The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

[Seasides]

Getting lots of what feel like ov tingles on the right hand side - the side I've still got a tube. I can't help but get my hopes up about this month for some reason...am going to need multiple fish slaps to prevent crazed symptom spotting.

[Justonemoretime]

Wing, so sorry to hear your news. it's never easy. I lost both my grandfathers recently (one in October, one a couple of weeks ago) and my FIL just before Christmas. I feel that, really, once the writings on the wall its better that the suffering is as short as it can be. I know its horrible. I hope everything is as peaceful as possible for him, and your family.

On a totally different subject, OV pain, I am not convinced it always comes on the side the the actual egg comes from. Last PG it was from the left (they could see the corpus whatsit on the ovary) but I always get the pain on the right. Maybe its wind...

[Seasides]

Quite probably just! It doesn't feel like it though. It's not pain, as such - I never got it before the EP, and it does move to the other side some months. I'm a little worried it's cysts.

Sorry to hear about your grandfathers, and FIL. What a lot of losses in a short space of time, that must have been hard.

[Triplespin]

Oh wing sorry you are having a crappy day and about your loss. Btw AF started the sane for me this time with pinkish watery mucous. Never had this before mc but its become a more common start to AF now.

[Luckystar1]

Me too triple a very watery beginning of recent months...

Is anyone temping? I have been doing it very haphazardly, and had a small increase after what I think was o. But today (around 3dpo) it fell again. I thought it always stayed high until just before af. It's too confuzzling for my brain!

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

I'm not going down the temping route. But, I have an obsessive personality - I need to stay away from that stuff.

[deuscat]

Wing so sorry to hear about your grandad. Although the letter will be hard to write, it's such a lovely idea.

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

I'm trying not to but I can't help thinking that if this month isn't my month the black dog is going to be back with a vengeance.
Does anyone have any tips on keeping as happy as you can? Does it get easier?

[Parsley2506]

Hey donna, I'm only on my third cycle now post MC so limited experience. We didn't try during my WTF cycle, head wasn't in the right space and wanted to give my body time to recover. Last month we gave it a damn good go but nada - I'm not going to lie, getting AF was a huge kick in the teeth, and I am used to disappointment after nearly 2 years ttc in total. This was somehow worse, like I needed the BFP to heal as much as just wanting to be pg anyway. Seeing AF was just a horrid reminder of it all.
So, basically don't expect too much of yourself emotionally if you don't get lucky this cycle.

Sorry, that's pretty negative! I am quite good at cheering myself up - avoid too much booze, remind myself of all the good things we have, think about things to do that wouldn't be possible if pg etc. etc.
Doesn't make the pain go away totally, but keeps it at bay for the majority of the time!

[EnglishGirlAbroad]

Lucky, I temp and i too have had a temp dip today on cd5. I've stopped trying to second guess my body. I just stresses me out more. But in general i do like temping, I feel it gives me a better understanding of my body. I think its hard to get a good idea looking at it day by day.

[MissHobart]

Anti-Depressants!

[fedupofrainydays]

Booze!

[fedupofrainydays]

Temping I don't think is for those who get obsessive / crazy over each little minuscule change on temp (like me). I did it for one month and literally went bonkers and was all I could think about! But that's me... Plus it took ages for my temp rise to turn up (am a slow riser) which drove me more panicky - I've not ovulated I've not ovulated! (Of course I still do that without temping but I was way worse when I did) BUT it does work wonders for some ladies who love it and I know there are a few of here who do.

[fedupofrainydays]

No seriously booze prob doesn't help. Well short term it does but usually feel worse next day. Exercise helps me and getting daylight / sunshine each day (latter hard with all this rain at mo) sounds ridiculous but it is easy to stay holed up indoor particularly if you have a desk job.

And also hanging out with non baby friends. There is a time for surrounding oneself with pregnant and new mums and after miscarriage is really not my recommendation.

[Handsfullandlovingit]

donna I second what parsley says about planning stuff you would struggle to do pregnant or with baby. Whatever floats your boat. For me, we are going skiing, I'm making my own clothes with a smallish waist, I've started conducting a choir, redecorating and knocking around the house and I am getting deeply geekily interested in my career. An amazing holiday? House refurb? Just something that makes you think 'ooh, how would I fit a baby in, I'm having too much fun! ' oh and avoid playgroups where they say prayers for the babies in their mummies' tummies. Public sobbing certain to ensue.

Still no AF. Ooh. Think I'll leave testing til next Friday, this week I can still write off bleeding as a late period. Being kind to myself.

I'm not a temper, I have an old persona device that tells me when I'm ovulation, for all the good that has done...

[TeaRex]

Hi everyone, I was wondering if I could kind of stalk you all for a bit?
TeaRex -32- DD7months ttc number 2, bfp October 2013 MMC January 2014. ERPC Jan 2014.
Still recovering from ERPC but I want to try as soon as I can (will have to wait for first period I guess) but I was hoping it would be okay to hang about here until I can ttc? I need the hope I guess? And also to feel like I will move forward soon. I've got my fingers crossed that I'll see lots of BFP's here which will help keep me positive.

[Sal1977]

Some shitty days for lovely ladies today! Keep breathing in and out, it's the easiest way to get through dark times.

Well, I thought I was going to end up in the slammer tonight! Clonked what I thought was my wing mirror as I pulled out of a parking space and when I got home literally 3 minutes later realised I'd taken half the side of the car off good job it's a shitter! Drove back to the car that I twatted (local florists van) and went in to explain and give insurance details and she'd reported me as a hit and run to the cops as she'd seen my number plate!! Ffffuuuuucccccckkkkkk! She was proper moody about it and kept going on how I was going to get done for hit and run should have hit her then and run so I had to go to the police station and explain. They were brilliant told me not yo worry about it. Phew! Thought I was going down for a ten stretch not that I know what that means!!

[Penguin13]

Hi Tea and welcome. I'm sorry for your loss. I joined before I was actively ttc again too so come on in. Love the name by the way.

Wing what an absolute bitch of a time for the witch to show up .

Blimey Sal you can't get arrested, we need your criminal humour around here

[EnglishGirlAbroad]

Hi TeaRex, sorry you're joining us hope you have lots of support and people around to give hugs when you need it. It's thoroughly crap isn't it.
We're a good bunch, hopefully your stay will be short and sweet.
Sal- you've cracked me up! What a bloody bitch!! Do not mess with a woman TTC after a mc! Glad the police saw things from your side. Not sure you'd be allowed on mumsnet from inside!! Might also make TTC a little difficult!

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

I 've been signing up for races. So, I've got 2 Halfs and 1 full Marathon until May. Then, I'm clean fatiguing the Fan Dance, a SAS/SBS selection route on Pen Y Fan, before tabbing Catterick a Paras training route and then run/walking the Saltmarsh 75!! All have said I can defer if situation changes.

[Penguin13]

Wow Doctor great way to get positively focused on something other than ttc. I'm guessing you're a regular runner with an impressive line - up like that! I'm more of a walker these days as running tends to end up with me injured and using as an excuse to stop completely although I do miss running.

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

Nah, I'm not really a great runner. Only occasionally managed sub-10 miles! But I did do London Marathon last year. Only a couple of hours off a good for age time!!!

[Justonemoretime]

Well done, Doctor, impressive! I tend to go for open water swimming events. If I'm not pg by the summer I will be signing up.

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

Open water swimming? That's hardcore!

[Parsley2506]

Totally lost at 'clean fatiguing The Fan Dance' - self certified couch potato right here!!

Welcome tea, I also joined before starting ttc, this is just a great place for some support and laughs!

sal I don't even think a stint in prison would stop you, if anyone could find a way to get spermy contraband in to prison it'd be you. Syringes at the ready! ;-)
Sorry about the fender bender