About to start / Just started / Trying for a while TTC no.2 (part 5)

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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

Hi everyone.

Gosh mrs your sister sounds like a piece of work. It's still sad for you though. And what a horrible position for her to put your parents in. I would be tempted to offer you ds to go round again next weekend, surely your parents must miss that time with him?maybe your sister should sit next week out if she has a problem with it. All drama you could do without when you're heavily pregnant though :( dh should be back to work next week hopefully, then just need to see when they want to do the next surgery.

Hi gingerbread how was your blood test today? I'm pleased that at least they seem to be on the case with sorting things out medically, although I know it's not an instant fix. I totally understand you needing breaks from the thread, but we would miss you if you disappeared completely, you're one of the originals!!

morerum the contraction thing sounds like a nuisance!! Could it cause premature labour? Dd was breech (from what the midwife said from feeling my tummy) until 36 weeks but she squirmed round after that, so you've still time!!

I'm good thanks hungry dd has been having a spell of not sleeping so I totally sympathise. Fortunately she seems to have come through it now. Oooooh funny you should mention amazon family, I was just looking into it! Would you recommend it?

Sorry re AF juggling TTC is such a stressful time. Easier said than done to try and put it to the back of your mind but if you can manage it then that'd be brilliant. 2 years seems extreme from the gp!!

All you nappy stockpilers have got me worried. We have zero. 27 weeks in. I'm going to be having nappy nightmares now!! We still have quite a lot left to get really, although mostly littler things. Better get on it!

Although....we have just got some fancy video monitors, which we tried out on dd last night and the are awesome!!! I don't know how we managed without with dd!!

I like Amazon Family as you get Prime with it, as well as film / TV downloads now too. I'm not sure I'd pay £80 though. I got in at just the right time with three months free, then a year at £50. With two in nappies it'll pay for itself though (probably already has, actually, as Pampers Active Fit are an amazing price through it!).

Ooh, video monitors. How posh! How's your DH?

Juggling, 2 years is a long time. How old are you? I've forgotten if you've told us. Is it worth seeing another GP?

Engels, bet you can't wait fir your scan. Hope time flies for you. :-)

Hi everyone,

Hungry - I'm feeling very tired too and big. What is this Amazon family thing? I buy quite a bit from Amazon but I've not heard of Amazon family. How's work going, when do you finish ? Hungry when is your due date again? I want to try remember all the due dates for cards/congratulations etc. I think it's lovely how we've all stuck together since beginning of sept 2013. We will have to continue the thread when the babies are here maybe with a new title.
Hi Better - re the stacking up of nappies, I've oh bought one pack of 24 Aldi newborn nappies so far. We started with Pampers with my DS but someone recommended the aldi ones and we tried them and I world recommend. I think Morerum has used them too. We go to aldi for toilet roll as they do 9 really nice soft rolls for £1.99 and just the nappies if I buy more. DS is still in nappies but he's in sainsburys size 6, the last size before he will start potty training this summer. I may well ask mum and dad again on Saturday if they want my DS for a couple of hours. Thoroughly shocked at my sister but also a little annoyed with my mum and dad as I think on Saturday instead of telling me that my DS couldn't go round, they should have told my sister not to bother as she has no right to say who can and can't go round to their house. My mum says she realises she was wrong on Saturday.

Hello - I'm still here lurking mostly.

Having to fend off in-laws asking about grandchild no 2 (they are currently staying for a week), and feeling guilty for being jealous of my sister in law and her bump, think it's bringing back some memories of her first pregnancy which was my second miscarrigae so that's a mess.

I should add that my in-laws and sister in law are all lovely and i'm being gracious and lovely back at them but that is taking energy at the moment and i'm having ups and downs.

So yeah just lurking and drinking wine, and eating smelly cheese and too many caffineated drinks :)

Hi Loves - Try not to worry or feel sad as I'm sure it'll be your turn very soon. Drinking wine and eating smelly cheese sounds nice, indulge while you still can! Isn't it funny how when you're pregnant you fancy eating all the things you can't eat!? I'm usually a huge tea drinker and I've not had one cup of tea since finding out I was pregnant, I can't wait til I've had baby and I can start drinking it again and lovely prawn sandwiches and things.
I will be due in 6 weeks this Friday and I can't wait now. I just want to have my new baby now. We are still trying to finalise names.
More rum - How are you feeling now? If I'm due 6 weeks on Friday, does that make you due in 5 weeks?

loves I think that sometimes people do not realise that asking such things can be so hurtful and upsetting. I used to try and brush people off with "Plenty of time, we're enjoying DS right now" and steer the conversation towards DS. But when it got too much I would say ssomething like, "We'd love another but unfortunately it's not that easy for everyone" or "nature's not cooperating". Most people would leave it at that, but if they didn't I would say, "I don't really want to talk about it."

When we were ttc DS, 18 months down the line, just after mc and family had no idea what was going on (we'd chosen not to tell anyone we were ttc dc1) dh eventually told mil as he was close to breaking, and she'd been going on at me about storing baby stuff in our attic(that she had from bil's kids) and I was almost in tears (because I didn't want it in the house if we never got pg). I would maybe get dh to have a word with ils if you feel comfortable them knowing. Since mc in October which I was very open about this time, people have been great at not prying.

It's so hard being around bumps. Be kind to yourself and don't feel guilty about your feelings. You have evry right to feel the way you do.

mrs the odd cup of tea won't hurt! No way I can give up coffee completely, though trying to cut back, especially when going back to school next week.

I have been drinking alcohol free white beer with lemon which is lush.

Amazon family sounds great! I didn't realise it existed!

Thanks Better and Hungry, 2 years does seem unbearably long. I'm only 33, which is another reason GP decided we should wait longer... I've decided to leave it for one cycle and then try to see another GP.

better I don't have a video monitor but have been converted to the idea after seeing friends - they are amazing!

loves I completely understand the fending off DC no 2 comments and suggestions. I sometimes feel like screaming we're trying, give us break! But like you they are all lovely so I couldn't do that to them. Hang in there, and enjoy the wine and smelly cheese while you can

mrs I really hope things improve with you family, stress + pregnancy isn't fun.

Ginger if you are lurking, I hope you're doing ok and hope to see you back soon.

I'm now on an amazon ban (except for kindle) as they've just stopped doing free delivery on orders over £25 to the Netherlands. Going to have to do some serious forward planning for my Christmas shopping then since I ordered lots from there last year and got a lot of marketplace stuff delivered to my DPs house to avoid postage. Won't be in England for Christmas though to pick stuff up so will have to be even more organised (my family think I'm nuts asking them in September what they want for Christmas!).

Its a complicated situation with the in-laws, they are emotionally charged around the subject as a result of loosing two of their own children - so DH is their only child, DS only grandchild so far.

How do you even approach that without just smiling and nodding and telling them that there will be more grandchildren - which adds a crazy pressure when they are here!

juggling two years does sound a long time I would be getting a second opinion I think just to put my mind at ease.

I'm on a self imposed amazon ban after I went nuts buying some old books from my childhood for DS - The magic faraway tree anyone?

How sad loves. I think honesty might be the best path as it's obviously on their mind as opposed to small talk from colleagues, acquaintances etc. Sorry, my mind's gone blank I can't remember how long you've been ttc dc2. When were your mcs?

Do your ils know about your mcs loves ?

This will be cycle#8 ttc which i'm ok with and my mc's were before DS so a few years ago now, certainly part of my history rather then part of who I am now if that makes sense?

The in-laws don't have a clue about them and never will, they are not the most 'normal' people (I am definitely not judging i'm not sure what normal would be after such losses) just that they have issues hoarding, obsessive photo taking - I think its to do with capturing and holding onto things? and i'm not going to add to that for sure!

The important things that I focus on are that they adore DS, he is their world and I am going to get pregnant again eventually. Just right now in this moment it's difficult to stay positive because it takes effort and I'm juggling their emotions and expectations as well.

Wow what an essay thanks for listening to my moans :) and sorry for moaning when I know others on this thread are having a rough time of it

Firstly loves yes! Love the Magic Faraway Tree! I actually re-read them all last year when my mum dug them out at her house!!! We have all my old battered copies ready for DD when she is old enough. Does anyone else try and impose show their fav things from childhood on their kids?! I have introduced DD to Button Moon, but she does not get it at all, and the Funny Bones books, but they don't seem as good anymore as when I was a kid.
Juggling I think 2 years is too long. Especially as you will be closer to 35 by then, I am surprised the Dr has said that, although, my GP listed all the stats to me about it being normal to take 2 years, and to relax and keep trying when I went for my first appointment and sort of dismissed me, then when I went back last time, about 3 weeks ago, the first thing she said when I walked through the door was 'still not pregnant?' and pulled a sort of oh dear face- so maybe she thought if she sent me away to relax and get on with it then it would happen. Anyway my point is, perhaps go back to the Dr and tell them you are worried or suspicious something is wrong, or tell them that it is causing you too much anxiety/sadness and hopefully they will get the ball rolling? I think after explaining my worries and issues to my GP she took me a bit more seriously, she has referred me to counselling to talk it through, and put me through for all the tests.
Well I am halfway through my multiple blood tests this month. Think I will make an appointment with my GP in a week or so to go through and discuss all the results. I'll try not to disappear ladies! I am going to stop all of the POAS and charting next month, and just relax and get on with life, and focus more on losing weight, as I think the wonders of clomid work alot better when you have a healthy BMI.
Loves sorry about all the questions, they are so hard to deal with. My voice always goes a bit wobbly and I say weird things to people now when they ask. Someone asked me the other day and I just came out with oh I don't know it's been exhausting and DD is a handful,which is a complete lie, and sort of half laughed-half cried it off! It's hard when people have other issues/worries to deal with too, you don't want to add any more burden onto them, sounds like your in-laws have had a tough old time, but it must be tough pinning all their hopes on you! My in-laws are coming to stay in August for a month, will be great to see them but I know they were hoping there would be another baby here by then. I think we will just tell them the truth when they get here though, then go and get very drunk!

Think you wrote an essay loves!

A month gingerbread !I think I would be drunk for the whole visit!

I wouldn't have ANYBODY staying for a month. Ever!

You're a saint, Ginger!

Haha!! Think I must be one of the lucky ones, my in-laws are awesome! They have also offered to watch DD for a few days while DH and I get ourselves off on holiday somewhere, so very much looking forward to that!

Hi everyone, I'm just in the waiting room to see the midwife. 34 weeks on Friday so just a routine appointment but will report back later.

How is everyone?

I ended up being monitored for reduced movements today after a complete change in pattern last night / over night / this morning.

Everything is fine though, thankfully. I was in there for 3 hours all told...I was so hungry when I came out!

How was the midwife, mrs?

Hi Hungry - Everything was fine at the midwife appointment thanks, although she told me that she is leaving so it'll be yet another midwife I see next time in two weeks. They just keep changing. Just the usual check, wee and blood pressure checked, listened to baby's heartbeat and Shen feeling my tummy she said the baby's head is a third engaged! I really want this baby to come a few days early. Anyway what happened with you,did you ring hospital because you had concerns about the movements?

hungry hope your ok?! how scary is it when you think something is wrong! xx
mrs ive not saw a cmw since I was 27 weeks they cancelled my last appointment as they were too busy, ill be 35 on Sunday. have an appointment on friday so will see if they cancel it again!
so pleased ur wee one is starting to engage I just hope mines turns

Apparently second / subsequent babies often bungee in and out of engagement. Let's hope ds2 doesn't do that, mrs.

Morerum, that's crap about your appt. My midwife is seeing me on bank holiday Monday as there was no space in clinic for me!

And yes, mrs, the pattern was all out and I'd barely felt a thing in over 12 hours, so I called up and went there instead of work first thing (I work a 10 min walk away from the hospital).