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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

Crossed posts, My bump was the same as yours last time morerum I could feel elbows, heels, see handprints coming through, everything and it was solid. It's much softer this time and I'm not a fan!!

Morning, well, it's definately AF, it's very heavy and painful. I thought I would be ok with it seen as we weren't really trying this month, but can't help but feel upset. I think DHs reaction upsets me more than anything now, he just acts like its nothing, like he doesn't care, he just carries on with things as normal, in part I'm jealous, but also mad with him. I wish he would just have a rant and say well that sucks, maybe do something to try and cheer me up occasionally. DD has been so sweet and acting all grown up this morning which just tipped me over the edge I think. She's just growing up too fast. Ah well, onto cycle 11, throwing everything at it this month, and will make another Drs appointment later. Thanks for all thinking of me, its nice to be able to have a moan on here and get some sympathy!!
We are off out for a walk in the sunshine now, will reply to everyone properly later xx

Hello sorry have been awol was on a team building thing in the arse end of nowhere not fun as one member of my team is a total knob!

Ginger I'm so sorry AF got you - I don't think usbands get it the same way we do I always feel like its on us more if that makes sense? Its my body that isn't doing what its supposed too I always feel like I need to apologise to DH when it hasn't worked which is ridiculous. My DH feels the need to sweep it under the carpet too 'theres always next month' which is fine and its true but sometimes I need a little glum time to acknowledge that i'm disappointed.

I had the mendala swing pump and loved it if that helps :) I also had a positive birth experience - 31 hour labour, walking epidural (don't think they do them in the uk), half hour pushing and no stitches. The only thing I would change is the length of the labour :) but I also think that's why I got away with no tearing so not to short........

I don't know what CD im on and im not even going to look ...... we only dtd a few times and Im in a good place right now so just going to see what happens and hope its good news this month if not I will deal with it then.

Sorry for the lack of namechecks im at work and busy booooooo but thinking of everyone who is having a hard time of it at the moment and heres hoping easter brings new beginnings and chocolate

better thanks!
just after I posted on her my surgery called and cancelled mw apt as shes not turned up! so I call the mat hospital explaining whats going on and that I was due my whooping cough jag today.
They were lovely but said my gp/ nurse would do jag as its not the job of the mw! I go on telling her about my worry of amniotic fluid and burst in to floods of tears like someone killled a puppy in front to me tears ended up having to go to hospital and get monitored for an hour! everything's fine thankfully my bumps the perfect size heartbeats great and movement is spot on! feel like a right dick!

ginger so sorry af got you that's proper rubbish xx

Ah, morerum...preggo hormones for you. I'm glad everything's ok. :-)

I'm so sorry it's AF, Ginger. I was really hopeful there. :-(

hey everyone sorry not posted for ages, how is everyone? So sorry AF got you again Ginger Let us know if you book a Dr's apt again.
Hungry I'm not too bad thank-you, I had an allergy, can't remember name of it, but its towards like dust and mould, which I think has come back so have that still lurking constant blocked nose now is not good! & to top it off my prescription for my nasal spray got lost in between going from the Dr's surgery to the pharmacy so it's taken me a week and a bit to try get it sorted! Was not a happy bunny today! Don't think it helps with pregnancy hormones either! How are you? How's work going? Saw your Fb status other day about when you go on your maternity leave, not long to go!! Between now and 7th Aug, Where I work part time, and have quite a bit of holiday off during May I only have like 41 or something working days left which sounds good!
Swede congrats on a good scan! How nice you got to find out the sex too! Lots of boys due I think this year! Can't wait to find out in 2 weeks!
How are you *better?
and more? You enjoying your maternity leave?

Hello to anyone else I've missed! & hope everyone has a lovely weekend

Allergies are rubbish. I'm suffering from bad hayfever at the moment. Piriton doesn't seem to work so well. :-/

That's quite crap of the chemist to lose the prescription. Glad it's finally sorted though. My chemist would've given it to me in the meantime, but we know them really well what with DD's lactose free formula.

I have 35.5 working days left, not many less than you, Kt!

Work is good. Got to leave at 3.45 today which was lovely. But waiting for DH to come home after work so I can eat. Boo! He's told me to eat without him, but I wouldn't do that. May gave to have a biscuit soon though!

Hi everyone,
I'm 31 weeks today exactly and feeling big! We love the name Henry for our baby boy.
Ginger - I'm so sorry you got your AF! I can imagine you must be feeling a bit sad and I'm sorry about your DH not behaving the way you'd like. I'm sure he is equally as bothered as you deep down but men have funny ways of showing things. My DH isn't very open with his emotions and sometimes you wonder if he has any. Don't give up hope, just keep trying and if you can you must DTD as much as you can ( I know easier said than done). And thanks for sharing your birth experience. Apart from the length which I'd say is pretty much standard in all first births, it sounds ideal. You did so well to manage with just gas and air. I too like the idea of birthing centres but in Leeds there's nothing like that, just two huge hospitals... Neither of which take my fancy.
Hi Better - how are you?

My body didn't get the long labour memo, mrs...waters breaking to c-section birth was 6.5 hours. I got from 2cm to fully dilated in 3 hours!

I'm glad I don't have to labour again as it was brutal. :-/

Henry's a lovely name. :-)

Oh, and 39 week section as they don't want to give baby steroids. That'll actually be 38 weeks by OPK, so hopefully it'll mean no early labour / EMCS to contend with!

Im so sorry it was AF ginger. My dh was exactly like yours (although I know theres a big difference in our ttc time) very blasé and I found it hugely frustrating so can only imagine how annoying it is for you. Hope youre ok today.

Thsnks for the medela recommendations loves hopefully your relaxed ttc attitude will help towards a bfp!

Oh poor you morerum hormonal meltdowns are awful (I'm having my first one of this pregnancy today) but at least you got some reassurance from it.

How are your headaches now kt? Ooooh youre finding out the sex, exciting!!!!

Hi mrs I'm fine, really struggling with the prolonged period of no help at all now! Dh had the op yesterday and is even more restricted on things he can do, its a nightmare. Its taking a toll on me way more than I anticipated, but its been almost a month now with a good few more weeks to go. I think I'm struggling emotionally today as the consultant suggested to him yesterday thst the next surgery can be in 12 weeks but the timescale isn't open ended (meaning theres only so long they can wait to do it without it possibly causing long term damage) we'll find out in 3 weeks what that timescale is.

Really because I'm high risk they could section me from 36 weeks which is in 11 weeks time. Or if they switch me to low risk and I go a week over then I could potentially be 41 weeks add to thst the 4weeks after birth, its a big window we need to avoid and I'm not sure its going to be possible.

Knowing how hard it is at the moment with him unable to do anything at all I cant even bear the thought of this plus a newborn. And if I have ti have a section it will be nigh on impossible.

What a rant. Sorry, its just all getting to me today!

Henry is lovely mrs.

Did anyone do a birth plan last time?

How are you hungry? Did you manage to wait for dh to eat?

Oh, Better, I'm sorry everything's so hard right now. It's a difficult situation, isn't it? Have you anyone who can come and stay / help at all? Bet your DH feels awful about it.

And no, didn't wait for DH. I ate at about 8.15 in the end. He got back at about 8.30. I was very hungry by then. I did make him an apple crumble by way of compensation though. :-)

I didn't do a birth plan. I just said whatever it takes to get baby out safely. Good job that was my plan as I wouldn't have planned it like it happened at all!

I think baby has its limbs to the back now as I'm not getting as many big kicks, mostly wriggles and nudges. Still lovely though.

Is anyone else finding this pregnancy more surreal than the first one? I really am!

meltdown continues have packed an overnight bag for me and dd and staying at my mums. I think I may be overreacting but my dh is a total toss pot who has not bought a thing for this dc ive bought all the bottles, nappies, wipes, buggy board, newborn essentials crib bedding new blankets and sheets plus stuff for dd. and the only thing hes said is he doesnt like my name choices. he came to scans onlt coz I twisted his arm up his back he really doesn't seem to care. and if I say anything he just walks out saying I need time to calm down. what I really need is someone to tell me that leaving my job being soley relabile on a man for income is ok and to at least want to have an input into the birth or anything!
god am I actually goimg mad?!

Rum! Oh no! Hope it's not too serious and you're just trying to make him feel bad?! Men are so bloody infuriating aren't they! To play devils advocate, do you think he has just let you get on with buying it all because he knows you will do a better job of it and will enjoy it more than him? What was he like when you were pg with DD?

Better you poor thing, what bloody crap timing. Will the consultant not take into consideration the fact that you are actually very pregnant when booking him in for his next op? I hope you have other people around you to help? I'm sure it will all work out ok, and this will be a funny story to look back on one day. When my DSis had her 2nd her husband had just sacked in his job to open a new business, then broke his arm, and she had a 3 yo to look after too! She laughs about it all now....

I felt shitty yesterday. Couldn't stop welling up, I had a lovely afternoon planned browsing the shops on my own, but there were bloody siblings and pregnant women and babies everywhere, and rough looking mums smoking in front of their children and screaming at them in the street. None of it makes any sense.

Anyway, I am fully stocked up on Maca powder, B6, Wellman conception vitamins, grapefruit juice, pineapple juice, have just bought a BBT thermometer and am going to have lots of sex this month, I have already warned DH. Christ I am starting to sound like the crazy woman I never wanted to become. I want to try everything this cycle, and leave nothing to chance.

Off to drink some cider and eat maltesers as my final splurge before detox time kicks in....

How're you and DH today, morerum? I hope you got it sorted. FWIW, I'd be the same in your situation, I think.

Gingerbread, I hope the lots of sex approach works. :-) Enjoy!

I'm finally seeing as well as feeling the kicks now. I think my placenta must have moved else I'm sure that wouldn't be possible!

hope you're okay morerum

ginger Sorry AF got you.

Still in 2ww here. AF due Sunday so I won't test till Tuesday at the earliest since I was 2 or 3 days late the other month. And if AF does turn up, am heading to the UK on Wednesday to see my family so hopefuly that will cheer me up that and shopping

hello all,

I briefly said hello some time ago, and you gave me a lovely welcome, and then I promptly disappeared. So sorry, RL stuff took over, I hope its ok to come back? Anyway, so lovely to hear some of you got your bfp's and are on your way to having baby number 2.

Ginger I'm so sorry to hear AF got you, she really isn't kind. It sounds like you are really going for it this month! Good luck we are giving it all we've got this month, if it doesn't happen I think we might take a break from TTC for a while. Its exhausting!

Swede we haven't spoken before but I hope you're ok, it sounds like you are having a very difficult time.

morerum how are you now? DH' s can be so infuriating. Mine has a knack for doing and saying the wrong thing but his heart is in the right place. Is your DH perhaps the same?

Welcome back juggling . RL keeps meaway every now and again too!

DS has had 3 or 4 proper tantrums today but he slept 7n his own bed last n7ght so I'll forgive him!

FX, FX, FX.

are you POAS today Engels? Ive got my FX for you too :)

Hi all, thanks for all you kind words pregnancy does seem to magnify every single emotion. Im feeling alot calmer today and me and dh are fine (and so are dd and bump) 7 weeks and 5 days to go if it shows up on time!
Calling fx for you today.
Better hope they can do something to rearrange your dhs op.
Ginger I hope this is your month! Xx

Hi to everyone else ive missed ill try to get back on later xx

Hi everyone, sorry I've not been on since Friday night. Had a busy few days, had a couple of my girlie friends from uni over on Saturday for the day and Sunday went out with my DS and my mum. DH had a weekend of motor biking. Yesterday I was back at the doctors with DS, to follow up from his blood test and about his hair. He hasn't lost anymore hair so it's not got any worse but got to wait for it to grow back. Although his blood results were ok the doctor would still like him to see a paediatrician so I think she's writing off. She said it would be 6 to 8 weeks so just around the time I'll be expecting to pop! I'm not overly happy about it as it makes me worry but the doctor said it's unlikely to be much as nothing showed on the blood test but that as it's quite rare I'm children that at the doctors they don't know very much and that a consultant might be able to confirm alopecia or whatever it may be. Anyway sorry to ramble... I have the home birth team from the hospital coming to see us on thurs 15th may to discuss having a home birth! I'm 32 weeks on Friday so just 8 weeks left!
How's everyone else doing?
Better - sorry to hear you're struggling a bit. It's hard when you're pregnant and looking after a little one and then your DH on top. How's your DH feeling today? Can anyone give you a hand?
Hi Hungry - how are you? We love Henry, Max and Oscar for names. Have you thought of any? We are keeping it a secret from family and friends etc but on here I don't mind saying as none of you will tell my mum etc! I bet you're pleased you've got your c section booked. Do you have am actual date?
Hi morerum - are you feeling more chilled out? These pregnancy hormones do take their toll on you. Some days I feel really moody and fed up for no reason or more emotional than usual. Pity men don't ever understand.

AF not due till Sunday and whenever I have tested pre-AF day I have always got a negative. I don't even have any hpt atm! Must order some more tonight once ds is in bed. POAS next week! Trying to not think about it. Am 11 dpo today (I think).

Good luck, Engels!

Hi to Juggling (again!). :-)

Mrs, I get my date on 11th June and will be booked for section then. I've just been told that nobody will yet to talk me out of it if that's what I want, which is all I wanted to hear really.

I hope you get answers from the hospital about your DS.

I am so tired today, but not as uncomfortable as I was yesterday with feet in my ribs all day! Thankfully baby moved for me. :-) They didn't move as much yesterday, which worried me, til I got a good kicking at bedtime! 9-10pm is definitely active hour!

Mrs, I have names but can't put them on here as some real life people know my NN! I'll text you if you're interested. :-)

Hi Hungry - of course I'm interested in your baby names, please do text me! I'm just tucking into a bowl of chocolate angel delight. I can't seem to get enough of it at the moment. At least the half pint of milk is good for calcium for baby. I know exactly what you mean about baby movement. If I don't feel anything for a few hours I start to panic but I usually always feel him when I'm in bed on a night. I usually find if I rub or pat my tummy it wakes him up and gets him moving! Good news about your section, you'll be pleased when you get that date!