OK, so this may sound like a selfish question and I should be happy for others, but in the last few weeks I've been getting the feeling that the universe just doesn't want me to be pregnant, but everyone else is just fiiiiine...
I found out yesterday that an ex-colleague, who is nearly 40, had never wanted children and was happy being child-free, as well as being told she was infertile, is four months pregnant by accident.
My best friend conceived both her children on her first cycle. My mum had me and my brother by accident. My cousin never wanted children. Her accidental son is nearly ten years old now.
We've been trying for four months now - and I know it is "only" four months, but I'm almost feeling bad for wasting the NHS's money on contraception for the last twelve years as it appears it may not have been needed.
Sorry, I needed to rant as it's bringing me down a bit, and none of my friends know that we're TTC so it's been building up.
Both of my dad's sisters are infertile and I've been told that if we haven't conceived by June I can get some tests done, even though I'm only 28. But they can't do it any sooner as I don't know the reasons behind their infertility as I don't have a relationship with that side of my family.
Is anyone else feeling like this, am I justified in having a "why me?" moment - or am I just overthinking it all?
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Anyone else feeling like the world is against them?
spence24 · 16/04/2014 16:56
May I join the rant please?
Been trying to concieve for 36 months , in mean time best friend had 3rd child now 2! Sil had dd now 18 months and pregnant for 2nd time (12 weeks) my sister has had my nephew now 14 months and myself and DP still trying! We have had tests I am normal he has low count but they won't treat him as I have now just had my 6th miscarriage in these 3 years! Life is not fair! 
I am now enjoying a period from hell and sad as yet again not pregnant!
Good luck to you all I really hope none of you are still here 3 years on
Hey ladies, just checking in to see how you are all doing.
Lauraqc- good news about the normal results, not so good news on having to wait a year. 
It's a weird feeling to want nothing to be wrong but at the same time want something to be wrong that can be fixed if you know what I mean. I'm in this predicament myself atm.
I agree with icy, mims. Massively easier said than done but you need to try and keep busy... With anything! I personally like yoga and keeping busy with work.
Not really much to update with me. Still just waiting for my scan next week to come round although I have been having lots of preggo symptoms since the weekend. Not getting my hopes up though because if I've got PCOS like the doctor thinks, then I doubt I even ovulated. Stupid body playing tricks no doubt! 
Evening everyone, I have nothing to update you all with other than AF is half way through, been reading a mc book by Marilyn Glenville and she has suggested along with pregnacare conception and well man conception to take 1000mg a day of vitamin c and 1000mg of linseed oil! So we have both started this, also said natural spring water to drink loads of ( I am terrible for fluid intake mainly 2 glasses of some thing a day 
) so have started upping my intake!
I am having NK cells testing June so we are all out to concieve this month as new vitamins got me some preseed equivalent gel and going to try the SMEP plan! If this fails we cannot try next month as you must not be pregnant at all for NK cells test as it is a uterine scrap!
Inshock- mumsnet is the place for you to chat by far we all know that feeling! I too have unexplained infertility but not resting at that have you read about NK cells? I am going to see a prof Quinby in Coventry at a cost of £360 a one visit test and consultation and answers in 6 weeks and she will put you on drugs to help in mean time.
Would you not get IVF on the NHS if you have no children at all?
I haven't ever been offered any drugs by gp or gynae as they said 6 mc just bad luck as chromosome tests and scans all ok- however DP has low sperm count which they won't treat as we get pregnant we just don't carry it every 6+ months ! grrrrrrrr the NHS!
Anyway sorry for my ranting x
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OP it took us 8 months to conceive DC1 and 18 months for DC2. I remember 4/5 months was a really hard time because you have had your hopes up every month and you start thinking "hang on... is this actually going to happen?"
Then I settled more into the routine of it and tried to get less invested in waiting for results all the time, and it got a bit easier.
I am ashamed to say there were times when I hated pregnant women, and they seemed horribly smug. I'm sure they weren't.
On the bright side - your aunts were infertile but you're just as likely to get your mum's obviously fertile genes. A friend who was "infertile" actually isn't. You're only 28 and you have loads of time, and many ways, to get there.
Lastly - when I was TTC the second time I read in Grazia (so obviously v. scientific! ) that you should avoid eating peas(!), and that reflexology can help. I did both and got pg a couple of months later. Now that may be bollocks but it made me feel like I was trying something IYSWIM, and the power of suggestion can be a great thing.
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