About to start / Just started / Trying for a while TTC no.2 (part 5)

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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

Sorry for all the typos...fat fingers!

Hi Calling - how old is your DS now? It's not that I do all the work, my DH works nights so we all have our tea (or evening meal) together and then my DH goes out to work at 6.30pm and he works til 1am so he's not here for bedtime with DS. He does have Sundays and Mondays as his two days off a week and will do it then or we all go up together but it doesn't make any difference who tries to put him to bed. My DS is a good sleeper, once he's asleep he will sleep right through and will sleep anything from 9 to 12 hours through the night. It's just the getting him to sleep that's the issue but the bigger issue is that I can't get him to sleep in his own room or bed but that is sadly my fault for bringing him into our bed for cuddles and letting him come into our bed on a morning when he used to wake up in his cot. He'd wake up in his cot and I stupidly used to left him into bed for a cuddle and now I can't even get him into his own room or bed. That's an ongoing battle so I'm going to be a very tired mummy of two. Won't make the same mistake with my second though, he will probably be in his own room before DS1.

Sorry mrsm I shouldn't have made assumptions. Perhaps dropping the nap or limiting it would be an idea if he's falling asleep so late?

To begin with I had to wait till DS fell asleep before I crept out (and in the meantime sometimes I would fall asleep too!).

DS is 2.8. Dropped his nap last August at 1.10. Now bedtime is at 7pm and he sleeps till about 6-6.30. This morning we managed to get him to go back to sleep until 9.30 after giving him some books at 6.30am to look at in his own bed.

He's very snuggly today...I think it was a bit hot for him yesterday and he didn't drink enough.

I have the same cravings for chocolate sweets and cakes still as well mrs so I know I need to tone up and loose tos weight! I feel self conscious at the moment as my bum is just bloody huge! And even though maxi dresses are so comfy they make me look like a bloody whale as they are so flowy! Yep DH will take 2 weeks off, I'm hoping baby will come near enough on time (wishful thinking!) caise some family members are away for part of early sept so wanna make sure that he's around for those whole two weeks just incase!
Hope the bedtime routine gets easier for you mrs it will be a bit of a change for your DS when baby arrives so he might be quite attached to you for a while, so might be best to wait so he doesn't feel too left out then like I've said before he might be ready once baby is old enough to go into the bedroom with him.
ginger yep makes so much difference when they behave! He has so much energy it's unreal!
rum hope things start progressing soon for you! I took have been checking for updates!

Hi Calling - Don't worry at all. If my DH didn't work nights he would be happy to so bedtime every night, he is very hands on and when I first had DS, he did everything for the first few weeks as I was almost bedridden as the stitches had come out of my episiotomy and I had to let it heal naturally (agony and not very mobile for 8 weeks until it healed up).
Hi Kt - how far did you go over your due date last time? I'm the same as you, I really want to not go too far over. I'm due on Friday but I know nothing will happen by then. I just know I'll go massively over again and really don't want to be induced. I feel like my bum is huge too. We all went out for that meal today, table booked for 4.45 pm and I wore a maternity dress with leggings and felt like my bum looked huge. I couldn't resist a hot chocolate brownie dessert with strawberries! It's hard work fighting the need/craving for sugar/chocolate/biscuits and cake. What so you think re the nap during the day, does your DS still have a nap? Think you're totally right about my DS, I'm going to wait now until baby goes in his own room and try move DS with him.
I had a lovely time today/tonight and sat next to my sister for the meal , it was like old times. She made an excuse for her partner and fe didn't come but it was still really nice with my duster vas her kids, my mum and dad, my DH and DS. I hope everyone has had a nice weekend. I'm thinking of you Morerum and hoping that things start to happen soon.
I think my baby may be pressing on a nerve as I have had pain all day down one side, bum and leg really painful when I walk.

hey everyone sorry but im too grumpy sore and irritated to read back all the posts!

This baby has decided its not going anywhere so it looks like ill be seeing the consultant on thursday who wiill either do another sweep or give an induction date.
Pretty disheartened as the doctor in the hospital said I would defo have baby over weekend after he'd examined my cervix.
mrs you're up next!

It's a tricky one isn't it mrs. My DD usually wakes about 8/8.30am, sometimes later and has cereal for breakfast with us, then we usually go out and do something, come home for lunch about 1, and I try and get her down for her nap by 2. She will sleep for ages so I normally go in and wake her about 4, she has her dinner at 5, and then we start the bedtime routine about 7, and she is usually asleep by 8, when DH and I have our dinner. But bedtime has been getting later and later and more and more fraught, she just doesn't want to go to bed or to sleep, and to be honest some nights she hasn't looked very tired. So, much to my dismay(!) we are getting rid of the afternoon nap. The 3 or 4 days she hasn't had a nap she has gone to sleep at nighttime after maybe 5 or 10 minutes protest. The days she has had a nap it has been more like 1 to 2 hours of getting her to stay in bed and fall asleep. She does get a bit kranky around 4 or 5pm, and I have found I need to get her in bed for about 7 otherwise she goes past it and does not know what to do with herself. So, I think for us, that spells the end of naptime! I don't feel ready for it at all, it's so hard to get anything done otherwise, she likes me to be with her and actively engaged with her all the time, even popping in the kitchen to wash up for 15 minutes she comes in after me wanting to be entertained. She is a good little thing, she just doesn't like being on her own! It is worth getting rid of the nap though I suppose just to get our evenings back and not having to eat dinner in shifts again! It's a difficult one with you though mrs, with a new baby coming I'd certainly be keen to keep naptime with DS, so you get those few hours alone with the baby, but then if bedtime is proving a struggle that won't help things in the early weeks. I think you can only do what works for you in those first few weeks, it's all about survival! And as DS2 get's a bit older maybe you can tackle the sleep issue again then? Or if you feel up to it, get rid of DS' daytime nap and hope he is so shattered come bedtime he will fall asleep anywhere! I think alot of kids vary when they stop naps, one of my friends LO stopped the day she turned 2, another was still napping 3 hours in the afternoon at 3.5! (but was waking up at 5.30 every day)
Glad you had a nice meal out last night, I went to my sisters for chicken dinner and DD had a great time playing with her cousins too!

Rum anything??!! Hope you are holding out ok! Keep on walking around if you can bear it! Do you have one of those gym balls? I was bouncing on one all day the day I went into labour....

Hope everyone else is ok. Hungry how is your first day of freedom? Any plans for this week?

Cross posts. Ah rum how rubbish for you, I was so hopeful for you you would have your baby today too! Will they not send you in for induction on thursday do you think? Otherwise try and have fun ticking all the cliches off your list, hot curry, driving down bumpy roads, lots of walking, anyone got any others!?

You missed sex off your list, Ginger!! :-)

Semen contains the same hormone as they used for induction. Apparently it's more effective if ingested, but you don't have to give those sorts of ideas to your DH!

Sorry nothing happened, morerum. I hope you get some joy soon.

Ginger, I have my consultant's appt on Weds afternoon. At the same time as DD has a consultant's appt in Liverpool, so we will be going separately!

I have to have my 28 week bloods retaken on Thurs. No idea why, but I'm doing as I've been told (by letter!).

Otherwise, no plans as I'm knackered!

It's DD's birthday in two weeks, so I'll need to start finalising bits for that soon. :-)

Hi everyone, how are we all?

ginger sorry you felt so down when AF arrived! totally understandable. Hopefully it's done you the world of good having a few weeks break. What did you decide to do about going private? In my opinion, and it's not really relevant because I really think it's a topic you can't comment on unless you've been in it, because you never know how you'd react but in my opinion I wouldn't pay for private unless I could really afford it. I just think the last thing you need is anymore stress and stretching financially could bring that? But like I said, I can't really comment because I'm not in your position? Dd will be almost exactly 2 and a half when the baby comes, she's not fazed by the bump but I think she kind of thinks 'where's this baby you keep telling me is in there?'! We have her some really good books explaining about it though so I think she should be ok.

Awwwwmorerum I'm sorry things have stopped! it's so disheartening. How are you doing?

hungry how exciting that it is date week!! Have you done your hosp bag? I'm going to have to get a move on with mine as I'm 2-3cm dialated! But not in labour, no pains, waters still in tact and will probably still go close to due date. What's your plans for your dds birthday?? I can't believe she's nearly one, she was just a little tiny when we first came on the thread!!

mrs dh will have 2 weeks off, then a few weeks with mon&fri off work, then he's off as were on holiday for a week (if baby is round about on time) re routine, we have been really strict with it since dd was around 6 weeks. She gets up at 7ish, if she's not up by 7.30 I wake her. Naps at 11.45/12 for an hour. Has lunch at 1.30. Tea at 5, bath at 6.30, story at 7.15 & bed at 7.30. She usually takes around 15 mins to fall asleep. If she hasn't had a nap, if we've been out for the day or something she takes longer to fall asleep as over tiredness really wrecks her. She hasn't been allowed to nap any later than 1.30pm since she was around 18months as it gave her too much energy at bedtime!

Hi Morerum - I'm sorry you're back to playing the waiting game and that your baby hasn't arrived this weekend. I'm struggling today and yesterday with sciatica and I can barely walk about, it's really painful. I'd also just like to have this baby now. The end of pregnancy isn't that enjoyable is it?! I mean obviously it's exciting and you can't wait to meet your new baby but it's just so uncomfortable. You say I'm up next but I think you're first Donna and I'll follow suit. I have my fingers and toes crossed for you that your new baby makes an appearance soon. 4 days to go for me, well until my new date. I've felt really fed up today but I think it's just the pain in my leg and bum down one side. It's a bloody pain...literally.
Hi Ginger - How old are your sisters children? Are you close to your sister? I have read what you do with your DD and think that might be a better routine for me to try with DS. Some days my DS gets up at 8am, I could give him lunch between 12 and 1pm and then try the nap at 2pm and he would also probably go until 4. Tea at 6pm, bed at 7.30pm. I'll see how he goes and possibly give that a try.
Hi Better - How are you? Your routine is like mine and it does work for us. My DS is usually tired by 11.30am so has the nap at 12 ish and can be awake again for 1.30pm. Do you think it matters when they have their naps? I don't really want to knock the nap on the head as I really think my DS needs it and also like Ginger says, I'll be glad of some time with the new baby for an hour and a half while DS1 sleeps.
Hungry - How's you? Are you enjoying being off?

You're 2-3cm dilated?! Shit...that's a bit mental. When did you find that out?

I've just washed my new big knickers, so can pack soon, once they're dry. I'll be done by the end of this week, I imagine. :-)

We are having a small BBQ for DD's birthday. Nothing extravagant. Not like she knows what the occasion is!

She's seriously teething tonight. Her top ones are finally coming and they're taking their time. It's not good. :-/

Saturday, I had a small bleed, went to get checked and thats what they said!

Bbq birthday sounds lovely, that's the nice thing about summer birthdays isnt it?

Is her teething affecting her sleeping?

Ah. Hopefully you'll go quick when the time comes then!

Let's hope we get dry weather. Hit and miss at the moment. It rained the day she was born too, so we shall see!

It's affecting naps. And she wouldn't go to sleep last night. DH had to adopt the rocking technique from when she was tiny. Funny how it still works, even though it's now only utilised when we are desperate!

Hungry - When is your DD's birthday?
Better - what did the hospital do when you went about your bleed? Having a bleed is always really scary in pregnancy, I remember only too well after I had a couple of bleeds with my DS an both were unexplainable. I hope you're ok.
Well I've had about two hours sleep all night if that, and my DS got me up at 6am. I am so tired today! Our bedroom is so hot on a night and makes it hard to sleep, that combined with needing to wee every 5 mins and bring too big to get comfortable. Roll on Friday - my due date although judging by Rum I won't have baby by then. The waiting is awful.
Can I ask a random question, what does everyone have for breakfast while pregnant?
Hungry - I am going to Mothercare today as need to take some shorts back that I bought my DS a couple of weeks ago. I need to exchange them as the material has gone funny. But I thought I'd have a look for some big knickers as I need something more comfy for afterwards. In buying ridiculously huge sizes. Will Mothercare do those?

Mrs, sorry you've barely slept. That's not great, is it? Sadly quite typical for late pregnancy. The heat is just the icing on the cake, isn't it? :-/

DD's birthday is on 23rd, so not long now.

I have Weetabix on a weekday. We either have bacon sandwiches or scrambled eggs on toast with beans at the weekend.

Oh, and Mothercare may do the pants. But Primark / Tesco / Asda will be way cheaper.

Better you are right, it would be a stretch financially, and the money would be better spent on a nice little holiday for our family of 3, or put towards a better car or something. I don't think DH would be too happy about spending hundreds of pounds that we don't have on it, but sometimes I just get so desperate I feel like I want to do anything and everything possible to get a baby, I've even considered taking out a credit card to pay for IVF! I think I might ring the hospital and see if I can get an earlier app, if not we will just keep doing everything we can for the next 6 months and keep our fingers crossed.
Can't believe you are 2cm dilated already! Are they happy for you to just carry on as normal? When is your app to see if they will sign you off high risk or have you already had that? Sorry, rubbish memory!
mrs sorry you're feeling uncomfortable and struggling to sleep, the last few weeks/days seem to drag by don't they. Really hoping there isn't too long left for you, and for rum too. Any more updates today rum? Only a few more days to go til thursday til your appointment and hopefully they will put you in for induction!
mrs my sisters girls are 6 and nearly 10, DD absolutely idolises them. I do get on with my sister, she is 8 years older than me and we are very different people, but we do get on, and it's nice to get together with her and her girls.she knows all about our ttc so it's nice to talk it through with her.
hungry a birthday bbq does sound lovely. I think the first birthday is more a celebration for mum than baby, a pat on the back for you for getting through the first year! Hope the weather is nice for it, my birthday is the 19th and it usually always rains on my birthday. Poor little thing still struggling with her teeth, she has had a rough ride with them hasn't she! Hopefully she gets them all out soon, and out of the way for you before DC2 arrives!!
You've got me pining for a bacon sandwich now....I am off to Amsterdam early tomorrow morning though so I will be tucking into pancakes and waffles for breakfast tomorrow

Hi Ginger - ooh pancakes and waffles...yum yum!
Hungry - i have weetabix most mornings too with orange juice, today I had toast as well as I was really hungry. I think tiredness makes you need to eat more too.
I've been to Mothercare and swapped DS's shorts. Couldn't find any suitable big knickers though. You were right Hungry, too expensive for big pants in there. I'll wait til I'm at the supermarket for a couple of big pairs for afterwards. Oh the glamour.. I hate big pants! Hoping to get back into my nice small one's but I reckon that will take about 6 months.

Oh Ginger - Forgot to say have a lovely time in Amsterdam! How long do you go for? I remember you saying you'd be away on my due date (Friday in case anyone has forgotten). It's so weird, I remember the night I did the pregnancy test and got my BFP, it has flown by. I can't believe I'm going to have two babies.

Ginger, have a lovely time in Amsterdam. I'm not jealous at all! :-)

I keep saying to DH how many weeks we have left and that I can't believe we will have 2 babies soon! I feel bad that DD will only have had us to herself for 13 months. But he was very sensible and said that number 2 will never have us to themselves, so that countered that worry!

And yes, mrs, tiredness = eating ALL the food. And then more food on top go that!

Have fun ginger ! Very jealous - I have 2 more days of work to get through and tomorrow night I have to do my least favourite thing - PACK! But all for a good cause as going to UK to see my mummy with DS. otherwise I'd be stalking you up in Amsterdam

Ah yeh we could of had a meet up Engels! I'm only there two nights though anyway. Hope you have a nice time here in the UK! I hate packing too, I have been struggling to fit everything into a hand luggage bag, I like to be prepared for every eventuality!

Hope you all have a good rest of the week, probably won't get much chance to pop on to MN and hopefully rum will have had her baby by the time I get back!!

Have fun Ginger! Let's hope Rum has had her baby by the time you're back. I'd like to also have mine by or during this weekend but I doubt it will happen that soon. It's just so hard to tell when these babies will be ready to come. I see the midwife tomorrow afternoon so will report on that tomorrow. How's everyone else doing tonight ? It's been a really hot day here. It'll be strange having a baby in this hot weather when my DS was born at the end of December when it was really cold. Personally I'm hoping it's not that warm during my labour, can't imagine that being very pleasant.

hungry at least she's not up all through the night with it! does anything give her any respite? The only thing that seemed to soothe dd at all was little bits of crushed ice in her mouth, none of the powders or gels or anything made any difference! Are you having many people to the BBQ? I think it will be lovely for your kids being so close in age, they'll be best friends and will probably play together really well. Hard work for you for the first year or so I suppose but one of my friends had 15 months between her girls (who are now in middle school so big girls now) and she says having them so close was the best thing she ever did.

mrs it wasn't really worrying with the bleed! they just said it's cos my cervix has opened, I knew the baby was ok as it was like a party in my tummy haha! Blueberries, strawberries and yoghurt for breakfast here, it's our standard summer breakfast!

gingerbread hope you're have a brilliant time away, I've never been to Amsterdam. Are you going with or without dd? Yes they're happy for me to carry on at 2cm, they don't seem concerned, they just said to go in if I start having pains as they're likely to be the real deal as opposed to Braxton hicks. My consultant app and growth scan is a week today so hopefully will be signed off then.

How is everyone?