Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Brummie / Treacle (and everyone else starting back next week). I shall be thinking of you and doing my best not to run straight home!

It's been a week of more ups than downs and my mind is at least at ease over certain friends reactions.
I thought my body was done with weirdness physically but yesterday there wa srandom brown spotting. Oh well. I am (trying to) passively observe these things and wont go looking it up.

Take care all x

Office that does sound strange ... Were your last two cycles more "normal"? My MC was March and I'm definitely finding this cycle harder!
It's difficult planning ahead but I really. Believe you can't put your life on hold would you go abroad if you were pregnant? You could leave it a few months before booking?

Thanks sighing, same to you! Im back Tuesday :/

I've been having brown discharge as well so that outs my mind at ease a bit!

Treacle. Oh all this oddness from our bodies ...

I know :( DH had a lovely description yesterday of what was leaving my body. I don't think he was impressed!

Not coping today.
I'm getting stressed over everything but feel like doing nothing. Just spent an hour and half crying to DH.
I really don't know how I'll get through work on Tuesday. I feel such a failure :/

You're not a failure, you're an incredibly strong woman going through a really difficult time. It will get better, I promise. Maybe work will help stop you dwelling, but if you need more time, take it. X

Thank you, I'm hoping work will help.
I'll see how I go when I get there.
Only 7 weeks til the summer holiday and by then we should be trying again.
That's what I'm going to keep reminding myself!

I found work helped Treacle. Doesn't mean it wasn't hard and you do keep thinking about it but I found it kept my mind off of it a bit and was able to focus my attention on my work and stressing less about what could of been

Thanks littlemiss.
I'm just so worried about how much I've got to catch up with. I've got 39 reports to write on top of everything I didn't get finished before half term :(
Hey Ho, one day at a time.

Hey Treacle x I hope tomorrow is a better day. You're not a failure. At all. Nope.

Hi Treacle, really hope you are ok - fingers crossed work will be too.

Hi Alice, I was 6 weeks too - so I know exactly how you feel.

Me and DP have been naughty and DTD. I know I'm "supposed" to wait one cycle, but fuck it. Although I am going to try and not obsesses or POAS and if AF turns up (god knows when) then I'll start from next cycle.

I had a wobble though Friday, got a text from my pregnant friend telling me she had her scan and was having a girl, plus DP's colleague confided in him that his gf was pregnant ad due end of Jan, our EDD was too so that was hard.

Then today we went and had 2nd viewing on house we are buying and I felt SO sad going in to the planned "baby's bedroom" but deep breath, our time will come.

Went out and got sooo drunk last night with DP just because we coud. I feel horrendous today - would rather still be pregnant though.

Big hugs to everyone going through this very shitty time xx

Thanks ladies.
I know what you mean, there are so many things that remind me what could have been. Plus I keep reliving it all.

Big hugs to you brummie x

Hi everyone just checking in.

I'm 5 weeks post my ectopic pregnancy surgery. Emotionally I feel much better (still have teary moments), but this is the first Sunday I've not watched the click for the afternoon into the evening reliving what happened and crying my eyes out, so that's progress I guess.

My first AF is just starting this evening which is 28 days after the bleed I had post surgery, so for that I'm grateful, my cycles are back to normal it seems. Really don't want to wait to start TTC again, bit know we have to.

treaclepie I can honestly say the anticipation of going back to work was far worse than the reality. I hope it goes ok for you xx

Clock not click!

So sorry for what you've been through tranquility.
I'm glad your cycle has been kind to you. Look after yourself!

I think I'm getting worse not better emotionally.

Hopefully it's just a bad day.

I felt like that in the first two to three weeks treaclepie like I was spiralling into depression and I'd never be happy again. Getting back to some normality did help, as much I didn't want to at all because it felt wrong.

I hope the future is bright for us all on this thread. None should have to go through this heartbreak x

It's good to know that feeling like this is normal. In RL everyone seems to think I should be fine.

I agree, we all deserve our bfps and happy, healthy babies.

Good luck at work today, Treacle. I hated being at work after my mc, but in spite of that it actually helped me move forwards. Being busy and being around people who had no idea about the mc brought me back to normality a bit. I think if I had taken more time off it would have been much worse for me. When I was at home I was just moping around and googling stuff that depressed me even more. I still have moments when I want to run home and bury myself under the duvet but they are getting fewer and further between. Saying that, going back this morning after a week off for half-term is HARD.

Tranquility - well done on the textbook cycle. Hopefully a sign of good things to come

Thank you office, it's tomorrow I'm back.
Good job really as I just poas as it's 16 days since my mc started and it's still positive. It was heartbreaking to see that line and not be able to be excited and to know what it means.

Can I join please?

I had a mmc 8 weeks ago, I was 14 weeks.

dp and I have started trying again this week and im going back to work today as ive been off since the erpc, im a nanny and just havent been able to face taking care of someone elses children. Ive found it incredibly hard to move on but now all I want is to try again and get back to life.

Oh and treacle im so very sorry x

So sorry smiling xxx
I know what you mean about work. I'm a nursery teacher.

Hi there, hope you don't mind me gate crashing! Unfortunately we are all here for the same reason but it is reassuring that we can all 'ladyrant' together having gone through similiar experiences.
I'm almost 36, ttc #1. I recently had a mc (while abroad on my holidays ). I had an erpc over there. DH was incredible but as it happened abroad, I think he has compartmentalised it to something that happened in the past. He never brings it up. We met his cousin last week who announced her pregnancy (we would have been due the same week) and it really got to me. As utterly devestated as I was, I really wanted to ttc again straight away. I didn't ov the month after mc but did this month according to my CBFM. I'm on the tww but am incredibly nervous. For some reason people are mad to know when we're going to have kids... if only they knew!
Fx for you all, and congrats to those who have had their bfps!!

So sorry for your loss blank, my DH has done the same. He is always one for looking to the future though.

I know what you mean about people asking when we are going to have kids. The lady at morrisons right after my mc asked if we were going to have a baby. Then the other day at Dreams, the guy serving us asked if we were going to have children.
I want to scream "I've just had a miscarriage, leave me alone!!!". Instead I have to go "Oh at some point", like I haven't even thought of it.