TTC a lot longer than 10 months past and present

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A thread full of the loveliest people

Not blast nelly, they are only day 2 transfers. They were frozen on day 1, defrosted yesterday and put back today so I think that makes them day 2. It's all very confusing.

Rest up well ten.

ray yes, humour is supposed to help. On my last round, I went straight from ET (with the awful news about egg quality) to a carol service for kids with my bestie and her three rug rats. I hugged one of them on my lap and deafened her sung my heart out. It certainly lifted my spirits and had a feel good factor. I have no idea if it helped, but something "feel good" after the stress of ET can't be a bad thing, I reckon.

Nelly you are right - it does feel like a positive day. After a bit of a lull where a lot of people were between treatments, we are in the middle of a very active time for the 10+ers.

So for a Monday roll call I think we have:
-me
-critter
-ten
-joy
-buzz
-gin
with cos as an understandable question mark.
Could you let me know if ginestas and BB are coming as I will need to request high chairs if so. Fanks.
And also if I've missed anyone, let me know (I didn't say I would be a good social secretary....).

Hi all, missing in action but following the news when I can. Well done ray and ten and special wishes to cos and critter too. Thinking of you all. X

Cross-post euro - high chairs? Are these babes in high chairs already? Now I can't remember who was born when and feel completely demented. I should rethink FB refusal. I'm always behind the times

A positive day indeed on thread Nelly. The London meet sounds fab.

ray you are pupo . I agree with the others. Do things that make you happy and try not to overthink it. I think if they are going to implant they will.

So relieved all went smoothly this time ten. Make the most of that sofa this evening.

Have been thinking of you today cos and i hope the end result is the start of a whole new chapter for you.

critter starting a pill protocol and doing tests will give you targets to work towards with achievable goals. I found that helped a lot to keep things moving.

I'm a bit foggy on details for anyone else. As many of you know from the other place minimad arrived a few days ago a few weeks early. Labour was a bit more eventful than I had hoped for as they think that my placenta started to come away part way through leading to some scary bleeding. I panicked but the midwife and consultants didn't leave us alone from then on and our little boy was delivered with about 5 minutes before an emergency section. I am feeling very lucky and blessed and hopeful for everyone else on the thread xxxx

Yay again Mad and I'm glad they took such good care of you and Master Mad.

Ray I'm sorry for my insensitivity. I somehow read that as they were day 5. But the main thing is they were still dividing to plan. I hope I didn't upset you .

Doll how lovely to see you. Yes please join FB. An assumed name is fine and you just need to befriend us, not any real life friends . Same for Joy and others. It's good, I promise.

Not insensitive at all nelly! I'm just feeling very grateful today that I've had two put back, there's nothing more I can do now just hope for some good luck.

Hi doll, I've missed you. How are you and the mini dolls?

Mad - amazing news, hip hip!! Congratulations'

Ray - you are Pupo. just keep watching comedy. Keep laughing. There really is nothing else that can be done. It's a numbers game remember and it's your turn now. It happened for Gin and so it can happen for you.

Ten - well done. Keep drinking water.

Cos - thinking of you.

Euro - thanks for sorting, you are a good social sec!

Goodness with lots of people making headway with cycles is making me feel arghhhh. I will be switching out the lights here.

I hope Pout is ok .

Joy, I feel like that many days. I'm nowhere near graduating yet. It's a long shot that these two will work when the other four didn't. Your ivf turn will be here soon. Do you know what protocol you will be doing yet?

What a run of great news on our lovely thread, a much needed anti-dote to the not nice thread incident of earlier in the week. Mad sorry for the terrifying experience. It was a lovely photo. Have you decided on a name yet? I was thinking of you today too and am so very very pleased you've had such a lovely outcome.

Ray yay to being pupo, great news that the 2 survived the thaw, that sounds like a typical defrost rate, no cause for concern, though totally understand the feelings of loss, I felt the same.

Ten have they given you any more info as to what they got? Great news it's done, now you have done the hardest bit and can have a few days of respite. Both docs I've seen recently don't agree with the aspirin can't cause any harm view, so do ask for advice.

Critter fabulous news that you can think about getting the wheels in motion, how great to have that barrier lifted. Now you can. I've at your own pace and when timings allow. You're incredibly brave and sounds like you're in the best possible hands with your docs which must be so reassuring.

Am home safe and sound, all went well. Just feeling spaced out and drugged up ATM with intermittent cramping and lots of bleeding. He showed me some photos afterwards which was interesting. Am very pleased to have got it done. I would love to come on Monday, and am hopeful, but will keep you posted.

Mr Rai was chatting to me about a study in the US which showed that Ivf outcomes were significantly improved for a group of women who were prayed for without their knowledge than those that weren't. I know not everyone on here is religious but I thought that was really interesting, and that I'm sure our group with its genuine good wishes for each other can only be helping us all! Yes yes to everyone joining the fb group who hasn't already. Nelly you're right a positive couple of days on the thread.

Joy your round is nearly here. Will they be giving you a scratch? Joy and Ray Remember what the warwick doc said, each cycle's lining and embryo is unique, that's why there can be such different outcomes. Joy How's your prep plan going?

Fox and Buzzy big tight squeezes. Waves to everyone I missed.

mad congratulations!!!! Great news. Sorry about the scary times but I am so pleased to hear mini mad has arrived safe and sound and you are both ok.

Cos glad to hear you are home and well, despite the pain. What is your recovery likely to be? Hopefully you are up to coming along Monday but do make sure you rest up. Interesting about the asprin, I will have a look to see what I can find online. Did they give you a reason they think it isn't a good idea?

Joy no fear about turning the lights off, this is round two and I have no reason to think it will be any better than round one! You have your round coming up soon and it will be us cheering you on!

Waves nelly doll pout fox euro and everyone else.

I have 5 eggs and et will either be Monday or Wednesday,

doll! Woo hoo. How are you and mini doll?

(Re: the high chairs, probably not (doh!) but the booking page says to reserve highchairs in advance so I just regurgitated it without thinking!)

cos you are sounding very chirpy. I hope you have the Good Drugs to see you through the weekend. That is interesting about aspirin. It seems to be given fairly frequently.

mad that sounds rather scary but I'm glad that you are ok and that mini-mad is here safe and sound.

ten that sounds great. How are you feeling?

Right, I've booked Giraffe near Waterloo for 18:15 (they didn't have 18:30 available) for the 6 definites (listed in my last post). If any mini-mes and/or cos can come, let me know and I will add to the booking. :)

mad what lovely news. The birth sounds bloody terrifying and I am just so relieved and thrilled that you were so well looked after and that your little guy has arrived safely. Phew. Sending you lots of love.

euro thanks a million for organising. It's going to be fun to see you on this side of the Atlantic! Can't wait to meet the other ladies too.

ten wow, so we might see you straight after ET? Will be sending your embies lots of positive thinking over the next few days. Five is great. Will they call you everyday and give you a fertilisation update?

joy I may still be cycling with you in July, as I don't know when I'll get the go ahead for the FET and I'm away for ten days in late June. Either way, you will not be sweeping up and turning out the lights. Absolutely not, that isn't going to happen. We are here for you and will be cheering you on. No 10 plusser left behind! We're all going to get there one way or another.

cos you are a hero and I am glad you've had the op, I feel so positive for you now, I really think you're getting great care and the pieces of the puzzle come together. I am praying for all the ladies here. I really am. Just at night I think about lighting a candle inside myself and sending love towards you all. I know people did the same for me and James, and still do, and I feel like it's made a difference to how I have managed to get through the past few months. I really feel I can tell how loved we are.

ray sweetpea I am sending you settling in vibes, you are PUPO for now and it's wonderful you have two little ones on board. I hope and wish with all my heart that this is your lucky round. I know how hard and painful this has been and you deserve to have this so much.

doll it's lovely that you're checking in. How is your recovery going? How does your CS scar feel? You had such a terrible time of it.

nelly I hope we can maybe meet in August, perhaps with mad and mini-mad too.

Waves to everyone else. I am having a lovely weekend at home. I have started writing again, having not written anything for months. I cried hot fat tears while I was writing my first poem about what happened but it feels good to be doing it again, it's such an important part of who I am and it feels like it is helping with the healing process. I even went to John Lewis with my mum today and bought cute baby things for a couple of friends who are due in the summer. Granted they were little girl things, so not the same as little boy things, but even so. I was able to enjoy the cuteness without feeling terrible.

Critter I'm so glad that you feel able to do some poetry again. What another good sign of your recovery. I'm so sorry for the big fat hot tears, you lovely girl. It's good to let it out though right? And amazing at the shopping - you've been so inspirational generous in your attitude to others. I'm so glad that you can feel how loved you are.

Ray how are you feeling?

Fox lovely how are you doing now? And Buzzy, hope you are both feeling better about things now.

Ten about the aspirin, it was more that both docs were of the view that if there was a clotting problem then it was good to take it, but if there wasn't then it shouldn't be taken, but yet again something docs don't seem to agree on! How are you feeling, have you heard when ET is yet, or will you get a call tomorrow?

How's everyone else?

Afm yesterday was a bit of a medication 'come down' and was feeling a bit weird, and have had a fair bit of bleeding and cramping since but the doc did say to expect that, in terms of procedures I've had before, this hasn't been as bad as the lap. So am pretty fine and would love to come tomorrow so Euro if you don't mind changing the booking to include me that would be great.
Just one small detail of tmi which I'll share with you - Gin I have joined you in that very exclusive club of having had 'that' procedure done whilst out cold. I did at least have some prior warning in that he told me before hand and made me nod my head meekly in consent. (Whilst I was quickly weighing up whether it was any more or less dignified to have a discussion about why it was necessary and whether there were any alternatives!) Sigh, the things we go through. Anyway looking forward to seeing some of you tomorrow.

Very intrigued about what that procedure is cos. I'm glad you're feeling ok. I think it's normal to feel a little strange after an op. I think ga leaves me feeling quite low for a day or so.

Ten, any news on your eggs? Is transfer tomorrow?

Critter that sounds like progress if you're able to write again. I often think of James, it's not really praying on a formal sense. I have a little quiet time when I like to look up at the sky and remember people. James is on my list. I often think of all the ten plussers too. I'd be very grateful if anyone would think of me or pray if you do that.

Not much to report here. I had a terrible headache yesterday, put it down to the progesterone. I didn't dare take a painkiller though so had to give up and go to bed. It was still there in the morning but has eased off through the day. This is going to be a long two weeks.

Just popping in quickly to say I really really wanna come tomorrow but it depends on when DH can escape from work and take mini G. She's veh grouchy in the evenings so I don't think I could bring her, plus it's bedtime. But I may be able to get DH to take her, if I can meet him after work. Euro please could you PM me your mob no. and I'll let you know. And if we don't make it, please could we meet one weekend?

Cos sorry to hear about the op come down and welcome to the club! I wasn't informed at all about the er procedure, which was kinda better in a way unlike after labour when the dr asked permission, clutching the arse bullet

Ray - relax as much of you can and I think a day in bed was a good thing! After my FET, I spent 2 days in bed eating Easter eggs :)

Luffs to all.

critter wow I am impressed that you were shopping! Also really glad to hear you are writing again, sorry about the tears but hopefully writing is cathartic and it is great for you to get back into something that you love.

Cos that sounds rough, hope te cramps and bleeding have stopped. Also intrigued about what the procedure is?!

Ray I will soon be there with you, what is you test date? Mine is the 23rd.

Three fertilised, MrT sperm analysis was again only 1% normal forms. They will call me today between 11 and 12 to let me know whether it will be today or wed for transfer, I can't imagine it won't be today with only three. I feel fine just bloated still but trying to get water down me and eat lots of chicken!

critter you did amazingly to buy baby things for others. I still feel odd going into baby shops (like someone is going to shout "what is the infertile doing here? She doesn't belong!) and haven't made a single purchase yet.

I bet the poetry is good therapy. I wrote some (terrible) poems in my period of teenage angst and it is such a good mode of expression, particularly for emotional stuff.

ten three is great. I reckon you are right and they will get you in today.

cos I recognise the post-procedure come down. I hope your spirits lift soon. It will be great to see you tonight!

I'm going to PM all the definites and likelies for tonight in a sec. gin if you can't make it, we really will have to meet another weekend.

Critter – i’m so pleased you are starting to write poetry again. That is a huge step . Sorry about the tears though but it’s good to keep letting things out.

Ten – good luck for later.

Cos – i’m so pleased the op went well. There is definitely a downer period after an op. I remember being totally high after my lap. The morphine was incredible. But it left a 2 day hangover of feeling pretty down. Looking forward to seeing you later. And really intrigued about yours and Gin’s club....do elaborate!

Euro – it just shows how infertility stays with you even well in to pregnancy.

Gin – i really hope you can come tonight!

Ray – i hope you are resting and laughing lots. 2 wk waits are torturous.

Hung out with my 3 year old goddaughter yesterday for a few hours. Naughty little thing. My friend is on a totally different mode to me as she is on maternity leave with her 2nd and it’s like she has all the time in the world. Took over 90 minutes to get out of the house to a shop round the corner and back again. I was getting incredibly impatient especially when goddaughter decided to sit in the street and sulk and not move. My friend didn’t seem to mind spending 15 mins trying to coax her to move. I was just looking at my watch slightly confused by how much time it had taken us. It sure was an insight...and I think I would be an impatient mother!

Hi I'm sorry to mess you about but I actually feel terrible today, I could do with not being at work. Feel very weak drained and tearful. I think I'll just get a lift home if thats
ok. sorry to miss out.

cos that sounds tough. Go home and rest. I hope you feel better later.

We've lost Gin too, but that still leaves 5 of us.

Oh Cos hope you feel better soon!

Does progesterone make others really angry? I seem to be very cross today with no filter.... Client getting short shrift

I didn't notice any effect on my moods, ten. Any news on ET?

Perhaps I am just a grumpy cow today then! Yes waiting to be seen now, I will be pupo when I see you later