TTC a lot longer than 10 months past and present

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A thread full of the loveliest people

Wow joy I couldn't hang out calmly waiting from a three year old to get it together, be an impatient mother - it's a great club. [q

See you - PUPO - later, ten!

doll I suspect childbirth isn't going to miraculous transform me into a patient person...

Well brilliant, just posted without meaning to. Hi ray I hope the wait is, well, ok. Thanks for thinking of us euro critter nelly too. We are fine thanks. I did have to smile when I saw your post gin regarding baby gin at evening event. I merrily took little doll all over the place in the evening, he was delightful, hours past his bedtime. What is this child rearing people speak of? It's so easy. Then come tiny doll - he is now banned from all late afternoon and evening events due to being a total nightmare. It seems (according to random book) we are all preprogrammed in our sleep tendencies, which are lifelong. I am willing this not to be true as guess who likes an early morning? Cos I hope you heal quickly, sending my love. Critter my scar never featured high in my long list of moans. Weirdly though it's no better now than a few weeks after the birth, not bad though, tiny doll terrorist likes kicking it. euro my children are applying for unversity this week so the high chairs are cool

Great news ten. How many did you have put back? Progesterone makes me weepy, I've just cried for 10 mins because the neighbors big old oak tree has had be chopped down after the weekend storms and it's looks so bare outside now and I now have a view of my neighbour's shed

Have a lovely time tonight everyone. I'll be there in spirit.

Lovely evening last night with euro, joy and PUPO ten. Beautiful women inside and out. Was so nice to see euro all blooming and glamorous and to meet joy and ten after chatting so long.

I'm so pleased you all had a lovely meet. Did you end up talking TTC things? I've always wondered why happens at these gatherings

Doll I love when you say hi. Tiny doll sounds a real character

Ray boo to progesterone weepiness. I can only hope it is serving another purpose too.

Meeting - gotta go!

It was a lovely meet. We did mostly talk about ttc related stuff - clinics, costs, tests, timings, fitting stuff around work, how long term ttc has influenced how I feel during pg, James, and some non-ttc stuff besides about jobs and OHs.

doll how interesting about the sleep patterns. Both mr euro and I are night owls. I'm not sure that centime will be...

ray I hope the weepiness has passed. The loss of a lovely oak is worthy of a weep, I reckon.

Mad* How are you and MiniMad doing? Are you home yet or are they still keeping you in?

Ray how are you doing? Yes recognise the weepiness, I am not a crier or given to sentimentality, unless I am on hormones. They put back two grade 1s so fingers crossed.

Nelly Yes really mainly ttc things, but nice to do so face to face

Doll Ha – it really does depend on the baby doesn’t it? We have friends who bring their daughter everywhere and she is a delight and just crashes out anywhere and others whose babies descend into screaming nightmares as soon as their parents coffee/drink/food arrives – I always feel so sorry for them.

Was lovely to put faces to names last night!

Am pleased the meet up went well! Soz we couldn't make it. I really wanted to come, particularly as I wanted to give critter a big hug in RL. doll tiny doll and baby g sound similar! I'm sooo envious of those parents whose babies just crash out, wherever they are. Nice to see you btw doll!

I'd love to see you all one weekend, when we have daddy daycare about. We should organise for the summer.

ten yay for being pupo! I have everything crossed.

Sorry about hormonal teariness, it sucks. But will hopefully all be worth it in the end.

joy ha ha at the slow toddler. You'll be a great mum I'm sure and find reserves of patience you didn't know you had. Sorry to have missed you yesterday.

Waves to everyone else.

Lovely to see/meet people last night. What a lovely bunch and great to see euro upduffed .

May have to rejoin FB!

Cos - so sorry you weren't well enough to join. How are you doing today lovely?

Ray - I hope you are ok.

Gin - sorry you couldn't join.

Waves x

Ten great news about being pupo, and great about grade 1. How are you feeling?

Fox once again brilliant news from fb.

Ray sorry for teariness, you're doing great, keep going. When is test day?

Doll lovely to see you.

So glad you had a lovely meet, am disappointed I didn't feel up to coming. After another day of feeling really weird and all over the place (wobbly like I'm about to fall over / faint, on the verge of tears and altogether slightly unhinged) I've realised it might be the hrt I started on sat as I feel rather like I did whilst downregging.

What happened to Buzzy is she ok?

Are you on the blue pills cos? Are you downregging for ivf already?

Ten, you've got a great chance with two grade ones.
Nothing to report here. Thoughts about what the heck we do next if this fails keeps creeping into my head. Other than that I've largely been able to forget I'm on the 2ww. I think it's going to follow the pattern of all the others. No excitement and fairly certain of failure long before I can really tell either way.

I'm glad ten plussers had a lovely meet up. I've been catching up with folk on fb but joycep and doll I wish you were on there too. After the totally horrible egg donor thread last week I am not really looking at mumsnet, it's really put me off in a big way. It is sad, but I don't feel my current ttc route is widely accepted or kindly understood on mn and it has made me not want to talk about myself and what's happening to me in this domain. To keep positive about what I've decided to do I don't need or want to feel like that. If no one minds, I'll do updates of the personal variety on the other place for now. That way I can still cheer folks on here and keep posting, otherwise I think me and mn would part ways and until we all do a big decamp I don't want to do that yet. Hope that's ok.

Ray, I have no excitement that my next treatment will work. But that doesn't mean it won't. Managing hope and protecting yourself is a difficult balance so whilst you're waiting I will be hopeful on your behalf

Cos I didn't know you'd be on hrt, is that pre treatment? Do you feel better today?

Doll your tales continue to make me smile. Miss you round here.

Ten hurray for being pupo!

I've missed loads. Thinking about you all lots though.

cos it could well be the hormones making you feel wobbly. I hope you feel better soon.

fox I loved your update on t'other place (which I excitedly shared with joy last night as I spotted it on my way down to the meet). It would be lovely if we were all on FB though, but I understand that the baby announcements can be very upsetting.

ten is an extremely chilled PUPO.

gin a weekend meet sounds lovely.

doll I've missed your updates too, but understand that you probably have rather a lot on your plate!

I did step back on to FB last night as my other thing I am doing I am the only one not on it and am missing out on important things. I deleted all newsfeeds, I just need to work out how nothing I do goes into people's feeds! . So how do I get in to the secret club??!!

Cos - sorry to hear about the hrt - why are you On that out of interest??

Joy, I will PM you.

Critter You know I have been thinking about the question you asked me about how long I had spent ‘getting to know you’ before I joined and I actually don’t think it was long at all! I remember I basically just read back all of the previous threads I could see and then jumped in, this of course was back in the days when the thread moved quite fast!

Joy Woop for rejoining FB! It astounds me that people can have so much patience with children generally, but I think when it is your own you will be fine! Perhaps not allowing them to take 90 minutes to walk to the shop though there have to be some boundries

Cos The HRT sounds like the likely culprit, which isn’t helpful in terms of how you are feeling but does at least reassure you that you aren’t loosing it!

Ray It isn’t over until it’s over, but I understand those thoughts, it is easier to be someone else’s cheerleader!

Fox I had wondered where you were, Euro explained at the meet. I am sorry that those ignorant nasty people made you feel uncomfortable. It constantly astounds me that people are so terribly stupid and misinformed.

Does anyone else get a raging hunger on progesterone? I could just eat constantly, and I have to get in a bikini in three weeks!

Hello lovely ladies,

I have been TTC for 2 years now, I have DD Phoebe who is 3 and half, last summer we went to hospital for all tests, I had nothing wrong, all scans and internals suggested ovulating properly, but further tests on hubby suggested he had VERY VERY low sperm count. We decided not to go for IVF as no funds to pay for it. We have tried eating all right foods, supplements, not drinking, we don't smoke, using OV calculators, timing the deed every other day to give swimmers chance to build in numbers, tried OPK's.. I am getting stressed as nothing is happening. I had a bad miscarrage last October, lost baba at 12 weeks. Surely I can get pregnant, but why is it not happening, is there anything else we can do? I feel bad pressuring hubby for sex.. it does take the romance out of it.

Any advice, thanks xxx

ten I wasn't too bad on the progesterone, but it did make me very bloated.

clay it sounds like you are doing everything right. Is he wearing loose underwear and making sure he doesn't put a laptop over his boy bits? You only need one swimmer to get through and it sounds like one did last year. I hope another one will soon. I'm sorry that you miscarried. It's horrible.

Thanks Euro

Clay I would add to Euros post that my consultant recommended a male supplement called proxeed available online, she said this is the only one that she recommends. Good luck

Clay have you and hubby tried acupuncture, it can be very helpful plus the practitioners tend to offer great advice about alternative fertility support methods. With one DD and one m/c sounds like things do work, it's maybe just catching the right one.

Ray I can totally empathise with the lack of optimism. Am sending you and Ten both lots and lots of good wishes and fingers crossed. We are due some more bfps, come on the fertility gods.

I'm happy using fb, but it might worry me I'd do a technical fail and publish to the world a detailed update of ttc woes! Re the hrt after the op on fri they put in a couple of coils and put me on hrt for a month to promote healing of where it was cut, plus they cut up the septum from its 'nose' and opened me up like a lotus so the coil and hormones are to stop it readhesing itself and encourage the lining to grow over the remaining parts and become one normalish cavity - at least that is what I understand. I feel very self involved ATM and like a bad ten-plusser but hope everyone else is ok.

cos I've had that "oh sh1t" moment a few times when meaning to post to a private group, but always managed to be ok so far.

That all makes sense. I really, really hope this will work for you. When will you be able to ttc again?

How are our PUPOs doing? Time really dragged for me at this point. When is OTD for you?

I have to say I can't really work out the secret FB. I am sure I posted something but I can't see it...now wondering if I posted it elsewhere! plus I can see anything about Fox and her updates .

Cos - that sounds horrendous. Are you feeling any better? How will they get the coils out?

Thinking of the Pupo girls. Ray not long now. Ten - I am sure you are super relaxed! I have to say I'm not sure about progesterone giving you ranging hunger...is that why you get so hungry in early pregnancy I wonder? I had to have sandwiches by my bed for the middle of the night but I was on steroids as well.

Sorry I can't see posts by fox

I think fox's updates were in a convo a few of us were having about the donor egg stuff, so not visible unless you were part of the convo.

I saw your post, so you are definitely in. :) The group should show up in a list at the left hand side of your page. If you click on the group, you should see your post.