About to start / Just started / Trying for a while TTC no.2 (part 5)

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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

hi all sorry ive been absent a while dd has some awfull bug that keeps spiking hrr temp to 39.6°c very scary! afew hrs later she back to normal then suddenly fever vomit diarrhoea are all back been like this for 4 days now docs say its 'viral' and dh has man flu which im sure he's passing to me

anyhoo 9 weeks left and like toothpaste said its actually sad to think this will be the last tummy wriggler I carry.
swede I hope things start to pick ip for you and dh/dp such a shame especially with you being pregnant will make this a very stressful time instead of exciting. big hugs xxx
calling hope the 2ww comes and goes for you with a bfp!
how is everyone else? xx

Thanks all for your kind words. Will be 13 weeks on Thursday so still early I guess. I have flights book to go to Sweden in June in any event so its those I am going to try to change to an earlier date. DH really do not have a problem with me going a bit earlier. We do need a break from each other, he needs to think, I need to think and I certainly need some rest. DD will come with me, we go alone every year so it is nothing unusual about that. If the worst is to happen and we separate, DH is well aware that I will be returning to Sweden with the kid(s). He is obviously not happy about that prospect but he understands that I would not be able to remain here alone. Its all such a mess and my head is totally screwed up. Trying to focus on DD and work but some days are harder than others.

OOOOhhhhh..... just had the chat with DH and I'm off to get my implant removed as soon as I can get a GP appointment (so in about 6 weeks then ).

DD is 4.7yo and it's a bigger gap than anticipated. Can I join the troupe for TTC no.2?

Hi everyone and welcome Purple!
I'm 30 weeks plus 4 days today and it's going so quickly! I'm actually getting quite scared that I will be giving birth in possibly just 10 weeks. I've been getting things ready, took the cot down today and put it away ready to come back out, washed the cot bumper, got the steriliser out etc. I've got huge cravings for angel delight at the moment, whether it's strawberry, chocolate, banana or butterscotch. I've had a whole one to myself after tea tonight! At least it's calcium with the milk. How's everyone doing?
Swede - really feel for you and sorry that you're going through such an awful thing. It must be really hard when you love your DH so much and you want to be a family. Can he not get some help?

Bizarre craving mrs! Not had angel delight for years. How exciting that you are starting to get everything ready! Not long to go now, do you think you will be happy to share his name with us when he arrives?
I have had a funny day. Morning was lovely, had a friend round with DD same age as mine and they played while we had coffee. Then had some difficult decisions/conversations with my parents regarding their health, which isn't in the best shape, and so have felt a bit tearful/emotional this evening, coupled with the fact I think AF is on her way any day, have felt a bit rotten. Cooked a shepherds pie earlier, but then thought sod it and have just sent DH out for pizza and beer and easter eggs!!! Will put the pie in the fridge ready for tomorrow night. I am on cd26 which is awesome going by my last few cycles, no idea really when to expect AF, tomorrow would be the old normal for me, but could be anything up to cd34 like december cycle. I have been tempted to POAS, but think I will wait till friday when I will be 12dpo, be lucky to get that far without AF showing up though! Not really had any symptoms, apart from sore boobs. At least the B6 seems to be working, so I am trying to focus on that positive.

Welcome Purple good luck to you!

Tatty I too always need to have something to worry about! It drives DH mad. Hope your worrying is unfounded for you though!

morerum your poor DD, hope she picks up soon and you manage to avoid catching anything. Bloody good job you are off work now!

swede I am thinking of you, wish there was something we could do to help. Have you considered contacting any charities/organisations for people who are living with people who suffer from depression? Not sure if there is anything like that in SA but I'm sure there would be websites that could help you?

Hi Ginger - I was reading your post and it started off so lovely with your friend having coffee. I'm sorry if your mum and/or dad are unwell. I hope you're ok. I feel for you at the moment (as well as Swede obviously) because I know how much you want to get pregnant soon. And I am still sure you will! I feel like a pig at the moment, I am feeling hungry a lot of the time and all I fancy is 'bad' food, or sweet things like angel delight etc. I made roast chicken for tea last night with rice and veggies and when I sat down I just did not fancy that at all and I couldn't even eat the chicken as the smell and taste was making me feel ill so I ended up with a bowl of cereal. I hope you enjoyed your pizza, you do right. I have to say I really don't think what you eat plays any part in helping you conceive. I've read so much stuff about how drinking lots of tea doesn't help, well I'm
a serial tea drinker. Always have been, and I usually drink cup after cup and if didn't stop me getting pregnant either time. I haven't had one cup since finding out though. I'm seeing the midwife tomorrow for my blood test results from the hospital the other week so will let you know how I get on. If I were you I would poas on Friday if you don't get AF, fingers crossed you won't get AF at all!
Morerum - sorry I forgot to mention your DD in my last post. I'm sorry she is so poorly, that's awful but like Ginger says it's a good thing you're at home. How are you enjoying your time at home?
I will definitely share baby names. I think we are decided on our little boy's first and middle names but I'm not sure if it would be nice to save until he's born... Is everyone telling or keeping it a secret on here? I hope once the new babies are here we will all still keep in touch. We might have to change the title of the thread once we are all in the same boat.

That is very impressive tea restraint mrs! Thank you for feeling so positive for me I just hope that by making a difference to our diet I will at least feel like I am doing something productive towards baby making.
Yesterday was pretty rubbish, ended up having a row with DH too over a receipt!!?? and today I am in work, which is also rubbish, I just cannot be bothered with it anymore, each day is just a constant reminder that I should not be here because I should be pregnant. Hence the not working and on MN!
I POAS this morning, just for you Hungry! I am either 10 or 11 dpo, it was BFN of course, but could still be too early I suppose. Instead of being happy to be getting a longer LP, I am worried I am going to have messed up my cycle from taking B6! Gah, what a mess I am.

How is everyone else? Loves where are you up to in your cycle?

Hi Ginger - Sorry about your BFN but if anything , it's probably just too early. I thought you were waiting until Friday. I know exactly what you mean about work and of course you will feel like that. I had 18 months off when I had my DS abc then went back but massively regret going back at all. Life is so hard sometimes. I saw the midwife today, different one again this week so I'm not sure now who my regular one will be but I don't actually mind as there's not that many weeks left. I'm 31 weeks on Friday so could have my baby in 9 weeks! Anyway listened to baby's heartbeat, they did the measurement thing and checked my wee and blood pressure . Everything ok which is good. My blood test came back and my iron has dipped a bit but apparently not so low that I need to take iron. If I'm honest, I'm starting to panic about giving birth again. It was so awful last time that I remember telling my DH we would just be having the one. I still plan to go ahead with a home birth unless any complications arise. Ginger what was your birth experience like again ? I think you had a good experience didn't you ? If you're happy to tell the tale again , it really interests me to know how it went for others , what pain relief and how long in hospital etc . If you were pregnant now or even when you are pregnant next time round, would the thought of giving birth again scare you?

Ah, Gingerbread, sorry for the BFN. :-( If you were 10 DPO though it was probably too early. But yay for the longer luteal phase!

Swede and Engels, I can't imagine how tough it is for both of you right now. You're both coming across as really strong. I admire you.

Mrs, 31 weeks already?! I'm 23 weeks today and off to the utterly pointless VBAC clinic. The joy!

Loves, how're you doing?

Kt, are you all better now?

Better, I'm convinced my placenta has shifted out of the way too as I'm definitely feeling everything now. At 5am today that wasn't necessarily a blessing! Baby is strong!

We have names but I'm not putting them on here. Too public. Happy to share on Facebook / by text though. :-)

Hi to anyone I've missed!

Glad all is ok mrs. Yes, my birth experience with DD was exactly how I had hoped it would be, it hurt like hell of course, but I had a water birth in the mat unit of hospital with just gas and air, was only in hospital for 3 hours before she was born, but I had been in labour since 1am the previous morning, she was born at 7pm. It has been the post birth recovery that I have struggled with, all is still not right 2.5 years on, and I will need reconstructive surgery to put it back to normal! They have said they won't do it until I am finished having a family though. Sigh. I am wondering whether to just go and get it done tbh as it does impact on my day to day life, and then if I am lucky enough to get pg again I will just go in for a ELC. Hungry what would your advice be as someone who had a cs?
I think a home birth would be nice mrs, I did consider it for DD but DH thought if anything was to go wrong it would be silly to not be near the hospital, I think they have quite good middle ground these days with low risk maternity units and birthing pool/bedless rooms in hospitals. But I can also see the appeal of a home birth, not having to rush out to hosp and endure an uncomfy car ride, especially when you have a toddler you won't have to bundle him out in the middle of the night! Would be nice to be able to have your own shower and own bed when it is all over too, and just stay in bed for hours! I was quite miserable that first night in hospital, so would be nice to be in your own home. I think only you know yourself what would be for the best.
Hungry I know I should be happy to have longer LP, but now all I'm doing is worrying I have messed things up! I am 11/12 dpo today. I couldn't resist POAS yesterday mrs! I will wait til Sunday now if AF doesn't show up, but my boobs have stopped hurting today and I am feeling so I think she is on her way soon.

Where is everyone else!?

Can't wait to start hearing all the baby names!!

Hello everyone. So some good news at last. Had the most wonderful scan today and all my tests for Downs etc came back as very low risk so very very pleased! Oh, and we also found out we're having a boy!! Didn't think he would be able to see but he was like, no its very clear what it is, its a boy! So, feel so happy. Would not have minded either way but its cool to know I'll have one of each and for me its now easier to start bonding now that I know what it is.
Very excited and happy.

swede that's lovely news perhaps a bit of good news will help with dp's symptoms? xx
ginger I think im having a boy and I absolutely love the name Parker but dh hates it! it was also my grans maiden name so all my family like it grrrr silly dh does he really need a say?!

Hi everyone!

How did you appt go hungry? Any further forward? I'm fine thanks, happy that I can feel the baby all the time now. Yeah its still chaos here, dh goes in for surgery tomorrow, then well know after that when he needs the next operation. I'm fairly exhausted from having no help from him for 3 weeks, makes you have a renewed respect for people like my sister who were single parents. We have, on the plus side, managed to purchase the majority of our baby list though, so that's good! Hurrah to your placenta moving too. I'm not sure if that's what's happened or baby has just turned superhero but either way it's fine!

toothpaste I think you got your troublesome husbands mixed up! it's caloings husband who's coming off ads. I can't believe you're 28 weeks!! When will you stop working for mat leave?

How is your dd morerum? It sounds awful, my dd once had seizures from high temp, it's so horrible when they're ill. Are you definitely stopping after this one?

Will be good for you to get some rest swede you've had an awful few months. Did you manage to get the flights moved? Brilliant news about your scan, I'm so happy for you, at least you can put some of your worry aside now.

Angel delight mrs that's a nice craving! I still haven't had any yet I hope I get some!! Great that your appt went well. When will you next see the midwife? I'm sorry you're not looking forward to the birth, have you looked into a hypnobirthing cd? I'm not thinking about the birth this time until I know where we stand after the next 2 growth scans. I'm so hoping they'll sign me off high risk so I can hopefully have the same as last time. We have ordered the hypnobirthing cd so I'm hoping that'll help whatever way it goes. Even though things went well for me last time, there are some strong changes I'd want made this time if I'm allowed a low risk birth again.

Oh gingerbread I'm so happy your LP is longer!! I hope AF just doesn't come. Sunday?! No way!! Friday! Go on......! Sorry, that's really annoying. Sunday is fine if you want to wait!!

Did anyone breastfeed last time? I did, our only big purchase we have left is an electric breast pump, does anyone have any recommendations?

Congratulations, Swede, that's excellent news on both fronts. :-)

Ginger, good luck on the willpower front!

Morerum, how are you all? Any news on the Job Centre going your DH funding. Oh, and no, he doesn't have to have input in naming at all!

Better, sorry you're so tired. I hope it improves soon. And yes, maybe our babies are just very strong indeed!

My appt went well got to hear the heartbeat, which was great.

I was told I can choose whatever I like, but a VBAC would be heavily monitored due to risk of rupture and may end up in EMCS in any event. Midwife said they wouldn't intervene (induction or instruments) it'd be straight to section if any sign of issues.

Said I want an ELCS anyway, which she said would be signed off without argument by the consultant due to the small gap between babies. So my next consultant appt in June will give me the date! Exciting. :-)

Oh, crap BF experience here (something else I hope to improve on next time) but the Medela pump is meant to be awesome.

im not going to bf as I tried with dd who wouldn't latch leaving me feeling like failure. had a really negative affect on my first months as a parent and do to want to go through that again.
hats off to all who try but im afraid its not for me..
wow I just needed to get that off my chest!

I know how you feel, morerum. But I'd like to have another go this time in the hope it works. I don't think I'll take it as badly if I can't do it again. Or I hope I won't (though DD's traumatic birth didn't help my mental strength last time).

Rum I love the name Parker!! Goes really well with your DDs name too! I don't think you should listen to DH, you are the one who has grown and will push out this little, possibly, boy, and I'm sure he will grow to love the name!
Swede that is fantastic news, so happy for you, you deserve it after all you have been through, enjoy your happy news!! Have you got a name picked? Don't know where my sudden obsession with names has come from!!
Better good luck with DHs op, hopefully you will get some more help soon! I also don't know how single parents do it, must be so hard, my DH is currently working and studying full time, only ever see him 3 evenings a week, and it has been so hard!
I bf DD for a year, the first 10 weeks were the hardest ever, we both had thrush so it was total agony for 10 weeks, I don't know how I kept going, just sheer determination I suppose. I'm glad I did it, but the so called magical dropping off of baby weight through bf never happened for me!! I tried a hand pump, which never worked for me, so would definately go with an electric one.
Hungry glad you got the result you wanted, not long til you find out when baby will be making it's appearance! I have heard an ELC is a much nicer experience, and the recovery from it is much easier/better.
Well I was going to give in and POAS tomorrow, but I think AF has just arrived so have just hit the port - only alcohol we have in the house! I am trying to focus on the fact I have had a near perfect cycle this month though, 11 day LP and 28 day cycle. Fingers crossed for next month, off to do a bulk order on Amazon now of Maca powder, Wellman Vits and a BBT thermometer......

BF is so much harder than anyone makes out or tells you. I was distraught the first night that DD wouldn't latch on properly, and the nurses were quite rude and short tempered with me whenever I tried asking for help, as if it was something I was doing wrong. I saw so many specialists who were all baffled as to why she wouldn't latch properly, or why it was still hurting so much. My DSis struggled with her first, then gave up after 6 weeks, but with her 2nd, from the word go it just worked easy as pie and never hurt. maybe it would be worth giving it a shot the first night or so, but don't put any pressure on yourself, or feel bad if it doesn't work?

Ah, Ginger. Are you sure it's AF? Not implantation?

And you asked about CS earlier, I remember now. It was a not-too-bad recovery. I never had problems picking DD up or anything and could walk half a mile after a couple of weeks. The worst time was the first few days before the dressing came off. Otherwise it was bearable.

Too early to tell Hungry! I have been feeling crampy today, had the rage yesterday, and spots last few days, so I am fairly confident it is AF on her evil way. If there is nothing to report on over night I will POAS in the morning and let you know! May have just jinxed myself there.....

Well?! What news, Ginger?

i second hungry! although im hoping no news is good news xx

can someone help me?. . .did anyone on here ever feel like they dont have much amniotic fluid? mu bump seems rock hard and I can feel almost every part of my baby. I had frontal placenta the last time and put on alot more weight, dont know if im worried over nothing, I have mw today but shes not great bit of an old hippy doesnt take anything serious!

Great news re your appt hungry do you feel better now that's sorted? Will be amazing to get a date! Did they say if it'd be 38 or 39 weeks?

gingerbread!!! what's happening this morning? Definitely AF? Poas? How are you feeling?

Dropped dh off for his operation earlier, hopefully afterwards we'll be clearer on a longer term picture.

Re breastfeeding, I agree with what everyone's said, it's so much harder than you think it's going to be. Fortunately for me (not for her) I'd seem my sister try and not be able to with bother her babies so Last time I had the attitude of wanting to try it but thinking I probably wouldn't be able to. The first few weeks are so hard, I kept going until dd was 6 months but it wasn't plain sailing, I had thrush like you ginger and a blocked duct at one point. That said, I personally loved doing it, and I think I'd be upset if I couldn't do it this time. I'm hoping to do it for longer, ideally for the first year if I can. I was lucky with dd though after the first few weeks she got into a 3/4 hourly feeding schedule all by herself, one of my friends little ones fed every 30mins/1hr for the first 3 months, I just couldn't have done that!!

I had the Tommee tippee electric pump last time and it was ok, but not great. I'd heard the same about the medela hungry but I'm tempted by the lansinoh affinity, decisions! decisions!

Generally though, I don't think anyone should have to justify their reasons for their preferred feeding methods (breast or bottle) it's personal choice and no one else's business!! The worst thing is it's usually other women, usually other mothers, that judge. Really irritates me!!

How is everyone today? It's a beautiful day here. Anyone have any nice weekend plans?

better fx all goes well with dh's operation xx