About to start / Just started / Trying for a while TTC no.2 (part 5)

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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

Hello everyone happy mothers day for yesterday - I had a 48hr vomiting bug :( still of work today but not throwing up ..yay!

Swede so sorry to hear of the problems your having my mum had depression when I was growing up and its such a difficult insidious disease. I think its so hard for the person who has it to not let it affect everything - relationships, family it seems to colour that persons entire outlook which is so frustrating as an outsider.

I don't think your 'ultimatum' was a bad thing the truth is this could have far reaching consequences and it could be helpful to give your DH perspective on that? From my experience perspective is one of the things depression robs you of too. Look after yourself, what you are going through sounds exhausting.

Hello to everyone else im off to sit in the healing sunshine in the hopes that it makes me feel better, im ovulating and it couldn't be worse timing :(

Get well soon loves

Saying goodbye to DM and DF later - we'll be heading over to the UK next month so will see them soon IRL.

DS managed to sleep in his own bed last night so today I'm happy engels !

Hi Loves - Sorry you've not been well. I hope you're feeling better.
Hi Toothpaste - Glad to hear there's some improvement with your DS and his eating, it's all about small steps in my opinion. My DS has been having a banana each morning and a slice of toast for breakfast so I'm seeing that as an improvement but lunch times are difficult as he never wants anything he's offered and won't try new things.
I hope Swede is ok.

HUNGRY I think my placenta has moved!!!! Strong movement etc left right and centre for last 2days!!!!!

How is everyone? We're all very quiet this week!

Wow! I want mine to move too!! I get it top and bottom but not middle. So jealous!

I'm ok. 22 weeks tomorrow :-) Just so tired from work. God knows how I will manage with two and work.

Good news re your DS, Engels.

Sorry you've been ill, Love. Hope you're better now.

Hi everyone else.

loves I hope your feeling better xx
where is everyone? . . .
ive started bouncing on my big ball and getting braxton hicks! a friends friend had a baby yday 5.12lbs and says shes been told not to handle the baby as its high risk coz its small? anyone else heard of this? my dd was 8.4lbs a right wee chunker lol xx

Im all better now thanks :) I can't imagine being told not to handle a your own baby I would tell them to sod off - what about kangaroo care surely its better to be hugged :(

Yay to braxton hicks I loved my bouncy ball so comfy once you start getting massive!

I wouldn't have thought that that baby was dangerously small. How odd.

My DD was 9lbs 7oz, so I can't relate to tiny babies either!

No ball bouncing for me this time with an ELCS. I won't miss that one...lightning crotch inducer!

Glad you're better, Love. Did you manage to DTD while OVing?

We did DTD but only once so I think this month is a write-off but that's fine. Last night I found out a friend of mine is having a 'surprise' third baby at first I was a bit jealous then I realised she is 40 and it kind of put it in perspective. I have 8 years to go until i'm 40 that's loads of time to make my perfect little family I've been focused on wanting another baby right now, but there is no hurry :) and who knows if we sneak in another DTD tonight I might just catch the end of my OV

Hi everyone, I am still here! I have had a pretty busy last few weeks which has been great to distract myself and I have been trying not to think about ttc, it has been quite refreshing, but it is back to reality now and I feel even more desperate for a baby now. I got a +ve opk on cd 16 and 17 again, so it doesn't look as though the B6 has done much this cycle, but we shall see if it does anything to my LP. I feel like AF could make an appearance any day now, which would just be ridiculously early. I don't really know where to go from here tbh, DH and I are going to try and do a bit of a detox for a few months - cut down caffeine, no alcohol, no processed foods, lots of veg etc etc, but I'm struggling to find the motivation to start! I don't know when to go back to the Dr either, I think I'm scared she will just turn me away until it has been 2 years. I don't really know which way to go, I just want to get pregnant!
How is everyone else?
Swede how are you getting on? I hope everything is ok.
Loves we only dtd 3 times this month too so think it will be a write off for us too, but you never know!

Hi all!!! So as the original lucky BFP I thought I'd drop in and see how you all are. I'm sorry I've been away so long!

Swede I hope you're ok.

Gingerbread, you might remember that it took me a long time to conceive DD, so I totally understand the frustration you're feeling. I won't patronise you with all the "relax and it will happen" stuff, because as much as there is something to be said for it, you can't help the way you feel. I think a bit of a detox can help, but be careful not to go too overboard. As long as you are both reasonably healthy then investing too much into TTC can just heighten the disappointment if it doesnt make an instant difference, but I know how hard it is not to invest every bit of energy you have into TTC. I remember a Dr saying DTD every other day and make sure it doesn't feel like a chore. After 2 years I think we were both please for the rest once we got our first BFP (sorry TMI)! I hope it happens for you this month I really do xx

So all is well with me, 4 weeks left at work and 7 weeks until due date! I've struggled physically with this pregnancy as I have SPD and sciatica and I'm still trying to keep going full time at work (obviously lots of people get SPD worse than I do). I also have a low lying placenta, so having a scan a week on Monday to see if it's moved. Tbh I'm not bothered if I need a csection as long as baby is ok. Despite my physical struggles baby seems perfectly happy and not too small this time which is great. I've got a feeling it's another girl, but I'm rubbish at guessing. We still have no names picked out.

DD's new bedroom is all decorated and ready for her to move in and she's very enamoured with my belly (which is flipping HUGE compared to last time).

It feels very strange that my final pregnancy is nearly over. It's gone by so quickly it feels like only yesterday that we got our BFP.

I hope all the other pregnancies are progressing well and the BFPs come in their droves this month xx

Gingerbread, there you are! Fx the vitamin b works on your LP. I'm not sure you'd see a difference before OV, so we can only hope it's worked.

What cd are you on now?

FWIW, my GP said that depriving yourself of fun things and the odd drink may make TTC quite miserable, so if your diet is generally healthy I wouldn't say a health kick is needed.

Windy, I was wondering where you were the other day! Only 7 weeks left? Bonkers! But not finishing work til 37 weeks? Ouch.

Funny that you can't guess the sex. We are struggling to pin it down this time. I was utterly convinced boy last time (and wrong!) but I have no firm conviction this time. I'm erring towards boy, but who knows?!

Sorry about your sciatica and SPD. I have left sided sciatica now. It's not good.

I have just a bit less than 17 weeks left, assuming a 39 week ELCS. I've got VBAC clinic next week then back to see a consultant and hopefully get booked in for my section in June.

Thankfully I've got 5 weeks' annual leave to take, so I finish at 31+1 and start mat leave at 36+6, 2 weeks before my section.

40.5 working days left. W00t!

I'm glad it all looks to be sorted for you, give or take :-) Come back more often!

Hi everyone, hope you are all ok and enjoying the weekend. I've had a busy week too and a bit eventful. My DS had to have a blood test on Thursday at the doctors, I stressed about it so much beforehand but he was ever so brave. He didn't cry or even flinch and they gave him a certificate of bravery afterwards! We decided to take him to the doctors as we have noticed that he seems to have lost a bit of hair on top (mainly at one side of his head) and it has thinned a bit. He still has a head full of lovely curls but has quite clearly lost a bit. My mum noticed it too and said that when I was between 2 and 3 that I had the same, or very similar and that is was childhood alopecia. I don't remember it and it didn't last long, and all grew back. So mum and I were wondering if my DS could have the same, passed from me, as these things can be hereditary. Anyway I took him to see a doctor and she suggested a bloodtest just to be safe and rule out things like iron deficiency , any thyroid problems or glucose levels as each of these things can cause hair to be lost. She also said that a lot of the time these things are just unexplainable. Anyway I have been really stressed and worried about it. We had the blood test thurs and got the results Friday and everything normal thankfully. That doctor we saw and who I like is on holiday for a week but we will go back to see her the week after next but I think now it's just a case of keep an eye on things and hopefully his hair will all grow back. So that's the reason I've not been on the last few days, but I have been meaning to.
Windy - only 7 weeks to go! I'm 30 weeks now so only 10 for me, it's very scary that it'll all be happening very soon.
Ginger - it must be so hard. I don't really know what to say or suggest other than hang in there and don't lose hope. I don't see any reason why you couldn't go see a doctor if you wanted , for peace of mind more than anything else. It sounds like you're doing all the right things though.
Hi Hungry and Morerum - how are you both?
Hi Better - how are you and how's your DH doing?
I have started a couple of days ago with a really sore throat. I'm hook bit goes away abc doesn't turn into anything. Hope Swede is ok.

Ooh mrs that does all sound a bit stressful, glad your little boy is ok though. I have been having a tough time getting DD to eat recently and it reminded me of your troubles with your LO! I think I am just going to let her graze throughout the day on whatever she will eat, mealtimes have been becoming a bit of a battle which isn't going to be great in the long run
Hungry the countdown to mat leave is on! Hurray! Are you still enjoying your secondment?

Windy SO good to hear from you again! Glad all is going well, apart from the pain, at least you know it will all disappear as soon as baby is born, that was so strange for me when i had SPD with DD, literally the minute she was born the pain went!! Please do keep us up to date.

You are right with your advice to not go too overboard, I want to do a bit of a detox anyway though, I have been feeling quite unhealthy recently, comfort eating and drinking alot, and still need to shift some weight I put on over Christmas! I drink way too much coffee and eat too much sugar, which could possibly be the reason my cycles are playing havoc. Or maybe I have been doing too much Google research!! I feel tired and sluggish alot of the time, so would like to be healthier in myself anyway, we do eat quite healthily, but do need to cut back on some things.
I am cd23 today. Had to actually count that on the calendar as I didn't know! I have made it as far as I did last month so that is something, but only 6dpo so hoping AF stays away for another week or so yet.
I miss watching OBEM, but it's just become too painful to watch, has anyone seen last weeks episode?

Hi Ginger - thanks, it was a relief to get my DS's blood results all normal and I'm really hoping he has just been passed down something from me re his hair. It does look cute. I actually put a post on Mumsnet but in the child's health section about it just in case anyone else had experienced similar and a few people posted. They had all experienced the same with toddlers of the same age and there were 3 different things or causes but none serious.
Sorry your DD has been a bit awkward with the eating. The best thing really is not to get stressed about it or let them see it bothers you. I try with my DS and offer him things for each meal and through the day but just let him have what he wants and when he wants. We had a really good day with him on Friday. Me and DS went to my mum and dads in the afternoon and stayed for tea and he had a full bowl of spag Bol for tea and then seconds and then tried to finish my dads! But when I make it at home he won't eat it and tonight for tea at home he refused lasagne and had 3 yoghurts for tea. Every day is different with mine but at least he eats, and the blood test that was done tested all his vitamins and nutrients and all were fine, surprisingly as I did wonder about his iron.

Hi everyone. Hope you had a nice weekend. We are moving towards autumn here, sad that summer is over. Still, the weather is great, around 25 degrees and sunny, it's just the nights that are cold.

Got my scan and testing on Thursday and starting to get really nervous about it. At least my appointment is at 7.45am so will get it over and done with first thing. Good is also that I get the results while I am there, so no waiting time at all.

Nothing has changed at home and it's rather depressing really. If this continues I don't think we are going to make it. Trying to hold on but hope is fading. Once Thursday's tests are over and done with, I will try to rebook my tickets to go to Sweden a bit earlier than planned. Not sure if I will be able to rebook as the flights are getting full and also I heard that there is a pilot strike at KLM so who knows. Anyway, I know I will get there sometime, its just a matter how soon really.

Anyway, hope everyone is ok!

Oh swede, I'm so sorry to hear that things aren't going well. (Hugs)

Heading into 2ww here, still time for some more dtd.fx.

DH is struggling with his gradual withdrawl from ADs. Mood swings, easily irritated and frustrated, aggression (verbal). It's like he suddenly has all these negative emotions back that the ADs suppressed and he doesn't know how to deal with them. Also affecting libido which is not good as oving right now!

I feel like even though we've only been back ttc 2 months since the mc, it's taking forever and getting depressing. One of my dsis's friends has just announced her pg with dc2. Her dc1 is a month older than ds so we were pg at the same time. Just makes me sad and frustrated. Fx for last chance at a 2014 baby...I would like a time machine to get through the next 2 weeks!

hello everyone, I wanted to post this and hopefully get if off my chest and feel better. Didn't want to create a new thread in case I seemed a little bit insensitive.

This is going to be out second month of trying to DC no. 2. A lot of the people that had their child at the same time as my DD have either had second child or are pregnant now.

I know I'm being silly but when I found out another friend was pregnant it made me feel sad. I know I haven't been TTC for long but am worried that I'm a older than when I had DC and perhaps I've left it too long.

Anyway good luck to everyone else on this thread xx

Hi tatty, it's totally normal to feel jealous and a stab of 'why isn't it me' when you hear about other people getting pregnant before you, so don't feel silly for feeling sad. How old are you now if you don't mind me asking? How old is your DD?

Cheeky thing mrs eating your mums Bolognese but not yours!! DD has eaten quite well the past couple of days so I feel a bit happier, I am trying not to stress about it or make a big deal about it anymore, I can't be bothered with battles at mealtimes anymore! It took her 1.5 hours the other night to eat some beans!

How many weeks will you be Swede? I am so sorry that all is not well at home, it's the last thing you need right now. Is DH going to Sweden with you? Or are you hoping a little break will be good for the two of you? Has he decided to go and get help or see anyone about it? I hope things start to look up soon for you all.

Engels you poor thing, you are also going through a tough time! Why has DH started to reduce his medication? On Drs advice? All this waiting is just so crap. I'm on my 'month of not trying' but feel like I am obsessing even more about it atm and symptom spotting like crazy, also the days are just dragging by....

Hope everyone else is ok. Weird to think if I get AF this month, my next chance of a BFP will be almost when some of you are due!!

Thanks for the reply ginger. I've just turned 37 and my DD is 3. I would have started earlier but I'm doing a masters at Uni. We stared trying now because hopefully I should be finished by oct 2014.

Also I'm totally grateful for being able to have one DC so should count my blessings! X

Hi everyone.

We only have one name so it's pretty much decided!

hungry it's definitely either moved or the babys just got a hell of a lot stronger, if that's the case, you should get the same soon. How are you? When is your vbac appt?

Wow morerum I know lots of babies who've been around 5lb and never heard of that? That must be awful. Ahh Braxton hicks, joy! Have you got your hosp. Bag packed?

When do you expect AF would be due gingerbread? Are you 8dpo now? I agree with hungry, the b6 as far as I understood is to sleep the LP so it may still have worked?

Gosh windy that has flown over! how are you feeling about the birth? Howled is your dd, do you think she understands what's going to happen in a few week?

Glad to hear all is well with ds mrs re e hair loss, it's so hard not to totally freak out at everything isn't it?! How are you feeling, is the 3rd trimester tiredness kicking in?

Oh no swede I'm so sorry for you, when were you due to go away? Is it for a holiday? At least your mind will be at rest about baby come Thursday.

Ah calling sorry to hear that you're not having an easy time either. Hope things pick up for you soon.

It's so hard not to feel disappointed tatty don't beat yourself up about it! I know we should all count our blessings! but it's easier said than done!

Oh Swede :-( I'm so sorry it's still rubbish. When were / are you think of flying to Sweden? Can you take DD out of the country OK without his permission if you're travelling alone? I really hope it works out for you hugs

Hi tatty. I know how you feel, but I'm sure it'll all be fine. I'm 37 and got pregnant in my third cycle, 2 weeks after my birthday. It isn't horrendously old, fertility wise.

Ginger, how're you today?

Morerum? Are you enjoying your freedom? How's the SPD now?

Mrs, sounds like your DS' eating isn't so bad really.

Better, I've had central kicks today too. So yes, either baby is stronger or my placenta has moved. :-) I'm wiped out totally today. Busy weekend and crap sleep last night aren't a good combination. VBAC clinic is this Thursday. Such a waste of time! Should I take a wee sample do you think?

How're you? And your DH? Is it still chaos? :-/ I hope it's getting better.

Ginger, I'm mostly still enjoying my secondment, though they need reminding that I shouldn't be going to court at all as I shouldn't be doing contentious work. Ah well, I think they learned today when I refused point blank to go!

Hungry today. Need to try not to eat too much really!

Thank you for the kind replies everyone, I am bit of a worrier! Xx

Bitter I'm sorry you're having rubbish time too. Men are meant to be the simple ones. And yes in a way u need him to stick on the ads for the drive if nothing more. Maybe that's not a good attitude!?
Swede I do think you're amazing in standing by him this much. He is a very lucky guy. Don't forget that.
Windy - so close!! I'm excited. Do u know what you're having?
I'm coming up to 28 weeks. Feels weird thinking it might be last pregnancy. I feel like I'm wishing it away. It's def tough being preg, working and being a mum to a toddler! I have two weeks to holiday which is so needed. Dh and I have been quite stressed and think we need special time before three becomes four!
Tatty I have just turned 37 and am pregnant. I think u shouldn't worry yet! Lots of people get preg alot older than this x

Thanks tooth, hopefully I'm worrying over nothing. Sometimes I think I'm the sort of person who has to have something to worry about! X