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JBrd · 07/02/2014 08:50

To keep this thread going, proving support to all of those of a 'riper vintage' wishing for a baby...

I have received so much help, advice and support here, so although I technically have graduated, I thought I'd get the next thread going to keep the momentum.

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Gumblossom · 28/04/2014 00:18

mumalah, it could be implantation bleeding. If you had a big rise on 9 dpo after brown discharge (old blood) on 8 dpo, you could probably test at 12 dpo and see if it is. Exciting!

grizzer, you might just be having a late ovulation. You could keep at it with the opks, but if you are DTD anyway, the only advantage is having an idea of when to expect af/test. Are you charting? I like charting because it gives me a clear idea of when to expect AF.

I am back to work today after two weeks off. Really not looking forward to it as I was just starting to feel human all over again. I hope this term won't be as tough as last term, but there's exam in 5 weeks, so that will be stressful with the preparation of my senior students, then the marking load...

Have a good day Smile

mumalah · 28/04/2014 14:41

Thanks Gum I was wondering about implantation bleeding. Caved in and did a test but bfn. Maybe my body is playing tricks on me- or too early (wishful thinking) ! I will try and wait patiently, but temp dropped down again today so we will see .

Grizzer · 29/04/2014 08:55

Well, another exciting night in the Grizzer household! Got home from work to find dd lying on the sofa (granny was looking after her) with bruise like blotches on her lower legs & swollen feet. Got advice from gp to go straight to a & e. She's got HSP which is caused by a virus. Not contagious but can affect the kidneys & stomach so have to monitor her urine for 6 months! Short term we're back to hospital tomorrow to look at the results of the 2 urine samples I will do at home & then they'll decide what next. Poor thing can't walk properly as it's also on the soles of her feet.
The awful thing is she's such a mini actress she was tiptoeing and limping a couple of days ago & we were laughing at her!! Oops.
On the plus side I got a positive ov test yesterday afternoon so managed to persuade dh to dtd despite our dramatic night. I do seem to go from absolutely nothing on a test to a full positive so very easy to miss.
Hope the brown spotting is a good sign Mumaluh
I don't chart Gum, always have to leap out of bed before the alarm goes to deal with 'a snotty nose' or 'the bed covers aren't right' so I've never managed to do it. Hope school was ok. Is it a report writing term? It is for me, ready for the end of the year. I always swear I'll start early & not panic but it's always last minute!!

JBrd · 29/04/2014 09:47

Hello ladies, some sad news from me. I went to have the amnio yesterday, but when the consultant did the scan to check baby's position, there was no heartbeat. My baby has died.

I am completely destroyed, it's like the ground has opened underneath. I had just started to feel safe from mc, yes, the amnio and its outcome was hanging over us, but I had almost convinced myself that it would all be fine.

Going back in now to get the first round of meds. At this stage (I'm nearly 17 weeks), induction is my only option.
I don't know where I will go from here, I can't think straight and need to get through the miscarriage first.

I will take a step back from it all for a while, I think, so I wish you all the best of luck and lots of success!

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Grizzer · 29/04/2014 09:51

I'm so sorry JBrd. There are no words of comfort at this time but my thoughts are with you. How heartbreaking.

notsoold · 29/04/2014 09:53

Hi all!!!

May I sit on the corner and lurk/listen to you all?? gum what you said on Saturday did touch me greatly because it is how I feel ...
DH is worried about another dc as he is hmmmm 54 right now??? But I put across to him really clearly that I would like another lo. I am really aware it might not happen, we might not be lucky and blessed again but my heart is saying that there is room for another one....
So I am awaiting for his answer (he reflects a lot) and saying Hiya to you all friends that supported me so in the past.... for the new chicks I am 42 and we have DD19, DS1 14 and last October DS2 6months....

greenlizard · 29/04/2014 09:54

Oh my god - I am so, so sorry jbrd. I know no words can even touch what you are going through. My thoughts are with you and your DH. I can only hope that your miscarriage is without complications and you have some space and time to grieve. Sad
Xxx

notsoold · 29/04/2014 10:05

jbrd x posts from my side.... I am so sorry and I know words can not express how terribly awful this situation is.....ohh hun...xxxxx

MattsMamma · 29/04/2014 11:48

JBrd - so very saddened to read your post. Nothing anyone can say or do can in anyway help the way you will be feeling right now. I am so very sorry. I am devastated for you xxx

isadorable · 29/04/2014 12:01

JBrd - I'm so so sorry. Hope everyone in rl is taking care of you. So cruel.

Inshock73 · 29/04/2014 12:37

I'm so so sorry to read your news JBrd, I haven't posted for a while but I've continued to lurk. Take care xx

Gumblossom · 29/04/2014 14:21

oh Jbrd I am so sorry. How devastating for you and your family. I know there's nothing I can do or say to help but please know I am thinking of you and am here to listen. Xxx

mumalah · 29/04/2014 17:32

Im so sorry Jbrd How heartbreaking xx

mumalah · 29/04/2014 17:42

Oh what is my body doing? Give me a new one ! Temps up slightly today but still sluge present, and slightly redder, but certainly not like usual af. My chart is terrible this month
www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3931aa
Have look Gum please

diege · 29/04/2014 18:12

I don't know what to say jbrd - what a shock, you must be devastated. This is just too cruel Sad Please use the thread to rant and get it all out if you need to - we are all here for you xxx

jassS · 29/04/2014 21:15

JBrd, I am so sorry. I can not believe it could happen so late so badly - just no heartbeat..... I hope the investigations will reveal what went wrong and it will be treatable. I so hate our aging bodies betraying us so badly and not allowing us to go to term even if the first hurdles sometimes are overcome like you bravely did......

calibee · 29/04/2014 22:21

Jbrd...such devastating news for you. My heart dropped when i read your post. I hope you can stay strong over the next few days to get yourself through this. Be sure we are all thinking of you x

Gumblossom · 29/04/2014 23:51

mumalah, I am no expert on chart reading, but to me your chart looks good.The very low temps could be an indicator of implantation, and the temps all above cover line at this stage means your progesterone is still up. All good signs. As for the bleeding - this could very well be implantation, but it could also be a WTF cycle. Have you tested? I think at this stage you could get a positive if implantation was 8 dpo.

My chart is shit this cycle. Temps are above coverline, but not by much like last month. So I don't feel at all hopeful. But that is probably a good thing. My DH told me the other day that he is feeling overwhelmed by what's going on in our lives: both of us working full-time, his parents very unwell and not looking after themselves very well, he feels he should do more, but isn't really able to, plus the pressure of having our eldest son return home and is so hard to live with (but we can't just kick him out, despite feeling that way sometimes). It is expensive feeding 7 people (as anyone with a large family knows). DS2 is at college so no longer pays room and board, which I don't mind, but with the unemployed son at home too, it is a huge food bill....

Anyway, I am coming around to the, "I don't think it is a good idea to pursue a pregnancy" again. I know I do this in regular intervals, so ignore me, but the climb, up the hill of ttc is just getting steeper the older I get. And, honestly, after jbrd's devastating news, I worry how I would cope in her shoes, I honestly think after such a long time ttc, getting to that stage I would be completely undone, so I think perhaps I ought to let it go (again Hmm ).

I know, however, as soon as those hormones start working and I get nearer to ovulation, I'll probably be chaffing at the bit for SWI. I have to say I am a little bit sick of myself talking about this, so you must be too. God knows I wish I could just get over it and move on Confused

mozzarellamummy · 30/04/2014 07:10

jbrd ... I am so sorry and don't have any words to take the pain away from you..
Take all the time you need to grieve..I hope you are sorrounded by family and friends who will take good care of you.
I'm thinking of you and your baby who will stay forever in your heart..

MelMc73 · 30/04/2014 08:50

Not posted here for a while but I do drop by and read sometimes and I couldn't run after reading jbrd's news.....so so sad and I can't imagine how you must be feeling....hugs xxx

jassS · 01/05/2014 15:53

Gum - I felt as you at the devastating news of JBrd. Whats the point, if it still can come and probably will come to this...... But similarily, the sligthest symptoms of ov being around the corner clean out all these sensible ideas.....

Irishmammybread · 01/05/2014 16:48

JBrd there are no words,I am so sorry for your loss, thinking of you xxx

Gumblossom · 02/05/2014 11:08

mummalah, your chart is still looking good, any news?

willitbe · 02/05/2014 11:26

JBrd - so sorry to hear your sad news. It is devastating to be getting so far and beginning to raise hopes, it is cruel. If the previous tests had come back with an issue, you would have been more prepared, but the equivocal results let that hope raise. The only thing we can hope now is that the induction, goes as easily as it can, and that you have time to spend with your little one, to say goodbye. My heart goes out to you.

Inshock73 · 02/05/2014 19:10

Firstly - JBrd If you are still occasionally reading, I hope you're receiving all the care and love you need x

Ladies - do you mind me asking you all a question? I've just had the results of my day 3 bloods and my readings are as follows: LH 5.9, FSH 9.0, I'm a bit freaked out because I think my FSH is too high. My GP has said they're 'normal' but as I've been ttc since mc 10 months ago I think this may be the problem. Can anyone shed any light on whether this FSH level is cause for concern?

Thanks all x