more positive.. Or at least not negative until Sunday. I do have three more tests, another first response ( don't know what level of sensitivity they are but would presume pretty sensitive) and 2 ordinary clear blues, which make a cross when pg. tempted to do one tomorrow and one Sunday at campsite.

Anyway thoughts ladies. And come on team hb, bushy power!!!!

The Berries: The one where The Berries cease to exist after a spate of waxy knicks and a'hem seepage (thread 20)
The Berries: The one where The Berries cease to exist after a spate of waxy knicks and a'hem seepage (thread 20)
nolly3 · 23/05/2014 07:30

Well, that sounds sensible bushy - just having a break over the weekend and trying to enjoy other things. I'd be tempted to leave testing till you get hoem from trip, ust to have a real space away from it?

Bloody Kirsty Allsop. what does she bloody know about public policy, eh? Pompous old fart.

barkingtreefrog · 23/05/2014 07:34

Bushy that looks like a strong line to me! I don't know how long hormones stay in your system but surely if you had lost it this early it would be classed as a chemical pg, the bleeding comes shortly after you would otherwise expect AF, the HCG stops being produced and the test is then a bfn. From my outside point of view, this is looking positive. Did you get a blood test done at the clinic? Can they not do a blood test to compare/look at your hcg levels?