Fab Forty-Plus! Where are the BFPs...

[JBrd]

To keep this thread going, proving support to all of those of a 'riper vintage' wishing for a baby...

I have received so much help, advice and support here, so although I technically have graduated, I thought I'd get the next thread going to keep the momentum.

[basia2]

Grrr! I'm out for the month, ladies. :(

[Tadpole2013]

Whoop whoop hurray!! Herzlichen Glückwunsch, Morien!! Congratulations! May light shine on the little one's path and may your family be blessed!

Jass I'm with Grizzer on the airport chase! OMG, just the funniest thing!

Grizzer If you're lucky this will be her tattoo phase - full stop! My dd went through the strangest phases but has been the most grown up, proper person I've ever known. Since age 10 (which has always been rather terrifying!).

Sorry basia I'm still on a week after. Very, very unusual. Not overtly (no pads or tampons). Hope it doesn't mean yet another bad thing.

Going to have a lovely piece of cake to celebrate our new arrival!

[hopefulgum]

Ah, Morien, so pleased to hear that you have had your little girl and all is well! I bet you are experiencing the most lovely time, marveling at her tiny fingers and toes, her silky hair and beautiful soft skin. Oh, there's nothing like a beautiful new babe!

Congratulations! Enjoy these early days, its such an amazing and wonderful time.

[hopefulgum]

p.s, girls....shh...it is ovulation time and I have been DTD.

Not keeping track, but can feel it. So although not ttc, I might just be heading towards a tww Incurable, me!

[diege]

[JBrd]

Hehe, gum incurable indeed

8+4 today, feeling incredibly tired and sick - I am constantly having to eat to combat the sickness! At this rate, my work colleagues will soon figure out what's going on. I already have a secret food stash in my desk.
Currently debating if I should have the Harmony test... It just sounds so good, and timing would be great, as it would break up the wait until the 12-week scan nicely. But it is so expensive... I have just been conned for about £300 by a fraud transaction on eBay/PayPal, and they are still disputing if I'll get the money back I really hope they will refund me, I have decided if I do get the money back, then I will put it towards the test.

[greenlizard]

jbrd when I was looking at the harmony test first time round - I had an appointment at the Fetal Medicine centre in Harley street which was £400. It was much more expensive elsewhere. It would be easy for me to get there though and I am not sure where you are located. the price is lower because it is part of a trial so you have to go at 10-10+6 to qualify. definitely worth a look?

loving the nonchalant attitude gum - TTC moi?

[greenlizard]

Ps. jbrd bad news about the fraud - that really sucks . I had my card cloned once but to be fair the bank were very supportive and sorted it out quite quickly. Hope you get your money back.

[fiatlux]

I'm out for the month too :(
Damn doctor was right after all.

Glass of time now!

[diege]

jbrd as you may remember I had the harmony done at the FMC and can't praise the place enough - def worth the money but then I did get it for under £200 as part of super duper deal at the time. Feel free to message me if you need any advice, but also check out the harmony thread on antenatal tests/choices thread . Sorry to hear about fraud and really hope it can be sorted xx
Sorry fiatlux for af

[hopefulgum]

Jbrd, 8+4; fantastic. And feeling poorly is a wonderful sign I think. Sorry to hear about the fraud.God, how bloody annoying. I recently "bought" a couple of items from someone on ebay, which were never sent, and although it took a few weeks, all the money was paid back to me. Paypal are usually very good in those situations.

I would go for the harmony, if I were pregnant. But TBH,I don't even know how available it is in Australia, and I have a sneaking suspicion that it might be about $1000. So, I am not sure I'd be able to afford it anyway. But then again, I think amnio would be quite expensive anyway.

Has anyone heard from Mozza? I wonder how her pregnancy is progressing?

Fiatlux, though you are out this month, it doesn't mean your Dr is right. Drs are not God. They don't really know everything.They just want us to think they do. Your perfect egg/sperm combo may be just around the corner...

[hopefulgum]

P.S. there is a thread on Am I being unreasonable about a mumsnetter whose mum wants to ttc at 46. Some vastly varying opinions there...however, also some nice stories of women having babies in their mid to late 40's too. I put in my two cents worth. Couldn't help myself

[jass43]

JBrd, I would definitely go for harmony. It is worth having the peace of mind that all is OK.

[Tadpole2013]

Oh gum....
You are a junkie! A when-do-the-egg-meet-sperm-junkie!
I saw the baby at 46 thread and was reading up, actually. I was considering posting but haven't decided to.

JBrd hun, very wide

Well, don't know what this month has in store. Have a UTI and the doctor told me today that there is actually no proof of Antibiotics helping faster than lots of water and tea, if its not acute. Hmmmm.

[Grizzer]

Woo hoo it's Friday night!! I'm enjoying grand designs, milk tray & peppermint tea. Had 2 very long parents' evenings this week so I'll be in bed by 9 I think!
I had my appointment at a private clinic. I paid £200 for half an hour where she told me my only option was ivf. Basically if everything was ok I would be pregnant by now.
We aren't going down the ivf route so it was a waste of time really. Not sure what I wanted out of it but I hoped there was a little something that might help.
I've just finished ovulation (I think) but am determined to try to continue dtd every 2 or 3 days for the rest of the month. Feel I should do it tonight as we didn't last night but I really can't be bothered. Pretty sure dh feels the same but I'm wondering if maybe we stop too early each month. We dtd in the run up to the smiley face, during it & the day after getting it but then stop for a week to recover! I want to try to muster up some enthusiasm for a couple more days after ov just in case.....
JBrd sorry about fraud. It's so flippin wrong when we get caught like that. Saw on the news this morning about people who have lost quarter of a million through fraudsters - outrageous.
Hopeful that would be the perfect 'accident' if it happens when you're not officially TTC. dh and I have decided to stop in the summer but I can see me looking for signs and suddenly feeling frisky!!
Sorry AF came Fiat hope you enjoyed the wine.
Is anyone watching the new series of One Born Every Minute? It breaks my heart but I can't resist watching. I love it!!

[jass43]

My daughter said they are soon going to ttc. It had a weirdly calming effect on me. there will be a baby in the family within a year, I believe! felt the urge to throw out all my ttc tools, but probably i will feel different when ov approaches, so no hurry with all that. Anyway, the active torture is certainly over for me! i trust She will haveno issues, as i never did when young and she is 25. she Wants to have kids while doing doctorate studies, not later when working full time.

[Tadpole2013]

I had a very slight panic when I read your post, Jass. Are you going to stop ttc when your daughter gives birth?
As my own dd is 22, and thankfully very much into her studies, it is also a conversation we had to have when we decided to ttc.
Good luck and don't throw them tools out just yet!

Hello everyone and happy Monday!

[jass43]

No, I am not stopping ttc in this sense that I would through out ttc gear and go on pill. Not at all. I just feel so much more relaxed about it all. If it will happen ,it will happen, She is only 19 years younger than me so She has always known it may go this way that my last will be born after her first, it is not an issue at all. I just simehow feel like all the worry and hardness of ttc has lifted from my shoulders, because it is OK as it is. I am still taking agnus castus and vit b6 and it has given me periods like I had when I was young - proper flow starting rather suddenly, almost no spotting beforehand, period pain and a complete 14 day LP with a 26 day cycle. I feel if anything can change the fate of my ttc it is this. And I will not take pred when I fall pg, as it has shown several times it is not working at all. Might also stop progetserone in the LP for this cycle and see how LP will be without that, but with agnus castus and b6. Progesterone did not fix my cycle, but since ac is a soft hormonal balancer it seems to have dome so for some reason. As I have no spotting anymore before period that might mean it is also helping with my diffuse adenomyosis, as I have that, as quite many women with a number of children do. So I am still hoepful, but I do not want to medicate that much and I will not be testing early next cycle, only if I miss the period:-)

[wishingfor]

Hello may I join you all on here, I've just discovered I'm pregnant and I'm 44, im now stressing about the fact that I was sure I was perimenopausal, and had been taking agnus castus, coQ10, flax seed oil, and don't know if I should continue with any of these, or stop taking them?
Does anybody know what's the best thing to do?

[Inshock73]

Welcome wishingfor and CONGRATULATIONS! We love a success story on this thread :)

Sorry I haven't got any practical advice but lots of the other lovely ladies I'm sure will have.

[diege]

Just a quicky to say wishingfor that the general advice is to stop agnus castus when you find out you're pregnant. Congrats btw!
Big wave to everyone else - dd3 off sick so just a quick hello xxx

[MelMc73]

Hi all. Am new to this. 41 and we've just decided to try for a baby. Hub is 43. We both have kids from previous relationships. Been married 3 years and didn't think we wanted any more kids but had a change of heart. Hopefully not too late! My cycle is just trying to get back to normal after being on pill. Stopped it at xmas last year. Anyone had similar experience? Nice to meet you all :-D

[mumalah]

Hi just popping in to say hi and congratulations to the newly pregnant ladies. I'm still waiting for af. on cd57, this has only happened once before last year. I have no idea what is going on. Im not sure if i even ovulated. if i can post my chart would anyone look at it?. Many thanks ladies!

[wishingfor]

Ok thanks for that diege, I've read conflicting advice, because id had a few cycles where I didn't ovulate, and odd length cycles etc, I was worried that stopping them may mean my hormone levels wouldn't be strong enough to prevent miscarriage. I suppose time will tell on that one anyway....

[jass43]

wishing, congrats and indeed, there are those who swear you need keeping taking ac until 12 weeks to keep the progesterone balance tou got out of it. coq10 can not have that effect, so this may be discontinues now you have found that egg that made it, it is supposed to help with egg quality. Unfortunately for ac you have to go by your instinct,a s no definite position on that!

Mumalah, sorry about the missing AF. The same ac may help you there as well, have you been trying it? Supposedly reflexology and accupuncture might help to bring it on, but going to your doc and yelling for help might also help to get drugs to bring period on. Of course the risk is doc will say at your age ..... etc. an not give you drugs....