Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Hang in there Treacle. How long's it been?

Really not long. I only just stopped bleeding. If you count first day I started to miscarry as cd I'm on cd 13. They said it could take 4-6 weeks after bleeding stopped. I really hope not.

*As cd1

That's really not long at all. I had a first period about 4 weeks after I stopped bleeding. Your body's got a lot to process before your hormones will tell your body to ov again and then have a period. And it might be irregular for a few months after that while your hormones settle down - but this is all normal. I know it's hard to be patient, but do stay healthy and look after yourself while you recover.

Yeah, they did say it would be a while.
Now the bleeding has stopped though it feels like it should just be a normal 3 weeks.

Still, work will keep me busy once I'm back.

Thanks for the advice ladies. I'm assuming we have many teachers on this site. I'm off for half term too. I remember when I miscarried my school was very understanding and I took two weeks off. To be honest those two weeks didnt really help as much in terms of my mental state, it was good to rest physically. When I returned to work I kept myself busy and had less to think about. I was glad I was back at work so the first few days will be tough going back however you will be back in a routine soon so don't worry about work.

My husband doesn't want to try yet until I get my AF, he said he wants me to be healed fully and doesn't wanna take any chances. I actually prefer that too for at least 1 cycle and the wait is a killer since I'm on cd30 now I think and still waiting for AF. Is it normal to be on cd30 I mean it seems like it's taking forever. I hope it comes quickly now so I can start to try again.

I hope we all concieve soon. :)

Reading the last few posts and my heart goes out to all of those who are in the damn waiting game. I know how it feels to not be able to focus on anything else and the need to be pregnant again to all of you finding it tough at the moment.

I have a TMI question about ov for those in the know. if the EWCM has pretty much stopped and I had ov pains yesterday does that mean there's no point dtd tonight? We only really manange a couple of attempts and as its our first month back ttc sort of feel this wasn't much of an effort !

Can't do any harm to get one more in GandT

posted this on the wrong thread this morning?!
hope yes totally normal it can take up to six weeks until your AF comes after a mc. In my case I think it took four weeks for the pg hormones to go away - very upsetting as had to poas and it still said pregnant.

I know the waiting is infuriating but I thought it was a good chance for the lining to grow again so there was enough for the bean to embed into next time and also as much as I felt mentally ready to be pregnant again if I had fallen pg straight away and the worst had happened, I know I wouldn't have coped. I am now 4 months on and feel both physically and mentally a lot stronger doesn't mean I didn't stand in Marks crying yesterday when buying a new baby gift for a friend

So I'm now just waiting to poas on Wednesday, it's funny I want it to hurry up to test but I dread the disappointment if negative as I feel I've thrown everything at it this month also on the other side and I get a bfp then the real nervousness kicks in when I'll just want to hide for the first 12 weeks. Basically I would like to be asleep for the next 9 months and wake up ready to give birth

I think the reasons for waiting for a new cycle is two fold, one for dating purposes and the second to allow the womb and lining to repair, and fully thicken to be ready to maintain a new pregnancy. But as I said before I waited one cycle with my first MC and then got pregnant first month ttc and went on to have a healthy pregnancy and my beautiful DD!

Right ladies, I'm signing off for the next week - going to Majorca at 3.30am tomorrow morning!! I'm really excited, this is a much needed break from everything.

Good luck to any poas-ers next week, I hope we get some more sticky BFPs! x

Hi everyone, hope it's ok to join in you sound like a lovely bunch of ladies

I'm 35, TTC #2 since Jan 2013, MMC and ERPC Mar 2014 (found out at 12wk scan baby was only 7wk). Devastated after trying for so long

I've always had an irregular cycle. Ovulated CD18 after ERPC, AF 16days later but was not TTC.
Started TTC after AF, currently CD33 and no Ov yet, use CB OPK, but looking for a cheaper alternative.
Not sure I can do this all over again.

Hi,
New to this. Not sure if I even count as having miscarried as if was only 6 weeks but still feel incredibly confused, hurt and upset. Very lost right now.
I really want AF to come along so we can start over, but she's not making an appearance. I feel like my body is broken. Don't think my beloved husband understands and why should he? Why do we have to cope with the confusion as well as the heartbreak?

Welcome virgo and alice. So sorry you have had to find us, as who really wants to be here right? But everyone is so lovely an supportive, I hope your stays are short :)

virgo I know how you feel about facing another long journey! it took us 6 years to concieve our angel baby. I have pcos and irregular cycles too :( some days I think it will never happen, other days I am more positive and think at least I know I can get pregnant now. Best of luck x

alice of course your mc counts! they all do. I think as soon as you see that positive test you become a mummy. Your full of hopes and dreams for your baby from the moment you find out you are having them, and to have that cruelly snatched away is heartbreaking, not matter how far along you are x

Morning all!

Welcome newbies!! It is a long journey each month you need to find the strength to go again I set myself little goals throughout my cycle it this TWW I'm in which I find hardest as there's nothing more I can do but hope!

Have a lovely holiday metal I'm very jealous! Off to a wedding today im sure I will get the usual questions on why im not drinking how detailed shall I go 'Well I ovulated a week ago so I'm now in my LP and hoping my egg will have or be implanting soon so just incase I'm not drinking.' Might stop the questions

Welcome newbies, sorry you're here. alice of course it counts and you need as much support as anyone else.

LittleMiss I too am in the tww and already have decided that I feel bloated, have sore boobs and feel a bit sick. 2dpo and only been up about 3 hours! Enjoy the wedding, love your planned response!

Have a lovely holiday metal

I too am in the tww with no symptoms what so ever, Although religiously peeing on internet cheapies every day :( this is the reason I never kept tests in my house lol...just thought I had nearly used em all n low n behold I got 10 free ones in the post yesterday. I think my best plan of attack is to pee on all 20+ tests at once tomorrow lol x

Have a lovely holiday metal :)
littlemiss, that should shut people up :p

Yesterday was a tough day! We went to dreams and the guy serving us asked when we were having children. I actually struggled not to say something.
Then I spent the evening listening to baby talk with my friend who is 7 months pregnant and my other friend who has an 8 month old.

Must. Stop. Seeing. People.

Welcome virgo and alice - so sorry for your losses. You're going through a terrible experience, so be kind to yourselves and rant here as much as you want You'll find lots of support from these lovely ladies.

Treacle I don't know how you got through that! I'm 12 weeks on from my MMC and I still feel like crying every day when I see our pg receptionist at work . There is no way I could handle a night of baby and pg talk. Well done you - thoroughly deserved.

I'm on CD16, got a peak on my CB digi OPK this morning. DTD and now on my way to my parents' for a family party. Will have to make DH dtd again tomorrow morning on my folks' living room floor where we'll be sleeping tonight!! The things we do when ttc

Thanks jetpack, i don't feel all that brave. I feel jealous and angry. I think I will have to stop talking to my pregnant friend a while. Text her today asking if she wants to go out and she said she's seeing her mom so she can look after her cus she is feeling sorry for herself.
I know I'm being unreasonable but my first thought is "stop moaning, you're pregnant." And that it's quite insensitive to say that to me. I think I'm just being petty but hey.

Haha oh well, needs must with the dtd at parents! :p

Those are perfectly normal feelings Treacle and not petty at all. You need to protect your own feelings for as long as necessary. One day we'll all be heavily pregnant ladies moaning about how hard pregnancy is - but we'll probably feel perversely grateful for every ache and swollen ankle, just to know we have a healthy, growing baby in there And until then, there's always and lots of baby making sexy time...

That makes me feel better jetpack :)
I do think it will make us so grateful for being pregnant.

After my mc I saw someone at the hospital heavily pregnant and smoking. I nearly went over and hit her.
Emotions are not good!

Still, like you say, wine and sex time :)
At the moment just wine as DH is on strike til I've had my next period! :p

Aw treacle I couldnt have coped with that at all. I have retreated from all friends that have been pregnant whilst ttc which seems to be everyone I know, I hope they understand but its just too difficult for me and as Jetpack says you need to protect yourself however you can.

Littlemiss i'd love to see the nosey folks face if you did reply with that

Morning ladies
I am having to post because the thread fell out of my "threads I'm on" list. Unfortunately I have nothing of interest to report - but I'll tell you anyway!
Just finished the tail-end of a really strange (for me) period - the 3rd since my mc in March. It was very, very light and went on for 10 days. Only one of those days had actual red blood (accompanied by very painful cramps), the rest was more like spotting and various shades of brown. Not sure what to make of it really. I'm going to restart the OPKs from today, hopefully I will ovulate this cycle. It's only 3 months since my mc and I'm bored and frustrated with ttc already. I started off all positive and determined, but it's already at the point where I am losing hope. And last night, dh was talking about booking a holiday next year, it will be our 20 year wedding anniversary so he wants to do something special for just the 2 of us. All I could think was "but what if I'm pregnant". Which I probably won't be. And I would love a decent holiday, haven't been out of the UK for 8 years! I need a good fish slap!

officelady your period sounds very similar to my second one after my last miscarriage. I only had one day of blood but various shades of brown around it, it was also a week late in my case which never happens to me - think your body just takes awhile to recover after mc.

Booking a holiday sounds great, something good to look forward to and think about other than ttc