About to start / Just started / Trying for a while TTC no.2 (part 5)

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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

Thanks everyone for your lovely words. Its true like someone said sometimes its easier to come on here to vent and talk than to talk to people in RL. It's certainly helped me. I am very sad but at the same time I feel good in that I have now made my decision. I am defintitely a person who needs to have a plan in place so knowing that I am now 'going home' makes it sort of ok for me. I do cry a lot, mostly when I am alone, because I am sad that my marriage is over. Such a long time and so much time invested and now you wonder for what exactly. At least I have got one (soon two) great kids out of it which is what keeps me sane.

Yes I am feeling the flutters quite frequently now. It's so lovely, I remember it from last time. Going for another scan on 8th May and then my anomality scan on the 12th June, just before I leave for Sweden on the 19th. My biggest worry in this regard is that I was obviously set on having my c-section again but rules are different in Sweden (very much like the UK I think), healthcare is not private and so getting a c-section can be very difficult if you do not have very special circumstances. I am going to get my gyno to write a letter to bring with and I hope that will help me. I am set on the c-section now so getting my head around a natural birth will be difficult (although I will obviously have to do it if there is no other choice.).

keepon DS is 3 now, how old is yours? Mine is too literally gets bored quite easily too! Worth giving it a go though seeing what he's like :)
How you getting on swede
We had 20week scan today, and were having another boy! Little sad as would of loved a girl but baby all healthy so it looks so that's the main thing :)

Ah, congrats Kt :-)

Seems everyone who knows, bar Swede, is having the same again!

Only 14 weeks til I find out.

needs some advice ladies
lower backache, rock hard stomach and stabbing pains in the lady areas? am I jumping to conclusions?
also feeling like utter shit

Im not AWOL!!! Mumsnet wouldn't let me change my password after the heatbleed thing, so I've been following but unable to comment!! So much has happened its too late to reply now but I'll get on it tomorrow!

Oh my lord more rum its possible!! Maybe try to get some sleep incase this is the beginning and you need your energy! Hope youre ok x

tightness loosened off thankfully but returns whenever I get up. still feeling rubbish and quite nauseous its prob a bug. can still feel baby shifting so alls good that way. think ill call me in morning just to double check though x

*mw

Morning, for the past 3 weeks or so I wake up super early, not much happening at 3 in the morning and it makes my days very looooong. Not sure if its preggo insomnia or stress but hey ho. Have started to organize my return, ordering shipping boxes to send some stuff home, organizing my finances so I leave with a clean slate, handed in my notice at work (very sad about that) etc. Cant do much on the other side until I am there. Will have to stay with my parents for a while but need to find somewhere to live before baby arrives. All my friends at home are helping and are so supportive so I feel very lucky in that regard.

We are going into winter here, yuk, starting to get very cold at night. You get such extremes here with day temperatures of about 25 (in winter) but at night it can go down to 0 degrees. As no houses here have any kind of heating it makes the nights super cold. Looking forward to getting to Europe in summer time.

Anyway, got to get ready for work. At least it's Friday and Monday is a public holiday so long weekend here I come.

been in hospital since 10:30 not in labour but I have something in my pee that there checking out and sent for bloods so I can't leave till all results are back.
baby is also breech but they say its not an issue till 37 weeks so bubba has 3 weeks to get a wriggle on!

How are you today, morerum? What did the tests bring back in the end?

Let's hope baby turns and isn't breech for too much longer.

Swede, it must be sad tying up all the loose ends. How did DH's family react to the news? But not long til you can be with your family again. :-)

Will you get any state support, or aren't you eligible if you've lived out of the country?

How is everyone else? I'm 25+2 and utterly exhausted. I don't hold out much hope for the third tri! Thank god I've only 6 weeks / 27.5 working days left!

So, I'm back! Bloody mumsnet password glitch!

swede what a tough time you're having, how are you doing? Did his family respond as expected? They haven't got a leg to stand on really given the ordeal their son is putting you through. Such an awful situation to be in, but you're making the only choice you can make you need to look after yourself and your babies and you can't do that in SA, you need the support of your family.

engels massive congratulations! About time we had another BFP!! How are you doing?

mrs I love the playground in Ilkley, the one down by the river? Have you been to the cow and calf pub up on the moor? It does amazing food! How are you getting on, does your ds know he has a little brother enroute? I've heard lots of people say the Aldo nappies are good, we used pampers until dd was about 9 months then switched to sainsburys, I think we'll do the same this time. Haven't started stockpiling wipes etc yet! Sorry things are still complicated with your sister, it's hard having a family issue hanging over you, we found it hard with things with dhs parents up in the air. It's sorted now (as in both parties (them and us) have decided we won't be having anything more to do with each other) it's very sad and not what dh and I would have chosen but it's much less stressful now we know where we stand.

How are you gingerbread? Have you been back to the doctor?

Congrats on a positive 20 week scan kt have you much to buy this time?

morerum how did things go at the hospital? Are you ok?

Hiiiiiii hungry I'm with you on the exhaustion. 26+6 today so almost 3rd tri time! Can't believe how quick it's going, can you?! Wow not too long left at work for you!!

I have a midwife appt on Friday and growth scan a week on Wednesday so hopefully all will be well. We have dhs consultant appt the day before and I'm going with him to make sure he doesn't agree to a ridiculous date for the next surgery ( as in 2 weeks before edd!!)

Hi everyone, how is everyone doing? Sorry I haven't need on for a few days.
Kt - Wonderful news re your scan ! I'm so pleased everything is ok and you must be delighted about another boy . Your DS will love a little brother. I know you should never say this but I'd have been disappointed if I he been having a girl this time. Both times I have wanted a baby boy. You should never be disappointed I know, because obviously healthy and well is most important!
Hi Better - How are you ? Yes that's the playground we went to in Ilkley last Sunday , by the river. We didn't go eat at the pub but thanks for letting me know for if we go again. We had something to eat at the restaurant that they have there just by the playground and we sat out as the weather was nice. It's a big playground and we liked it there. How's your DH doing now? I remember you saying about your situation with your DH's parents, it all goes on in families doesn't it?! I'm sad about my sister Better. My mum and dad have always had us all round on a Saturday, as in my nan and then my sister and her 4 kids and then us and my DS but we haven't gone since November because if all this. Anyway I decided I thought it wasn't fair for the kids to all not see each other so I told my mum that if my sister was going round today that I'd ( or my DH) would drop off my DS so that he could play with his cousins and then me and DH were going to go off and buy a new Moses basket for baby and some things in Mothercare. I've seen a lovely Moses basket in Mothercare, well on the website. Anyway I rang my mum this morning to ask if she was having everyone round and she said yes my sister and her kids were all going round but my sister didn't want my DS to play with her kids and she didn't want to bump into me at all so we weren't allowed to go.
Morerum. How are you? Are you out of hospital? I am feeling very uncomfortable as baby is definitely head down.

Hi everyone, I have just been catching up with you all, I keep thinking I might leave this thread as I'm ashamed to admit I am jealous of all your bump and baby talk and still can't believe it hasn't happened yet for me, but then I find myself missing you all! And I am so happy for you all on your journeys and am excited to start hearing when the babies arrive, so I don't think I will be disappearing completely just yet.
I had a lovely Easter break, with friends and family visiting so was able to put ttc to the back of my mind a bit. It is back into the swing of things now though as I have a multitude of blood tests booked this month trying to pinpoint my day 21 and catch the hormones on the right day. I went for a blood test yesterday, cd15, totally pointless but the Dr wanted me to go then so didn't want to offend her! Also booked in for mon(d18), thurs and the following tues, annoyingly bank holiday monday the day before as that would have been closer to my 7dpo, it will be 9dpo instead
Had some swabs done yesterday too, and DHs SA is booked in for end of June. GP has also referred me to gynae, which is a 5 month waiting list but at least I am getting somewhere. I had a +ve opk this morning and expect I will get one tomorrow too, and have started charting my temperature this month, I had a big temperature rise yesterday morning which I think suggests ovulation, so hopefully the blood test results I had a few months back were wrong and I am actually ovulating.
I am coming round to the idea now that maybe I will have another baby, it will just be a long way in the future, which isn't at all what I wanted but it's better than thinking I will never have any more!
Not doing too well on the dtd front this month, so I will probably be out again this month, but I don't mind too much as am meeting up with some very good friends end of May and it would be nice to have alot a few drinks with them!

Kt congratulations! That is lovely news, your DS will be so happy! A girl would be nice too though, plenty of time in the future for that

mrs I cannot believe your sister would do such a thing, and with you trying to be the better person today and not let it affect your DS. What a sad horrible situation to be in, and how horrid for her to put your parents in such an awkward position too. You have done everything you can though and tried to make things better, so the ball is definately in her court now and hopefully she will see sense one day.

Rum are you and baby ok??

Swede I am so so sorry it has all turned out this way. You seem to be coping remarkably and are being very sensible and level-headed about the whole thing. I absolutely think you are doing the right thing by going home, but I cannot understand how your DH could do this to you and your children. I am thinking of you Swede and wish there was something I could do to help other than words on a page!

Better glad you were able to get back onto MN!

hi all im fine and so is bump. I have a viral infection that my body has pretty much fought off and my iron levels are abit low. I also have a thing called uterine irritability so whenever I walk too much or the baby has its crazy active spells my uterus contracts for what seems like hours! Basically I need to rest but baby is also breech so I want to bounce it round - causing contractions no win situation atm will get scanned at 37 weeks if still not head down.
any how. . .
mrs your sis is a shit! what a horrible person to take it out a kid I hope she can sleep at night!
Ginger please dont leave I understand if you do but we wpuod miss you
kt great news re the scan!
swede glad to see you are keeping busy sometimes if you have time to think it can make you worse x
better im obsessed with nappies ive bought at least 8 boxes of them in sizes 1, 2 and 3 and 3 big boxes of wipes!
hungry hope the packing is going well, I could think of nothing worse! xx
I hope ive not missed anyone apologies if I have xx

Hi Morerum - I'm sorry you've been in hospital, poor you and I hope you're going to try rest as much as you can. xx Re my sister - I couldn't have said it better myself. Honestly the saying that think God you can pick your friends is certainly a true one!

Ginger, it's good you're having all the tests done (I wasn't sure how much they'd do when you've already had one child) and I'm glad you're feeling more positive. :-)

Mrs, your sister sounds like she's being a total cow. I'm so sorry. Just focus on number 2, I think. Not long to go now at all.

Morerum, how're you today? Are you OK? Did your husband get the funding he applied for? I hope everything is going well.

Better, how're you today? I'm still exhausted after crappy sleep this weekend thanks to teething. :-/ Had my first nap yesterday instead of packing. We did get one load packed and taken though, which was useful. I'm sure we will get enough done this weekend coming, what with the extra day available, to make it easier when we do move. :-)

Swede, how're you? And Kt?

Any sight of Windy again? Must be thereabouts due now!

Cakes, how're you?

Hi to everyone I've missed. Crap memory!

Oh, I'm also stockpiling nappies. 4 boxes of each size up to 3. :-)

I'm with Amazon Family and get a 20% discount on their prices, so it works out loads cheaper than buying from shops, they're even cheaper than supermarket ones in the same size (I'm buying Pampers).

ginger I completely understand how you feel about dropping off the thread. I've done the same myself in the past - alternately hidden, lurked and then posted because I couldn't help it! It is so hard when you have the ache to have another child and it feels that all around you are getting pg. Hard enough in RL but on here too, especially when it's a TTC thread so the chances of others getting pg are high. Big hugs to you. Take time out if you need it. Sounds very positive how quickly your GP is moving with testing. Fx for you and enjoy May - great that you're seeing friends. I went into a frenzy of booking up things to do to keep me busy last month so now going to see Hamlet in Amsterdam this week and have a few more concerts lined up over the next few weeks.

mrs how hurtful that your sister would behave like that

take care of yourself rum

I'm doing well better. We told my family this weekend, since if it all goes wrong again I will tell them anyway. I "feel" more pg this time than I did last time thoug. Hopefully a good sign. Telling MIL and FIL tonight. Have had email through from mw with a early scan at 8 weeks (so 5 weeks time) and my official first scan/booking in appt at about 11 weeks

Big waves to hungry, windy, swede, kt, juggling and anyone else I've missed.

swede thinking of you, you are such a strong person!

ginger hope you are doing ok and coping with all the testing. A +ive OPK is good news, a long journey to BFP is hard, but it sounds like you're feeling more positive which is brilliant.

oh morerum that sounds really uncomfortable, not to mention hard to cope with, with a DC running around demanding attention. Rest up and take care.

kt another boy, how lovely! I'd love another boy, but understand your hope for a girl too. My DS is 2.5 so I might leave it a little while before braving the cinema

engels take it easy, glad to hear you've told family. Its nice to have some support and understanding from loved ones. Keeping everything crossed for your scan.

I've had a bad few days, AF showed up (late) and my GP has decided they won't do any more testing until 2 years TTC. So I have decided to live my life and stop trying so hard. Its making me (and DH) unhappy and stressed. Bring on the wine and choccies

Hi to everyone I've missed, hope you're Monday morning has been bearable so far!

2 years juggling ! How long have you been ttc? After 12 months ttc dc1 we were referred to hospital for initial tests which showed nothing, so told to come back in 6 months and got pg with ds just before we were due to go back.

I always have a not-pg celebration of goats cheese, smoked salmon, pate or medium rare steak and wine when AF arrives!

Its been 15 months Engels, I have a feeling it depends on which GP you approach. The one I saw this time felt because I have been pregnant, and have a healthy child, then we should give it more time. Thank you for sharing your story though - you've given me some hope.

so far today I have eaten quavers, galaxy bar, had 2 full caffeine teas and plan on something involving wine this evening desperately clings onto that silver lining