TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Just popping in to say hello and see how you're all getting on. I'm really missing you lot and the way you all made me laugh on a daily basis. Not much to report from me apart from a stinking cold grumble grumble The bean appears to be staying put for now and I'm just counting the days till my 9 week scan next Thurs. There are a few thread grads from here on my ante-natal thread - hopefully more of you will join us very soon.

Thanks for the good wishes around all the baby showers I had to attend. Got through them except for my sister in law one when she was telling me how easy she finds it to get pregnant and she doesn't understand why people find it so difficult. That sent me crying to th toilets but other that that I was fine.

Sorry to all the newbies that are here my AF has finished so time to get the sticks out again. Think my plan this month is to DTD every day over my usual fertile days and hope that it works! Good luck to everyone for this month

Hi ladies!
Glad you finally got back in the saddle Cake

Hello all newbies, really hope you're not with us long. But the ladies here are great for offering a dose of haddock when needed or a kind word too.

Penguin, glad all is going well. Keep popping back!

I've finally got a near 'dark as control' OPK!! Cd19! So fx this is it!! Please! Please! Please!
Who'd have though I'd ever be getting this excited about a positive OPK!

Oh Ellis, how tactless of her. Does she know? Even so , hard to take. Glad you got through the rest ok.

'Hugh five on your dark opk line' card coming your way English!

Hope I can join you properly after Thursday penguin, so glad all is going well for you.

Not much doing here either, just miserably waiting til thurs morning. Long weekend was a bonus, went quite easily, but time dragging so badly now I'm back at work.

Right time to attempt positivity!
I think this Easter has been hell and I never want an Easter like it!
I have spent most of it hiding away from the world, sobbing under the duvet.
It actually feels nice to be dressed, make up on and ready to face the world.
My best friend had a baby boy on Friday, he's gorgeous but I only managed a basic congratulations text message. Today I have ordered a present and went to the local supermarket to buy a new baby card ( and more massive sanitary pads) Must admit had a mini cry about that one in the car!
In my search for positivity I have also been to reflexology! I'm unsure yet about the benefits but after miscarriage number 2 I feel I need to do something even if doctors refuse to at the mo. On a positive note he couldn't feel anything wrong from looking at my feet and he felt I was very strong and healthy. He felt it was just a matter of time. We shall see.
I'm actually looking forward to being back at work, I need something else to do and not spend so much time on Dr Google. I will probably regret saying that this time next week.

Great news about the dark OPK line English

Seasides - no she doesn't know but I wouldn't want to share as she is the type of person who would consider it good gossip and probably be quite pleased with herself for having more children than me

Oh gosh Ellis, she doesn't sound a dream :-(

Sorry you've had a horrible weekend Jones glad you're feeling a little better, hope that keeps up. it's so hard buying baby stuff, well done for getting through that.

Gosh Ellis, she sounds like a bitch! Genuinely amazed at people sometime! I'd have found it really hard not to come back with some kind of sly remark!!

Glad you're feeling a little more positive jones! I'm goin to look into acupuncture when I get back to the Uk.
Gonna go pee on an OPK and hope for a stronger line!

ellis she sounds bloody horrible, think I'd have punched her in her tactless gob.

english great news on the opk, pee away!

jones great to hear you're feeling more positive, tits out, chin up and all that

Cakebaker glad to hear you've broken the DTD ice, it's all fun from here :-)

I'm still confused. Cb pink said I ovulated cd6, cb purple cd8. Both are way to bloody early, I've not had any ov pains or discharge until today which is cd11. Still no ov pains though. I ov typically 13 to 14 days before AF. But I just think the tests are crap, how can I ov so early? We've DTD cd 7, 8, 9, 10, and will keep going daily. I'm also going to use opk tests again starting tmrw morning as the smiley face has cleared at long last.

Would too early ovulation spoil my chances? Maybe the cervical lining isn't ready yet?

Thanks viper, wish I child help on the opk front but I've steered clear of them, worried I'd get totally obsessed with them and they do seem to offer some pretty mixed info. Well done on daily dtd, impressed by your stamina!

So I've gone from feeling pretty positive and relaxed to feeling utterly gloomy again, all triggered by news of a friend being pregnant. I feel terrible as I'm so pleased for her but it's brought it home to me. Feel miserable and like a terrible friend too. Now can't sleep, grrrr. This is the worst part for me - feeling like I'm getting over stuff and moving on one minute then, crash, back down to earth. Yuck.

Child?! Could. Sorry for terrible typing.

I think we all have days when we go from feeling positive to down right miserable. My friend sent me a pic of her 20week little boy bean yesterday and it was a crushing reminder that I would have had my 20week scan last week. But chin up and tits out etc. hope today is a better day for you cake.
Viper - not sure I can help with the OPKs. Cd6/7 is early but not unheard of. I do know that if you use cb one more than once a day they can give false readings. You supposed to use them with fmu only. They use previous days data to measure against apparently.

Viper I had an early solid smiley this month at CD8 but am now having flashing smileys on purple (for 4 days now) and I'm on CD 14 so I wonder if like I've read you're more fertile after MC otherwise my body is just now as confused as I am!
Cake hope you're feeling better today!
English it's heartbreaking when you can relate your pregnancy to another I have found out too mums at work are due when I would of been I was close to just walking away from them when they told me but I just put on my fake smile and nodded.

Thanks for feedback ladies. I had two fmu going in unison, using each once a day. I'm like the Wild West fmu gun slinger, stick em up ovaries. Now used up pink so if I am not preggo again I'll just stick to daily purple. Was just an experiment to see if they are consistent and computer says no

Thanks ladies, feeling all over the place this morning. Ended up having a chat to dh last night as I was upset about my friend's news, he then said perhaps we shouldn't ttc again for a while then as I'm so emotional! Afraid I bit his head off, he was trying to say let's wait a bit until we feel better about things but it came out all wrong and my response wasn't much better I do want to ttc again as I don't think waiting is going to make me feel any better and now feel I have to convince dh to. I just feel like the clock is ticking for me. Don't know what to say to him to make him understand. Or is he right and I am too emotional for this?! So confused

Morning all, and welcome to the newbies - I hope your stay with us will be short and sweet.

Cake I'm sorry you're feeling rubbish. I think you just have to do what feels right for you ttc-wise, not sure how to explain this to your Dh though - maybe write down what you want to say first so you don't get all flustered and emotional whilst talking? For what it's worth, I too had a meltdown when AF arrived last weekend and told DH I'm not sure how much longer I can keep trying. I think in my head I've set myself a deadline of the end of the year, if it hasn't happened by then my current thinking is to give up, but who knows...

Viper I can't help with the opks either, I'm using the ICs from Amazon and the normal CB ones that just give you a circle or smiley face and they've always shown the surge on the same day.

Nothing much to report here, AF seems to have been very short again this month so I'm wondering if this is my new normal now (not that I'd complain).

metal thank you, I'm just so bloody annoyed as I'd been feeling ok about stuff and then just when you think you're on the up the emotional rollercoaster sets off again. I just want to get off this particular ride. I know stress and desperation are not a great recipe for ttc or talking to dh so I really do need to find a way of getting through this - thankfully I have this thread to help me and I'll always be glad you're all there for fish slaps. Throwing a bucket of haddock over my own head this morning.

Morning all,
cake hope you're ok. I totally know how you feel. We also had a chat over the weekend about waiting/not waiting etc. for me, the point DH could understand is that it's scary to try again and no know whether it'll go better but the bit that's worse is the limbo of waiting/trying/waiting. I feel like to some extent I have put my life on hold since we started TTC, I explained waiting for me wouldn't help as it's just extending the unknown.

We are all different though and I agree with metal head, you have to go with you gut instinct of what will be best for you both.

So strange to come on here and read the posts about having a chat over the weekend about all things ttc. Had similar one with DH after seeing a tiny newborn baby. I would have been due in May and I think I keep seeing hugely pregnant women or newborns.

So much whirling emotion over the last few days. So have decided to be pro active and do some preconception things this month to get past the EDD of my baby.

1. Have booked smear test (fun times!)
2. Have made sure that I take folic acid everyday (!)
3. Have booked hair appointment
4. Will enjoy holiday next month without packing HPT
5. Will clean oven and defrost freezer
6. Will try and cook lovely meals to put into freezer.

Hopefully these small tasks will take me past the due date and then I sort of feel I'll be a bit more emotionally ready to get back in the game.

Hey everyone, rubbish reception here so can't catch up properly on everyone's posts. CD28 here and no sign of AF so will test on Friday if she hasn't arrived...
Feeling semi hopeful still !

Sounds like a plan GandT!!
Fingers crossed for you Gail

Just got a very positive OPK!!! Wahooooo!!!!

Woo hoo english have a 'Congratulations on you positive OPK' card

Fingers crossed for you gail

DH got his SA results today (after much nagging from me for him to phone the doctors). It was on the low side of normal apparently. Needs to have it repeated in a few weeks. I think he is a bit Guess it is possible it has already been like that. I have never had issues getting upduffed before the 2nd MC. Acupuncturist suggested feeding him some fish oil as well was vitamin tablets

Ahh sorry for DH's sa results Holly, hopefully some bits and fish oils will increase his numbers.
I'm off to pounce on DH!

tmi, but does anyone else have bad pain in the 2ww dtd? good lord, i think something is either trying to posess me or escape! 5dpo, bloated extremely, period pains blah blah. just wondered about the humping paid. doesnt hurt during, just after?

ffs - hate this ttc business.

hollyben sorry to hear about your mans sample, my man has had 3 samples and from first to the 3rd, we've got count from 44 million upto 111million. (morphology from 4% upto 7% normal) still poor but with vitamins and few lifestyle changes, its the best its got. (altho he WONT give up coffee!) hope you and him are ok, nice to see a man has feelings, my bloke wasnt phased, was just me that nearly had a breakdown x